We are clearing out our bookshelf, and happily no longer have the need for many of the books we bought after dday. I will send these books out via media postage paid to the first pm replies that I get with name and mailing address in the continental US. Please indicate which books you would like. Some of these are pretty worn, but on the positive side; they worked for us. Look them up online to see the descriptions and determine if they might help you or not.
Sexual Detours by Holly Hein, really helped to understand the why and dynamics of the A.
Loving an adult child of an alcoholic, by Bey and Bey
Coming Apart, by Kingma, dealing with the end of a relationship.
Love & Respect by Eggerichs
I hope that these books can help others as they have helped FWW and I.
eta: updated the list again to indicate which few are left