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timestandsstill
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, January 3rd (Monday)

Just started reading this and it's interesting, different approach so far. It only has a few pages on dealing with affairs, but a lot on creating emotional safety, attachment, and trust in the relationship.


Me, BS 37
Him, WH 40
DS 12
Together 17 years
2010-2011: Serial As and false Rs
Sept 2011: Moved in with latest OW, 21
OC born June 2012

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manAscending
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, January 4th (Tuesday)

If this book appeals to you, I bet you'd also like Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. It's written by a woman who helped pioneer Emotionally Focussed Therapy, which it looks like is the predominant framework for Safe Haven Marriage. The book I'm recommending completely altered my view of relationships for the better, and helped me to see how a good marriage is one where both partners feel safe and secure. Please let me know how you like your book as you progress through it. I've already added it to my mooch list. Thanks!

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Mrs.Confused
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, January 4th (Tuesday)

Always nice to hear of good books that help in healing. Thank you for sharing.


It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. ~ Rose Kennedy ~

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Mrs.Confused
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, January 4th (Tuesday)

I have read over alot of reviews tonight on the book you recommended Safe Haven Marriage and your right, it appears to be a great book about re connecting and emotionally trusting.

Wish I had a kindle or e- reader....Enjoy your find, learning and growing


It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. ~ Rose Kennedy ~

Posts: 351 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: USA
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