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mentallyabused
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Member # 33439
Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, October 4th (Tuesday)

I am looking for books that concentrate on BS healing, or help BS in a limbo or help with dealing multiple affairs.

Anyone have any recommendations?


WH - 30s
BS (me) 30s
DDay#1 - Nov 2009 EA
DDay#2 - Sept 2011 same OW (EA, denies PA but booked a hotel room for God knows what!)
What doesn't kill me right away, kills me slowly..
Status - in R for kids

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2011
mentallyabused
Member
Member # 33439
Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, October 4th (Tuesday)

Anyone?!


WH - 30s
BS (me) 30s
DDay#1 - Nov 2009 EA
DDay#2 - Sept 2011 same OW (EA, denies PA but booked a hotel room for God knows what!)
What doesn't kill me right away, kills me slowly..
Status - in R for kids

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2011
Crescita
Member
Member # 32616
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, November 1st (Tuesday)

After d-day every book on infidelity had something to offer! Reading was the only way to calm my mind.

Some that I can remember...

Surviving Infidelity
Transcending Post-infidelity Stress Disorder
My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me- this one is helpful if you have no doubts about the kind of man he was pre affair, and have great faith in things working out.
How Can I Forgive You- is ok, not solely focused on infidelity, but it does seem to encourage working through it together as the best option, no matter the outcome.
The Four Agreements - not really infidelity focused
Also read a couple books on Narcissistic Personality Disorder


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Fighting2Survive
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Member # 28410
Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, November 1st (Tuesday)

Some of these books concentrate on infidelity and some were just helpful to me as I healed.

Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust & Restoring Your Sanity After Infidelity
by Shirley P. Glass, PhD

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To
by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
by Harriet Lerner, PhD

Codependent No More
by Melodie Beattie

Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices that Make or Break Loving Relationships
by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
by Robin Norwood

When Your Lover is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception & Betrayal
by Susan Forward, PhD

[This message edited by Fighting2Survive at 7:46 PM, November 1st (Tuesday)]


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


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