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LookingforLove
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, January 6th (Friday)

Has anyone read "In the Meantime" by Iyanla Vanzant?

The book which has been out since 1999 was recommended to me by one of my best friends.

Any thoughts?

THX

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, January 6th (Friday)

I remember loving it at the time. It's been over ten years, and I was in my 20's at the time. I've grown and changed so much since then that I have no idea what I would think of it now. I can't remember it enough to say. I do remember it being uplifting and helpful and what I needed to read back then. I say give it a try. I might read it again myself

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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, January 6th (Friday)

I've not read it but I love her.....


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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, January 15th (Sunday)

Ditto Meta. This is the first self-help book I ever read and remember being blown away. Not sure if I'd feel the same way now, but maybe I will pick it up again since you mentioned it.

If you've seen her on tv and liked her, you will probably like the book. Her writing style was engaging.


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Jessy1501
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, January 18th (Wednesday)

I read it a long time ago. Remember loving it. But I love her in general.


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waiting2see
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, February 6th (Monday)

OK so I am reading this now based on this thread.

It has a solid message and she is really engaging.

But I'm a little bothered by her acceptance of infidelity and betrayal.

I mean she seems to accept infidelity--though not a good thing--as a possible result of being in an unhappy relationship.

There is a LOT of acceptance in this book--probably more than I am capable of.

I mean ideally we could just say, "hey, I'm not happy, I'm walking away" and everyone would end up better off.

But what about commitment?

I'm not done with the book. But it almost seems like her vision of "true" love is something that just comes at the right time as long as you're engaged in self-love.

Maybe.

But once you are invested in a relationship should you just up and leave when you don't feel happy?

I mean isn't the meaning of commitment that you are willing to battle through those times and at least try to make it work?

I don't know maybe I haven't gotten to her real sense of commitment yet. These are just first impressions.

There is a lot of good in the book. Maybe I don't have the level of self-love necessary to lay down the bitterness that I feel or would feel if betrayed or abandoned.


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