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hummingbird8
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, March 14th (Wednesday)

Women are from Venus.

Has anyone read this book? Is it worth the purchase?


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:44 AM, March 18th (Sunday)

Sure. It's a good basic book that's easy to read on how men and women communicate and think and respond to things differently. I found it helpful and food for thought.

If you want more science I have heard The Female Brain and the author's second book, The Male Brain are excellent.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 5:17 AM, March 18th (Sunday)

Ages ago...I don't remember much about it which in my bookworm world is code for ok but not impressive


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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Melody3
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, April 6th (Friday)

Great book. I love John Gray.


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

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Melody3
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, April 6th (Friday)

It's a good basic book that's easy to read on how men and women communicate and think and respond to things differently

Just the basics. It's quite informative.


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, April 12th (Thursday)

I thought it was awesome. I even bought a set of videos by John Gray since WH wasn't a reader. I wanted to watch them together so we could have a good foundation for our new marriage.

Turns out he wasn't much of a non-porn video watcher. I should have realized then that his refusal to watch the videos or even discuss any concept was a red flag that our marriage was doomed.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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rumorhasit
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Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

Bumping an old thread, sorry...

I read this book back in September after Dday#1.

Am I the only one who found it shallow and not very helpful? I don't feel like I got anything out of it that I couldnt have gotten from a cosmo article.


BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:51 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

I found it to be extremely helpful. It made me look at things differently and to understand male/female communication better.


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

I just read it this weekend... found it at an old bookstore...

loved this: Vesuvians (women) all study psychology and have at least a Master's degree in Counseling.

I shared this with my husband - about how women talk about things they would with their therapist and he was shocked.

If you are a couple where the gender roles are traditional I think this would help you a lot.

Last week I was quietly crying as my husband and I talked. He referred to it as me "going ballistic." Men interpret any criticism shamefully, according to the book.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Well, I'm from Jersey.

eta:

There is a book called The Myth of Mars and Venus that explains why this is damaging for relationships and how playing to the stereotype can just reinforce them as "correct" so if you actually want better communication with your husband, this might not be the way to go.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 2:39 PM, May 3rd (Friday)]


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Melody3
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, September 20th (Friday)

I think this book is very informative and one on my bookshelf. Always.


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

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