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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

Seems like there are a lot of us NBers who are trying to get their houses ready to sell. I, for one, can do with some nudging (or indirect supervision, if you like).

So here's my thought - let's keep each other motivated! If you care to play along, list the next few things on your "To Do" list for readying your house for market. When you've completed one, post about it.

We can cheer each other on, poke when necessary, and brainstorm if there are roadblocks.

I'll go first -

1. Arrange plumber to fix disposal
2. Get estimate for redoing insulation in basement
3. Remove tree branches at the bottom of the yard.
4. Hang bedroom, office, and basement doors.
5. Install new garage door.

Who's next?


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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

Love this nik!!! Thank you!!!

Today I accomplished something from my list - got a second carpet estimate for my 3 kids bedrooms and closets. First estimate was $2K, this one was $1100!!! So I scheduled it! Yay!!! Now I HAVE to clean out all three kids' closets - I have no choice!

My friend who is very handy and has been helping me paint, etc., is on vacation next week and has offered to spend some time over here during the week working on stuff.

My list:
1) Call hardwood floor guy to see if messed part of my hardwood floor is fixable.
2) Get storage unit and start moving stuff from basement into it as well as other packed up stuff.
3) Pack said stuff from closets and basement (guess that should be #2 lol)
4) Powerwash back patio and backside of house.
5) Install quarterround at bottom of baseboards (my friend will do that this week)

I'm SO pleased the carpet is in the works because that will force me to get the packing and cleaning out stuff done that I've been avoiding.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

Yea for second opinion/quotes!

And you reminded me that I have to add another task.

6. Rent storage unit and move out tubs/boxes that are already packed plus excess furniture.

ETA: Yea for helpful friends with vacation time to spare!!!

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 5:22 PM, April 21st (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

I've done quite a bit of decluttering and depersonalisation. Took all the family photos down and took all the stuff off the fridge.
The pool is opened and clean.
The yard is landscaped.
Open house is tomorrow.


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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

Wow - Good luck, nutmeg!! Sending you multiple offer mojo.


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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

Here is some encouragement for all of you -- my 3/2 home sold in 4 days! My realtor gave me a long to-do list of cleanign and repairs before we putit on the market and I did every single thing she told me to do - we got 3 offers at full price the first weekend it was shown. Clean, clean, clean, and fix everything you can. I priced mine right and am glad to be free of "our" house. Happlily renting for the moment.


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WH - age 57 - sex addict/porn addict, NPD
Children 2 boys, 19 & 16
D-day #1 2/2/05, D-day #2: 1/22/06
R 4/21/05, but that was another lie, just a game.
D-day #3 11/06
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

Good luck nutmeg!!! Positive mojo your way!!!

Congrats discombobulated!!!
I hope I can post something similar soon!!!

Thanks nik, this is a motivating thread.


Me: BW-44
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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

That's fantastic, discombobulated! I can only hope it will go half as well when I finally get on the market.


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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

I have been trying to get His Majesty's permission to put our house (formerly "our home") on the market since dday - finally got him to respond to the fire I lit under his ass....since the first market analysis that I got last August the house has declined 25K in "listing value". Thanks a lot, Jerk!
The sign is finally up in front of the house. DD cried when she saw it...of course he didn't have to wipe those tears away.
Anyhow, I've been packed and ready to blow the coop for months. I have the following to do asap:
1) Figure out what to do with the mountain of his personal belongings I have recklessly created in the basement...he said he'll come and get it all, but I haven't allowed him in the house since dday and I don't intend to let him in now. He pays 100% of the mortgage, but that still doesn't count in my book.
2) Paint the new front door I had installed.
3) Remove fixtures I intend to take with me.
4) Touch up paint.
5)Search for a new home.

I'll miss this place. At first I wanted to leave so badly due to the memories, but now that he's been gone, it finally starts to feel like my own and dd's. Oh well.


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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

tiredandhurt - can you buy a jumbo box of Heftys, hire a couple of college kids, and haul it all to his front door?

Then he doesn't have to come to the house, you can give some nice college boys some pizza money, and the basement mountain will be gone.

Good luck with the listing!


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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, April 21st (Saturday)

tiredandhurt, what does your attorney say about all of this? Esp since he's paying all of the mortgage, will the delay benefit him more in the end? (I hope not, I would just want to know the answer to the question)


Me: BW-44
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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, April 22nd (Sunday)

nowiknow23: Very nice idea about the "college boys"....but me thinks - having practiced celibacy for the past many months - the "boys" being around may weaken my knees too much (wink wink!)

persevere: not sure what you mean regarding the delay being of potential benefit to him? he is - thus far - not laying any claim to the equity being more his than mine. Is that what you mean?


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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, April 22nd (Sunday)

t&h - yes, that's what I meant.


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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, April 22nd (Sunday)

well, three couples and 2 agents came through the OH, so that is good. The weather did not cooperate though - after a gorgeous week, today turned cold and rainy.
The price is being dropped by 10k on Tuesday.


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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, April 22nd (Sunday)

I'm happy to help. If you want to, pm me....I'm in "the business"...I'll do what I can!


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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, April 22nd (Sunday)

Clean, clean, clean, and fix everything you can

Best suggestion! And don't forget your windows! Clean windows letting a lot of light through is important.


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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, April 22nd (Sunday)

I just sold my old house back in November.

I rented a dumpster and no joke filled it twice in one day with crap I didn't even know I had but had no intention of bringing to my new house.

I cleaned like mad for about a month, every closet was gutted, cupboard, windows, curtains...if I couldn't stuff it in the washer I wiped it down.

I also invested about 100 bucks on the front veranda and put a nice light and very colourful planter out there. That made it cheerful when somebody was coming to the front door.


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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, April 23rd (Monday)

nutmeg - Was your agent satisfied with the turnout at your OH? More importantly, were you? Did any of the couples indicate interest?


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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, April 30th (Monday)

Carpet in three kids bedrooms is installed! Big check mark. Now nothing goes back into those rooms without being cleaned out and cleaned spotless - it's all in the game room.

Also got a storage unit on Friday and put some boxes and extra dining chairs in it. Another good check mark.

Step by step I will get there....

(I'm posting here to stop that overwhelming "how will I ever get this done" feeling...lol)


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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, April 30th (Monday)

1. Minimise Everything.

Getting rid of all clutter is essential! That lovely piece you picked up from the antique market, spent hours paint stripping to perfection and now sits in pride of place with your favourite scented candles on it and picture of Grandma, will mean ZILCH to prospective buyers. They only see the space and want to imagine what their furniture will look like in it.

2. Fresh coat of paint (neutral) on as many walls as possible. If you paint the window frames, for God sake make sure you can open them afterwards (mistake No. 1 by Ellejay). Have painting finished at least a week before Open. Ventilate the house to get the smell out. If the buyers think you've just done it to sell, they usually start looking for cracks (especially in an old house).

3. Make sure you have a couple of vases of fresh flowers around the house in Open Day. If the house takes longer than two weeks to sell, you might want to change the water and replace the rotting stems and dead flower heads.

4. If the garden is a mess, just get it to a tidy stage. Don't spend a fortune on planting a botanical garden. Buy pots of bright annuals and place them strategically around the front and back gardens. At least you can take them with you when you vacate. If you have lawn, water, water, water and mow the day before viewing.

4. Music. On Open Days or Private Inspections, have some soft music playing at a low level. Enya works wonders. A few scented tea-lights here and there add ambience. Don't leave any near the curtains on a breezy day (mistake No. 2 by Ellejay).

5. Make sure the dog bowl is down the end of the garden, not somewhere on view. More importantly, make sure the dog is out of sight at viewing times. If they are savaged by fleas once you've left - remember -THEY brought them with them.

6. If you have an old property and are worried about the odd mouse or two making an appearance and taking a bow during viewing times, set a few mousetraps under the kitchen sink and any other likely places at least two weeks beforehand. Make sure you remember to remove them all before viewing. Nothing like the sound of a trap going off and bouncing in the air to put prospective buyers off. (Mistake No. 3 by Ellejay)

7. Repair loose door handles, replace broken downpipes, broken fences or anything that the prospective buyer can see as they walk up the path. If it can't be repaired in time, just chuck it out (unless it's the roof of course).

I'm sure I have more practical suggestions but it's late in Oz and I'm tired. Despite my flippancy, I sold my house last year within a month, got rid of 25 years worth of surplus crap, painted, planted, cleaned, repaired, laid lawn and put up a back fence all with the help of my neighbours and kids. It added about $40K at auction to the buying price. It can be done.

Back later. Good luck everyone.


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Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, April 30th (Monday)

persevere - Hooray on the check marks!!

Ellejay - your post slayed me. And was filled with very helpful hints. Thank you for that.

The biggest check mark I accomplished over the weekend was repainting all the spackled nicks and holes around the house.

Oh, and wasband agreed to take custody of our remaining cat temporarily while the house is on the market. I will miss the fur ball, but she's a major darter, and I have big fears of her escaping when someone comes to view the house.

Aiming to be on the market next week, assuming the insulation installation goes off without a hitch this week. Fingers crossed!


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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, May 3rd (Thursday)

Bumping this ahead of the weekend in hopes that I'll stay motivated!

Here's my progress so far -

1. Arrange plumber to fix disposal Plumber coming at 8:00 tomorrow

2. Get estimate for redoing insulation in basement my friend "Jane" & her hubby are doing this for me on Saturday for just the cost of supplies. Free labor!

3. Remove tree branches at the bottom of the yard. DS and his friend are halfway through this. Hoping to finish this weekend.

4. Hang bedroom, office, and basement doors. Half the hinges have been morticed. I'm chipping away at this each night.

5. Install new garage door. Jane's hubby is procuring a Sawzall and helping me do this on Saturday.

6. Rent storage unit and move out tubs/boxes that are already packed plus excess furniture. Storage unit rented. Starting to load it up tomorrow.

How's everyone else doing?
Any showings/open houses this weekend?

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 4:17 PM, May 3rd (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, May 4th (Friday)

The agent (who is stbx, I know, I know, he will put the comission in the college funds I have set up) seemed ok with the turnout but I am not.
I emailed him yesterday and said we need to reduce the price again. He responded with an email asking if I wanted to buy him out (for the millionth fucking time, no, I don't want to buy you out!), or what figure would I accept for him to buy me out.
That got forwarded directly to my attorney and we have a call today.
He better not interfere with the house sale or I will lose my mind.

Ellejay - thanks for the list of tips!!


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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, May 4th (Friday)

Nutmeg - Good luck with that. Go, Lawyer, Go!

Plumber had to replace the disposal. Unexpected repair expense #346.

At least it's another item checked off the list, right?


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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, May 4th (Friday)

Lawyer did reassure me that if push came to shove and he starts to not cooperate we will go to court and get a court order to have the listing cancelled with him and relisted with someone else, so that made me feel just a tiny bit better.

This morning he sent an email saying he talked to people at the bank who told him he could be approved to refi in his name only, and that he would do that and let me out of the mortgage in exchange for not taking half my retirement. Lawyer said not an option.

Gawd, I have a huge headache.


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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, May 4th (Friday)

My realtor is coming over tomorrow afternoon to touch base and pick a day to have all done and put it on the market.

This weekend I will be cleaning out the gameroom and the attic, taking boxes to storage, working on the vents (sanding, cleaning, spraypainting) and cleaning the house.

Has anyone ever hired a stager? A friend did and her house sold the first day. I'm considering checking into it.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, May 5th (Saturday)

Jane and her hubby came through BIG TIME for me today. Insulation - DONE. Garage door installation - DONE. Lawn - MOWED.

Heck - they even changed a lightbulb for me that I couldn't reach.

Here we are in all our insulating glory (I'm the short one) -

Now to load up the car and make a few more trips to storage.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 2:30 PM, May 5th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, May 5th (Saturday)

Yay nik!!!! I'm taking a quick break after pulling boxes out of the hot attic - then packing up my friend's truck and making a trip to storage.

I need a Red Bull...


Me: BW-44
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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, May 5th (Saturday)

Red Bull or a nap - it's a toss up at this point.


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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, May 5th (Saturday)

Okay just made yet another $200 trip to Home Depot, lol. Got all of the nickel doorknobs to replace the brass, a few plants, a couple of new toilet seats (just so they will look new and super clean), and additional cleaning supplies.

My realtor has set the deadline - he's sending the photographer over to do pics on Monday the 14th, and we're on the market on Thursday the 17th at 12:01 a.m. (he has this thing about doing that...lol).

So now I'm on a TIGHT timeline. Now I have to see if my mom can keep my dogs for a long weekend that first weekend, or find a dog sitter.

SO much still to do!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, May 5th (Saturday)

Oh and nik - I had the red bull earlier to get me thru the day, but now it's red wine...lol. Then tomorrow morning, get up and do it all again...


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DDays: 1/10/2011
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Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, May 5th (Saturday)

Funny - I had the nap.
Now it's margaritas, then off to bed to rest up for 3,000 trips to storage tomorrow.

Fun!


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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, May 6th (Sunday)

Ok - so much of my list done, time to write a new one.

1. Scrub cat puke spots on basement floor. (RIP Burt)
2. Make 237 more trips to storage.
3. Straighten up garage.
4. Send cat to Wasband temporarily.
5. Plant flowers in containers out front.
6. Hang shades in screen porch.
7. Wash windows.
8. LIST THE HOUSE!!

Seriously cannot believe I'm almost there. I'm calling the agent tomorrow to tell her I'll be ready to list on Thursday. GULP!


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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, May 6th (Sunday)

Omg nik! THIS Thursday???? wow!!!

I've replaced 14 brass doorknobs with brushed nickel ones today. I'm getting good with the electric screwdriver...lol.

I also painted trim in the kitchen and cleaned. Still much more to do but now I'm jumping in the shower to go have a quick dinner with new guy.

I am SO going to bed early tonight.

Keep us updated nik!!


Me: BW-44
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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Content  Posted: 5:30 PM, May 6th (Sunday)

Wow you guys are doing great!!! I'm not selling a house, but I'm enjoying the updates and progress throughout this thread.


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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 6th (Sunday)

I'll be ready on Thursday. They'll still have to take pictures and all.


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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, May 6th (Sunday)

I am so discouraged at this point! Had the house on the market in Dec, dropped the price $25k in Jan and the listing expired in March. 30 showings, one open house.

I have cleaned carpets, bought fresh flowers, decluttered, removed pictures, turned on all lights, baked cookies, baked cinnamon rolls,left future homeowners a letter, etc.

Feedback was mostly needs updating. So I spent $3400 in granite, $500 in hardwood refinishing in the kitchen, $80 in window washing, $30 gallon of paint for me painting baseboards and window sills.

This was my list for Friday because we had 2 showings on Sat....and the house isn't on the market right now. The listing stays on the internet apparently and the agents called my old one. Both a big fat no

1. Blow leaves off of sunroom roof and pressure wash

2. Blow leaves off of the deck and patio after that

3. Clean the inside of the basement windows, remove the mullions and store in attic

4. Steam clean the basement carpet

5. Finish wiping down the metal parts inside the sunroom with the spray bleach and a rag. Still has mildew present. Need the ladder.

Still left to do ASAP: hire an electrician to fix the intercom doorbell that died. Estimates for time alone start at $100. Good grief.

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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, May 8th (Tuesday)

Here's my big juicy confession for the week - I did ZERO work on the house today. Zero. Zilch. Sit-on-my-fat-butt-watching-Mad-Men nothing.

Hi, my name is NIK, and I'm really burned out on house crap.


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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, May 9th (Wednesday)

Well, stbx did agree to do another price reduction, so that is positive. And there is a showing next Monday at 5:30.

I am starting to freak out a little though, I'm not seeing ANYTHING suitable in the town to which I'm moving.


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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, May 9th (Wednesday)

IWS - Are you listed again? Is the market better in the spring/summer where you are? Fingers crossed for you!

Nutmeg - I'm glad he agreed to the price reduction. I hear you on the search for the new place. I'm so discouraged on that front. I'm in a university town. The vast majority of rentals are student-grade, stale beer and posters on the wall kind of places, which aren't the best environment for a single mom with a special needs kid. Everything else is visiting faculty-grade, which is expensive as all get out.

Deep sigh.

No more riding the couch for me. If I sit down now, I may never get back up.


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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

I am absolutely EXHAUSTED from house prep - yesterday and today. Tomorrow afternoon my realtor is dropping by for final walk thru.

I have to say that moving the huge entertainment center around our flat screen into the office and making it a display area (it pushes together) was the smartest idea ever! My living room looks HUGE now!

Also, paying a company $225 to clean my living room wood floors was a waste - they don't look much better - but on the flipside, I would have double guessed myself constantly if I hadn't done it. They do look somewhat better, and without the entertainment center you can see SO much more of the floor that was previously covered (and therefore not damaged so looks good).

Caulk has become my new best friend. Showers and tubs are looking good now.

Tomorrow is cleaning, cleaning, cleaning and finishing up. Whew - I'm exhausted - seriously.

I really hope the hype about Austin's market lives up...


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Default  Posted: 2:59 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

Congrats on your progress everyone...

I've decided to join the club.

5 months of living in my parents spare room and after 3 breakins, 1 of those by stbxWW with an axe, I have finally moved back to the marital home, another massively hard decision as she's living it up responsibility and debt free in a swanky pad in the city.... Pretending neither me or former DD even existed, partying and shaggin around by all accounts.....

It's been so hard and involved a LOT of tears.

I've no heating and it's averaging 11-12 deg C inside the house at present...!

Jobs done over the past week...

Dismantle baby furniture ready to sell.
Steam off baby's wallpaper and peel off transfers (unfortunately took some paint off so remedial work needed)
Take down baby's curtains and light fittings.
Moved all our bedroom furniture across to now empty babys bedroom so I can start on finishing the master bedroom and start building the en-suite.
Several tip runs trying to empty a lot of rubbish from garage and house.
Empty and wash coal store in readiness for new boiler to be fitted in 3 weeks.
Weeded and Power washed the back of the house, walls windows and the lower patio. (Now our old English sheepdog has been re homed the other week I'm trying to clean up what was her run so the house stays cleaner walking in and out the back garden)
Fit new lock to garage to help prevent any more breakins (thanks dad for that one)
Fitted alarm with an autodialler so if someone does break in it rings me, that's how I found out about last break in, my phone rang whilst eating dinner at my parents (made me feel very sick!)

Me living up here means I have to sleep in the bed where WW and MOM were f@@king in former DDs nursery

I hate being here.....

There's SO much to do and I'm facing against reposesion, not sure who's going to win, me with finishing and selling or them with reposesion. It'd be a shame to sink several £k into finishing the house only for them to foreclose on me

The what's left to do list is immense....!!

Fit skirting in dressing room.
Plasterboard walls and ceiling in master en-suite.
Plumb and wire en suite.
Fit new shower and enclosure.
Fit new his and hers sink and vanity unit.
Fit new toilet.
Fit new flooring to en suite.
Finish master bathroom bath paneling and tiling.
Measure and order and then fit mirror for shower splashback.
New boiler to be fitted. (7th June)
New lot insulation to be installed following boiler replacement.
Fit architrave around loft hatch.
Finish wall papering the landing.
Paint all doors, frames, skirting and new banisters.
Connect up electric element for towel rail in main bathroom.
Touch up/re decorate where needed in bedrooms.

That will be upstairs finished....!

Pack up all fDDs toys and belongings.
Pack up the remainder of stbxWWs belongings to either throw out or return to her.
Kitchen worktops to be fitted.
Slash backs around worktops to be tiled and grouted.
2 lengths of coving needed to finish ceiling.
Skirting board fitting in kitchen
New kitchen door to be hung (to replace the one stbxWW axed through)
Patch up holes in ceiling from speakers I removed.
Finish fitting kitchen units around electric meter and order replacement door for under sink.
Put last tile down on kitchen floor then grout the whole kitchen floor...!
Redecorate kitchen from dog damage.
Finish wiring for outside lights.
Fit outside light over side door outside lounge.
Fit skirting board in lounge.
Move Satelite cable to run under the floors rather than around house.
Front sitting room with coal fire I think is done apart from fitting new door.
All woodwork and doors to be painted downstairs.

That's the downstairs pretty much finished.....

Repair concrete patio in rear garden
Repair patio out front of house.
Repair render around new garage door and new side door.
Re paint the whole of the outside of the house.
Strip paint off porch, repair wood where damaged and re paint.
Cut down tree in back garden for new heating oil tank to be installed.
Tear down all rotten wood and smashed window around rear garage door and replace with marine ply to make it all secure.
Weed and replace/repair upper rear garden patio
Replace remote control system for barrier across the drive way.

When everything else is finished, the final job will be to replace ALL the carpets throughout the house with new including new underlay as there isn't any at present.

Then when it's all finished, and it finally becomes my dream home....

I'll have to sell it, hopefully all the work above will get it out of negative equity.....

If it makes a profit, I'll have to give whore faced skankalot half of it even though I've spent all the cash on it and done all the work.....

Now I read back and think about it, really what's the point????

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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

If it makes a profit, I'll have to give whore faced skankalot half of it even though I've spent all the cash on it and done all the work.....

Keep ALL receipts, and as part of the divorce agreement on the house you should be able to arrange to be credited back for at least 1/2 your expenses when the house sells.

It is exhausting and a lot of hard work, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. Just chip away at your list one thing at a time. ((foreverempty))


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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

Keep ALL receipts, and as part of the divorce agreement on the house you should be able to arrange to be credited back for at least 1/2 your expenses when the house sells.
Absolutely keep track!

I paid for all the fix ups on the house, and we had planned that I would be reimbursed for those expenses out of the sales proceeds BEFORE the remaining equity was split.

Now, of course, Wasband has walked away from the house, is signing a quit claim, and will get nothing from the sale because he owes me $$.

The point is, you should not be eating those expenses.

Persevere - HOLY MOSES! You are on fire!

Realtor will be coming sometime this next week for pictures. I'm still cleaning cleaning cleaning cleaning, but all the work is done. The cat is heading out to wasband's today.

C'mon, multiple offers!!!


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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

Thanks ladies

I'll be keeping track for sure!

Wish I could claim for time spent doing the work against her time spent getting drunk and shagging around in her new flat....! Bitch!

Good luck with your valuations and sales

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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, May 14th (Monday)

GAH! Realtor just called. The assessor's office changed the ownership on my house to some development group on Friday. It's clearly a clerical error, but WTH??? Seems like little things like this always pop up to complicate a house sale.

So glad the realtor saw that NOW rather than later.


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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, May 14th (Monday)

Wow nik - glad your realtor caught that! I'm hoping there are no little snafus in my title work. I've been a little nervous that what my realtor sees on wherever he looks shows my outstanding lien total to be about $20K higher than my mortgage balance. I don't know how to verify what liens are actually on my property - so if anyone has any ideas I'd appreciate any suggestions.

My realtor was not able to come by last night. He wanted to come by last minute early in the day, but I wasn't DONE yet, so I said no. He's supposed to come by tonight. Pic's tomorrow, then on the market on Thursday at 12:01 am.

That's the plan anyway...I really hope that's how it goes because next weekend is a holiday weekend and I'm supposed to be out of town.


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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, May 14th (Monday)

I had mulch delivered on Friday and a landscaper was there all day yesterday weeding and edging and laying mulch. I have a huge (2+ acres) lot and it needed sprucing up.

The showing for today was moved till tomorrow at 3.

I asked him when he was going to bring me papers to sign for another price reduction. He said "I'll get around to that after I get the papers from your attorney. You need to get on that."
I did send a quick email off to her asking when she thought she'd have them ready.


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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, May 15th (Tuesday)

We're good to go - sign is in the yard - pics tomorrow a.m., on the market Thursday at 12:01 a.m.

Please, please, please send positive mojo for a decent offer this weekend.

Good luck nutmeg!!! Hope the showing goes well!


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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, May 15th (Tuesday)

Mojo Mojo Mojo! Competing offers mojo!


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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, May 15th (Tuesday)

Nutmeg - any feedback from the showing?


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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

Photographer just took pics - house goes on the market at midnight tonight. If I don't get a decent offer this weekend I'm considering hiring a stager. I'm wondering if I should have just done that already....


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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, May 17th (Thursday)

Seven showings scheduled today so far - hopefully that's a good sign? If anyone wants to see the listing and pics, send me a PM with your email address. The pics came out really good.


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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, May 20th (Sunday)

You know it's time to take a break from cleaning... when your DD finds you shop vac-ing the garage ceiling.

No. Lie.

Any updates, house sellers? How are the showings going? Any nibbles? Open houses this weekend?

Forever - have you collapsed from that impossibly long rehab list yet?


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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, May 20th (Sunday)

25+ showings this weekend, well since Thursday, finally got an offer - AT ASKING PRICE!!!!! Yay!!!! But they want a 31 day close, so I'd probably need to be out by June 22nd - ACK!!! My realtor was shocked we've only had one offer out of that many showings and then for it to be asking price??? Lol.

Also expecting a 2nd offer shortly, but they will let me leaseback into late July, though I don't know their $$$ offer yet....

Selling a house is like playing poker, I swear!

Now I need to find where I'm going to live! But it's a good problem to have under the circumstances....

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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, May 20th (Sunday)

WOW! That's fantastic, persevere! Stagers? You don't need no stinkin' stagers.

Congratulations! Now go find a place to live. STAT!


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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, May 20th (Sunday)

Congrats on the offer, makes all the hard work seem well worth it I bet! Hope the sale goes well for you a d you find somewhere to jump ship to in 31 days even if it's just a stopgap!

NIK my list is still the same length, I'm working through boxing up all DD and WW things and stacking them in the garage for either WW to collect her bits and SS to collect DDs things.

Got to empty the loft and do the same with all that crap, there's a lot of wedding stuff up there so I'm not looking forward to that job!

I've been away for the last 3 days as well having a bit of fun with friends with their fast cars, fallen in love with my mates new Aston Martin Vantage, decided I want one as my next weekend car.... I have no idea how many years that will take for me to save up for one especially with the debt I have to clear first but hey I can dream a little! He took pity on me and bought me a new wing mirror for my Vectra which has been missing now for almost 2 years....

Got to add that to my list of jobs to do now!


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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, May 21st (Monday)

Keep plugging along foreverempty - you'll get there!

The second offer was better than the first - $2500 over asking price, please leaseback option allowing me to stay in the house until the end of July. So WINNER! The realtor also sent a brief summary about the couple - they sound very stable so gives you more confidence that all will go thru without a hitch. Their son is graduating with my son next week.

I'm looking at a property in my area tonight that is not yet on the market because properties go fast in my area, so we'll see.


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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, May 21st (Monday)

Holy cow, persevere! Congratulations. That's just fantastic. Happy house hunting.


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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, May 21st (Monday)

The feedback was that they liked it but right now they are only qualified for a lease to own. Stbx says he is trying to help them get financed. I don't know what the truth is.

But, he did say he was sending over papers to drop the price again. This drop will bring us down into a more reasonable range, so that's good news.


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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, May 21st (Monday)

Realtor's taking pictures tomorrow afternoon and then putting the sign in the yard. It's off to the races. Fingers crossed!


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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, May 21st (Monday)

Good luck with it NIK

Let us know what they think of the place.

I finally put the last tile down on the kitchen floor tonight, been far too long getting around to doing that. Got to grout it now and that's one of the free jobs ticked off the list.

Got the ride on mower working as well so dad buzzed around the garden on it and mum did another couple hours of packing while I routed through the garage.

Got social services coming over Thursday so they will take any of DDs things they feel appropriate, the rest I can get rid of to a charity shop or something. Going to get one or two photos of her framed and put them up in the house somewhere nice. Only small ones, just for memories sake. Think I'll like that.


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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, May 21st (Monday)

Good luck nik!!!


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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, May 22nd (Tuesday)

So today I mowed the rear patio, yes that's right mowed it! The weeds and grass have taken over in the joints so I mowed it before spraying with weed killer...

Sprayed the weeds on the back patio, front patio and drive and the steps down to the front garden. Not sure if it's strong enought weed killer but I'll soon find out of I need to do it again.

Grouted the kitchen floor...! Yay..! Just need to give the tiles one last polish in the morning when it's all fully dried. It's looking pretty good

Not sure what to do tomorrow. Got a meeting in the afternoon but really need to get some more tips runs organised although I'm having to get pretty ruthless now. The things I'm starting to throw out I don't really want to get rid of but I don't need and most of it is sentimental junk if I'm honest. Ho hum


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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, May 22nd (Tuesday)

So today I mowed the rear patio, yes that's right mowed it! The weeds and grass have taken over in the joints so I mowed it before spraying with weed killer...

Sprayed the weeds on the back patio, front patio and drive and the steps down to the front garden. Not sure if it's strong enought weed killer but I'll soon find out of I need to do it again.

Grouted the kitchen floor...! Yay..! Just need to give the tiles one last polish in the morning when it's all fully dried. It's looking pretty good

Not sure what to do tomorrow. Got a meeting in the afternoon but really need to get some more tips runs organised although I'm having to get pretty ruthless now. The things I'm starting to throw out I don't really want to get rid of but I don't need and most of it is sentimental junk if I'm honest or just simply tat. Ho hum, new start and everything....!


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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, May 22nd (Tuesday)

Well done, forever! Keep it up!

Agents were here. Pictures taken, sign in the yard. Yee haw.


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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, May 23rd (Wednesday)

Go nik and foreverempty!!!

House inspection here on Friday morning - hopefully there are no unexpected surprises.


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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, May 23rd (Wednesday)

Wow persevere, how cool for you!!!

Good luck NIK!


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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, May 23rd (Wednesday)

Realtor told me not to expect a lot of showings until after the holiday weekend. Not the BEST timing for going on the market, but I'm there.

Open house scheduled for June 2.

On a different note, I looked at a rental "house" last night, and I'm thoroughly depressed. It was an absolute HOLE. Outside was cute from a distance, but up close, the maintenance was awful - peeling paint, crooked stairs, missing screens...

Inside you had to bend down to avoid hitting your head on the stairwell ceiling, the floors were uneven and in terrible condition. Ugh. I wouldn't even stick an undergraduate in this house.

And the rent was $1300.

I'm going to end up living in a van down by the river.


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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, May 23rd (Wednesday)

Keep looking NIK the perfect place will be out there for you don't worry too much just yet!

Busy morning and evening today.

Finished cleaning and polishing the floor, they are 2 foot square polished porcelain, they look ace but took a lot of scrubbing...!

Then had some good news, got someone who wants to rent a room in my other house, that made me very happy, then went to that house to check it over and one of the people who are already there told me they lost their job yesterday and may have to move out imediately (already a month behind on rent!) bugger...! Giveth with one hand and taketh away with the other...!

Picked up the electric plane from dad and have fitted the plinths in the kitchen this evening and have spend the last few hours cleaning and scrubbing to try and get the place clean to live in while I do the rest of the work. I don't think this house has ever been this clean! WW never really seemed to put a lot of effort into housework even when I was away for weeks and she was only working 3 days!!! Go figure??

Social workers are here in the morning to pick up DDs things, anything that's left of hers will then go to a charity shop.

Very little of WWs things in the house now, most is boxed in the garage, just bits and bobs left now.

You find the strangest of things when your cleaning.... Down the back of the dishwasher was the piece of paper WW asked me to write my number down on the the day she asked if I was serious about taking her out..... That was a wow moment....

I kinda reminisced, then thought "wish I hadn't giver her that" then put it away and carried on with what I was doing. Very strange


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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, May 23rd (Wednesday)

Wow, forever. That is an interesting find. It speaks to your continued healing that it didn't throw you for a loop.

Officially on the MLS now. A bit surprised that the agency added some Photoshop decor to one of my rooms. Guess it was too boring in its stripped down state.

LMK if you are interested, and I can PM you the listing.

Also had my first drive by interest. A woman pulled up while I was watering flowers and asked if the house was for sale and if I had any flyers.


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Default  Posted: 2:07 AM, May 24th (Thursday)

I'd be interested in taking a snoop around your place, love to see the photoshopped furniture. Not seen that one before

I really like property and doing up houses, shame I lost interest over the last couple years.

Hopefully I'm starting to get my mojo back! I'm sure there will be relapses galore!


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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, May 24th (Thursday)

I wish everyone good luck! I am also getting the house ready too.The photos have been taken, sign is in the yard, and an open house is scheduled for June 3rd.

I really will miss this house but a fresh start is necessary. I'm also looking at places to rent and feeling discouraged about what's out there.


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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, May 24th (Thursday)

Congrats on getting on the market, QUIETSTORM! I hear you on the rental frustration. Good luck.


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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, May 24th (Thursday)

No work on the house today but social services have been up here all morning and they've now left with all my daughters belongings, clothes, toys, photos, life story book from her birth parents, so she's all gone now.

I'm left with my card and 'daddy's little girl' statue from last fathers day.

I was doing ok till the last 2 boxes then I lost it with tears. It's done now though. Another hurdle cleared and the house a little emptier.


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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, May 24th (Thursday)

(((((forever)))))


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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, May 24th (Thursday)

Oh gosh foreverempty, that had to have been hard.

persevere, I am uber jealous of you!!! That is fantastic yours sold so quickly and for such a GREAT deal!

IWS - Are you listed again? Is the market better in the spring/summer where you are? Fingers crossed for you!

Listing goes active again this Saturday. I made the realtor rewrite it because she was oversellling it, IMO. I also had to ask her to add in some pics because I want no surprises for the lookers, you know? 30 showings last go around and not one single offer. I am now competing with 5 other listings in the neighborhood and I am priced right in the middle.

I work full time so trying to spiffy up in a couple of hours each night is not working too well. Tonight I cleaned some more windows inside and out, dusted the entire upstairs, blew leaves off of the deck, rolled up the hose. Painted baseboards here and there last night.

Little things that NO one will notice...but surely they would if they hadn't been done.

Still need to clean the kitchen, put away all of the toys, clean the laundry out, clean 4 bathrooms and mop all of the hardwood floors.

One thing positive about moving...I will be much happier cleaning something much smaller!

Cross your fingers and toes. I am hoping the new granite, polished floor and fully leafed out/mature tree private backyard makes someone say YES, I'll take it!!

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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, May 24th (Thursday)

Thanks for the hugs ladies. It was a tough day indeed, the social workers were both very good with me, we've grown very close, one has worked with us for 2 years now on the assessments and placements and DDs SW has worked with us for the past 12 months. Both said none of this was my fault and that they admire and respect me for speaking the truth and putting DDs future and safety above my desire to reconcile with WW. They know how hard it was for me.....

IWS good luck with the house this time around!

When mum and dad came around my house this morning they said it was cleaner than they've ever seen it... I did that!

I'm happy being house proud again, even in the middle of the construction works


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Default  Posted: 12:52 AM, May 25th (Friday)

Little things that NO one will notice...but surely they would if they hadn't been done.

IWS - I completely agree with this. My strategy has been to minimize anything negative that could be noticed, and I think it's worked.

I thought about this even more as I've been looking at properties where that effort was not made. It's just human nature to notice the negatives first. That doesn't mean update EVERYTHING, but selectively pick what's easier and less expensive to update. I focused on the outdated brass features, such as some of the ceiling fans. I replaced the brass ones with nicer looking brushed nickel versions, but left the all white ones. I updated all of the brass door handles with brushed nickel. Other than that, paint, clean and caulk....caulk really has become my new best friend.

My other positive idea was renting a storage unit to minimize and declutter - it helped a LOT. I saw a great house that would have benefitted majorly from that. Though they also chose to leave the AC OFF during the showing so it was 88 degrees in the house! I turned my AC down to 71/72 during the showing period. The less negative distraction the better. Keep the focus on the positive features of the house.

Good luck to all! Inspector will be here at 9 am - hoping for no surprises!!!


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Default  Posted: 1:57 AM, May 25th (Friday)

Persevere those are some really good suggestions, especially the declutering by getting storage. I'd have never thought about the air-con thing as we generally don't have any over here but the littlest of things can make such a difference.

It's so hard especially when you have to live in a house with children.

Can you guys ask your realtors(?) for advice on presentation prior to them taking photos and listing the house?

Over here there can be massive differences between estate agents. Some just turn up, take photos and put an advert in their window and internet. Others will give out advice on improving saleability and presentation prior to marketing.


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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, May 25th (Friday)

Hope the inspection went well, persevere!

Forever - I think there are differences between agents here, too, but most are very much marketing oriented. I live in a small college town - around 70,000 people - and there are more than 400 registered real estate agents here. It's HIGHLY competitive.

My agent walked through the house with me on first meeting, measuring rooms, asking questions, and making suggestions about where to concentrate my efforts.

She checked in with me weekly to offer help, ask how things were progressing, etc.

When she came to take pictures, we finally signed the listing agreement. In other words, all that help came BEFORE she was my agent of record.

ps: Despite the holiday weekend slowdown, my first showing has been booked for tomorrow.

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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, May 26th (Saturday)

Price was reduced 10 k on Thursday and I have a showing today!


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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, May 26th (Saturday)

Yea, Nutmeg! Fingers crossed for you today.


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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, May 26th (Saturday)

Ok - first two showings down. Another one tomorrow.

I'm not expecting anything out of this weekend's showings except, hopefully, some feedback about anything I need to address/change.

Hope you are all off having a wonderful weekend!


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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, May 27th (Sunday)

House went back on the market yesterday. ZERO showings this holiday weekend.

I had 30 showings in 90 days over the winter so I am praying it's travel time for people right now.


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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, May 27th (Sunday)

IWS I'm sure you'll get an offer soon....!!

NIK, did you get any feedback from the viewings or will that come tomorrow. It'd be great to get a quick offer and I've got my fingers crossed for you.

It looks ace in the photos!

No work on my house this weekend, spent saturday at a car show with new girl and Sunday gardening at my rental house.

Don't think I'll get much chance to do anything over the next few weeks which is a shame but I've got some work as of end of this week.


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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, May 27th (Sunday)

IWS - The realtor told me the holiday weekend would be VERY quiet, so don't get worried yet, ok?

Forever - it will be Tuesday before I get any feedback, as tomorrow is a federal holiday - Memorial Day.

My DD and I went to an open house today on a tiny little bungalow - 700 odd sq feet - that we were not at all interested in. We went because it has been flipped by a local company, and I wanted to meet the head of the company who was staffing the open house.

They are currently working on a different house that I am very interested in - a 1400 sq ft home that is ideally located and is right up our alley space and layout-wise. This company also does contract sales from time to time for folks (like me) who can't obtain a regular mortgage.

Anyway, goal accomplished, contact made, and interest in the other house established. And DD and I got to see a very well-thought out renovation on a tiny home. What more could you ask for?


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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, May 27th (Sunday)

Showing on Satureday was a bust, they wrote an offer on another house. I did have another showing today though. Still waiting to hear the feedback.


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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, May 27th (Sunday)

Rats, nutmeg. Fingers crossed for you on today's showing!


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Default  Posted: 4:02 AM, May 28th (Monday)

Yup fingers crossed here for you too


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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, May 28th (Monday)

Well today was mostly about my other place. Got 2 rooms scrubbed out sparkly clean and ready to rent out, they were so dirty, I have no idea how people live like that. Got 1 wall to fill and paint and that's it licked for now!

Mums been up my house this evening and helped me empty the loft ready for the new insulation to be fitted in a couple weeks time. It's created a whole room of boxes of crap that now needs packing and it's all stoking dirty and covered in black mortar dust! I'm stinking!

Mum the cleared out and sorted another cupboard in the kitchen as I found a reminder of my skanky stbxWW..... The drain outside the kitchen was overflowing. Now we're on a septic tank system and despite constant remixers not to put unsuitable waste down the toilet it seems that she ignored that once again and I've just spent an hour clearing out the blocked drains under the garage which was blocked with lady products and god knows how many months of accumilated solids...... Thanks whorefaced skankalot....!! What a pleasant way to end a sunny day in wales!!!

All done now and all as clean as a whistle and I'm now sat in the garden drinking a bottle of Magners cider having washed the last of her crap away........ Quite liberating in a extremely disturbing way


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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, May 28th (Monday)

Thanks for the kickstart on my diet, forever.


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Default  Posted: 2:02 AM, May 29th (Tuesday)

LOL

Not a problem NIK glad I could be of service


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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, May 29th (Tuesday)

Sigh.

The feedback from yesterday's showing was fantastic. She LOVED the house. Loved it. Said she would make an offer in a second...but...she and her husband had just refinanced on 27 acres in the western part of the state, and their property did not appraise for what they owe, and oh by the way her husband had just asked for a divorce.

She said she would try to get her stuff together adn come up with financing but I'm not hopeful.

On another note, she is also a broker and said she thought the house was priced well, in good condition, and showed well. That was the complete opposite of what the people on Saturday said, so I'm choosing to ignore their opinion.

And, I finally swallowed what little pride I have left and asked my dad if he would co-sign a loan with me. This would enable me to buy another house before this one sells. Then when this one does I will refinance and take him off of the loan. I NEED to get my girls settled in the new town before school starts, so this move needs to be done by August. He is thinking about it.

I'm drained.


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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, May 29th (Tuesday)

((((nutmeg)))) This is draining. I, too, would trust the broker's opinion over the Saturday looky-loos. So that's good news.

I'll keep my fingers crossed both for your potential buyer's financing and your father's considerations. Hope all the pieces pull together quickly for you.

I left a message this morning for my agent to get feedback from this weekend's showings. Very anxious to hear if there are things I need to work on before the open house this Saturday.


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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, May 29th (Tuesday)

Nutmeg I agree with NIK

Take the feed back from the second viewing unless there was anything glaringly obvious you could identify from the previous viewing.

NIK. I'm anxiously awaiting your feedback as I personally love your place and recon it'll sell pronto!

I've just found out I'm going to be away working for 3 months as of this Saturday. Will be back for a few weekends at most. That not only puts a stop on the work on my house but also leaves it vulnerable to break-ins even with the new alarm it'll be difficult to relax.....


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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, May 29th (Tuesday)

Forever - the realtor did call me back. She went down with the flu over the weekend and is still flat out in bed. Her agency partner is going to track down feedback tomorrow and get back to me.

Thanks for the compliments on the house. I'm pretty proud of it and of course I think everyone should absolutely love it since I do.

Three months is a long time to be away. Can you notify the police that it will be vacant and ask them to do extra patrols or something?


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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, May 29th (Tuesday)

Feedback can be brutal! Or it can make your day. Hope all of you hear good stuff!


As for me...Ugh! 3 full days on the market and ZERO showings. This holiday weekend killed me! I love that the house was empty all weekend and I left all of the blinds open and the a/c upstairs and down cranked to a chilly temp due to the 90ish weather outside. All for nothing except a $$ power bill!


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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, May 29th (Tuesday)

IWS didn't I read earlier that the holiday weekend was not great for viewing over there!

You'll get there I'm sure.

NIK, my house is quite literally in the middle of nowhere, drive by's are not an easy task.

Even if they did it'd be too easy for someone to keep lookout and there are loads of escape routes.

I have to trust in the alarm and hope that it scared them off enough last time.

I also need to reset the autodial numbers so it calls me first, then my dads mobile, then direct to the police if no one answers. Not sure I should put the police first incase of a false alarm like of the family go up to check on the place.


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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, May 29th (Tuesday)

IWS - my agent was shocked that we even got 1 showing over the holiday weekend. She also said that this week tends to be a light one, as many schools get out before Memorial Day and families take vacations. Trying to be patient. Trying really REALLY hard to be patient. Here's my patient face -


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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

Ok - finally got the feedback on my three showings.

Showing #1: They hated the layout. They need a finished basement, mine is not.

Showing #2: They thought the house was nice. Their realtor couldn't understand why they even wanted to look at it, since they need a ranch, not a 2-story. The realtor thinks they were hoping the first floor bedroom could be used as a master, but it's only 8x10.

Showing #3: My house is "everything they want in a house." They need to make a decision quickly and they like mine, but they are going to look at more houses tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

So, nothing for me to fix before the open house, as I can't really change a floor plan or finish a basement in two days.


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Default  Posted: 2:08 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

Fingers crossed for showing 3 NIK!

Those first 2 viewings sound like they were a bit of a joke!

My new heating oil tank has been delivered this morning ready for the new boiler installation next Wednesday! Hot water at last! Yay....!!


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Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

Wow, NIK, that would be amazing if you get an offer from showing #3!
IWS - my agent was shocked that we even got 1 showing over the holiday weekend. She also said that this week tends to be a light one, as many schools get out before Memorial Day and families take vacations. Trying to be patient. Trying really REALLY hard to be patient. Here's my patient face -

My patient face looks more like this

5 days now, zero showings. I wish my realtor had warned me about this notoriously light week! Not having school aged children made me forget vacations were most likely happening right around now.


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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

IWS - I haven't had a single showing since Sunday. Definitely a slow week. Do you have an open house planned?


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Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, June 1st (Friday)

Do you have an open house planned?

After 6 days of nothing, I texted my realtor who said she was just thinking about an open house.

She wanted Sat next wknd, but I said Sunday. She didn't really like that, but I need my kitchen on Sat!

Last open house we had over the winter brought 7 buyers/lookers. A few from the neighborhood just being curious. Ugh!

Hoping for good news. I am getting stressed about carrying this mortgage. If he doesn't pay something to pay me back for May, I don't have the money for June. Scary!!


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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, June 1st (Friday)

That is scary, IWS. Fingers crossed for you.

We have a showing tomorrow morning, an open house tomorrow afternoon, and another showing on Sunday.

I have to keep reminding myself that I've only been on the market for a week.

Persevere - how did that inspection go?

Forever - you've been living in your house without hot water?!?!?!


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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, June 1st (Friday)

Had a showing at noon today, just read the feedback. Everything looked good, but the backyard won't work for them. Too many trees for the pool they want to put in. Uh....this neighborhood is known for it's mature trees and there is an Olympic sized pool one street over in the neighborhood.

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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, June 1st (Friday)

Everything looked good
Focus there. This is a big improvement from the feedback you got before all your updates, right? Sounds like you've done good!


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Default  Posted: 4:00 AM, June 2nd (Saturday)

IWS that's pretty good feedback although a bit dissapointing about the pool think....

Oh and yes NIK, no heating or hot water..... When I moved back in just over a month ago it was 11degC inside the house in the day. I had to open the windows to get some warm air in!

New boiler will sort that and it means I can finish the bathroom! Yay!

Good luck with your weekend showings and the open house


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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

I GOT AN OFFER!!!

A couple from my neighborhood came to the open house today, wrote an offer, and wanted a response by 9 tonight! They offered just slightly under asking, which was better than I had expected.

I'm countering on some minor stuff around their one contingency (sale of their current home), but I don't expect it to be an issue.

Closing date in early August, which gives me plenty of time to find the next place.

SO EXCITED!!!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

YAY NIK!!!! I am SO very excited for you!!!

Inspection of my house went pretty well. A few things I had to fix, but we negotiated the rest by giving them my stainless fridge in the kitchen, they really wanted it, and it was a guilt gift from XWH before DDay.

In the meantime I just offered on my second house and it's been accepted, though I have a 14 day option period to keep looking. I like the house and neighborhood a lot, but ideally I'd like to be a little closer to my current neighborhood. So we'll see...


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Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, June 3rd (Sunday)

Wow NIK thats awesome!!!


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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, June 3rd (Sunday)

Counter accepted! Game. On.

Inspections within the next three weeks. Then it's a matter of finding a new place before the Aug. 10 closing date.


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Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, June 4th (Monday)

Yay NIK!!!! SO happy for you.

2nd showing is a NO. Too many things added up for them that they didn't want to tackle.

I emailed STBX a laundry list of things he keeps saying he has "friends" that will do it. Like hell. I've been asking for months.

There is a musty smell under the house so I think I'll get someone to put in a condensate pump for the a/c and see if that helps.

The huge custom front window has a broken seal so I've contacted 2 companies for quotes.

They hate the big homemade firepit STBX made. Many negative comments on that beast. Don't know how to fix that.

They also said they would have to take down trees.

ARGH! Over the winter comments were an apartment building was too close. Now that the trees are obscuring the view, we've had back to back comments about too many trees!

I am so, so discouraged. Cried myself to sleep. Feel like my child is ignored and nothing is going my way yet. I know it will get better, but I am cracking.

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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, June 4th (Monday)

((((iws)))) It can be so discouraging.

FWIW - I wouldn't do JACK about the trees. The window seal? Yes. The musty smell? Probably.

How is the market going where you live? How confident are you that the house is priced right?


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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, June 4th (Monday)

(((Hugs))) It's going to be okay iws.

I agree with NIK, and focus on what you can change, including improving the positive points of the house. Is it freshly painted, cleared of any unneeded furniture, etc so it looks as big as possible room by room, etc.

Sending you mojo for an offer soon!


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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, June 4th (Monday)

IWS - I would love to take a peek at your listing, if you were comfortable that. If so, PM me your link. If not, no worries.


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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, June 6th (Wednesday)

How you doing IWS?

You were very down last time you posted.

I've been away the last 5 days but been lazy today.

Having my new boiler fitted today and tomorrow, hot water and heating for the first time this year...! Yay! And a lot less mess and more room in the garage now the bulky old boiler and cylinder are gone.... Got a massive hole in the side of the house where the previous owner hashed in the old boiler. Surprised the house hasn't fallen down....!

Home for a week or so now, need to get my working on the house mojo back again.

More garage clearing I think, then I can move the baby furniture in there out of the house. It's one of the last things that's getting to me now.

Any other news NIK & persevere on the new house searches and offers?


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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, June 6th (Wednesday)

Having my new boiler fitted today and tomorrow, hot water and heating for the first time this year...!

Hooray!!!

Waiting for inspections to be scheduled. Had a realtors' open on Tuesday morning. The feedback was largely positive, although one agent wrote that my decor was "cold and sterile." Oh. kay. Wha?

Anyway... I'm looking at a couple of homes that are being flipped by a local company with a fabulous reputation. They are willing to do contract sales, so they are my best hopes of buying a house right now. If neither of those homes works for me, I'll rent for a year. Haven't made much headway on that front, however. Waiting for one property management company to answer about the posibility of pets in their rentals since we have a cat.


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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, June 6th (Wednesday)

Good luck nik!

My situation is moving along but I feel like I'm writing checks left and right! The inspection for my new home is tomorrow morning. I'll need to pay $260 for it. I'm now in about $1000 on the repairs I'm having to do at my house due to the inspection. The most expensive is $600 on three window glass panes that have to be replaced and then there's one that has to be resealed. Oh, and I had to pay for the locally required energy audit, another $160.

Can't wait to reach closing!


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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, June 7th (Thursday)

You guys seem to have a busier and more nerve wracking time over there after youve accepted and offer than you do in the run up to trying to find a buyer.

I guess it's similar here but I've never had any real issues brought up on the places I've sold before. I recon this house will be different though as its much higher in value and very old so people will be looking caerfully.

I get you with the window thing. I've got quite a few glazing units that have failed and are misted up, I really don't know what to do for the best with them but they are VERY low on my priorities list right now!

Well I now have a fully working central cooling system and cold & cold running water........

Bloody oil lorry driver refused to come up to the house cause the lane is too narrow....!!!

No hot bath for me today! I'll be even smellier tomorrow! Just call me ForeverSmelly.....

Oh well, at least the toilet is working which is an improvement on last night and most of today.....

Think I might do an hour now and get 2 ceiling roses fitted on the landing so I don't just have wires hanging out the ceiling!

Then I'll mop the kitchen to finish cleaning up after the plumbers.


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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

Yay for you NIK! I'm so excited for you.

I just dropped the price again, and immediately got a showing request for today. Of course, today is really the one day since it's been on the market that it sin't show ready. I had a day from hell yesterday the day before, and my cleaning lady comes tomorrow, so I said fuck it, for two days it can be un-show ready.
The showing got reschedueld until tomorrow at 6.


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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

Typical!

Good luck for tomorrow Nutmegkitty


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Nutmeg - that seems to be the way of it! Good luck with tomorrow's showing.


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Some friends from away who stayed the other weekend have just called to say they are coming down next weekend with a couple of other friends of ours to have a fix the house up party.

He's an electrician so he's going to bring his tools, although the electrics are pretty much done already, and the others are going to bring pains and brushes and filler to get all the woodwork filled, primed and glossed....

I'm all excited if I'm honest.

There's the possibility of a whole lot of work being done between us all and also a good bit of partying and burning of all the left over junk that's here....

Got some stuff to fix before they get here so I'm going to be a busy boy this week......!


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Gad damn it..... Still no hot water.

There's a leak on the new oil supply pipe they've fitted so I've got to wait for the plumbers to come back either later this afternoon or tomorrow morning.... Bugger!

It's no good though, I'm going to have to have a wash today so it's off to my parents house later by the looks of things as I'm off out tonight with Lady Friend for her birthday. I can't go this stinky!

Got the rest of the crap out the loft, cleared it of old unused wiring and now the water tank is out as well so all I've got to do now is fit a couple ceiling fans in the bathroom tomorrow and it's all ready for the insulation to be fitted Monday!

Oh, dads been up helping today and we've got all the outside lights working, the new one out the side and the old ones on the sensors on the drive....

Tick, tick, tick....... Getting through the list, keep finding things I've missed off though! D'oh!


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Wow. You are making great progress, forever! Have fun tonight.


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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, June 8th (Friday)

So excited about your friends and the fixup party foreverempty! My friends were immeasurably helpful in working on my house for market.

Best of luck with the showing nutmeg!

The inspection of my new house yesterday went well - some small fixes they'll need to make but nothing too crazy. Looked at another house nearby that just came on the market. It had a much nicer yard, deck and living area flooring, but I like the floor plan of the one I already have the offer on better so I'm sticking with it.

I can't wait for close to get here so I have a little cash again! Lol.


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I'm currently sweating it out.......

In my bath!

Can't believe it...... I'm not shivering cold, I'm laying here, all relaxed in nice hot water!!!!

It's just gone 2pm and I know this is very lazy of me but it's been such a long time coming.

Oh and the bath waste was leaking so I've just replaced it with a new assembly and the having a bath thing now is purely me testing out the water tightness..... Obviously....!

When I get out of the bath in a minute I am going to wander into my tropically hot bedroom and lay on my bed next to my radiator.... Not too close mind, I don't want to burn myself on it!

This such a great feeling and a bit of a milestone I think. If I've cured the leak, I can finish the bathroom and then I can rent out a room to help with the bills......! Yay me....!!!!!

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Hallelujah for hot water and heat Foreverempty (not foreverstinky, lol!)

I had a showing yesterday, no feedback yet.

Open house scheduled tomorrow from 1-3pm. I am so jaded that I am not getting my hopes up at all.

We dropped the price $10,000! Painted the exterior of the workshop, removed some "illegal" wiring done by STBX, I put down 5 bags of mulch and 4 bales of pinestraw, pulled weeds, added flowers to the hanging baskets on the deck, raked up the back yard a little (no grass there.)

Not sure what else to do at this point. I can't fix the eyesores that he built around here. Just need someone to fall in love with everything else.........


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So, there was a showing Friday, Saturday, and then THREE yesterday. One family from yesterday is coming back tonight for a second showing.Fingers crossed!

There is a house on my sister's street that is for sale. My sis talked to the owners and they said they aren't in a hurry and wouldnt have a problem accepting a contingent offer. I put in an offer the first day it came on the market and it was rejected. Then it went UAG. That deal fell apart so I put in another, full price offer. Someone else beat me to it and it went UAG again. Yesterday morning I saw it was back on the market so I put in another full price, albeit, contingent offer. It was rejected due to being contingent. I think their agent is advising them. Or else someone somewhere is trying to send me a message that that is not the house for me


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Oh nutmeg, I really hope you have a contract on the sale of your house soon! It's sounding more promising!

I'm ponying up over $1K in repairs so far, plus they're keeping my fridge in lieu of several other repairs. (Nothing major, but I have to replace four window panes, one is custom sized, so that's $600 right there).

My option period on my new house ends Friday so I told my realtor that we need to make back some $$ there by expecting all of the little things to be fixed.

And, it's about time to start packing....I can't wait until it's August, and all of this is already done!


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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, June 12th (Tuesday)

IWS - how did your open house go?

nutmeg - I wouldn't give up on that house so quickly. There's a reason it keeps coming back on the market...

Just fielded a call from my realtor. They've been asked by another realtor to do an open house this weekend (on Father's Day!?!) even though we have an accepted contingent offer. I agreed to it, as I don't have anything to lose by doing so.

I feel like after months of hurry up and get it listed, I'm just sitting and twiddling my thumbs. I suppose I could pack some more, but I just haven't felt like it, as I've got two months until closing and I've already cleared out all the storage areas and closets.


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Went to look at a house tonight that is about to go on the market. It is one that was remodeled by the flipping company I mentioned before.

It's an older house - built in the early 1900's. Charming period details fused with updates and modern conveniences. Beautifully done. Well thought out. Perfectly to my taste and wrong for me in every single way.

My heart was singing as I walked through the house, while my head was screaming NO NO NO!

It went something like this...

Wow! What a beautiful yard! So big and peaceful!
How the hell are you planning to keep up with a half acre? And you really wanna shovel that 75 foot driveway every time it snows?

The vaulted ceilings in the upstairs bedrooms are gorgeous!
Are you even paying attention? It's 80 degrees up here WITH the AC running! Your electric bills will kill you!

That office could be a bedroom for the boy until he figures out his life.
You're going to put an 18 yo boy between the dining room and kitchen? Yeah. That'll go over well...

So, that house is off the list. Stupid brain. Sigh.

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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, June 14th (Thursday)

Oh nik, your post made me laugh. I looked at another house the other day - beautiful floors, gorgeous yard, roses, magnolia tree, gardenia bushes, beautiful grass - and all I could think was "I will kill all this within a year". I'm much happier starting with my new small yard that is a mess.


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"I will kill all this within a year".


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The owner of that house called my sister and asked her to ask me to call her. She likes the idea of the house going to a family, especially one with neighbors already on the street. I hope to be able to get in to see it tomorrow as I will be in the area.

The last deal fell apart due to home inspection issues.

I think we are going to have to come down another 5 to 10k in price, which is fine with me, I just want the damn thing gone.


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Ooh, Nutmeg. I will keep fingers crossed for the house in your sister's neighborhood.


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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, June 15th (Friday)

Fingers crossed for you too....!

And NIK that house sounded awesome... Lucky you have a sensible head to keep your heart in check!

I've finally got the shower leak free and fitted along with the riser.

My massive customs bathroom mirror hasnt turned up, apparently according to the couriers they've 'lost it'

Its a 2m x 1m mirror in a massive box.....! How the hell could they have lost it? Gutted because it really would have got the bathroom looking awesome this weekend and would have meant my visitors/helpers could have stood up to take a shower!

Another day of clearing out too and also weighed in my old hot water tank and some old pipe and got £85 for it all!

That made me happy! Oh and the £20 fitting I had to buy to get the shower fitted properly I don't need now so I can take that back for a refund!

That's going to buy me a fair few finishing off bits and bobs!

Got to go to sleep now as my mate, his girlfriend and another friend of hers is coming over early tomorrow!


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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, June 15th (Friday)

You are all an inspiration!

I have no idea if I'll try to sell in the near future (I looked at a house today I would LOVE to buy, but it would be wildly impractical right now), but I know someday I will and in the meantime I'm working on doing repairs that are needed anyway.

Today I replaced the filter in the heater/AC. Okay, that's like a .005 the 0 to 10 difficulty scale, but at least it's done and it's the right size this time!

But I've just finished watching some videos on replacing the flush valve in my toilet. Tools and new flush valve are lined up and I'm about to take the plunge. Not literally if I manage to turn the water off correctly. Let's hope I do.


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Go, capri!


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Thank you, Empress NIK! Even better, I finished the job, it's all together and working just like it ought to!

For anyone who hasn't discovered it yet, youtube has videos on home repair projects. I watched a couple, and the whole job went perfectly smoothly!


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Nice one! And no leaks, that's awesome!

YouTube is always my first port of call if I'm not sure how to do anything.

The guy and girls are 2 hours away!

Got to go do some last minute bits and bobs shopping.

By the end of the day this place is going to stink of gloss!

God only knows how we're going to be able to sleep in all those fumes!!

Shame it's bucketing down with rain, REALLY need a fire to get rid of all this junk!


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WTG Capri!

Forever - Hope you and your mates are shredding that To Do list! Looking forward to reading your update on how much progress you were able to make (not to mention how much fun you had ).


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Thank you.

Looks like my next job is to figure out why my refrigerator is producing excess moisture. Any ideas?


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Inside or out?


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Inside. I keep finding dampness along the inside walls and in the fruit and vegetable and meat drawers.


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Capri - check your door seal. You may have air getting in somewhere. Hope that helps.


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Thank you! I left DS15 the job of researching what it might be, while I'm at work. I'll send him a message. Forgive a possibly stupid question, but how do I check it? What am I looking for to see if there's a leak?


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Cracking weekend. So much stuff done its unbelievable

Will update with what we completed but I'm having an early night now and am all dreamy following my extremely good night last night


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IWS - how did your open house go?

A bust: 2 neighbors, 2 looky loos not interested in buying and one agent whose buyer liked it, but might bring his wife back at the end of the month.

Last 3 feedbacks: too many trees and brace yourself...too many points of entry. This huge house has 6 doors. Guess security systems and dogs aren't enough.


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Seriously? Too many points of entry? What a crock, IWS. Are you still considering changing agents?

Forever - we're still waiting for your update. Whenever you come back down to Earth.

Inspection is scheduled for Wednesday. Fingers crossed for nothing expensive to crop up.


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So...

Things we did on the weekend included.......

Primed and glossed all the upstairs skirting boards
Glossed 3 of the 4 doors upstairs.
Fitted all the door stops to the new door frames.
Door frames primed and glossed
Fitted architrave around loft hatch
Fitted last pieces of coving in the kitchen
Finished off all te electrics in the kitchen
Connected up the electric element in the towel rail in the bathroom
Fitted the shower valve properly
Fitted shower riser and head
Fitted architraving and door stops to downstairs door frames
Paint stripped and filled downstairs door frames
Took down axed through door in kitchen
Fitted last of the ceiling roses upstairs
Sanded and re-glossed upstairs banisters
Burnt axed through door, wedding table planner and other crap on a massive fire
Drank bucket loads, had some good pizza
Snogged the face off lush Irish girl
Got number off lush Irish girl
And I think there's another thread here that covers the rest of that subject

There was probably more stuff that I missed but I'm a bit googlie in the head right now for some reason


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HOLY CRAP foreverempty! that is a kick ass list of accomplishments!!!


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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, June 20th (Wednesday)

Incredible list foreverempty!!! And I was so happy to hear about the snogging...


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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, June 20th (Wednesday)

Thanks

It was a very busy weekend!

With the most unexpected of outcomes


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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, June 20th (Wednesday)

Dang, forever! Best. Weekend. Yet.


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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, June 22nd (Friday)

Can't. Stop. Smiling!

Just got a message from my realtor. The inspection was Wednesday. And the buyers have only asked for one thing - to fix a loose piece of siding on the back of the house.

That's IT. I was certain they would ask for allowances for the counters and carpets, which are showing age, and maybe even for the wood floors to be refinished.

But no! Just a loose piece of siding.

AND even more good news - there is a rental house just outside of town, good sized, recently updated, and right in my budget. For months it has sat empty because the owner refused to accept pets. Just this week, they changed their minds and said they would consider pets with a letter of reference from someone who is familiar with the animal and it's behavior.

So I have a showing tomorrow to see if it will work for us. If it does, I'm jumping on it.


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Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, June 25th (Monday)

Wow NIK that's awesome news on both counts.... Let's hope the good luck continues for you!


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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, June 25th (Monday)

Great news NIK!

Still no offers. Feedback has been positive overall. I think the price needs to be dropped about 10k and then it will go.


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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, June 25th (Monday)

Great news NIK!

Still no offers. Feedback has been positive overall. I think the price needs to be dropped about 10k and then it will go.


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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, June 25th (Monday)

Yay nik!!! I'm jealous about the inspection! I've shelled out around $1K plus I'm giving them my stainless fridge in exchange for items on the inspection - and still one item to fix.

Close on the sale of my home is 7/5 - close on the purchase of my new home is 7/16.

Gosh, I need to get packing!

Good sale mojo coming your way nutmeg!!! ((Hugs))


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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, June 25th (Monday)

The rental home looked great, but there were 10 other families touring it the same day, so I have quite a bit of competition!

Keeping my eyes open for other places.


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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, June 27th (Wednesday)

Looks like I'll be approved for the rental house! Now just have to come up with first month's rent + security deposit by Friday. Not sure how I'm gonna pull that one off!

What's new with everyone else?
Nutmeg - are you dropping the price again?
Forever - have you stopped snogging long enough to work on the house again, or are you still out of town?
Persevere - how's the packing going? Did you get the inspection report back on your new place?
IWS - What's new? Are you still considering changing agents?


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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

Bittersweet news: I sold the house today!!!

Invested $$ in gorgeous flower arrangements, baked bread this morning, set the tables (both formal and informal)and trimmed the hedges in 99 degree heat yesterday!

Guess those were the last few items to push it over the top since I've purged, cleaned, etc until exhaustion!

I am shedding tears for the ending of this lifestyle for me. No more marriage, no more dreams in this house.

I have no idea where I am going and that is scary as hell.

Closing on Aug 17. Yikes, that's close.


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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

Price will be dropped by 13k on Wednesday, and there will be an open house next Sunday. I am really hoping this next price drop does it.

It is a little scary, though, because there are very few choices out there for me to buy right now. I just have to remain calm and have faith that there will be something appropriate out there.


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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

IWS - Congratulations. I understand the bittersweet part completely. Now that you've got a buyer, I hope you can find a new home for your new beginning.

Nutmeg - hope your price cut brings new interest in your place. And I hope something worthy comes up on the market for you soon.


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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

nutmegkitty, the price dropping really sucks. We ended up $48k lower than where we started. INSANE. Last year it was taking over a year to sell houses in this neighborhood so I am thankful we did it in under 6 months....sacrifices had to be made though.

I hope your buyer is coming very,very soon!!


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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, July 17th (Tuesday)

So, price was dropped and there was an open house on Sunday. Only two couples came. The wife of one couple just sent her feedback and she really liked the place. They have a condo to sell first.
I'll admit, I did cry a little when I found out only two couples came. I really thought that with the big price drop that there would be more interest. I got my hopes up I guess.

Just feeling defeated.

But, I'm putting on my big girl panties and trying to keep on the brave face.


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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, July 17th (Tuesday)

(((nutmeg))) Hang in there, honey. I am sending you all the buyer mojo I've got.


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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, July 23rd (Monday)

Got a request for a showing on Wednesday night...fingers crossed!


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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, July 23rd (Monday)

Good luck nutmeg!!!

I have been in closing limbo for almost three weeks. We were supposed to close on the sale of my house on 7/5, but due to IRS bureacracy for a simple transciption verification document, for the buyer, we're stuck. It's very frustrating. Hope to know today if we will close this week. Then I can close on buying my new house.

The delay is also making it hard to plan for movers, especially around the busiest moving time of the year!

But it's all going to work out and I should be in my new house within the next 5-10 days.


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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, August 28th (Tuesday)

So, the price has been dropped again. Now, it's 30k under the appraised value.
We did get an offer from the woman who saw it when it first went on, the one who had 21 acres in the western part of the state to sell first. Her offer, while full price, is contingent on her land selling.

There is a showing tonight and another one tomorrow. If we do not get any offers by end of next week the price will be dropped anther 15K, which will bring us into a new range on the search criteria.

I am feeling a tiny glimmer of hope that it will go soon.


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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, August 28th (Tuesday)

Whoa! Zombie thread - back from the dead.

Nutmeg - I'm back on the market again with you. My buyer couldn't sell their place, so the offer fell through. Rassafrassin mothertruckin jerkybutts.

The house has been sitting on contingency for 2.5 months, and now I'm back to square one.

The realtor thinks we're priced right. They're going to stage it (as it's currently empty), re-introduce it to brokers next week, and do an open-house. If we don't get a bite in a few weeks, I'll be cutting the price to try to spark interest before the fall market dries up.

Fingers crossed for you, nutmeg.


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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, January 9th (Wednesday)

Hi all

Re-awakening this old thread....

Hope everyone has now finished and sold their houses in here and moved on to pastures new!

I've finished work for a while and need to get on and finish the house but need some significant motivation.

It's not been touched since the big push last year as I've been away so much trying to dig my way out of debt.

Picked up a second hand bed today for the master bedroom as I can't stand to move back in there on the bed that's there still, I've moved that one into the spare room (DD's old room) for now along with all the furniture so the master bedroom is a clean slate.

Got my grandparents old carpet for now to put down in there to cover the floorboards for now until all the building work is finished in the main bathroom and ensuite at which time ill have all new matching carpets on the hall, landing and stairs fitted.

That will signal the end of the work inside the house hopefully! Then on to the outside and landscaping!!!!

I've been home a week having escaped from the locality for Christmas and new year as I couldn't face it anywhere near here, my family took that a bit hard but understood.

Problem now is after 6 months of not living in the house as I've been in B&Bs with work and at my parents at the weekends, I just don't want to go back there anymore. That makes motivating me to get it finished really hard!!!!

Oh well, going to try and suck it up tomorrow and spend the day up there with dad fitting the carpet, refitting the TV in the lounge and my new one for the bedroom and making the new (old) bed ready to sleep there in the evening possible, unless I chicken out once again!!!


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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, January 9th (Wednesday)

I didn't look at all of the nine pages of this thread but I too have a house for sale.

It is because I finally have discharged my daughter and son-in-law to live on their own for once. I paid a hefty price to get them out, but I think it will be worth it in the long run, with them finally being able to sink or swim and me being able to sell the house and help pay down the debt on my STBXWW's house....

My problem is this house is 250 miles away from where I live. And it's in bad shape. It is not going to be pleasant getting it sold, but why not give it a try???


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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, January 10th (Thursday)

Good timing to revive this thread! The painter is coming today to paint dd15's purple bedroom a nice neutral color. I am trying to pack or throw out 24 years worth of stuff. Overwhelmed and I am a real estate agent!


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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, January 10th (Thursday)

Double zombie thread!

Glad to see you back again, forever. And it sounds like you are very close to closing the chapter on that house. Cheering you on from the sidelines!

pointmagnet - sending you house mojo.

rising - It is overwhelming. The great part is, once you pick up momentum, you'll just keep rolling.

I'm back on the market (my listing expired in November), and there's a couple wanting to make an offer, but their agent is advising them to wait until they can get their house on the market around the beginning of February. At the same time, the mortagage company has started the foreclosure clock, so things are down to the wire.

If I get an offer, the foreclosure stuff goes on hold. It's all a matter of timing at this point, and it's utterly out of my control. Still showing the house, still actively marketing it, but otherwise? I'm on the sidelines with my popcorn, just waiting for the ending and not knowing which way it will turn out.

Fingers crossed.


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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, January 10th (Thursday)

NIK, do they know you're looking at foreclosure? Will that mean lowball offers?


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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, January 10th (Thursday)

The buyers? No - they have no idea. But frankly, I'd welcome a low ball offer at this point. I haven't even seen one of those yet.


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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, January 10th (Thursday)

Bloody hell NIK!

And to think you were so quick in getting an offer before and was so close to completing. Your house is amazing!!! I'd love to live there.....!

I keep wandering with what to do with mine... I need to sell it, I want to sell it, but I also don't want to sell it and may not need to sell it.....

Does that make any sense at all???

The more it gets finished the more I love it, but then it has all the painful memories, but I'll also not be able to get a mortgage on anything similar any time soon, but do I really want to be commited to £2000 per month just for mortgage and basic bills? But if I get the job I may be offered in the next 2-3 months then I'll be able to afford it on my own, only just though, but then I'm still looking for contract work away from home and it can't sit empty.....

Around and around it goes! LOL

For now I just need to get it finished, although I'm worried now that with all the work put in to finish it ExSkankWhore STBXWW will try and take some of the little proffit it may achieve. So far I've spent little money but put in a lot of hours....... And I can't claim back hours apparently against the divorce finances.

Solicitor says I've nothing to worry about but I really don't know if I trust my solicitor or if indeed he is any good, I'm getting mixed vibes from him....

Its great new guys are joining the thread. I need to see it through to completion this time though!

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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, January 11th (Friday)

Well, a days work done...

Dad fitted the new door and frame to the master en-suite so you don't have to look into the bare stone walled room that is awaiting plaster boarding.

I finished laying the carpet, pulled through the cables for my new wall mounted LED TV and mounted the TV, pulled trough the satellite cables through the back wall of the house and under the floor the the AV rack location so they no longer trail around the outside walls of the house.

Also put together the new (second hand) bed, got it squeaks...!!!

Think it'll get moved to the spare room when I've got a few more ££ spare.

Tomorrow ill be building the old wardrobes from the spare room into the master bed. They'll stay until the house is finished upstairs and the new carpet is bought and fitted, then ill get some new stuff. Ill also be fitting the TV back on the wall in the living room.

It's starting to look really nice there again :)


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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, January 22nd (Tuesday)

I started this rassafrassin thread 9 flipping months ago, and I still have this house on my hands. ARRRGH!!!

We're doing an open house this weekend. Fingers crossed. And toes. And, at this point, eyes crossed as well.


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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, January 22nd (Tuesday)

Oh nik, BIG positive house selling mojo coming your way my friend!


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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, February 4th (Monday)

Any news on the open house? Any sniffs at all?

I really can't believe your struggling to sell, your photos of your place looked amazing!

Been slow here, was hoping to get the house listed for sale this month but doesn't look like its going to happen.

In the last 2 months all I've done is fit some battening for a curtain rail and some skirting board.

I had plans on completely re landscaping the outside, repairing the messy looking render outside and completely finishing inside.....

I've effectively done next to nothing to achieve this end state.

I keep shifting between wanting to stay when the house is done and wanting to sell so I can move on.

Staying is committing to £2000 a month in basic bills without any real life living costs taken into account, and at present I have no firm work on whatsoever so no real income at all.

Selling would release me from my financial ties and give me a massive breathing space.

But I'm starting to really like it here, especially since all of ex skankywhore's stuff has gone.

Anyway, I need to keep posting here so I can see any progress I make in writing, I think it in some ways helps me to see I am making progress..

I have in the mean time spoken to the mortgage company who have now allowed me to list the house and sell with a potential negative equity outcome,the balance of which will then be transferred into a personal loan for me to manage. This loan would be on joint names but I doubt ex would pay anything as shes failed to pay anything at all since we split.

The agents who will be listing the house still believe i will be able to sell and achieve a small profit as long as I get the inside of the house completed and the outside walls painted. Knocking £15k off the advertised price for the lack of external landscaping. On the basis I was looking at spending £10,000 on the landscaping it will leave me with very little difference in the final balance.

I think that is now the direction I will head.

But I really don't want to sell.... It's becoming everything I wanted it to be as my dream home and it would mean moving back into shared housing to get me back on my feet. The shared house is also mine but i rent out rooms and it would mean living 100% bill free.

Its a no brainer I guess in reality..


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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, February 4th (Monday)

Anything happen as a result of the open house NIK?


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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, February 4th (Monday)

That open house was cancelled due to an ice storm. Held another one this past weekend. My realtor is gathering feedback (a different realtor actual manned the open house), so I'm hoping to hear back from her today.


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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, February 4th (Monday)

Ok - so there were 6 groups that came through the open house. Two were very interested, including one couple that spent an hour there and even measured rooms.

That couple is putting their house on the market, so if they do make an offer, it would likely be contingent on their sale. Been there, done that, got the financial scars to prove it.

So to recap... cautiously optimistic, but no offers yet.


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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Still keeping my fingers crossed for you.


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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Me too!

It's gotta go soon, you deserve some luck with it!


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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Thanks, guys.


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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Mine goes on the market for a short sale on Monday. I've been busting my ass on weekends and after work getting it ready to sell. I've got most of the odds and ends done (need to put down one more coat of elastomeric on the roof, do a little paining inside and out and install some hardware on a gate) and get the place cleaned out as much as possible. STBX's contributions so far have consisted of a few hours of yard work and a bunch of nasty texts.

Wish me luck. I want to get this place sold ASAP. No kids means no STBX in my life after this place is gone. Then she will really and truly be someone else's problem.


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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Fingers crossed and all kinds of mojo for you, h0peless!


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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Hoping you get a strong offer shortly nik!!!


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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Thank you!


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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, February 5th (Tuesday)

Sending you more mojo and crossing fingers.

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Good luck hopeless..!


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I went over to the house this morning to make sure the realtor had set my thermostat back to normal after the open house Saturday, and when I walked in, I found the gas fireplace was on. It had been running for FOUR STRAIGHT DAYS!!! Gah! Just what I need - a massive gas bill. Thanks, substitute realtor.

I took the opportunity to sprinkle the rest of my SI Christmas Card glitter around the outside of the house. I'm hoping that extra boost of SI magic lands me an offer soon.


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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, February 6th (Wednesday)

Lucky you thought to go check or it could have been a lot worse!

I've taken a break from painting for the afternoon whilst waiting for the skirting boards in the dining room to dry.

Currently sat on the laptop applying for a job in Australia!


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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, February 6th (Wednesday)

Currently sat on the laptop applying for a job in Australia!

Wow - that would be quite the adventure!


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Default  Posted: 3:04 AM, February 7th (Thursday)

Indeed it would NIK

Doubtful ill get it, although I emailed the GM of engineering for the company, who I knew many many years ago, albeit not particularly well. He knows who I am at the very least. He's read my email but not responded..

It's one of the biggest companies in Australia and the position is based in Canberra...

I'm excited at the thought. Looking in Canada and New Zealand as well. Although I'll probably chicken out and stay in the UK! LOL

Finally finished tidying the house ready for the estate agent to arrive. It's not finished here but he wants to come and measure up and start preparing the description so that when I am finished he can put it straight on the market as all the leg work will be done.


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Default  Posted: 5:22 AM, February 7th (Thursday)

Just signed a contract with the agent for a healthy figure which if I get asking price should result in a £25k - £30k profit...!

Realistic to know offers will be lower than this but it gives me scope to negotiate and still cover the mortgage and arrears for the payments I've not covered this year!

Lets hope any profit stays in my pocket and doesn't go to stbxWW

[This message edited by foreverempty at 5:22 AM, February 7th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 7th (Thursday)

So I've actually had two neighbors who were renting but wanting to buy in the neighborhood knock on my door and ask to look at the house today. The place is a disaster area but I let them in to look. I'm pretty confident that this is one of the nicest townhouses in the complex with all of the upgrades that STBX and I did. I have a feeling that if the price is right (the bank has to approve the short sale), the house won't be on the market for long. I put the second coat on the roof today (so glad that's over with) and I have a few odds and ends to take care of over the weekend.

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Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, February 7th (Thursday)

Fingers crossed for you!!


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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, February 8th (Friday)

Wow - finally listed! Good for you, forever.

And h0peless - wonderful that you are already getting interest! That bodes well, doesn't it?

I have a showing scheduled for tomorrow. The other interested parties are all focusing in getting their properties on market. To be expected, as my place is not a starter home, but rather a "moving up" home.

Fingers crossed for all.


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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, February 13th (Wednesday)

Well... after an ice storm cancelled my first open house, and the substitute agent who manned the second open house forgot to turn off my gas fireplace (which I discovered 5 days later ), I had two showing scheduled for last weekend. One of those potential buyers suffered what they thought might be a heart attack on route to my house. They went to the hospital instead and have apparently recovered, thankfully.

So we're scheduling another open house for this weekend. Cue the plague of locusts.


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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, February 13th (Wednesday)

Sending you super mega house selling mojo!

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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, February 18th (Monday)

My realtor gave me an update on Sunday's open house - 7 different groups came through, with two of those groups repeating from the last open house. Lots of positive feedback.

One couple was head over heels, but the house is out of their price range. I always scratch my head over that - why waste your time looking at something you clearly won't be able to buy?

Anyway, still positive, and yet still no offers. *deep sigh*


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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, February 18th (Monday)

(((Nik)))

Sending you super house selling mojo.


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, February 22nd (Friday)

Got a full price offer last night. The bank still has to accept the terms of the short sale. Cross your fingers for me!

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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, February 22nd (Friday)

Fingers crossed and mojo sent, h0peless.

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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, February 22nd (Friday)

Good luck Hopeless!

Been trying to keep busy getting my place ready for photos but not working quick enough.

Gonna try and load some photos up of what I've been up to, think this thread needs some pics! :)

[This message edited by foreverempty at 3:16 PM, February 22nd (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, February 22nd (Friday)

Fingers crossed, h0peless!
And picture-ready mojo for you, forever.


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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, February 22nd (Friday)

So here are a few pics I've been taking of work I'm doing outside.

The garage roof is a mess. The metal sheeting has surface rust and the plastic panels are age fatigued and broken...... The fence has had it and weeds/new trees have taken there toll, especially over theist year and a half where the house has stood empty.....

This is what it started like...

A better shot of the mess behind the fence

Everything cleared, the bank Levelled down to below the two block height (there's an original retaining wall below that) and the rotten roof timber removed ready for replacement.

Today I replaced the timber with the help of my dad ad we picked up new plastic panels for the roof and I ordered some paint to renovate the metal sheeting.

It won't be prefect but should look a million times better than it was before!


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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, February 22nd (Friday)

It already looks a thousand times better! You do good work, forever.


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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, February 22nd (Friday)

Thanks NIK

Some more photos of the work I've done here since I bought it...

The kitchen ripped out

Other side of kitchen where pantry wall was removed.

Floor tiles going down

Kitchen delivered

Kitchen fitted. Just some small finishing touches. Two or three days proper work at most.

New glass splash back arrived for th cooker last week

Dining room other end if the kitchen

Living room almost finished. Just new carpets and fix the skirting boards.

Cwtch (small cosy fire room) new carpet only needed

Reclaimed wood flooring I will be fitting in the hall

And a load of stuff arrived today for the master bedroom en-suite.

Wall hung toilet.

My lush new bathroom radiator with shiny mini valves.

I splashed out on a stunning shower pole.....

Just waiting for the shower screen and base to turn up next week then I'll have everything to do that one room except for tiles....

I'll do the garage roof as and when weather permits. For now it'll be indoor work as its freezing outside.

Stupid photo of me out playing in the snow a couple of weeks ago...

And last but not least.....

I got a BRAND NEW car last week on lease!!!! I got approved for finance! Who'da thought it after the financial fcuk up the past year or so has been!

Off to see Australian Pink Floyd tomorrow and helping mum and dad Sunday on their house so won't e cracking on now till Monday!

Can't wait to get the en suite finished. It's going to be amazing!

[This message edited by foreverempty at 5:10 PM, February 22nd (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, March 22nd (Friday)

Dear Home Buying People,

BUY MY FRICKING HOUSE ALREADY!!!!

I mean - come ON! It's beautiful! Spacious! Filled with light! And it's priced really well. I mean - REALLY well.

And the neighborhood? It kicks other neighborhoods ASSES! Also, I have fabulous color sense, so the wall paint will go with EVERYTHING you've got. Trust me - it's a magical adaptive neutral. I tried to find things that clash with it, and there's nothing. Got a fuschia couch? No problem. Everything periwinkle? It'll go. Skulls and crossbones? They'll pop above the fireplace.

Seriously. Help a sister out.

Please????


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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, March 22nd (Friday)

I have a feeling, NIK, that this is finally your time to sell. Things are heating up!


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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, March 22nd (Friday)

Nik - Sending you super mega house selling mojo.

House buyers - Sending you a psychic message "Buy Nik's house....now...seriously...get it in gear, people. It will bring you much happiness."



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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, March 22nd (Friday)

Nik - Sending you super mega house selling mojo.
DITTO!!!

BIG MOJO TO NIK!!! Hope it comes through asap!


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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, March 29th (Friday)

Got an offer today. A MAJOR low-ball offer. Rubbing salt in the wound is that it is from someone I work with. He knows about the D, but has no idea about my financial woes.

How bad of a low-ball? Well, with his offer, I'd be bringing a 5 digit check to closing to pay off the balance.

Ugh.

I doubt that we can come to terms, but you can't win if you don't play, so it's time to set the emotions aside and attempt to craft a counter offer that doesn't land me in bankruptcy court.


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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, March 29th (Friday)

oh NIK. Maybe he expects you to negotiate?


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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, March 29th (Friday)

I'm sure he does, but I have serious doubts that he'll be able (let alone willing) to come up enough on price to make the deal. He's already sitting on a house in another state that's still in a really down market.


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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, March 29th (Friday)

I should have added some mojo to this thread awhile ago. My mother left me her house in her will and after I let my daughter live in it for two years, it was trashed.

But I spent a week cleaning up and throwing away, and I sold the place for 2500 more than my selling price! And it only took a week to get the offer!

So good luck and good mojo to you!


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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, March 29th (Friday)

Ugh, NIK, sorry the offer was so low. Crossing my fingers that you can counter at something reasonable.


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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, March 30th (Saturday)

Isn't it amazing all the little things that need repaired to get a house ready to sell?

Things we really never noticed. The expense is rediculous. Since putting mine on the market, I've had to replace the kitchen sink at a cost of $350. 3 windows need replaced from having bb holes in them from the previous owner. The arch window seal broke and the glass guy said it would be $1008 to replace but he can't do that unil I replace the rotten wood around it. There are at least 5 rotten pieces of wood outside to be replaced and then I will have to paint.

I just want to scream. Money gets tight when it comes to things like this. BUT I know that at the end of the day, things will be ok. It will sell and another family will come in to make many happy memories.


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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, March 31st (Sunday)

I returned to SI yesterday, it was my un anniversary, would have been 28 years. I saw this thread and could not wait for yesterday to be over to come to this one.

I am still in the house we built, raised four children in, and agreed in the divorce to put it on the market last June. Well, I had a delay, as my oldest son got married in May, and then my sweet mother got very sick and died in July. I have been going back and forth to her home, 500 miles away, during her illness, death, and clearing out the house I grew up in. It has been such a process, but with the help of my siblings, we did it.

Time to turn full attention to my house. Crumbling with grief, and on the heels of my mom's death, every task felt monumental.

My best friend, Mary, who is in real estate, asked me the question that changed my world.

How do you eat an elephant? The answer saved me from going crazy. It is " ONE BITE AT A TIME"...... I applied that to every second and still do. I got my house decluttered, recarpeted, touch up paint, we are talking 12 years of living here, four kids, two dogs, two cats.

I got it on the market early this month. in 12 days we had 24 showings! I planted a St. Joseph statue and got an offer on his feast day, March 19.

I am still eating that elephant, I move out April 30. One bite at a time, one box at a time. It is very emotional at times to think of leaving this big house that I raised my family in, but then I think of the little house I was able to put a contract on, and thoughts turn to the sunporch there, and the little fenced yard for my dogs. I will be ok.

I hope that the thought of eating an elephant helps just one of you. Mary's words echo in my head daily.

Happy Easter all! New beginnings are wonderful!


How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time......

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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)

Now we're cooking.

We reached an agreeable offer with the low-ball buyer about 2 weeks ago. We'll be bringing money to closing, but nowhere near the 5 digit check I feared. My mortgage guy offered to write a personal note at 0% interest for the money needed to close. He said he would do that for me, but won't do the same for Wasband's portion of the payoff because he doesn't deserve such favors. I got a good chuckle out of that.

The only contingency on the offer is for the buyer to get financing. I know the guy (we work in similar departments at the same company) and I'm very confident that he'll have no problems there.

Inspections were yesterday. There's a reasonable list of small items to deal with, all of which we are agreeing to fix. The biggest item on the list is a broken spring on the bigger garage door.

Closing is mid-May. We have already moved everything out of the house except a large tv armoire. I'm going to offer it to the buyer. If he's not interested, I'll Craigslist it so I don't have to move it myself.

I can almost make out the light at the end of this particular tunnel.

Knock wood, people!


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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, April 11th (Thursday)

Yay NIK!!!! I'm SOOOO excited that you are so close to being done!!!! ((NIK))


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Default  Posted: 6:26 AM, April 11th (Thursday)

I have been waiting to read a post like this, NIK. Congrats!


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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, April 11th (Thursday)

huzzah NIK! More mojo for things to keep on smoothly!!


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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, April 11th (Thursday)

This thread makes me tired.

Go NIK!!!

TB, your story is amazing. St. Joseph heard you, didn't he?

I can relate to all of this, being on my fifth move in as many years...

New place is sweet, but I haven't unpacked much yet. Got an attack of the lazies ... One more Saturday of cleaning and the condo will be staged and listed. It looks fab, so fingers xxxxed.


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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, April 11th (Thursday)

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so freaking happy to read this!!!


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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, April 11th (Thursday)


About time!!

So happy for you


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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, April 12th (Friday)

About time!!
Right!?!

I started this thread almost exactly a year ago. Of course, I wasn't on the market yet at that point, but STILL!


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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Countdown to listing!
Pictures being taken on Wednesday. Garage almost cleaned out. De-cluttering done.
Exhausted beyond reason.

Please let this go smoothly. Please!

I have been in this house since 1989, brought my babies home here from the hospital, all the holidays here...

But it is time to move on. This will be the biggest last hurdle I need to accomplish

There is another life after the hell of divorce!

Wish me luck!


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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Woo hoo!!! Go, rising, go.


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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Mojo coming at you rising!

I know that bone-tired feeling all too well...

My condo gets listed today!!!

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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Nice one NIK

Hope it all goes through without a glitch!

I've not done any more on mine since the last post as I'm contemplating keeping it now if I land a job tomorrow I've been trying for.

As such I want the house to look as scabby as possible for the divorce settlement valuation!


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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

So how's it going NIK?

You said closing was hopefully mid May and now we are end of May. Hope everything is still going ok!


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Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Read the thread, foreverempty.


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Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

forever - I am officially and happily no longer a home owner. The closing went off without a hitch on the 13th.

How's your house coming along?


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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Can't find the thread but glad your finally sold!

No movement on my house. Stopped work not long after my last lot of photos.

ExWW is being a ass hole about finances refusing to even acknowledge letters from my solicitor so this week we've applied to the court to get it sorted.

I'm thinking of keeping it now and as such don't want to add any further value to it.

In the process of "acquiring" another 2/3rds acre to add to the plot effectively doubling the size of the property and adding its own private access road which up till now has only been a historical right of easement.

I'm a little excited about the thought of keeping it although do wonder if the financial pressure is something I should really be getting rid of.


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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Fingers crossed for you.


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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Crossing my fingers too and sending positive thoughts FE!!!


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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Thanks ladies. I'll keep you posted


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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

The short sale has been approved by the bank! What a relief! Looks like I'll be out of the house in a month.

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YAY!!! Congrats, h0peless!


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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Need mojo!!! Showing tomorrow,3 days after I buried Saint Joesph in the backyard. My agent tells me that it is a couple looking for privacy and a home where they can run their business.
Well... I am in the middle of 5.5 acres and there is an office with a private entrance!

Please! Buy my house!


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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Sounds like a possible great fit, rising. Good luck!

I'm just starting this process. I had my real estate agent do a walkthrough to let me know what to do. Unfortunately I have to have the hardwood floors refinished. I knew it but it still is so much money.

I also need to:
1. get a quote on carpet for upstairs
2. have a leak fixed and some sheetrock repair
3. paint a few rooms and have woodwork painted
4. get windows cleaned (closer to putting on the market)
5. have flower beds turned (closer to putting on the market)
6. clean out the rest of the closets
7. Move items to storage once I have permission to remove things from the house
8. I guess I should list get quote and refinish hardwood floors :)
9. minimise amount of things in cupboards
10. finish dressing shelves properly
11. clean gutters
12. repair gutter
13. power wash flagstone
14. repair chair rail
15. touch up paint island in kitchen


Not much, right?


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Rising - mojo mojo mojo!!!

Falling - you can do it! One bite at a time.


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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

What NIK says is true, one bite at a time.

Three years ago my weekends were consumed with this stuff.

This weekend is all mine after condo closing today.

I've sold / bought two houses and the condo (with two rental apts in between), five moves in five years.

Glad to just sit still for a bit now...

You will get there!

@ rising: moJO

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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

I've started thinning out the stuff in cabinets that belongs to me. I packed seven boxes yesterday. It's a start and actually felt fairly good.

Unfortunately, WH is balking at refinishing the floors. It would make the house sell higher and faster. Truthfully, I'm not sure it's a smart move either. I just want to get things done and move on. I know when I look at a house if the floors are bad I pretty much say no. Sigh.

So I now have about a dozen boxes ready to move to storage once I get the go ahead.

More tomorrow!

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It really helps!


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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Sending you some positive encouragement.

I know how hard it is to get this bit done!


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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

falling, how bad are the floors? Last summer I sold my 5 br house that was all wood floors except 4 of the 5 bedrooms and the kitchen, the downstairs floors looked awful to me, a few damaged spots, very dull and dingy, but it was no problem at all - 3 offers after 3 days on the market.

As long as you disclose any specific damage in the disclosure, you're covered, and sometimes what bothers you may not bother someone else.

Area rugs can be helpful as well, though again be sure to disclose anything specific, and the house inspector may have an opinion.

I was worried it would hurt that the upstairs wood floors looked great, not as much kid, dog and traffic wear and tear, but I think that actually helped because they could see what it originally looked like.

We also had a tub replaced in the downstairs master bath, which I thought looked awful and was a mess. We disclosed it, expected it to be a $$ trade issue, but it was never even mentioned. You just never know.

Plus, the market is amazing right now, so houses are going incredibly fast, but when I sold my house that was just barely getting started.


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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

We sold our 3/2 older starter home (- not a fashionable kind of home at that moment) in the middle of the real-estate crash and made a profit, even after agent's commission. I'll share the inexpensive ideas that sold our home successfully, if you also have a starter home that's older. It's all about clean, clean, clean and camouflage. I'll break it into sections so won't be overly long.

TOP IDEA - DO THIS: We also rented the storage unit - an indoor one without concern for mold or mice ruining paperwork or upholstery. Best idea for having house uncluttered.

SECOND BEST IDEA: I looked at Pottery Barn catalogs and copied the basic ideas of the looks and neutral color schemes with "pop" only in accessories. Inexpensive changes in each room. You may or may not like Pottery Barn but their "rooms" always look fresh without being stark or cold: It's buyer-safe. Remove clutter just as catalog rooms have removed it.

Kitchen:

Problems: Starter house. We weren't going to get a fortune for it from young buyers, but could profit if we did it right. Already had tan floor, but had white countertops and we needed to underplay them or to make them work somehow for a starter family to like kitchen, even if one day the buyers hoped to replace countertops. So I sort of "inspired" that idea by buying a new little granite-topped island/cart that worked as our trump card. yours might be some other touch that can imply upscale but won't cost you a fortune.

1. We had unfashionable type of wood cabinets in the kitchen. This was not going to work for picky young buyers who watch too much HGTV. We painted cabinets black. (Cost - the paint). The backside of our dishwasher panel was black, so we flipped it over. (no cost - just luck).

TIP FOR ALL : Don't jam a lot of groceries and cookware in the cabinets or in pantry. New dishtowels or bleached old ones - stain-free - are the way to go. No nasty sponges in sink area. Go pioneer for a while with a few pots, pans, coffeemaker and go light on groceries - no stocking up.

2. Changed cabinet hardware from copper to a chrome/silvery style. (Cost - under $30 for us since we found the hardware at the Habitat for Humanity resell store. A friend used spray-paint for metal to change hers for almost nothing.)

2. I purchased that small kitchen island/cart on wheels that had a top of black, tan and white granite. The granite pattern tied in the tan floor, white walls/countertops and black cabinets in kitchen. Why it worked: House lookers walked into our kitchen and saw granite as first impression - seemed new and remodeled when it wasn't. Amazing what that little island did for us. ( A little cart, really, and was $80 several years ago. Buyer wanted it, so it ultimately cost us nothing when added to buyer stipulations at the end.)

3. CHEAPER IDEA: We used leftover paint to paint the legs of a modest wooden kitchen table and to paint three inexpensive kitchen chairs black to match the black cabinets. The black legs and black chairs tied in with granite island, since it was an eat-in kitchen. We used three chairs only. Pulled round table to the wall in front of the window of eat-in kitch to make kitchen seem larger with more walking room. (Cost - zero. profit - $100. The buyers wanted the table and chairs since they matched rest of decor.)

3. Added chair cushions and a table runner in a fabric pattern to tie in the same colors of black, white and tan Walls were white, so weirdly, the room seemed more bright with the black cabinets than it did before. (Cost - kitchen chair cushions are about $12 each, runner was $15. We left them in kitchen to be nice to buyers - a gift.)

3. Over the kitchen table, we hung a wrought-iron light that had a little chrome highlights in the black iron to tie-in with cabinet hardware. (Cost - $60).

At this end-point, it looked as if we had installed a brand-new kitchen for the cost of two gallons of paint, three chair seats, table runner, one light fixture and a granite-topped cart with cost was returned at sale. A friend balked at changing anything and their home stayed on market for months and months, so they lost more by not doing small improvements than by doing the little things.

FLOORS: We had hardwood in most of house, so all was easy there. Small dark water stain was on wood at our front door, but with a runner rug on it, and since we disclosed it, this was no biggie. We chose a neutral woven grass rug to visually imply uninterrupted hardwood floor.

FRIEND'S SUCCESS: She had oak floors refinished with a mahogany/cherry darker finish to minimize the contrast with a few water-stain spots.

BEDROOMS: Get rid of the florals or bold geometrics in bed comforters or bedspreads in the master and guest rooms. Put solid spreads on the bed and use print throw pillows on bed in trendy colors for a cheap color tie-in. Please don't just throw the covers over your pillows and leave bed lumpy - I see this often in real-estate listings and it reminds me of owners having just rolled out of bed with dirty sheets. Make up the bed properly and crisply. Buyers don't want to think of a sweaty you sleeping in that bed or in "their' future room.

Same with family photos - hide 'em in that storage unit or in a suitcase. Female buyers, especially, want to feel they're buying a lifestyle for that budget level and don't want to see your husband's photo holding a beer with his ZZ Top T-shirt, or you showing off your stomach's lizard tattoo while pregnant. It's no longer YOUR home to do as you please, but is a product to sell.

Buyers understand kiddie bedspreads as long as clutter is minimal. But buyers are more shallow and lazy than you think, and will balk if walls are Barbie pink or a favorite sports team color. Get rid of Disney stickers or wallpaper borders, and get Justin Bieber posters out of there.

BATHROOMS: Make sure all plumbing works and nothing looks disgusting. Make it sparkle.

(Best grout cleaner - better than the stuff that burns your skin, and this is "green" and won't kill your lungs or skin: 7 cups water, 1/2 cup baking soda, 1/3 cup lemon juice and 1/4 cup vinegar - throw in a spray bottle and spray your floor, let it sit for two minutes or so - that part is key or it won't work - then scrub :) Make sure shower doors don't have rust or grunge in the door runners or edges, if you have those, Get a squeegeefor glass doors or mirrors.

Buy cheap, pretty decorative hand towels. Go to dollar store and buy them for two for a dollar. It's not like you're going to use them yourself- just for show to put out before a showing.

General decorating tip: You want three colors tied into a room to avoid being too washed out if no darker accents or too contrast-y if there is no middle color. Darker, middle and lighter shades. Dark can be a shade darker in accessories, background in a rug or just a lamp. Darker shade doesn't have to be black or brown.

Best if walls and floors can be neutral, and any colors are in accents and accessories buyers know they won't have to repaint or strip, like wallpaper. White walls can seem "cold institutional" in a family room, unless home is more of a beachy, New England cottage-like home. Most subdivision-like homes need the middle-tone neutral on walls, lighter trim, or will look like generic apartment rooms if stark white.

Yard - Pots of flowers. near front and back door. No weeds or overgrown shrubs. Lawn mowed more often than you want to do it.

Wash the dog - often - and dog beds too. Grandma babysat our dog during the week. That helped. We put dog in car with us and drove away to a park when lookers arrived on weekends.

Hope that helps.

[This message edited by Heavy Sigh at 1:09 PM, June 16th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Great post Heavy Sigh! I used many of the same techniques - especially declutter and clean, clean, clean....

Love the natural grout cleaner idea - I'm going to try that!


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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Persevere -

I saw the grout cleaner on PinIt and was shocked when it actually worked. I poured it on a white tile floor rather than sprayed it, left for 15 minutes to unload dishwasher, then used a sponge mop and was astonished. It's also 'green' for the environment, but i mainly cared about the clean part.

That scary, burny tile stuff had not done half as good of a job.

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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, September 16th (Tuesday)

*Bump*


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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, September 16th (Tuesday)

I've only read one page of the thread and tons of great information.
Thank you for bumping this.

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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, September 16th (Tuesday)

Anyone still in?
I will add my to do list anyway.
Technically the house doesn't go onto market for a few months. I'm interviewing realtors.

So far these things need to be done:
paint all trim that was never painted downstairs
hang pull curtain in closet to cover hot water heater
buy and install and paint baseboards for upstairs
paint all trim upstairs, and doors
have teens pack up stuff in rubbermaid?to look less cluttered
Paint upstairs bathroom ceiling, girls "forget" to turn on exhaust fan for showers and I can't force them. ( I feel resentful over this)
Outside front and back porches and deck need repainting
back porch ceiling needs repair
new lightbulbs everywhere -I'm thinking Costco, there are lots of flood lights
clean area wool rugs
rearrange teen #2 room to look roomier
paint and waterrepel paint outside block near basement that was never done
repair and patch dings in walls/drywall from moving furniture
re-tile masterbath floor, its grungy and uncleanable now
clean all inside windows
make sure no ceiling areas have "webs" or other linty funk on them
trim boxwoods outside
move horrible railroad ties
move scrap metal one of many piles of useless crap xwh POS left all over the property
install doorframe and door in basement storage room

FML


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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, September 16th (Tuesday)

You can do it, Helen!


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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, September 16th (Tuesday)

How do you eat an elephant Helen?
One bite at a time. Keep going - you can do this!!


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