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Just shouting a "Marco" and hoping to hear a "Polo" or two. Nine months on the bus and no stops planned here. Driver? Where the heck are we? You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Not sure if 3.5 months qualifies for a seat???? If so ... "polo" said with a sigh Me = BS aged 43 2 boys, 13 and 9 DDay 1/19/10 Confronted him 2/16/10 Finally Divorced 8/29/12 “We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
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Polo. Closest I got was with Steve 15 months ago. But he was wiener-withholding. He would do everything BUT that (including things that IMHO should happen MUCH later) because "intercourse changes things." Unlike those other things??? Well then, there was Harry and his phone sex before he turned crazy. He was something else. Unfortunately I was a disappointment in that area. He tended to render me speechless, which killed the mood on his side. [This message edited by marzipan at 12:12 AM, May 12th (Saturday)] me--Mean Batshit Crazy Pottymouth him-- Swampy the WH divorce DONE!!!! http://soulmateshmoopies.wordpress.com/
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sigh .... polo .... "How beautiful is it to stay silent when someone expects you to be enraged ? And how beautiful is it to laugh when someone thinks you are going to shed tears ... Posts: 18459 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: My own little hobbit shire | |||
Polo....until tomorrow....maybe??  BS(me) 45, kids DS 17, DD 13. He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks. WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
Posts: 4588 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada | |||
Polo. *sigh* Pass the snacks, please..... if I have to ride the bus, I refuse to watch calories. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
Umm Polo, think I know what you mean 
5 1/2 months, although it seems much easier being on the bus not living with a WW than it was being on it when we were together.... That was far too frustrating for words! VERY nervous about getting off it at present... In reality it's been a very long time! Me BS: 35 Her WW: 34 D Day 5th December 2011 Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook. Posts: 434 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom | |||
Months? Y'all count months? People, please. I've got years & years on the damn bus. I have my own bench on the bus with my friggin' name engraved on it. Months? Amateurs! Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom) Him = WS (abusive NPD SA) 3 elementary school-aged kids Together 20 years D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011 Separated & Divorcing Posts: 5314 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA | |||
^^^^^ LOL Me BS: 35 Her WW: 34 D Day 5th December 2011 Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook. Posts: 434 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom | |||
I hear you Nature Girl! STBX left 3/10. There wasn't anything happening for at least a year before that! It may be that I am the bus driver and this a permanent position. The benefits stink! Forgive exass? I am working on forgiving myself for staying so long! Posts: 1153 | Registered: Mar 2004 | |||
Ah - my people! Welcome aboard, newbies.  The bus may suck, but the company sure doesn't.
Where's our driver? Didn't Sad take over when gma resigned? You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Polo. Damn. I celebrate my 43rd b-day on the 24th of this month. And on the 24th of next month I celebrate the end of my 2nd (and start of my 3rd) year on the damn bus. Grrrrrrrr Oh! But hey ... I brought margarita cupcakes made with real tequila! Enjoy! BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
Polo 8 months on the bus here... Marzi, our stories have a couple of common themes...4 weeks ago I got close, but no cigar  DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
Polo I've been here so long I think I am officially a virgin again. I don't even want to think about how long or else I will cry! And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back So shake him off -- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine Posts: 16462 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :) | |||
dreamboat don't cry! 7 years...I have my own fleet! me BS 48 her WW 45 married 15 years divorced 3 wonderful but hurt kids Posts: 300 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: milwaukee | |||
Polo Officially revirginized. When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks. Rest In Peace Bo the Beagle 1996-2011 Posts: 3654 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: PA | |||
Polo 5 months...yes I am a newbie...I hope these bench seats are comfortable... M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs Divorced 1-8-13 "When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life." Posts: 886 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
Polo....until tomorrow....maybe??Quiet everyone! Devistatedmom? Is there something you wish to share with the bus? You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Quiet everyone!  
Well, we will see. But I don't want to start a mutiny on the bus. I've enjoyed my seat here for the past 2 years...there's just this gent that would like to have me join him in his truck for a while....having dinner with him tonight. BS(me) 45, kids DS 17, DD 13. He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks. WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
Posts: 4588 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada | |||
Polo here too. This damn bus is getting crowded again---- Can we drive by the Grand Canyon? I've always wanted to see it in person. The view of it on the wheelchair commercial just doesn't get it.
WHG If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate. Posts: 4570 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: Michigan | |||
Sigh...polo... Only 4 months...seems like 4 m-effin years. Settling in for a long ride...nice to see I've got such great company. Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
Polo. Still lickin' the windows at the back of the bus. I do have some Gummy Bears though if anyone wants some. They have been in my pocket so they are nice and soft. "Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live) "Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed." Me: FBBF Posts: 1392 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California | |||
Guess I am riding this bus too! Six months for me. Mentally I think I want to stay on this bus forever, my body says I can't!  Me BS WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life! Divorcing, STBXH is engaged to OW#3 The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis. - Dante Alighieri Posts: 282 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive | |||
polo...4 years  Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. Posts: 1436 | Registered: Jan 2010 | |||
OMG a few more months and it'll be 7yrs. I'm not sure how that happened. BW-48 was married 25yrs, been divorced for 5. I was married to a man with narcissistic and passive aggressive tendencies. Posts: 162 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Washington | |||
Its been...4 weeks - OMG... Years, really? I am so scared. I guess my "toy box" is going to get upgraded! ...polo? And if I have to be on this bus, I am so glad its with all of you. I love these kinds of posts. I will pass on the gummy bears, thanks. Me BS (48) Him (STBXH (48) DDay#1 07/10 DDay #2 08/10 DDay#3 09/10 02/11 He moved in for R 4/4/12 - he wants a Divorce... 4/18/12 - he moved out "...because you don't move to a small town to cheat..." ~stbxwh Posts: 157 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Left Coast | |||
Polo. It's been a long time since I checked in here - I used to go to the "just found out" but it was too raw and depressing for me. You guys who are moving on (like me) are much more fun, in spite of the pain I know we are all going through. Oh, and I guess it's been...holy sh** almost a year! D-Day Spring 2008 Divorce Final 6/7/12 Posts: 19 | Registered: Jan 2012 | |||
there's just this gent that would like to have me join him *in his truck* for a while....having dinner with him tonight. No not in his truck not for your first time off the bus ... it is very fun tho makes ya feel young again ... I will be 3yrs in Nov ... so I guess I am not the driver which is ok ... I have some road rage and ad that to lack of some good loving and I am very dangerous with a full lethal weapon ... maybe we could be the new karma bus ... how funny would that be ... get run over by a bus load of us it would be a violent funny ending ... "How beautiful is it to stay silent when someone expects you to be enraged ? And how beautiful is it to laugh when someone thinks you are going to shed tears ... Posts: 18459 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: My own little hobbit shire | |||
For those of us on this bus so long we've fossilized, will the newbies please take turns tying us oldies out on the "prow" of the bus? I think it would be fun to be a figurehead as we careen across the oceans & highways of celibacy. Just pick the bugs out of my teeth when you place me back on my bench. Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom) Him = WS (abusive NPD SA) 3 elementary school-aged kids Together 20 years D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011 Separated & Divorcing Posts: 5314 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA | |||
Its been...4 weeks - You are SO not on the bus yet. The rule used to be six months. A few people sought a 3 month waiver. But 4 weeks? come for a visit, but don't take a seat yet. And bring snacks!
[This message edited by brokenapart at 6:54 PM, May 13th (Sunday)] me- BS 2 great kids = DS18 & DD17 Divorced & living again. "Let go or get dragged" - beaner Life is Good Posts: 10642 | Registered: Sep 2005 | |||
Polo, Last time was with XWW. It still works just fine, reminded every morning with the tent pole! Moving in two Weeks! Gonna settle in, then we shall see! No hurry, but I have never been a fan of riding the bus, both in reality, and figuratively! I paid my fare, just not sure what stop to get off! Hahaha, I said get off! Me BH-46 Her WW-45 Married-20yrs Together-26yrs D-Day 4/11/10 Divorced 9/13/2010 XWW Married OM 5/23/2011 Care for yourself, Heal yourself, BELIEVE in YOURSELF! Posts: 338 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Seattle, WA | |||
Polo 6 months.....6 long, lonely months! Me: 36 WxH: 37 Together 16yrs, married 12yrs (we were 16 and 17 when we met...high school sweethearts) 2 sons Separated 6/09, Divorced 2/11 Posts: 706 | Registered: Nov 2007 | |||
Polo; it's been about 8 years for me. Since gma got off, I'm driving now. We're on the highway to hell, and I'm the bus driver... My scars are pretty deep and will remind me of my ordeal for a long time, but they have healed over and are no longer a threat to my existence. Me: FBW 58 (no longer betrayed nor a wife) D-day: 6/12/2007 D: 3/21/2011 Posts: 17365 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: East Texas | |||
Polo It has been 8 yrs for me I have to say I am glad I am not on the bus alone. I wish none of us where on here but it is nice to have company. [This message edited by lied2 at 6:08 PM, May 12th (Saturday)] The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf. The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
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For those of us on this bus so long we've fossilized, will the newbies please take turns tying us oldies out on the "prow" of the bus? I think it would be fun to be a figurehead as we careen across the oceans & highways of celibacy. Just pick the bugs out of my teeth when you place me back on my bench. I could be a snow plow!!!!!
***Cannot figure out how to make the quote in bold letters...sorry...Nature Girl! [This message edited by risingfromashes at 6:18 PM, May 12th (Saturday)] Forgive exass? I am working on forgiving myself for staying so long! Posts: 1153 | Registered: Mar 2004 | |||
Polo! Seven months-- good thing I packed my slippers, bathrobe, and a few great books, because I think it's going to be a LONG ride! BS (Me) 38 Signed off and awaiting D papers! Two DS and One DD "Let us move on / For this is short / And it will pass." --Dido, "Let Us Move On" Posts: 2525 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
I have my own seat too but iding on the hood for a while actually sounds like it would be fun. "How beautiful is it to stay silent when someone expects you to be enraged ? And how beautiful is it to laugh when someone thinks you are going to shed tears ... Posts: 18459 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: My own little hobbit shire | |||
allright... Pollo! (not misspelled. That would be po-yo. Spanish for CHICKEN... cause that is what I am.) 2.5 years and I think it is a fine ride. Climate controlled, I got the remote to the on board movies, and no one seems to care about directions or speed. I'm good. Me: 42, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;) DS 12 DS 9 S 5/2010 D 12/2012 Posts: 4048 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place | |||
Polo! Gosh, just figured it out - at 5 years 2 months. Is there a map to help with directions on how to reach a destination and that also explains what to do when you get there? Me 46 years old M 13 years, together 17 years Two girls, ages 13 and 7 WH died July 1, 2009 at age 46 from pancreatic cancer diagnosed July 2005. Affair began Nov. 2006 when cancer metastasized. Posts: 419 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Illinois | |||
We're on the highway to hell Great, now I'm singing AC/DC... Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
It's Sunday and Mother's Day. The bar is open. Who wants a mimosa or a bloody Mary? BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
I'm on. 6 months with no current signs of a bus stop. D-day 09/2004 Filed for divorce 9/2006 We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower." Posts: 12312 | Registered: Sep 2004 | From: Margaritaville | |||
It's Sunday and Mother's Day.Funny how drinking and Mother's day sound like they go together so well! I'll take a Bloody Mary with a beer chaser. Thanks SG. DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
I'll take a mimosa, SG... I've never had one but what the hell. I deserve some alcohol for raising the bunch solo. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
Better4Me - I think it is because Mother's Day makes me think of brunch ... which makes me think of drinking. LOL WB - I hear ya, girl. Wanna banana daiquiri? BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
Absolutely Polo! Though I have to say I'm rather enjoying the bus ride! "Sometimes your knight in shining armor is just an idiot in tin foil." Posts: 1074 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Middle USA | |||
Oooh - Me Me Me! I'll take a banana daquiri! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
No not in his truck not for your first time off the bus ... it is very fun tho makes ya feel young again ... LOL bb! That is SO not what I meant!! I'm much too old for that! Also, this isn't my first time off the bus. I had a fling for a few weeks after 1 year on, and now, I've been on the bus for 2 years since. Except I found my stop last night. I'm off the bus. At least, for a while. BS(me) 45, kids DS 17, DD 13. He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks. WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
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Except I found my stop last night. I'm off the bus. At least, for a while. Squee!!! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Hope there's room on this bus for me!!I'm on 1 1/2 yrs and ready for a long trip. Me BS - 57 D 6/2010 It's been a long journey but I think I'm finally arriving at my happy place:) Posts: 225 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: midwest | |||
I'm headed over to our family BBQ to get a margartita...my brother makes the best. It's a good thing we're all on the bus and not behind the wheel, with all this drinking going on! D-Day Spring 2008 Divorce Final 6/7/12 Posts: 19 | Registered: Jan 2012 | |||
I've been on the bus since early January, so it's been 4 months. I've had a couple of f-buddy offers that I've turned down. And a couple of dating opportunities that I've turned down as well. I just wasn't ready for starting to date again or even just have NSA sex. But I sure as hell wasn't made for bus-riding. And I'm starting to get a bit restless. *sigh* Me - happily single Him - no longer matters Married 28 yrs Filed for D 1/10 DIVORCED 12/12 Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic. Posts: 1613 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast | |||
Polo, dammit, and the last time was with X and it was about as lousy as it could get. Going to be 3 years soon. I'm gonna have to dip a toe in the dating waters. I am sooooo chicken. You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future. Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
eh, I'm here. Kind of indifferent either way right now, too much other stuff going on. But I would like a cocktail, if they are being served me (BS) him (NPD Ex) 2 dds DDay 10/7/11 OW OC Divorced 1/17/2013 "Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is." Posts: 2069 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: here | |||
Polo - its been just about a year for me - last time was with XWH and it was all about him. I'm scared too, but margaritas make me brave. Hmmmmmmm.
Married 28 years, together 32; DD age 23 Me BW: 52 XWH: 54, liar DDay 6/3/2011 skank-a-saurus: 48 yo FORMER friend of 30 years. status: Divorced January 25, 2012!! Posts: 674 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Massachusetts | |||
Polo... 
Its been 2 yrs, 4 months and I'm REALLY getting tired of riding, sorry guys I have a male friend who could possibly persuade me off the bus, but he's on the ride too and wants to ride until his D is finalized. After that, who knows?? BW (me) 51 XWH 53, but acts like a 15 y/o M 18 yrs DS 16, DD 14 (on D-day) EA,PA with OW, 30 yrs his jr. DDay 11/30/09 (DS's B-day), WH moved out 4 days later. I filed for D-1/29/10, DIVORCED 10/22/10 You can't reason with an NPD!!! Posts: 310 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Midwest | |||
I was on for three years. Got off for a fling. Just found out I know have HPV genital warts. Wish I'd stayed on the bus... Back on. Two gorgeous boys, 14 and 8. D-day Sept. 15, 2006. Me, BS 43 Him, WS 50 Her, OG (Guess she is 27 or 28 now! 19-21 at the time...) Separated. Divorcing. Happily working on myself. Posts: 696 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: thankful for truth | |||
I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse? I've heard that if you go without for long enough, you stop craving, and I was curious if it was true. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
5 years 9 months. But who is counting... Sad, I'm glad you are driving, because my seat has the perfect groove around my butt, and I am not sharing with nobody. Can we at least change the radio station???? Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day) Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
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AMA, I think there may be something to that. I think sex drive has a use it or lose it quality. I am definitely findi f it easier now than even a year ago. BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
Ama - I'm no mathematician, but I believe the BOB to sex relationship looks like this... sex > BOB > nothing Of course, YMMV You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
NIK!
I might be getting back on the bus in the next few months (well, I WILL be back on by the end of summer, it just might be sooner) and I'm curious if going cold turkey will really kill the urge after a while. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse? Ama, in order, my answers are: No
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
You girls are lucky to be able to have BOBs BOGs not only sound awful, but imagine a new girlfriend catching you with one? I can only imagine most would be quite freaked out??? I don't know. BOBs are the norm these days even as part of a relationship. stbxWW already has her new BOB, had it about a month, saw the email receipt online. (I'm sure she used that email cause she knows I can see them) Wish BOGs were more socially acceptable, wouldn't mind a try!! Maybe it'd make it easier? Dought it though. It's crap without someone else there with you being involved. Although its better than someone else being there and not being interested......!!!! God how I put up with her for so long I'll never know, selfish bitch! My ride on the bus has been surprisingly relaxing to date thus far and after less than 6 months there's someone already possibly interested in yanking me off it pretty quickly much to my surprise seeing as how whorefaced skankalot said such horrid things about me which I'd started to believe as true! Come to think of it I passed up the offer of a quick stop off with a 23 year old girl 2 months ago whilst drunk out in town, invited me back to her hotel! 23!!!! Imagine!!! Apparently I don't look any where near my age! Wasn't ready back then..... Still too much pain at the time..... God I ramble on! Me BS: 35 Her WW: 34 D Day 5th December 2011 Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook. Posts: 434 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom | |||
I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse? I don't think it gets easier - you just get used to dealing. I don't think your desire decreases. BOB is a very poor substitute. For me, sex with someone you care about is exciting, fun, intimate, and soooo much more satisfying. BOB is purely physical. I need the emotion. You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future. Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
Forever, I was informed a while back that the menz answer to BOB is a BUG(Blow Up Girlfriend). Trust me the accompanying pictures were not pleasant. To use the Empress' mathmatical formula:
In answer to Ama, my experience is: Good Gawd I hope it gets easier; the desire has not decreased but the realization that it isn't going to happen soon is starting to creep in; BUGs are not an option since I do not want to develop a latex allergy. "Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live) "Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed." Me: FBBF Posts: 1392 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California | |||
Polo...last stop with STBXH 7 months out. OW was already one month preggers and didn't know. Ewww. He told me I was much better in bed than her, so I got a good mindfuck to go with it. Next guy (can't even imagine that yet, it's too weird to me Sigh...Must.Stay.Strong...sigh Me, BS 37 Him, WH 40 DS 12 Together 17 years 2010-2011: Serial As and false Rs Sept 2011: Moved in with latest OW, 21 OC born June 2012 Posts: 159 | Registered: Oct 2010 | |||
LMAO Jpapageorge! Me, BS 37 Him, WH 40 DS 12 Together 17 years 2010-2011: Serial As and false Rs Sept 2011: Moved in with latest OW, 21 OC born June 2012 Posts: 159 | Registered: Oct 2010 | |||
Well my daughter is 2 in march and I haven't had sex since she was conceived... you do the math... No end in sight... Me: 40 yo STBXWW: 41 yo Married 15 years, 4 kids. EA in '07 PA in '09 (same OM) Posts: 245 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: PA, USA | |||
Trying and trying and trying but can't figure it out. What the heckis a BOB, and maybe I should get myself one... D-Day Spring 2008 Divorce Final 6/7/12 Posts: 19 | Registered: Jan 2012 | |||
Harriet - BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
AH! Thanks, Wildbananas, I was pretty sure but could not get the acronym to fit! And if things don't happen soon, I may need to get one. Any way to do that privately...? Too embarrassed to go into an adult store and "shop!" D-Day Spring 2008 Divorce Final 6/7/12 Posts: 19 | Registered: Jan 2012 | |||
I bought my first on Amazon. They have a good selection, decent prices, and it comes in a normal amazon box, so totally innocuous. Plus, the site is set up to be very discreet. Normally when you browse something, the site will then suggest similar items for ages - but they don't do that for vibes and other sex related items. (Not including lingerie. The one time I browsed lingerie there, it was all over.) You can also remove the items you've viewed from your browsing history, and unless you leave a product review, it won't appear on your public purchase history either. ETA: I highly recommend the brand Lelo. [This message edited by Amazonia at 10:41 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)] "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
(Lelo recommended here too...) very quiet...and purple to boot... DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
Now the BOB recommendations finally got me to post here
I am in need of one. I am coming up on one year on the bus. Last time was with WS and was HB. Last time before him was never and that makes me think that my ship has sailed. I've never had many admirers; no boyfriends being painfully shy in high school and moving mid way through. Lived off campus in University and then lived with my parents until I was 31. They were not getting along and I stayed for my mom. okay, TMI from me but BOB may be my option for now. That will be a first for me too. [This message edited by Lola2kids at 12:31 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)] BS: (Me) 46 Kids: twins DD(9) WS: Him 48 (Ex common law spouse in Major MLC) D-Day April 18, 2011, he moved out Sept. 11, 2011... They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder I'm finding that I am growing more and more fond of his absence. Posts: 687 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada | |||
There are plenty of options for discretely ordering a BOB online. Unless you live in Alabama. Selling sex toys is illegal in Alabama. Yup. You read that right. There is a loophole that stores use to sell them in which the purchaser has to fill out a 10 question form indicating on at least one question that the buyer suffers from a medical disorder and that the sex toy in question is necessary. For instance if you say you suffer from depression or erectile dysfunction you can legally purchase a BOB. Because of that stupid law and the resulting necessity of a loophole ... you cannot order a BOB (or non-battery operated boyfriend) online. Crazy isn't it??? BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
The way I got to be friends with gma was answering one of her posts where I said I was raised to be a gentleman and was taught to always assist a lady off a bus. Little did I know she would turn out to be one of the funniest, most intelligent people I know. But it’s true; a REAL gentleman will always come to the aid of a lady in distress; no matter how laborious or strenuous the task might be. Yes, being a gentleman IS a curse but hey, somebody’s got to do it! (Oh the things I do in the name of chivalry.) (I’ve also considered legally changing my name to “B.O.B.” ...subtlety has always been one of my strong suits.)
Before you know it, all this will be as useless as the “G” in Lasagna. – 1Kick@Cat Posts: 464 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Florida, U.S.A. | |||
(I’ve also considered legally changing my name to “B.O.B.” ...subtlety has always been one of my strong suits.) BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
And for those of you in Alabama... just call me Billy B.O.B. Before you know it, all this will be as useless as the “G” in Lasagna. – 1Kick@Cat Posts: 464 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Florida, U.S.A. | |||
And for those of you in Alabama... just call me Billy B.O.B. Okay ... I literally laughed out loud at that! Thanks for the grins and laughs. And hey ... I might not need to fill out a form saying I'm crazy. LOL BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
Southern Gal - 
There's a really great joke in there somewhere about the South rising again, but I'm too undercaffeinated to pull it out. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
NIK ... Actually it would seem that you can only buy a BOB if you can prove that the South can't rise again. heehee It is pretty crazy. In fact you know it is crazy because it was odd enough to be mentioned in a British tabloid. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1342821/Sex-toy-drive-open-Alabama-finding-loophole-law.html BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
NIK ... Actually it would seem that you can only buy a BOB if you can prove that the South can't rise again. heehee LOL LOL LOL Oh Geez, what a comeback! I literally laughed so hard, tears ran down my leg!!!!!!! Before you know it, all this will be as useless as the “G” in Lasagna. – 1Kick@Cat Posts: 464 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Florida, U.S.A. | |||
((((((BUGgers and BOBbers))))) "In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act." Posts: 19093 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back | |||
Just my luck that my daugter is currently awaiting a package from Amazon! D-Day Spring 2008 Divorce Final 6/7/12 Posts: 19 | Registered: Jan 2012 | |||
So..... Tonight the bus stopped..... But despite a valiant effort from other party to coax me off it I decided to stay on. Wasn't the right stop for me I don't think. That's 2 bus stops I've stayed on for this year now...... Sitting back down for now Me BS: 35 Her WW: 34 D Day 5th December 2011 Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook. Posts: 434 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom | |||
Good for you recognizing that it wasn't the right stop. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Who's driving the bus at the moment? Whoever it is PEASE take it easy over the bumps, I keep almost falling off! Twice over the weekend when I was away! Actually one of them I wouldn't have minded falling off for but hey ho....... My mate thinks I'm dull for that one! LOL [This message edited by foreverempty at 10:01 AM, June 6th (Wednesday)] Me BS: 35 Her WW: 34 D Day 5th December 2011 Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook. Posts: 434 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom | |||
"Polo!" Is this one-way? Or round trip? The scenery looks familiar. Been on the bus for 4 years and don't see any stops in the immediate future. I'm old-school, so unless God gifts me with a MAN(marriage), I'll be on the bus for the long haul.
I was on for three years. Got off for a fling. Just found out I know have HPV genital warts. Wish I'd stayed on the bus...
So who has the cheese curls?? The Creator may be tough, but He ain't blind. - Purgatory Posts: 398 | Registered: Jul 2008 | |||
LITS You found this and now I'm reminded, I'm back on it. 
I was on for so long and thought I was done with the tour but no, here I am again. Damn. BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
gma - Sorry you're back on the bus. Does that mean Sad's out of a job again? You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
So do we count all the times we were on the bus DURING our marriage? You can count those stops on two hands.Half the time is wasn't worth getting dirty over. I have currently been on the bus since summer 2010 and have no plans to make any stops for quite awhile. Was separated for a year and no stops and now divorced for 5 days and still not planning on stopping. But would love to have a Pina Coloda if you have one. Me-53 DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011 Divorced 8/23/2012 I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is.... Posts: 1136 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Learning who I am again! | |||
No SAD can keep it ! I so don't want to be here....it's been a rough summer for me. Too many losses and stress.
I'll take a corner to lick my wounds. Sure wish he would change his mind but not hopeful. I'll be here for a long ride again so will have time to take many turns driving AGAIN. gma BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Polo! Moved out in April 2011, might have had one stupid evening with WH sometime in June. So, a year. I have CornNuts, is there a cooler? I could use a beer. kk BW-me 48, WH-him 46 Passive/Aggressive Narcissistic Destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011. Separated, divorcing, moving on. Posts: 658 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California | |||
gma, I'm sorry also you had to jump back on the bus, but I'll be joining you. Actually, I am okay with it. I have no interest in getting off the bus any time soon. I'm going to bring some fluffy pillows, a good long novel, and chocolate, and dig in here because I have no intention of leaving any time soon.... D-Day July 10, 2008 If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree. Posts: 14415 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio | |||
((((gma)))) Grab a drink and take a spot on the VIP bench. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Sigh. Polo. This damn bus never goes anywhere interesting.
Posts: 2760 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: IA | |||
(((gma))) I think...therefore, I'm single. Posts: 3841 | Registered: Feb 2008 | |||
DDay was this past Jan but, XSo moved a year ago next month for work so...almost a year. Funny that most of the time I'm ok with my bus ride...but there are days... what the caterpillar believes is the end of life, the butterfly knows is just the beginning Posts: 444 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Hell | |||
Polo...going on 10 months...but I met someone. We are going nice and slow, so not sure when I'm hopping off. I love sex and all, but it's kind of a breath of fresh air to meet a man who wants to a wait a bit. He really is amazing. D-day 09/2004 Filed for divorce 9/2006 We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower." Posts: 12312 | Registered: Sep 2004 | From: Margaritaville | |||
I'm driving the damn bus! It's been years & years & years, people!!! I'm a friggin' virgin again!
You'd think being married to a bonafide sex addict would have had some perks, right? NOT! Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom) Him = WS (abusive NPD SA) 3 elementary school-aged kids Together 20 years D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011 Separated & Divorcing Posts: 5314 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA | |||
I'm starting to believe this damn thing does. not. stop. anywhere. It's like some sort of cosmic joke or something. Please pass the margaritas. And the snacks. Who cares if I get fat? It's not like BOB would notice. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
How long is the wait before I'm officially on the bus? Sigh. You're all coming to pick me up soon. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Ama, if you feel you are the bus then you are riding. At least the bus doesn't stink, has good drinks/food, goes to great places and the company is fun.
hugs gma BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Well, it's been almost 2 months. No real expectation of getting off at least until I finish school in 14 months. *sigh* Pass the booze. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Can we swing by London? I'd love an in-person look at all those men in skimpy gym/pool wear. Might as well look at what we're missing. I might be too old for them but my eyes still work.
Ama - somewhere on here I think it said 6 months was the minimum for riding the bus, otherwise you're visiting. Not my rule, just passing it on. You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future. Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
Polo........
15 months and there is NOTHING in sight for me. Thank goodness for BOB. I just made some bread...anybody want a slice? k9 BS: 55 WS: 53 Betrayed: 23 years Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS) WS died: 16 May 2011 Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it. Posts: 5821 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin | |||
I'll take some bread, why not? I'm in the same state so it might work out. You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future. Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
Hey! I have a one-year antiversary coming up this week and got the fixings for some delicious chocolate martinis to celebrate!!! Who's in?? (Can the driver partake on this route?? I don't know why not!!??) Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
I was hanging out with a friend of mine last night. We've always had fun together...lots of laughing...last night was one of those nights. Except not. One thing lead to another and I'm giving my seat to Ama . I'm sure I'll be right back as last night was shocking and likely to never happen again (unfortunately)..so...keep my spot warm!what the caterpillar believes is the end of life, the butterfly knows is just the beginning Posts: 444 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Hell | |||
dang noone! Can you make that announcement ON THE BUS??? 
Me: 42, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;) DS 12 DS 9 S 5/2010 D 12/2012 Posts: 4048 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place | |||
sorry . Trust me, you'll be picking me up at the next stop! what the caterpillar believes is the end of life, the butterfly knows is just the beginning Posts: 444 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Hell | |||
I am not getting off. Hand cuffed to the luggage rack in case I forget. Gave the keys to gma. Me: 42, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;) DS 12 DS 9 S 5/2010 D 12/2012 Posts: 4048 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place | |||
I have too much on my overflowing plate right now. Sad can drive and I will drink myself numb.
In about 2-3 mo my life should be more stable and I will again drive all the riders to where ever their hearts desires. Does ONS mean you are off ? Doesn't seem fair, maybe you can ride as a guest of the bus ? BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Does ONS mean you are off ? Doesn't seem fair, maybe you can ride as a guest of the bus ? works for me! I've never had a ONS before. Guess there's a first time for everything.. what the caterpillar believes is the end of life, the butterfly knows is just the beginning Posts: 444 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Hell | |||
As someone who is still licking the windows at the back of the bus, a ONS is still hopping off the bus and announcing it over the bus's loud speaker is cruel enough that the time jumps up to six months and two days. "Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live) "Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed." Me: FBBF Posts: 1392 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California | |||
not the keys to the bus, gma. The keys to my handcuffed hands... temptation is stirring and I am just not ready yet. I know you can pocket those keys and that they are safe. You should not have to drive. I will shout for drinks. Me: 42, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;) DS 12 DS 9 S 5/2010 D 12/2012 Posts: 4048 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place | |||
Swinging the bus around to see if there are any newbies out there waiting for a lift.
Hello? Newbies? Anyone out there? Olly olly oxenfree!!! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
not the keys to the bus, gma. The keys to my handcuffed hands...Well that is a different story Care.
I'm still dealing with D settlement stuff so haven't been tempted to even look. If I ever say anything about wanting or thinking of marriage, get me an attorney and therapist. Damn I can't do this in my life again !!!!!
Going to be riding this damn bus for a long time. [This message edited by gma56 at 6:57 PM, September 6th (Thursday)] BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Well, see dammit gma, you missed that post and now it is too damn late...
Give me seat to someone else. It was a good ride! *ducking off the bus before I get thrown off... Me: 42, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;) DS 12 DS 9 S 5/2010 D 12/2012 Posts: 4048 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place | |||
I think I'm officially allowed on the bus as it's been 8 months now. so...hello bus! I'm bringing some warm apple pie and homemade whip cream....seriously, it's a foodgasm... Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
---->Care
I hope you are doing a happy dance.
gma [This message edited by gma56 at 7:22 PM, September 6th (Thursday)] BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Woo hoo! Thanks, Tesla. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
riding along with you, happy for the great company
opportunity knocked recently, but as much as tried, I was just so not into him, reminded me too much of ex Me - BW - divorced, recovered and happy Him - who cares 2 amazing sons D-day 6/2008 Divorced 1/5/11 Sometimes the path of least resistance just makes the road longer. Sometimes you have to head straight on into the pain to come out the other side Posts: 2694 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Connecticut | |||
Hello everybody, Was just wondering before I board the bus if the majority of males get off the bus earlier? But for me I'm going to ride this bus for a while. Been since march for me so it makes it 5 months. I was searching for some but cold turkey is the best. I went cold turkey to get off cigarettes. I have been smoke free for 4 years now. So, I know I can be good with the bus. I'll take the 7 row seat to the left. Favorite seat in school. Posts: 306 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota | |||
Does the bus have wi-fi? I guess it doesn't matter since I'm on it anyway BS 45, WH 38 M 8 years, together 10 Real DDay 10/07/11 Too many OW to count. D final on 6/21/12 You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie. Posts: 2142 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico | |||
MBD- I don't think the men get off the bus any sooner. Tesla brought pie ?
Tlart-it's always good company on the bus. Definitely more laughs and less drama. BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Polo!! I'm not a Newbie, NIK, just been quietly huddled in the back, hoping to pick up hints on the best way to tuck and roll when the bus stops. I'm a chocoloholic, so I brought fixin's for chocolate martinis and some high-end chocolates. The chocolate martinis are great - only takes a couple to knock me out and lots of time can pass before I'm awake again! BTW, Nature_Girl, if you have been on the bus for years and years, your 3 kids must be all close to 10 now..... I haven't had so many chocolate martinis that I can't do simple math.... yet. Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
Polo with a capital P. 2 years, 5 Months for me. I feel like a homeless person who rides all over town to stay warm. Last time was a few days before dday with XWW. I kinda already feel sorry for the first lucky lady. She won't be able to sit down for a while after I get off the bus! Me BH-46 Her WW-45 Married-20yrs Together-26yrs D-Day 4/11/10 Divorced 9/13/2010 XWW Married OM 5/23/2011 Care for yourself, Heal yourself, BELIEVE in YOURSELF! Posts: 338 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Seattle, WA | |||
**Waves Hi to everyone** It's been 15 months for me.
Tesla made pie!?!?!?!? Yum. ETA: took advice from here when I was lurking and BOB is now living in my house [This message edited by Lola2kids at 7:56 AM, September 7th (Friday)] BS: (Me) 46 Kids: twins DD(9) WS: Him 48 (Ex common law spouse in Major MLC) D-Day April 18, 2011, he moved out Sept. 11, 2011... They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder I'm finding that I am growing more and more fond of his absence. Posts: 687 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada | |||
Polo. For SO long. I hope it's true it's like riding a bike; I'm afraid I've forgotten how. BS-me, 51 WH(Mr. Trac-fone), 51, PD 2 kids-DD24, DS16 multiple d-days separated, permanently Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke Posts: 6730 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest | |||
Polo. 2/11 was last time. With STBXWH. Posts: 481 | Registered: Feb 2010 | |||
OMG, it's been 3 1/2 years for me. Hadn't thought about it until I saw the thread. I want to be near the beer cooler. Me BW 44, Him STBXAWH 42 DS 10, DD 7 I threw him out 9/2009, D-Day 10/2009 Married 12yrs, Divorcing When they show you who they are, believe them. Posts: 222 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: PA | |||
You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
5.5 months and not much interested in tent poles. Can I get a training wheel punch card or something? Booze seem taken care of, but I have to say for a bunch of wonky celibates, your food choices are kinda aphrodisiac-ish. Well..all except for the soft gummy bear thing...that just ain't doin' it...even for the window lickers I suspect. I have batteries to contribute since it sure seems like ya'll need 'em. Oh - and I will soon have a quilt to throw in the mix...or rather throw somewhere. Given its likely history, we might have to hang it from the luggage rack as our "colors." Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
Almost fourteen months! Wasn't sure what this bus was all about until I started to read. I was just stopping in to New Beginnings and spied it....I've looked around a little in this forum before and didn't know we had this bus!
I'm almost divorced, and not sure where my new beginning directions will take me but I am So Very Happy to be almost done with the divorce part. I want to sit up close to the front and honk the horn!! Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
Compartmented, we're always looking for drivers. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
I think this bus needs some nachos to go with the margaritas, so I'll have them brought in from the Mexican place in town. What's the movie tonight? You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future. Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
Ooooo, wildbananas! I can drive?? Are there rules on where?? I've always hunkered after a "Thelma and Louise" style trip! Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
Thanks gma But there is a over welming amount of woman here compared to men. Maybe the guys just lurk and stay quite. Positives for me, I get free food from the nice ladies. Posts: 306 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota | |||
Jeez, I am on the dam bus too. Not even a Bob here. I hate riding in the back! It makes me sick. Me: 43/WH (SA): 46 M: 23 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending Posts: 1066 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
I don't even know who the driver is anymore. But I do know I now have a hankering for margaritas and nachos. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
Oh how fun ! The party bus is getting bigger.
Torn- if ya don't like the back of the bus with us partiers, just move forward or upstairs. Need some good music, drinks, food, and a fun weekend road trip. [This message edited by gma56 at 10:53 PM, September 7th (Friday)] BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Polo...lets forget the ONS about 6 weeks ago after a year on the bus that lost me a friend, k? I'll share my riesling... what the caterpillar believes is the end of life, the butterfly knows is just the beginning Posts: 444 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Hell | |||
POLO! Damn it to hell....
Divorced 04/12/12 I am FREE!
Posts: 640 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Was in Florida/Now in Texas | |||
noone and tired: I haven't been here long enough to have anything resembling a vote, but I'm saying neither of those count. So there. Whoever is driving this damn thing just keep your eyes on the road and keep stopping to pick up us hitchhikers from time to time... Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
I volunteered to drive because I want to honk the horn. I picked "Thelma and Louise" for the movie just for fun - I'm not driving off a cliff! But we can stop at bars and cheap hotels if everybody wants. What are the driver duties, anyway? Do I get to pick destinations, or is there a selection committee? Right now, it's round and round in circles until somebody's sick. Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
What are the driver duties, anyway? Do I get to pick destinations, or is there a selection committee?Well when I was the fulltime driver for many years.......now just back on for the ride.
I let everyone go where ever they wanted and if no requests, it was driver's choice.
On this bus driver can eat, talk on phone, and drink. No rules because we make the rules. Horn sounds like your favorite song/music. FYI. Enjoy the drive.
[This message edited by gma56 at 8:43 PM, September 9th (Sunday)] BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Make room for a another passenger! December 12, 2011 was the day I started earning enough badges to be on this bus. sigh I miss TRUE intimacy! M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs Divorced 1-8-13 "When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life." Posts: 886 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
Polo!!! Can we go to Margueritaville?.... I miss drinks on the beach. I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
I miss drinks on the beach. Beach it is! Outer Banks, North Carolina, here we come! Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
Yea! Bus roadtrip! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Three months down. Just curious - is anyone else on the bus still on birth control? Or is that just me being wishful, especially now that it's free after the health care reform? "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Ama, I am. Don't plan to go off it either. me (BS) him (NPD Ex) 2 dds DDay 10/7/11 OW OC Divorced 1/17/2013 "Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is." Posts: 2069 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: here | |||
Ditto here. Although in all fairness, its primary purpose is regulating perimenopausal hormonal madness. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I'm on permanent birth control - I got snipped after the last banana. So yes and yes. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
Outer Banks... Yay I have NEVER been there....
Where are the marghueritas... I'll have a tall one. Do they have cabana boys in the outer banks??? I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
 [This message edited by brokenapart at 6:01 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)] me- BS 2 great kids = DS18 & DD17 Divorced & living again. "Let go or get dragged" - beaner Life is Good Posts: 10642 | Registered: Sep 2005 | |||
So much fun!!!! I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Bus rider here! 3 months and counting. But I have trustworthy BOB sitting with me... he never lets me down.
Just curious - is anyone else on the bus still on birth control? Maybe it's just wishful thinking... But I hit my deductible already so I opted for a IUD. I'm 48, it lasts 5 years, so theoretically this may be the last time I will have to worry about it. Even if I stay on the bus for the whole 5 years I also get the benefit of little to no periods... so it's worth it! But BOB doesn't mind one way or another... he's such a great guy to share a seat with! True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy Posts: 1257 | Registered: Oct 2008 | |||
permanent b/c here when second one was born and pass me a large rum drink Me - BW - divorced, recovered and happy Him - who cares 2 amazing sons D-day 6/2008 Divorced 1/5/11 Sometimes the path of least resistance just makes the road longer. Sometimes you have to head straight on into the pain to come out the other side Posts: 2694 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Connecticut | |||
With all the bobs floating around this place, I hope the bus has some privacy screens. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
It is a magical bus to be sure - privacy screens, toilets, showers, unlimited passengers ... Amazing! I'm still here so pass me the coffee creamer and try these pumpkin cinammon rolls! BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
Mmmmm, pumpkin cinnamon rolls. Save some for tomorrow morning! I don't like sweets with my booze. I want to try one of those Twisted Teas - anyone else? You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future. Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest | |||
Pass me one of those cinnamon rolls! Did you bake them yourself? Makes me think of fall...are we ready to leave the beach? Head somewhere to see the fall colors? Vermont? Coast line drive or interstate? It might take a while if we go up the coast, but we can stop for lots of great seafood. Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
Pub crawl up the coast.... local diners too. Twisted teas... I like Long Island Iced tea - does that count as twisted? Pumpkin cinnamon rolls... wow.. they could be my new favorite. Is the recipe here somewhere? do they have cream cheese icing???? I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Kajem I do have a pumpkin cinnamon roll recipe and they are yummy. The recipe I have has a caramel frosting. Now I am thinking a roll with a little Irish coffee, awesome brunch!
Me - BW - divorced, recovered and happy Him - who cares 2 amazing sons D-day 6/2008 Divorced 1/5/11 Sometimes the path of least resistance just makes the road longer. Sometimes you have to head straight on into the pain to come out the other side Posts: 2694 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Connecticut | |||
Does anybody else want to drive?? There seems to be some chatter about my drivin' down in "Fun and Games" on page three of the Stupid Picture Friday thread. Just because a few wheels left the ground...that's not so bad, right? We are all just havin' fun! Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
I swear, I take a few days nap on the bus and everything happens. Broken: how did you find that picture of NIK? I swear, she wears those damn pink boots everywhere. And HappilyUnmarried: Are you sure all you've been sharing with BOB is a seat? Just sayin'. Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
I'm going to be working in a mostly male dominated area.(Not with them or for them) Ummm maybe there might be a chance of meeting someone someday. Not holding breath because I've been BOB shopping.
I would love to be in the mountains right now or East coast.
BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
On the bus, riding down Highway 1 in California. So much scenery and beauty, staying on the bus for a bit might not be that bad after all. Picked up a nice Cabernet in Napa, cheers to all of you. Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet. Posts: 851 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California | |||
Really feeling the need to get off the bus It's been too long and the last makeout session was with the poofer...boo...How are the rest of the bus riders doing this Friday?
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Does my annual Women's Wellness appointment count? That was this week. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Just sayin' ... [This message edited by TrulyReconciled at 2:49 PM, October 12th (Friday)] "In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act." Posts: 19093 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back | |||
I am really craving (besides getting off the bus) Apple cider.. spiced with spiced rum and cinnamon stick.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Okay that Bob.be bus is a short bus -- just wrong on too many levels!! "If fear was not a factor - what would you do?" Posts: 3431 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England | |||
Polo. 3 years, 10 months, 6 days (not counting or anything) but I think I am getting off of this bus tonight. Me BS (32); STBXW (31); Married 10 Years; DDay1 03/2010; DDay2 01/2012 Divorced 07/2012 Posts: 204 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: North Dakota | |||
Actually guys, with all that BOB action happening I think we need this bus...
True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy Posts: 1257 | Registered: Oct 2008 | |||
Polo flipped me off so many times, I decided to get on a plane instead. Me: 40 (yikes already) Two boys: 15 and 12 Divorced 12-13-05 d-day 10-02-01 Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Posts: 24891 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California | |||
I’ve seen this thread several times and kept wondering what could be so exciting about riding a Twinkie. So after reading several pages . . . sh** I’m here. 2 years and 9 months I think, or is it 3 years and 9 months. I’ll have to work out the math later. This is depressing, it’s been so long I don’t know if things still work the way they should. fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
Months, I can't recall how many. Frankly, I'm just not interested at the moment. Too complicating. Me, 37 BH WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs DS 5, and DD 2. D-DAY 11-18-04 Divorced 2-2012, if only I had listen to you all in 04, if only I had run away. Posts: 1510 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Houston | |||
The last stop I saw was for the beach. I found my spot!
fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
Poloooooo.....ooo...oooo There is an echo in here. 10 mos and counting. Someone mentioned the Grand Canyon. Can we get a map? I think we are in the Sahara Desert. I'm so lost Me BS 54 Him WH 55 M 32 yrs - together 40 yrs Kids 0 D-Day 12-18-11 (WH didn't want to R) Divorced 6-21-12 Done! If the grass is greener on the other side....water your own lawn. Posts: 221 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Midwest | |||
From Time2grow-This is depressing, it’s been so long I don’t know if things still work the way they should.I think it's a matter of muscle memory...not to worry it, will be there when you're ready !
I'm going to be gone for a month but not getting off the bus. BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Heading somewhere fun, gma? Do tell! Broken: how did you find that picture of NIK? I swear, she wears those damn pink boots everywhere. Chili - you can have the damn boots, but they come with the bikini as a matched set.
Polo. 3 years, 10 months, 6 days (not counting or anything) but I think I am getting off of this bus tonight.Damn, did we bounce tornasunder off the bus over the weekend? Man overboard! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Well, this is embarrassing ... it took me until page 5 or 6 to actually understand what being a bus rider means.
Anyway .... um, shove over, so a gal can plant herself, ok? Divorced. Very happy alone. Posts: 149 | Registered: Sep 2012 | |||
NIK: I don't wanna the boots or the bikini that looks like it was made out of some unfortunate doilies or something. I mean really, if you're going to be on this bus - at least put some clothes on willya? Please try to remember the nature of the bus? Or I'll tell on you to a guide or the person that started this thread. Thank you and have a nice day. Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
it took me until page 5 or 6 to actually understand what being a bus rider means.Oh, MortuusCor, you are right, we should put a definition on the first page !! WELCOME !!! BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Can y'all pick me up at the next stop? I need to get back on the bus, but I am ready to PAR-TAY!!!! Me: Betrayed Him: Traitor in my Foxhole / Habitual Liar The details don't matter anymore. A new and better life awaits. Posts: 1099 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness | |||
This bus has a lot to recommend it! Great company and I can indulge in some Manhattans without worry! BS 45, WH 38 M 8 years, together 10 Real DDay 10/07/11 Too many OW to count. D final on 6/21/12 You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie. Posts: 2142 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico | |||
What's the matter NIK? Hoping to get a blankie from somewhere to cover up that bikini? You're awfully quiet..well at least on this thread. You yakety yak everywhere else. Where are we on this bus ride anyway? Did we do a man overboard? Is circling around to rescue needed or is tornasunder gone for another 6 months? Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
Can you come down this way and pick me up? We have lovely beaches and really nice weather this time of year! "You can never have too much happy!" Posts: 641 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia | |||
Can you come down this way and pick me up? Oh, I think a trip down under is on the bus route ! Hell yes we can come enjoy some beaches,drinks, sun, drinks,sand, and drinks.
It's Saturday night and I have drinks on my mind.
BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
POLO I am Marty McFly, dragging behind on my skateboard right now, 5 months. But I don't want to lose y'all, I have a feeling I'll be in the driver's seat one day! Is SouthernGal drinking and driving? Where's BOB? I want to sit by him! [This message edited by rising.phoenix at 4:00 AM, October 21st (Sunday)] The hardest decision you will ever make is knowing which bridge to cross and which bridge to burn. Don't lie to me, just get your things. I've made up your mind~ Evanescence Posts: 153 | Registered: Jun 2011 | |||
after 14 months on the bus, i thought maybe my maidenhead had grown back and i was a virgin again. Nope! me- BS 45+ him- philanderer, SA? amazing kids multiple D Days Divorced Posts: 241 | Registered: Apr 2009 | |||
Phoenix: I think there's quite a few BOB's on here - sure you can find one to sit...next to. Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
What's the matter NIK? Hoping to get a blankie from somewhere to cover up that bikini? You're awfully quiet..well at least on this thread.Nah - I've been busy trying to get all those damn kids off my lawn. And it's way too cold now for the bikini. I'm packing that away until we hit Australia... You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I like my SI peeps and you guys are fun and all but I have to admit, I do not want to be on this damn bus. So, while I sit here scoping out all of the emergency exits can we at least drive on the edge of the road so we travel over the rumble strips? Please? Me - happily single Him - no longer matters Married 28 yrs Filed for D 1/10 DIVORCED 12/12 Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic. Posts: 1613 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast | |||
 Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
Thanks Chili! Me - happily single Him - no longer matters Married 28 yrs Filed for D 1/10 DIVORCED 12/12 Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic. Posts: 1613 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast | |||
after 14 months on the bus, i thought maybe my maidenhead had grown back and i was a virgin again. I was told to be considered a born again virgin - you need to abstain for 7 years. I don't want to be riding the bus THAT long.... I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
You know, it hasn't been that bad a ride after 4.5 years on the bus. However, I do miss the intimacy...miss cuddling the most. IMO, it sure beats the fear of pregnancy or STDs!
The Creator may be tough, but He ain't blind. - Purgatory Posts: 398 | Registered: Jul 2008 | |||
I don’t know about a medal but I’m sure someone will make you a cupcake at your 5-year anniversary.
[This message edited by time2grow at 9:32 AM, October 27th (Saturday)] fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
I was told to be considered a born again virgin - you need to abstain for 7 years. hell, I am almost there... Maybe I can sell my born-again virginity on the internet for 6 figures!! And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back So shake him off -- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine Posts: 16462 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :) | |||
Fun Fact: Walt Disney had an airstrip for his private plane (jet?) constructed at WDW the rumple strips on the runway were spaced so they played the tune to Zip-a-Dee-Do-Dah. I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Well, I think I'm exactly 6 months today *sigh* I don't like the way I catch myself staring at furry mittens lately Me (BS) - 40 Her (WW) - 46 3 kids - D13, S12, D6. M 15yrs, together ~17 yrs. DD#1: Sept. 2005 EA mOM #1 (former good friend) DD#2: May 28th, 2012 mOM#2 (who was also her boss) - they both left their spouses and moved in together that day Posts: 260 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Canada | |||
Damn! I enjoy the camaraderie and drinks but I have got to get off this bus! It is getting close to 4 years and the sex with ex was as exciting as getting a flu shot! [This message edited by risingfromashes at 6:35 PM, October 29th (Monday)] Forgive exass? I am working on forgiving myself for staying so long! Posts: 1153 | Registered: Mar 2004 | |||
Are we in Australia yet??? Also, it looks like reallystruggling hopped off but now we need to pick her back up at the next stop. I'll start mixing some martinis for her welcome back party!! Me: Betrayed Him: Traitor in my Foxhole / Habitual Liar The details don't matter anymore. A new and better life awaits. Posts: 1099 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness | |||
Guessing the bus stalled out trying to make it to Australia, so I thought I would bump it up and see if we could get it jump-started (yes, let's all pun) again. Plus, nothing goes with turkey like a bus ride. Woot woot? Me: BSO Him: Assclown Too many years tied up with him. April-May 2012 pretty much sucked. "I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White Posts: 242 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Reality | |||
7 months and counting. Im going try one year before I really feel like getting off the bus. I want to see new Zealand after Australia!!! Posts: 306 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota | |||
I guess I'm back here too. Sigh. 5 months now and no prospects in sight. Oh well, the last dry spell was 14 months. me...BS, 42 years old, 2 small kids WS, 39, multiple gay affairs M 15 years, separated 2 years, together 17 Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings" separated 1/2011 Posts: 2505 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia | |||
Two years. Mixed emotions about this one. But anything is better than being with a cheat and a liar?!?!? Me...40 and fabulous WXH...just plain stupid DS's...9,7 and 6 DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance. Posts: 199 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields | |||
I just saw this and after dying of laughter, I had to share it with the bus. I don’t know about anyone else but I find some days it’s truer than most.
fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
Seriously. Most of my girlfriends are either married or in relationships. When they talk about sex, my response is now: "Shhhhhh. I'm beginning to get antsy. Just.....shhhhhh." me...BS, 42 years old, 2 small kids WS, 39, multiple gay affairs M 15 years, separated 2 years, together 17 Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings" separated 1/2011 Posts: 2505 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia | |||
Love the sign Time2grow !! I'm still on the bus but refuse to again drive the damn thing, that would mean I am accepting my fate. I am NOT here forever.
I'm starting a rebellion !
BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Thank-you gma! I just realized I used the wrong die/dye. Thank gawd the grammar nazi’s are leaving me alone, I’m a creative speller to begin with. fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
Bad spellers of the world ...... UNTIE!!! Me: Betrayed Him: Traitor in my Foxhole / Habitual Liar The details don't matter anymore. A new and better life awaits. Posts: 1099 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness | |||
I just realized that I passed 6 months a little over a week ago. Does that cover my fare? Posts: 697 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona | |||
9 months... Can I get off now? (That's what she said) oh damn, she's got jokes... Scoot over gma, I'm sitting by you!! Rebellion is just my game Illegitimi non carborundum Posts: 459 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: US | |||
Does that cover my fare?Consider yourself "on board" h0peless. Congratulations, I'm sorry. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Who's driving? I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
6m here and I don't know that I'll be staying on much longer without having a little day trip soon. Yoga just aint cutting it. Me 37; sad clown 40 MLC Two lovely little girls, 4 and 18m on DD DD 26 Feb 12; 8w S; 3m False R; FREE 11 Jul 12 NC = Detachment = Healing Posts: 2254 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia | |||
It's been so long for me that I quit keeping up with how long its been.
Last time was sometime in September 2005. I don't even think about it anymore. Kind of like I'm asexual or something. Me --> BS D-Day 10-1988 D-Day 9-12-2005 S 9-13-2005 D 3-6-12
Posts: 1431 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky | |||
It's been six months- am I a bus rider yet? I think I'll be on the bus for a long while... Me (BS) -35 Married-13 years, together 19 DS11, DS8 D-day: 8/5/12 Told me he wanted divorce: 8/13/12 Divorce final: 12/12/12 ---------------------------------------------------------- Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie Posts: 256 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S. | |||
19 months (I had to go back in this thread to figure it out)
No signs of getting off the bus any time soon. Not dating, still kinda a mess. Oh but hey! I have beer. A whole cooler full of Arrogant Bastard in the 22oz bottles. We can fling the empties at bridge abutments and scream YOU'RE NOT WORTHY!!!!! http://www.arrogantbastard.com Who has snacks? BW-me 48, WH-him 46 Passive/Aggressive Narcissistic Destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011. Separated, divorcing, moving on. Posts: 658 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California | |||
18 months here. Not missing it as much as I thought I would. Although, didn't someone in some thread say that a-d meds can make you like that?? I'm trying to wean off them. So maybe I should reconsider.. .... oh, no, there goes the whole plan! I will either have to find a way off the bus or stay on the a-d meds! Well, I KNOW which one I would RATHER do!! Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
It's been six months- am I a bus rider yet?Welcome aboard, Survivor. Newbies have to pick up the tab for the veterans. It's 2-fer Tuesday today. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
20 months here. Coming up on d-day anniversary number 2 and feeling like i'll be on the bus forever.  BS: (Me) 46 Kids: twins DD(9) WS: Him 48 (Ex common law spouse in Major MLC) D-Day April 18, 2011, he moved out Sept. 11, 2011... They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder I'm finding that I am growing more and more fond of his absence. Posts: 687 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada | |||
Did not mean to embarrass myself twice!!!! Geesh. [This message edited by Lola2kids at 5:12 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)] BS: (Me) 46 Kids: twins DD(9) WS: Him 48 (Ex common law spouse in Major MLC) D-Day April 18, 2011, he moved out Sept. 11, 2011... They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder I'm finding that I am growing more and more fond of his absence. Posts: 687 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada | |||
So, who wants my seat? Okay, I'm not off the bus yet. I'm just really, really tired of being on it. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
Who's driving? I believe Compartmented started bus driving duties back in September. I just earned my 6 month badge so I'm back on. Seems I missed the outer banks, California and Margaritaville. Have we made it to Australia yet? I've popped open a Foster's just in case!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
Aside from a one-night hop-off in Italy in September , I am 7 months on the bus.
I'm glad we are rolling again though!!! I'll fix some martinis. Where are we headed now? Did we give up on Australia?? Me: Betrayed Him: Traitor in my Foxhole / Habitual Liar The details don't matter anymore. A new and better life awaits. Posts: 1099 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness | |||
NT if you're doing Chocolate martini's... I'll have one. Is Australia having hot weather right now? I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Very hot in Queensland, Australia right now and some flooded areas to detour the bus. Might need some off-road tires and a snorkel. I'll take a chocolate martini or two too, please. Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
Did we give up on Australia?? No - the damn bus made it to Australia. t/j I've never actually seen a Fosters in Australia - only in the US end t/j I'll take an Extra Dirty Martini Please. Old Fashioned. Whilst I think of day trips. Me 37; sad clown 40 MLC Two lovely little girls, 4 and 18m on DD DD 26 Feb 12; 8w S; 3m False R; FREE 11 Jul 12 NC = Detachment = Healing Posts: 2254 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia | |||
I temporary hopped off the bus for a wild time. Hey, if you are going to jump off the bus, you might as well go all out! It was great..while it lasted. [Shakes head hard to clear memories] But now I hit the 6 month mark (again) so I can officially re-board the bus. ~Snuggling in~ Being single is not a disease...sometimes it is actually the cure! ~unknown Posts: 1359 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa | |||
It's been so long for me that I can't be sure of my last 'event' but I think it was in 2006, so hurtinky is probably the bus driver, but I'm at least the conductor. My scars are pretty deep and will remind me of my ordeal for a long time, but they have healed over and are no longer a threat to my existence. Me: FBW 58 (no longer betrayed nor a wife) D-day: 6/12/2007 D: 3/21/2011 Posts: 17365 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: East Texas | |||
18months on this wretched bus so far, with the ride being no end in sight...O well, gotta enjoy what I got!!! S,beginning D Posts: 440 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York | |||
Is there space for one more? One year for me. D still not final, still nursing the baby, and can't even fathom dating right now so I will probably be here a while. Me: BS 39 Him: WS 37 Married 10 yrs, together 13 DS-7, DD-4, DS- my baby just turned one! D-Day 5/9/12, 2 days before our third child was born! Filed for D 8/12; D final 4/13 Posts: 173 | Registered: May 2012 | |||
jilted, there's always room for one more. And as the newest rider, you get to buy a round. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
If 6 months is the required time frame, then count me in. The most frustrating part? When you see a bus stop coming up, and you gather all your belongings, thinking you're about to get off (pun intended) and then the bus driver just keeps going. Edited because I do know the difference between your and you're. [This message edited by notmeanymore at 9:20 AM, January 31st (Thursday)] "Put the cuckoo back in the clock,baby" - Four Brothers Posts: 767 | Registered: Feb 2006 | |||
[This message edited by NoTriangles at 9:33 AM, January 31st (Thursday)] Me: Betrayed Him: Traitor in my Foxhole / Habitual Liar The details don't matter anymore. A new and better life awaits. Posts: 1099 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness | |||
Yes I'm still riding. I've been working on myself and doing some very cool things for me ! It's all been good.
I think a bus trip to the Land Down Under sounds great ! Mardi Gras might be Ok too.
BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
Mardi Gras... YES!!!!! Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
The potential for innuendo in gma's post is killing me. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
oh Ama, now I can't unsee it DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
The potential for innuendo in gma's post is killing me Ama,you are a bad girl !
BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
 "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Is that your innocent look ??
Gma BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
I only have innocent looks [This message edited by Amazonia at 5:39 PM, January 31st (Thursday)] "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
I was driving for awhile, when we went north from the Outer Banks, but I'm not sure which side of the road to be on in Australia, so I'm sittin' in the back of the bus for now. More snacks?? Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
Next round is on me then! I am not a martini person but damn that chocolate martini No Triangles posted looks so good I may have to change my stance. Mardi Gras would be fun. Never been. The one year I had the chance to go with some guy friends, I passed b/c I had just started dating STBX and thought he might not be thrilled about that. Oh if only I'd had a crystal ball! Me: BS 39 Him: WS 37 Married 10 yrs, together 13 DS-7, DD-4, DS- my baby just turned one! D-Day 5/9/12, 2 days before our third child was born! Filed for D 8/12; D final 4/13 Posts: 173 | Registered: May 2012 | |||
Thanks, NT. That looks great!! Ama, very naughty!! Love it. I brought a package of fortune cookies. Let's see what they say. Mine says I have amazing friends when I need them! Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
Ama- you and I have similar humor-it's where my mind immediately went! Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go. The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed Posts: 1455 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC | |||
Just sending a shout out to all you bus riders as I thought about you last night whilst shopping in the produce department (watch it, Ama) in Target. A man right next to me was talking on his cell and he asked "Are you on the bus right now?" I started giggling and thought of you all. ((((to all the bus riders)))) BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish Married 33 years, 3 children d-day 3/12/10 LTA (2 year EA?, 2 year PA?) "Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 6885 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA | |||
Ama- you and I have similar humor-it's where my mind immediately went So I'm assuming that all bus riders are on board for a trip to The Land Down Under ??
[This message edited by gma56 at 10:20 AM, February 2nd (Saturday)] BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
This is the first time I have heard of this bus thing. Are ya'll talking about what I think you're talking about? Me: BS DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary. Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over ~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
Posts: 333 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Dallas | |||
bitchboots, six months celibate is your ticket onto the good ol' bus. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
And newest riders buy a round for the more *ahem* veteran riders. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I think you just now made that up! I'll play along though. :-P Me: BS DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary. Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over ~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
Posts: 333 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Dallas | |||
I think you just now made that up! I'll play along though. :-PI resent that implication! I didn't JUST NOW make that up. I made it up a few pages ago. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Smartass Me: BS DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary. Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over ~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
Posts: 333 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Dallas | |||
Got on the bus back on page 2. Still riding. Got a bottle of wine if anyone is interested. Where are we heading? A beach maybe? Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
Oh lord, the beach sounds amazing right now! "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
HEY!! You, yeah you with the naughty dreams and Christmas gift ONS!!! Off the bus now, missy!!! Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
Crikey, tesla. I'm from page two as well. Almost 16 months in and no end to the bus ride in sight. A beach destination sounds good for me as long as someone is on board giving pedicures. BS (Me) 38 Signed off and awaiting D papers! Two DS and One DD "Let us move on / For this is short / And it will pass." --Dido, "Let Us Move On" Posts: 2525 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
*gasp* I haven't had a pedi in over two years!! At least I can remedy that in the near future Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
tesla, I'm on a strict once-every-six-months schedule just to avoid the bus. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Ok, page 2 people - you need to stop bragging about how recent your bus boarding was, or the veterans might get cranky! Driver! Find us a beach! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
NIK, it's not that hard to hop off if you give up on emotional connection and/or self respect. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
NIK, you're next in line for a pedicure. *passes NIK box of incredibly good chocolate* BS (Me) 38 Signed off and awaiting D papers! Two DS and One DD "Let us move on / For this is short / And it will pass." --Dido, "Let Us Move On" Posts: 2525 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
NIK, you're next in line for a pedicure. *passes NIK box of incredibly good chocolate*Take notes, bus riders. THIS ^^^ is how you butter up a Guide. Thank you, tryingagain! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
NIK, it's not that hard to hop off if you give up on emotional connection and/or self respect.Ama - Not that I'm looking to hop off (I have enough drama and complexity in my life as it is thankyouverymuch), but I assure you it's much harder to do so when you are a middle-aged working mom with a high needs kid and (apparently) a cloak of invisibility wrapped tightly around you rather than being an adorable young professional in a major metropolitan area filled with more adorable young professionals than you can swing a stick at. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
And yes, I might be living a bit vicariously through you. Stinker. Loveyoumeanit.  You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I've been on this bus so long I barely remember what it's like to be off. Just counted it up, 7 1/2 yrs. GAH. BW-48 was married 25yrs, been divorced for 5. I was married to a man with narcissistic and passive aggressive tendencies. Posts: 162 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Washington | |||
Nah, the further from self respect you get, the easier it is to find a quick hop off the bus, NIK. I mean, look at all the OW who manage it.  "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
BEACH!!!!! Somebody pick a beach and driver start driving! (I'm sitting in the back with my bloody Mary listening to NIK and AMA discuss cloaks of invisibility and watching them swing sticks at young urban professionals. I don't know why they would do that, but heh. Interesting doings on the bus today) DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
Hey! I resent that! I am a young urban professional! "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Will this do? 
We'll need some of these...
Some of this playing off in the distance
Did I miss anything? [This message edited by nowiknow23 at 9:34 AM, February 10th (Sunday)] You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Just these guys.
"No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Very nice beach thanks, NIK and very welcome addition to the beach AMA. Am now sitting back and enjoying the view....maybe I'll take a nap and enjoy my dream DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
I'm beginning to like this bus ride... eye candy is very nice. Thanks Ama. NIK... love the choice of beach and the atmosphere and refreshements were a treat. With stops like these... the bus ride won't feel so long. I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
I'm just going to settle into a seat by the window, preferrably close to the potty. I'm in my 50's, it's comforting to know it's nearby. I've been on the bus for about 14 months now Me BS 50 Him WS 53 Chicken shit,cowardice,serial philanderer. Married 17 yrs, Together for 20 ~ DD#1 10/17/11, DD#2 10/23/11 10/23/11 - Sent him to live with his mother. DD#3 1/20/13 - effing liar <<smmfh>> Posts: 232 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Puget Sound | |||
*bump* Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless…… while they end up useless There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them. Vicki Baum Posts: 44413 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation | |||
Moo beat me to the bump "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
That's what we guides do. [This message edited by MovingUpward at 9:52 PM, March 10th (Sunday)] Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless…… while they end up useless There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them. Vicki Baum Posts: 44413 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation | |||
That's what the FAST guides do, anyway. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I still haven't gotten on the bus. I was pretty darn close in november (had gone 4 months with no action) but then met my now xbf. So my clock went back to zero January 29th, my last intimate encounter. I wonder if I will make it to July 29th and join you all on the bus? Posts: 1146 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
All the cool kids are doing it, PG. Errr.. umm... or not. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Where's BOB?? Illegitimi non carborundum Posts: 459 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: US | |||
I believe each seat comes with a complimentary selection of BOBs. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Sweet!! Here's a round of sex on the beach for my friends... 
Illegitimi non carborundum Posts: 459 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: US | |||
I'm kind of enjoying the bus ride; I think it would take an exceptional man to get me to step off. "Sometimes your knight in shining armor is just an idiot in tin foil." Posts: 1074 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Middle USA | |||
Are mood swings normal on this bus ride?
Posts: 697 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona | |||
h0pe the pun here is too amazing. "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
I know. Stupid bus. Posts: 697 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona | |||
I believe each seat comes with a complimentary selection of BOBs Mmmmmmmmmmmm.............
I'm kind of enjoying the bus ride; I think it would take an exceptional man to get me to step off. I know one but he's not interested.
There are other options but I would rather have him and I can't so I'll be on the bus.
Pass the wine and put some good classic rock on and I will be OK.
Hugs Gma BW-Divorced It's my life now, my choices, and my mistakes to make. I'm finding my self worth and sense of humor again. When did I lose who I was ? Posts: 19790 | Registered: May 2008 | |||
h0pelessTravel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
h0peless, that's too funny. I just got my first ticket for the bus, although I've been eligible for almost a year and a half Take me someplace warm, driver ! Someplace with fruity alcoholic drinks and hot cabana boys! Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself... Posts: 1399 | Registered: Jul 2011 | |||
I love you all, but I'm really tired of this damn bus. Me - happily single Him - no longer matters Married 28 yrs Filed for D 1/10 DIVORCED 12/12 Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic. Posts: 1613 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast | |||
I'm really tired of this damn bus. NH – I know the feeling (or is that lack of feeling) Anyway, 3 years 2 months and counting. Maybe not for long though, when I have a minute to gather my thoughts I’ll have to post in NB. fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
I'm on the bus, but I have to admit, I'm riding voluntarily, and not too unhappily. I will only have sex in marriage, so even a dating partner doesn't mean I'm getting off. However, every once in awhile, man, the bus stinks. Except the people. I am in good company. As far as I can tell, you all smell great. Me! 3 amazing kidlets To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M D-day and separation - June, 2009 Divorced - December, 2011 Posts: 2274 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place | |||
Forewarning:: Henceforth, I reserve the right to reply "That's what she said" any and every time someone says they are getting off. Illegitimi non carborundum Posts: 459 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: US | |||
Im riding the bus. I thinking it will be a long time before I get off. (no pun intended) Getting off the bus scares me at the moment! ME30 WOWZER SON4 "The worst part about being lied to is knowing that you weren't worth the truth." ~Unknown~ "They can't kill you and eat you" "fuck them and feed them fish" "Don't let the goofy shit get y Posts: 864 | Registered: Mar 2010 | |||
I'm riding the bus 19months now. I need to take time to heal. And since I will only have sex in marriage, I have resigned myself to ride on this bus for a long while...sigh S,beginning D Posts: 440 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York | |||
I'm still on the bus. Probably will be for a very long time ... which is super pathetic since I don't even have a reason (like waiting for marriage) to blame. Three more months and I will be marking my 3rd year on the bus. I need a drink. Who's tending bar today? BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
I don't know who is pouring SG but I'll join you for the drinking! I don't want to hit 3 years. Hell, I don't want to hit 2 years. 1 year and 2 months is bad enough! Me - happily single Him - no longer matters Married 28 yrs Filed for D 1/10 DIVORCED 12/12 Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic. Posts: 1613 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast | |||
NH, After the second year it is just like not riding a bike ... you hardly notice. I guess I slide behind the bar. It's a bit brisk here today so I will be having an Irish coffee. What can I get for you, NH? BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
SG, I actually did go through some periods of hardly noticing over the past 14 months. But I'm really noticing right now. I think I need a Captain & Coke. Make it a double. Me - happily single Him - no longer matters Married 28 yrs Filed for D 1/10 DIVORCED 12/12 Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic. Posts: 1613 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast | |||
Move over, please, and allow me a seat......beloved hubby was on blood pressure meds, so I think it was sometime in late 2006 or early 2007 since our last attempt at doing the deed. Am I at least getting close to earning my born again virgin merit badge? In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus **Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist. Posts: 2162 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA | |||
I'm in class. We're talking about loss of consortium. Teacher is telling a story about a case where the client was trying to argue loss of consortium with himself. That's taking the bus to a whole new level."No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Hey bus riders, I just made some Pozole Rojo with a compliment of garnishments and it is fucking orgasmic
Now who's got dessert? Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
I just finished a bailey's milkshake... I can bring you one.
[This message edited by Amazonia at 8:18 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)] "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
Beep beep! Swinging the bus around for the weekend pickup. Who's tending bar, 'cause Mama needs a drink. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I'm no bartender, but I will belly up with you, NIK. After the week I've had moneywise, I hope it's either Ladies' Night or someone else will shout a round. Hey, I think that monster sized bottle of Bailey's will keep us all happy for a loooong time. We'll have to give it its own seat! ETA: Thanks for that, Ama. And you're not even officially on the bus right now, are you? [This message edited by thebighurt at 7:08 PM, March 22nd (Friday)] Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
Where is the bus headed now? I'll have a Bailey's and hot chocolate. I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Coming up on 2 years on this particular bus....Pour me a SoCo and Coke please Me: 44 BS Divorced Him: 44 Married OW DDay: 07/04/2008 Divorced: 06/15/2011 5 kids: IrishLass 26,IrishLad 24, IrishLass 21, IrishLad 20 and IrishLad 11 "You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far" Posts: 855 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA | |||
Beep! Beep! Looks like we needed to swing around for new riders AND stop by the liquor store... How are we doing on food? Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
I have a great bottle of rum that I'll contribute. And I'm really getting hungry. Have to start looking around for eatz. Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
Yeah, I'm about through my bag of chips...I second the eatz!! Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
appies?
"No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
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I'll have another margarita (rocks, no salt) please. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
Chocolate strawberries and bananas?  [This message edited by Amazonia at 12:52 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)] "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
ummmmm....chocolate covered bananas just a little too suggestive for this bus rider. Just sayin'. Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
17 months on the bus here, people! I want a chocolate martini and a pedicure, stat! Ooh... g2g ideas... BS (Me) 38 Signed off and awaiting D papers! Two DS and One DD "Let us move on / For this is short / And it will pass." --Dido, "Let Us Move On" Posts: 2525 | Registered: Oct 2011 | |||
It was no accident, tesla "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
@ Ama...*shakes head*...cruel, cruel woman. I need a fling, stat. Uh, but I guess I'll go for a choc martini and pedi too, trying. Ish kabibble. Posts: 2947 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana | |||
Mmmmm. Those strawberries remind me of the delicious Edible Arrangement DD got me last year for Mothers Day. But the bananas are just cruel! Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
There are pedis on the bus? Awesome! Maybe I'll take a few more laps after all. Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan Posts: 14755 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl | |||
...edited to add beet salad! [This message edited by Compartmented at 2:08 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)] Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
I’ll pass on the bananas and petis, but the rest of the fruit looks great!! BTW, it takes 6 months to get on this thing . . . I’m at *** OMG, far to long *** and counting. Is there a time limit for being on the bus? I’m starting to think like a nun and 7up, never had it never will!!
fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
It's after 5pm! I'll take a glass of Chablis please! Where is the bus heading? Someplace worth all this "lack of consortium" I hope! DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
count me in for a pedi and everything chocolate! I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Ugh!!! So want to get off this damn bus Could it be spring fever, vivid dreams of my co-worker crush??? Help Posts: 1752 | Registered: Feb 2008 | |||
Where to next? Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
Omigosh, Ama! The bananas are hilarious. I'm happily on the bus for now. I need the chocolate, the wine, AND a mani/pedi! Stat! Me (BS) -35 Married-13 years, together 19 DS11, DS8 D-day: 8/5/12 Told me he wanted divorce: 8/13/12 Divorce final: 12/12/12 ---------------------------------------------------------- Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie Posts: 256 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S. | |||
Still a couple months out but who''s up for beer and cake?
BH (31) DS - 6, DD - 5 Divorced Posts: 426 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas | |||
Well, I have been running alongside the bus for a few years, haven't slept with anyone since xh either. Guess I had better officially get a seat. The only way I will meet a guy seems to be if I run over him between work, school and home, in which case I don't think he would be happy to see me. Plus friends constantly have to tell me after the fact that men blatantly check me out and I am oblivious. Sigh. Hopeless! [This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 6:40 PM, April 4th (Thursday)] BW,31 divorced for five years mom to two awesome boys,10 and 8 "But you said your vows, and you closed the door
"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies" Posts: 1112 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri | |||
Dlmos, molten chocolate cake! Yum. BW,31 divorced for five years mom to two awesome boys,10 and 8 "But you said your vows, and you closed the door
"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies" Posts: 1112 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri | |||
I'll be honest, knowing there is a busload of folks here with worse luck than me is both humbling and comforting. 8 months for me, will probably break a year without trying.. Pass the wine and sliders please? ~Larry D-Day: 8/27/12 Me: BBF (28) WXGF: Confused26 (26) EA/PA with xBF, lasted almost a year. TT, blameshifting, gaslighting, & broken NC for 10 months. DS: 2 Together 5 years Ding dong, the bitch is gone! Settling into the life of a single dad. Posts: 304 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: New England | |||
Bus rider theme song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BEJh-aMMpJ0 "In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act." Posts: 19093 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back | |||
Goodbye, sweet bus....... In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus **Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist. Posts: 2162 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA | |||
I think today'sDeal of the Day might be tailored to the bus riders "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
AMA that is too funny! I didn't even notice that. LOL BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
I am not on the bus due to bakery shame, but Ama, I thought the exact same thing with the deal of the day! BS-Me 30s WS-Him 30s D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only) D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..) Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013 MOW-coworker, 40s. 2 DS and DD all w/autism Posts: 541 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA | |||
Goodbye, sweet bus....... Ditto that! I've been riding silently with you guys and gals for 3 years and now I have reached my freaking stop! It's been a REALLY good weekend for my new beginning. I'll shut up now. Posts: 420 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast | |||
Deal of the day: Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation (TENS) therapy unit that uses mild electronic impulses to stimulate muscles and alleviate painNo thank you, I will suffer the bus ride without electroshock therapy or frontal lobotomy if you please. "Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live) "Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed." Me: FBBF Posts: 1392 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California | |||
Two people hopping off the bus on the same page? People - there's hope for us all! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Well ... maybe not all of us. BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs 1 DD (teens) D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10 Divorced 10/6/10 Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South | |||
6 months to get a seat? Not looking good out here! Forgive exass? I am working on forgiving myself for staying so long! Posts: 1153 | Registered: Mar 2004 | |||
After the 6-months wait for the seat, it seems like it often stays in use for a considerable amount of time. Do we know how many riders there are and just how big is this bus? Is it in sections, or cars like a train to accommodate everyone. I'm not figuring I'll give up my seat any time soon. Just wondering if some riders have to get off - pun not intended but it works - before more can ride. And to know how many to plan for when I bring food or drinks. Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
If the bus makes it to Columbus, Ohio, I am in need of a cream puff from Schmidt’s Haus.
fBH - 44 Posts: 1307 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri | |||
Two people hopping off the bus on the same page? Posts: 420 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast | |||
Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories??? Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
I think all you have to do is announce your leaving...I know I don't want details. Hugs, K I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories???
I think all you have to do is announce your leaving...I know I don't want details. Posts: 420 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast | |||
POLO!!! I will have my one year anniversary on the bus on May 21st! I think that I officially become a born again virgin on that date! I should throw a party! Just when you think you have everything figured out....that's when life bites you in the @$$!!! ME - BW - 33
Posts: 1349 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia | |||
I thought I heard it's seven years till your considered a born again virgin.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page. Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida | |||
Two people hopping off the bus on the same page? Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories??? If they hop off the bus together the stories told are ON the bus ... "In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act." Posts: 19093 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back | |||
Two people hopping off the bus on the same page? If they hop off the bus together the stories told are ON the bus ...
I am seriously laughing out loud! I didn't check to see if my fellow former passenger is also female, but I can assure you I didn't switch teams.
Posts: 420 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast | |||
No,there's a guideline about those kind of stories. TR "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
I am also female and I didn't switch teams either. Edited to say this: I was attempting to be funny and lighthearted with my comment about the bat. Since my joke fell flat, and even offended, I removed the comment here and I sincerely apologize! [This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 8:38 AM, April 18th (Thursday)] In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus **Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist. Posts: 2162 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA | |||
*Sigh.* [This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 10:45 PM, April 17th (Wednesday)] BW,31 divorced for five years mom to two awesome boys,10 and 8 "But you said your vows, and you closed the door
"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies" Posts: 1112 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri | |||
I love the er "bat" that the gentleman who helped me step down from the bus swings! Posts: 420 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast | |||
Wow....tmi "No girl who plays the role of the hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is; she just forgot for a little while." -my awesome pastor | I edit to correct my iPad's "corrections" Posts: 11467 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Washington, DC | |||
I had to go back a few pages to find the bus. Did we lose the drivers? I'd like to book a seat in advance please. Filing soon, have been on the bus for 3 months now. Tmi alert: Vj is one happy camper ever since then. My state is a 60 day to D, so can I be an official bus rider by then? Please, pretty please? BS 43 (me) FWH 48 D-day 9/07 Dont retreat, reload.
Posts: 880 | Registered: Dec 2008 | |||
Bumping for some of our newer NBers. You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
Just over ten months for me. You'd think they would have installed some more comfortable seats in this thing. Posts: 697 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona | |||
Looked back to page 5 and found my first post on this thread. I'm now at the two-year mark. Damn. At least D has been filed. I restocked the cooler ... anyone want a margarita? Come on back, rocks and salt, I assume? BW-me 48, WH-him 46 Passive/Aggressive Narcissistic Destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011. Separated, divorcing, moving on. Posts: 658 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California | |||
I'm with hopeless, the seats are getting uncomfortable after 11 and 1/2 months. ugh. I'd love a marg, heartbroken. At least I still have alcohol! Thanks. Where is the bus heading now? I think we were in Australia last time I looked out the window... DDay 11/17/2010 BW:51 Divorced "Honesty knows no compromise, one is either honest or dishonest, either steals or doesn't, either lies or tells the truth." Harold Warp Posts: 2192 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa | |||
Ah; you novices I may not be the driver, but I'm at least the conductor. I've lost track of how long it's been, but it was definitely pre-2006 when I hopped on. I wasn't even an SI member then... My scars are pretty deep and will remind me of my ordeal for a long time, but they have healed over and are no longer a threat to my existence. Me: FBW 58 (no longer betrayed nor a wife) D-day: 6/12/2007 D: 3/21/2011 Posts: 17365 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: East Texas | |||
Polo, 4 months and counting. I will be here for while. I need to take the time to regroup and get a clean and healthy mind. Sorry for my faults. I am a better person now. Posts: 49 | Registered: Jan 2011 | |||
I'm hoping to hop back on soon. Need to stay a bit longer next time I think. Anyone want me to pick anything up for them on my way back? Wine, cakes, biscuits etc....? Me BS: 35 Her WW: 34 D Day 5th December 2011 Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook. Posts: 434 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom | |||
2 years for me. Almost to the day. My last experience was HB so
Don't really think that counts. I may ride the bus as long as Sad. Don't really see myself dipping my toe in anytime soon. Nope.
BS: (Me) 46 Kids: twins DD(9) WS: Him 48 (Ex common law spouse in Major MLC) D-Day April 18, 2011, he moved out Sept. 11, 2011... They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder I'm finding that I am growing more and more fond of his absence. Posts: 687 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada | |||
Pick up some cookies and wine please. Arbor Mist Blackberry Merlot (the LARGE bottle) preferably. 25 months but who's counting k9 BS: 55 WS: 53 Betrayed: 23 years Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS) WS died: 16 May 2011 Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it. Posts: 5821 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin | |||
If I told y'all how long I've been on the bus, your eyes would fall out onto your laptops! My GYN and I even joke about my "reborn" virgin status. Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it. Posts: 191 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: VA | |||
Anyone want me to pick anything up for them on my way back? Wine, cakes, biscuits etc....?Yes, please and thank you. In fact, I think it may be time for a little fiesta to wake up the napping folks in the back. Driver - we need a party spot! You can call me NIK “I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you... stranger." - The Joker Posts: 14890 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-) | |||
I think I am going to settle into my seat and enjoy the view for awhile. Pass the chocolate, please. me...BS, 42 years old, 2 small kids WS, 39, multiple gay affairs M 15 years, separated 2 years, together 17 Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings" separated 1/2011 Posts: 2505 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia | |||
Too freaking long! I need a skateboard or something. Me: BS/WS 42; Him: WH/BH 42 (he doesn't know; RA) OW: 32, moron; neither 1st nor last M: 8 yrs DD: Fall 09; S/NC: Summer 10 Spring 13: D final --------------------------------------- "Silly hubbs, that trick?!? Tricks are for whores. Posts: 140 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania | |||
My man was on the bus for 11 years and I was on for almost 7 myself. A message of hope: the pieces parts still function well even after long disuse and even past 61 years of age. [This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 1:49 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)] In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus **Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist. Posts: 2162 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA | |||
Yeah the bus is moving again. Here I thought I was the only one riding. Pass the salt shaker and the lime please. Whoo hoo party on! BS 43 (me) FWH 48 D-day 9/07 Dont retreat, reload.
Posts: 880 | Registered: Dec 2008 | |||
New passenger hopping aboard! I should have joined the party 10 months ago. I think I'll be here for a while :) Me 45 WH 50 EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately. Married 10 years, together 14yrs 2 kids (DS11 & DD7) Separated Jan 13. He's now living with OW3. Posts: 105 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia | |||
hit-by-a-train, so glad to know. Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet. Posts: 851 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California | |||
I wondered where this thread went. Well time to hop on board as well. Been 1 year for me and since STBX is moving out this Friday I think I will enjoy the ride for awhile. Someone point me to the tequila dispenser. D-day 5/24/11 BH = Me STBXWW = Her 2 children The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D... Property and separation agreement signed 3/12/13 D official hopefully around July 2014 Posts: 727 | Registered: May 2011 | |||
Has anyone thought that with all these BS's on buses that there is opportunity for the BW and BH bus to collide?! Me 39 WW 37 Together 19 years Married for 9 DS(1) 8 DS(2) 6 Dday 10th Feb Moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar Divorcing Posts: 141 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK | |||
It's been since 2008, I've been hiding under the passenger seats all this time! I'm shy. me: FBW D-Day May 2005 divorced December 2009
Posts: 103 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: UK | |||
I was just looking for this a week or so ago. Wondering if we are heading anyplace exciting for summer vacation....? Is the driver still awake or are we parked?? Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it? Posts: 1329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side | |||
I was driving for awhile....am I still at the wheel? Sorry. Let's go to the mountains...too hot for the beach.
Destination Austria! Posts: 817 | Registered: Aug 2010 | |||
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