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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, May 11th (Friday)

ETA: If you're wondering what "The Bus" is all about? It's pretty simple. The Bus is for anyone who has been celibate for 6 months or more.

The Bus Riders may be out of action, but they're a rowdy and hilarious bunch. Come on in. They don't bite. Much.


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Just shouting a "Marco" and hoping to hear a "Polo" or two. Nine months on the bus and no stops planned here.

Driver? Where the heck are we?

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 1:32 PM, March 24th (Monday)]


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Not sure if 3.5 months qualifies for a seat????

If so ... "polo" said with a sigh


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

ďWe must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.Ē


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marzipan
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo.

Closest I got was with Steve 15 months ago. But he was wiener-withholding. He would do everything BUT that (including things that IMHO should happen MUCH later) because "intercourse changes things." Unlike those other things???

Well then, there was Harry and his phone sex before he turned crazy. He was something else. Unfortunately I was a disappointment in that area. He tended to render me speechless, which killed the mood on his side.

[This message edited by marzipan at 12:12 AM, May 12th (Saturday)]


me--Mean Batshit Crazy Pottymouth
him-- Swampy the WH
divorce DONE!!!!

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PART 16-- "You are Such a Good Mother"


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booger bear
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

sigh ....

polo ....


I am fiercely independent and I wonít apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo....until tomorrow....maybe??


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo.

*sigh*

Pass the snacks, please..... if I have to ride the bus, I refuse to watch calories.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 2:22 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Umm Polo, think I know what you mean

5 1/2 months, although it seems much easier being on the bus not living with a WW than it was being on it when we were together.... That was far too frustrating for words!

VERY nervous about getting off it at present... In reality it's been a very long time!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:28 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Months? Y'all count months? People, please. I've got years & years on the damn bus. I have my own bench on the bus with my friggin' name engraved on it.

Months? Amateurs!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 2:33 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

^^^^^ LOL


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

I hear you Nature Girl! STBX left 3/10. There wasn't anything happening for at least a year before that!
It may be that I am the bus driver and this a permanent position. The benefits stink!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Ah - my people! Welcome aboard, newbies. The bus may suck, but the company sure doesn't.

Where's our driver? Didn't Sad take over when gma resigned?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo. Damn.

I celebrate my 43rd b-day on the 24th of this month. And on the 24th of next month I celebrate the end of my 2nd (and start of my 3rd) year on the damn bus. Grrrrrrrr

Oh! But hey ... I brought margarita cupcakes made with real tequila! Enjoy!


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo
8 months on the bus here...
Marzi, our stories have a couple of common themes...4 weeks ago I got close, but no cigar


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo

I've been here so long I think I am officially a virgin again. I don't even want to think about how long or else I will cry!


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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turned123
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

dreamboat don't cry! 7 years...I have my own fleet!


me BS 48
her WW 45
married 15 years
divorced
3 wonderful but hurt kids

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travels
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo

Officially revirginized. I'd move over to let someone else sit with me, but all the damn cob webs hold me down.


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

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macakipa
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo

5 months...yes I am a newbie...I hope these bench seats are comfortable...


M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo....until tomorrow....maybe??
Quiet everyone!
Devistatedmom? Is there something you wish to share with the bus?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Quiet everyone!
Devistatedmom? Is there something you wish to share with the bus?

Well, we will see. But I don't want to start a mutiny on the bus. I've enjoyed my seat here for the past 2 years...there's just this gent that would like to have me join him in his truck for a while....having dinner with him tonight.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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WarehouseGuy
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo here too.

This damn bus is getting crowded again----

Can we drive by the Grand Canyon? I've always wanted to see it in person. The view of it on the wheelchair commercial just doesn't get it.

WHG


If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Sigh...polo...
Only 4 months...seems like 4 m-effin years.
Settling in for a long ride...nice to see I've got such great company.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo.

Still lickin' the windows at the back of the bus. I do have some Gummy Bears though if anyone wants some. They have been in my pocket so they are nice and soft.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Guess I am riding this bus too! Six months for me. Mentally I think I want to stay on this bus forever, my body says I can't!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." ó Daenerys Targaryen


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

polo...4 years


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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trying_2_recover
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

OMG a few more months and it'll be 7yrs. I'm not sure how that happened.

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sunfish
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Its been...4 weeks - OMG... Years, really? I am so scared. I guess my "toy box" is going to get upgraded!

...polo?

And if I have to be on this bus, I am so glad its with all of you. I love these kinds of posts. I will pass on the gummy bears, thanks.


Me BS (49)
Him (STBXH (49)
DDay#1 07/10
DDay #2 08/10
DDay#3 09/10
02/11 He moved in for R
4/4/12 - he wants a Divorce...
4/18/12 - he moved out
11/13 - after much negotiation, we decide to R.

"...because you don't move to a sm


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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo. It's been a long time since I checked in here - I used to go to the "just found out" but it was too raw and depressing for me. You guys who are moving on (like me) are much more fun, in spite of the pain I know we are all going through. Oh, and I guess it's been...holy sh** almost a year!


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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booger bear
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

there's just this gent that would like to have me join him *in his truck* for a while....having dinner with him tonight.

No not in his truck not for your first time off the bus ... it is very fun tho makes ya feel young again ...

I will be 3yrs in Nov ... so I guess I am not the driver which is ok ... I have some road rage and ad that to lack of some good loving and I am very dangerous with a full lethal weapon ...

maybe we could be the new karma bus ... how funny would that be ... get run over by a bus load of us it would be a violent funny ending ...


I am fiercely independent and I wonít apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

For those of us on this bus so long we've fossilized, will the newbies please take turns tying us oldies out on the "prow" of the bus? I think it would be fun to be a figurehead as we careen across the oceans & highways of celibacy. Just pick the bugs out of my teeth when you place me back on my bench.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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brokenapart
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Its been...4 weeks -

You are SO not on the bus yet.

The rule used to be six months. A few people sought a 3 month waiver. But 4 weeks?

come for a visit, but don't take a seat yet. And bring snacks!
2.5 years here.

[This message edited by brokenapart at 6:54 PM, May 13th (Sunday)]


me- BS
2 great kids
Divorced & living again.

"Let go or get dragged" - beaner

Life is Good


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LoveHerStill
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo,

Last time was with XWW.

It still works just fine, reminded every morning with the tent pole!

Moving in two Weeks! Gonna settle in, then we shall see!

No hurry, but I have never been a fan of riding the bus, both in reality, and figuratively!

I paid my fare, just not sure what stop to get off!

Hahaha, I said get off!


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


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lost and lonely
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo

6 months.....6 long, lonely months!


Me: 36
WxH: 37
Together 16yrs, married 12yrs (we were 16 and 17 when we met...high school sweethearts)
2 sons
Separated 6/09, Divorced 2/11

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo; it's been about 8 years for me. Since gma got off, I'm driving now.

We're on the highway to hell, and I'm the bus driver...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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lied2
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo

It has been 8 yrs for me I had to think about it. I have my own seat too but iding on the hood for a while actually sounds like it would be fun.

I have to say I am glad I am not on the bus alone. I wish none of us where on here but it is nice to have company.

[This message edited by lied2 at 6:08 PM, May 12th (Saturday)]


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

For those of us on this bus so long we've fossilized, will the newbies please take turns tying us oldies out on the "prow" of the bus? I think it would be fun to be a figurehead as we careen across the oceans & highways of celibacy. Just pick the bugs out of my teeth when you place me back on my bench.

I could be a snow plow!!!!!
But I do have hope. I am not dead.

***Cannot figure out how to make the quote in bold letters...sorry...Nature Girl!

[This message edited by risingfromashes at 6:18 PM, May 12th (Saturday)]


There is life on the other side of hell.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo! Seven months-- good thing I packed my slippers, bathrobe, and a few great books, because I think it's going to be a LONG ride!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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booger bear
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

I have my own seat too but iding on the hood for a while actually sounds like it would be fun.


I am fiercely independent and I wonít apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

allright...

Pollo! (not misspelled. That would be po-yo. Spanish for CHICKEN... cause that is what I am.)

2.5 years and I think it is a fine ride. Climate controlled, I got the remote to the on board movies, and no one seems to care about directions or speed. I'm good.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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treegirls
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Polo! Gosh, just figured it out - at 5 years 2 months.

Is there a map to help with directions on how to reach a destination and that also explains what to do when you get there?


Me 46 years old
M 13 years, together 17 years
Two girls, ages 13 and 7
WH died July 1, 2009 at age 46 from pancreatic cancer diagnosed July 2005. Affair began Nov. 2006 when cancer metastasized.

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

We're on the highway to hell

Great, now I'm singing AC/DC...


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

It's Sunday and Mother's Day.

The bar is open. Who wants a mimosa or a bloody Mary?


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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willowiris
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

I'm on. 6 months with no current signs of a bus stop.


D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

It's Sunday and Mother's Day.
The bar is open. Who wants a mimosa or a bloody Mary?
Funny how drinking and Mother's day sound like they go together so well! I'll take a Bloody Mary with a beer chaser. Thanks SG.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

I'll take a mimosa, SG... I've never had one but what the hell. I deserve some alcohol for raising the bunch solo.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

Better4Me - I think it is because Mother's Day makes me think of brunch ... which makes me think of drinking. LOL

WB - I hear ya, girl. Wanna banana daiquiri?


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, May 13th (Sunday)

Absolutely Polo! Though I have to say I'm rather enjoying the bus ride!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

Oooh - Me Me Me! I'll take a banana daquiri!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

No not in his truck not for your first time off the bus ... it is very fun tho makes ya feel young again ...

LOL bb! That is SO not what I meant!! I'm much too old for that!

Also, this isn't my first time off the bus. I had a fling for a few weeks after 1 year on, and now, I've been on the bus for 2 years since.

Except I found my stop last night. I'm off the bus. At least, for a while.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

Except I found my stop last night. I'm off the bus. At least, for a while.

Squee!!!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

Hope there's room on this bus for me!!I'm on 1 1/2 yrs and ready for a long trip.


Me BS - 57
D 6/2010
It's been a long journey but I think I'm finally arriving at my happy place:)


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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

I'm headed over to our family BBQ to get a margartita...my brother makes the best. It's a good thing we're all on the bus and not behind the wheel, with all this drinking going on!


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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need_hope
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, May 13th (Sunday)

I've been on the bus since early January, so it's been 4 months. I've had a couple of f-buddy offers that I've turned down. And a couple of dating opportunities that I've turned down as well. I just wasn't ready for starting to date again or even just have NSA sex.

But I sure as hell wasn't made for bus-riding. And I'm starting to get a bit restless. *sigh*


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, May 14th (Monday)

Polo, dammit, and the last time was with X and it was about as lousy as it could get. Going to be 3 years soon. I'm gonna have to dip a toe in the dating waters. I am sooooo chicken.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, May 14th (Monday)

eh, I'm here. Kind of indifferent either way right now, too much other stuff going on.

But I would like a cocktail, if they are being served


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, May 14th (Monday)

Polo - its been just about a year for me - last time was with XWH and it was all about him.

I'm scared too, but margaritas make me brave. Hmmmmmmm.


Married 28 years, together 32; DD age 23
Me BW: 52
XWH: 54, liar
DDay 6/3/2011
skank-a-saurus: 48 yo FORMER friend of 30 years.
status: Divorced January 25, 2012!!

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Faithsurviver
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, May 14th (Monday)

Polo...

Its been 2 yrs, 4 months and I'm REALLY getting tired of riding, sorry guys

I have a male friend who could possibly persuade me off the bus, but he's on the ride too and wants to ride until his D is finalized. After that, who knows??


BW (me) 51
XWH 53, but acts like a 15 y/o
M 18 yrs
DS 16, DD 14 (on D-day)
EA,PA with OW, 30 yrs his jr.
DDay 11/30/09 (DS's B-day), WH moved out 4 days later.
I filed for D-1/29/10,
DIVORCED 10/22/10
You can't reason with an NPD!!!

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Oh the Irony
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, May 14th (Monday)

I was on for three years. Got off for a fling. Just found out I know have HPV genital warts. Wish I'd stayed on the bus...

Back on.


Two gorgeous boys, 14 and 8.
D-day Sept. 15, 2006.
Me, BS 43
Him, WS 50
Her, OG (Guess she is 27 or 28 now! 19-21 at the time...)
Separated. Divorcing. Happily working on myself.

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, May 14th (Monday)

I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse?

I've heard that if you go without for long enough, you stop craving, and I was curious if it was true.


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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, May 14th (Monday)

5 years 9 months. But who is counting...

Sad, I'm glad you are driving, because my seat has the perfect groove around my butt, and I am not sharing with nobody.

Can we at least change the radio station????


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Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, May 14th (Monday)

AMA,

I think there may be something to that. I think sex drive has a use it or lose it quality. I am definitely findi f it easier now than even a year ago.


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D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, May 14th (Monday)

Ama - I'm no mathematician, but I believe the BOB to sex relationship looks like this...

sex > BOB > nothing

Of course, YMMV


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, May 14th (Monday)

NIK!

I might be getting back on the bus in the next few months (well, I WILL be back on by the end of summer, it just might be sooner) and I'm curious if going cold turkey will really kill the urge after a while.


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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, May 14th (Monday)

I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse?

Ama, in order, my answers are:

No
No
It helps but it doesn't... so no


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, May 14th (Monday)

You girls are lucky to be able to have BOBs

BOGs not only sound awful, but imagine a new girlfriend catching you with one? I can only imagine most would be quite freaked out??? I don't know.

BOBs are the norm these days even as part of a relationship.

stbxWW already has her new BOB, had it about a month, saw the email receipt online. (I'm sure she used that email cause she knows I can see them)

Wish BOGs were more socially acceptable, wouldn't mind a try!! Maybe it'd make it easier? Dought it though. It's crap without someone else there with you being involved.

Although its better than someone else being there and not being interested......!!!! God how I put up with her for so long I'll never know, selfish bitch!

My ride on the bus has been surprisingly relaxing to date thus far and after less than 6 months there's someone already possibly interested in yanking me off it pretty quickly much to my surprise seeing as how whorefaced skankalot said such horrid things about me which I'd started to believe as true!

Come to think of it I passed up the offer of a quick stop off with a 23 year old girl 2 months ago whilst drunk out in town, invited me back to her hotel!

23!!!! Imagine!!! Apparently I don't look any where near my age!

Wasn't ready back then..... Still too much pain at the time.....

God I ramble on!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, May 14th (Monday)

I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse?

I don't think it gets easier - you just get used to dealing. I don't think your desire decreases. BOB is a very poor substitute. For me, sex with someone you care about is exciting, fun, intimate, and soooo much more satisfying. BOB is purely physical. I need the emotion.


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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, May 14th (Monday)

Forever, I was informed a while back that the menz answer to BOB is a BUG(Blow Up Girlfriend). Trust me the accompanying pictures were not pleasant.

To use the Empress' mathmatical formula:
Sex>life in a monastary>nothing>BUG.

In answer to Ama, my experience is: Good Gawd I hope it gets easier; the desire has not decreased but the realization that it isn't going to happen soon is starting to creep in; BUGs are not an option since I do not want to develop a latex allergy.


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"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, May 14th (Monday)

Polo...last stop with STBXH 7 months out. OW was already one month preggers and didn't know. Ewww. He told me I was much better in bed than her, so I got a good mindfuck to go with it.

Next guy (can't even imagine that yet, it's too weird to me ) is going to have to wait and work - srsly got to know what I'm dealing with, especially with this crap experience behind me. But right now I feel like the first time I kiss someone, it might be all for me.

Sigh...Must.Stay.Strong...sigh


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― Eleanor Roosevelt

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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 14th (Monday)

LMAO Jpapageorge!


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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, May 15th (Tuesday)

Well my daughter is 2 in march and I haven't had sex since she was conceived... you do the math... No end in sight...


Me: 40 yo
STBXWW: 41 yo
Married 15 years, 4 kids.
EA in '07
PA in '09 (same OM)

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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)

Trying and trying and trying but can't figure it out. What the heckis a BOB, and maybe I should get myself one...


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)

Harriet - BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)

AH! Thanks, Wildbananas, I was pretty sure but could not get the acronym to fit! And if things don't happen soon, I may need to get one. Any way to do that privately...? Too embarrassed to go into an adult store and "shop!"


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)

I bought my first on Amazon. They have a good selection, decent prices, and it comes in a normal amazon box, so totally innocuous.

Plus, the site is set up to be very discreet. Normally when you browse something, the site will then suggest similar items for ages - but they don't do that for vibes and other sex related items. (Not including lingerie. The one time I browsed lingerie there, it was all over.) You can also remove the items you've viewed from your browsing history, and unless you leave a product review, it won't appear on your public purchase history either.

ETA: I highly recommend the brand Lelo.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 10:41 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)

(Lelo recommended here too...) very quiet...and purple to boot...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

Now the BOB recommendations finally got me to post here

I am in need of one.

I am coming up on one year on the bus. Last time was with WS and was HB.

Last time before him was never and that makes me think that my ship has sailed. I've never had many admirers; no boyfriends being painfully shy in high school and moving mid way through. Lived off campus in University and then lived with my parents until I was 31. They were not getting along and I stayed for my mom.

okay, TMI from me but BOB may be my option for now. That will be a first for me too.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 12:31 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)]


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Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

There are plenty of options for discretely ordering a BOB online.

Unless you live in Alabama.

Selling sex toys is illegal in Alabama. Yup. You read that right.

There is a loophole that stores use to sell them in which the purchaser has to fill out a 10 question form indicating on at least one question that the buyer suffers from a medical disorder and that the sex toy in question is necessary. For instance if you say you suffer from depression or erectile dysfunction you can legally purchase a BOB.

Because of that stupid law and the resulting necessity of a loophole ... you cannot order a BOB (or non-battery operated boyfriend) online.

Crazy isn't it???


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

The way I got to be friends with gma was answering one of her posts where I said I was raised to be a gentleman and was taught to always assist a lady off a bus. Little did I know she would turn out to be one of the funniest, most intelligent people I know.

But itís true; a REAL gentleman will always come to the aid of a lady in distress; no matter how laborious or strenuous the task might be. Yes, being a gentleman IS a curse but hey, somebodyís got to do it! (Oh the things I do in the name of chivalry.)

(Iíve also considered legally changing my name to ďB.O.B.Ē ...subtlety has always been one of my strong suits.)


Before you know it, all this pain will be as useless as the ďGĒ in Lasagna. Ė 1Kick@Cat

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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

(Iíve also considered legally changing my name to ďB.O.B.Ē ...subtlety has always been one of my strong suits.)

Brilliant!


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1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

And for those of you in Alabama... just call me Billy B.O.B.


Before you know it, all this pain will be as useless as the ďGĒ in Lasagna. Ė 1Kick@Cat

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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

And for those of you in Alabama... just call me Billy B.O.B.

Okay ... I literally laughed out loud at that! Thanks for the grins and laughs.

And hey ... I might not need to fill out a form saying I'm crazy. LOL


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1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

Southern Gal -

There's a really great joke in there somewhere about the South rising again, but I'm too undercaffeinated to pull it out.


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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

NIK ... Actually it would seem that you can only buy a BOB if you can prove that the South can't rise again. heehee

It is pretty crazy. In fact you know it is crazy because it was odd enough to be mentioned in a British tabloid. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1342821/Sex-toy-drive-open-Alabama-finding-loophole-law.html


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)

NIK ... Actually it would seem that you can only buy a BOB if you can prove that the South can't rise again. heehee

LOL LOL LOL Oh Geez, what a comeback! I literally laughed so hard, tears ran down my leg!!!!!!!


Before you know it, all this pain will be as useless as the ďGĒ in Lasagna. Ė 1Kick@Cat

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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, May 17th (Thursday)

((((((BUGgers and BOBbers)))))


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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, May 18th (Friday)

Just my luck that my daugter is currently awaiting a package from Amazon!


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, May 24th (Thursday)

So.....

Tonight the bus stopped..... But despite a valiant effort from other party to coax me off it I decided to stay on. Wasn't the right stop for me I don't think.

That's 2 bus stops I've stayed on for this year now......

Sitting back down for now maybe I'll get some slippers and settle in for a while!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, May 24th (Thursday)

Good for you recognizing that it wasn't the right stop.


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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, June 6th (Wednesday)

Who's driving the bus at the moment?

Whoever it is PEASE take it easy over the bumps, I keep almost falling off!

Twice over the weekend when I was away! Actually one of them I wouldn't have minded falling off for but hey ho....... My mate thinks I'm dull for that one! LOL

[This message edited by foreverempty at 10:01 AM, June 6th (Wednesday)]


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Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

"Polo!"

Is this one-way? Or round trip? The scenery looks familiar.

Been on the bus for 4 years and don't see any stops in the immediate future.

I'm old-school, so unless God gifts me with a MAN(marriage), I'll be on the bus for the long haul.


I was on for three years. Got off for a fling. Just found out I know have HPV genital warts. Wish I'd stayed on the bus...


Yikes...definitely won't venture off the bus!

So who has the cheese curls??


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Frustrated  Posted: 6:49 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

LITS You found this and now I'm reminded, I'm back on it.
I was on for so long and thought I was done with the tour but no, here I am again.
Damn.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

gma - Sorry you're back on the bus. Does that mean Sad's out of a job again?


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

So do we count all the times we were on the bus DURING our marriage? You can count those stops on two hands.Half the time is wasn't worth getting dirty over. I have currently been on the bus since summer 2010 and have no plans to make any stops for quite awhile.

Was separated for a year and no stops and now divorced for 5 days and still not planning on stopping.

But would love to have a Pina Coloda if you have one.


Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....

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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

No SAD can keep it ! I so don't want to be here....it's been a rough summer for me. Too many losses and stress.
I'll take a corner to lick my wounds. Sure wish he would change his mind but not hopeful. I'll be here for a long ride again so will have time to take many turns driving AGAIN.
gma


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

Polo!

Moved out in April 2011, might have had one stupid evening with WH sometime in June. So, a year.

I have CornNuts, is there a cooler? I could use a beer.

kk


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

gma, I'm sorry also you had to jump back on the bus, but I'll be joining you. Actually, I am okay with it. I have no interest in getting off the bus any time soon. I'm going to bring some fluffy pillows, a good long novel, and chocolate, and dig in here because I have no intention of leaving any time soon....


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New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

((((gma))))
Grab a drink and take a spot on the VIP bench.


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"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

Sigh. Polo.

This damn bus never goes anywhere interesting.



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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

(((gma)))


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

DDay was this past Jan but, XSo moved a year ago next month for work so...almost a year. Funny that most of the time I'm ok with my bus ride...but there are days...


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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

Polo...going on 10 months...but I met someone. We are going nice and slow, so not sure when I'm hopping off. I love sex and all, but it's kind of a breath of fresh air to meet a man who wants to a wait a bit. He really is amazing.


D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006

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Funny  Posted: 1:37 AM, July 29th (Sunday)

I'm driving the damn bus! It's been years & years & years, people!!! I'm a friggin' virgin again!

You'd think being married to a bonafide sex addict would have had some perks, right? NOT! Why is it that sex addicts don't want to have sex with their partners? I know there's a joke in there somewhere...


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, July 29th (Sunday)

I'm starting to believe this damn thing does. not. stop. anywhere. It's like some sort of cosmic joke or something.

Please pass the margaritas. And the snacks. Who cares if I get fat? It's not like BOB would notice.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

How long is the wait before I'm officially on the bus?

Sigh. You're all coming to pick me up soon.


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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

Ama, if you feel you are the bus then you are riding.
At least the bus doesn't stink, has good drinks/food, goes to great places and the company is fun.
hugs
gma


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

Well, it's been almost 2 months. No real expectation of getting off at least until I finish school in 14 months.

*sigh*

Pass the booze.


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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

Can we swing by London? I'd love an in-person look at all those men in skimpy gym/pool wear. Might as well look at what we're missing. I might be too old for them but my eyes still work.

Ama - somewhere on here I think it said 6 months was the minimum for riding the bus, otherwise you're visiting. Not my rule, just passing it on.


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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

Polo........

15 months and there is NOTHING in sight for me.

Thank goodness for BOB.

I just made some bread...anybody want a slice?

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

I'll take some bread, why not? I'm in the same state so it might work out.


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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

Hey! I have a one-year antiversary coming up this week and got the fixings for some delicious chocolate martinis to celebrate!!! Who's in??

(Can the driver partake on this route?? I don't know why not!!??)


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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

I was hanging out with a friend of mine last night. We've always had fun together...lots of laughing...last night was one of those nights. Except not. One thing lead to another and I'm giving my seat to Ama . I'm sure I'll be right back as last night was shocking and likely to never happen again (unfortunately)..so...keep my spot warm!


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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

dang noone! Can you make that announcement ON THE BUS???


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

sorry . Trust me, you'll be picking me up at the next stop!


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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

I am not getting off. Hand cuffed to the luggage rack in case I forget. Gave the keys to gma.


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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

I have too much on my overflowing plate right now. Sad can drive and I will drink myself numb.

In about 2-3 mo my life should be more stable and I will again drive all the riders to where ever their hearts desires.

Does ONS mean you are off ? Doesn't seem fair, maybe you can ride as a guest of the bus ?


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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, July 30th (Monday)

Does ONS mean you are off ? Doesn't seem fair, maybe you can ride as a guest of the bus ?

works for me! I've never had a ONS before. Guess there's a first time for everything..


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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, July 30th (Monday)

As someone who is still licking the windows at the back of the bus, a ONS is still hopping off the bus and announcing it over the bus's loud speaker is cruel enough that the time jumps up to six months and two days.


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Default  Posted: 3:16 AM, July 30th (Monday)

not the keys to the bus, gma. The keys to my handcuffed hands...

temptation is stirring and I am just not ready yet. I know you can pocket those keys and that they are safe.

You should not have to drive. I will shout for drinks.


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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

Swinging the bus around to see if there are any newbies out there waiting for a lift.

Hello? Newbies? Anyone out there? Olly olly oxenfree!!!


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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

not the keys to the bus, gma. The keys to my handcuffed hands...
Well that is a different story Care.

I'm still dealing with D settlement stuff so haven't been tempted to even look.

If I ever say anything about wanting or thinking of marriage, get me an attorney and therapist. Damn I can't do this in my life again !!!!!
2xs is enough. Or maybe it's like labor and you know you had a bad time and hurt like hell but you do it again and have another baby ?? This shit never ends.

Going to be riding this damn bus for a long time.
gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 6:57 PM, September 6th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

Well, see dammit gma, you missed that post and now it is too damn late...

Give me seat to someone else. It was a good ride!

*ducking off the bus before I get thrown off...


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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

I think I'm officially allowed on the bus as it's been 8 months now.
so...hello bus!

I'm bringing some warm apple pie and homemade whip cream....seriously, it's a foodgasm...


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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

---->Care
I hope you are doing a happy dance.

gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 7:22 PM, September 6th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

Woo hoo! Thanks, Tesla.


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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

riding along with you, happy for the great company

opportunity knocked recently, but as much as tried, I was just so not into him, reminded me too much of ex


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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

Hello everybody, Was just wondering before I board the bus if the majority of males get off the bus earlier? But for me I'm going to ride this bus for a while. Been since march for me so it makes it 5 months. I was searching for some but cold turkey is the best. I went cold turkey to get off cigarettes. I have been smoke free for 4 years now. So, I know I can be good with the bus.

I'll take the 7 row seat to the left. Favorite seat in school.


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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

Does the bus have wi-fi?

I guess it doesn't matter since I'm on it anyway


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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

MBD- I don't think the men get off the bus any sooner.
Tesla brought pie ?
Tlart-it's always good company on the bus. Definitely more laughs and less drama.


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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, September 6th (Thursday)

Polo!! I'm not a Newbie, NIK, just been quietly huddled in the back, hoping to pick up hints on the best way to tuck and roll when the bus stops.

I'm a chocoloholic, so I brought fixin's for chocolate martinis and some high-end chocolates. The chocolate martinis are great - only takes a couple to knock me out and lots of time can pass before I'm awake again! Makes the time on the bus pass much more quickly when you are unaware!!

BTW, Nature_Girl, if you have been on the bus for years and years, your 3 kids must be all close to 10 now..... I haven't had so many chocolate martinis that I can't do simple math.... yet.


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Default  Posted: 5:47 AM, September 7th (Friday)

Polo with a capital P.

2 years, 5 Months for me.

I feel like a homeless person who rides all over town to stay warm.

Last time was a few days before dday with XWW.

I kinda already feel sorry for the first lucky lady. She won't be able to sit down for a while after I get off the bus!


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Her WW-44
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Together-26yrs
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, September 7th (Friday)

**Waves Hi to everyone**

It's been 15 months for me.
No prospects and not looking.

Tesla made pie!?!?!?!?

Yum.

ETA: took advice from here when I was lurking and BOB is now living in my house

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 7:56 AM, September 7th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, September 7th (Friday)

Polo. For SO long. I hope it's true it's like riding a bike; I'm afraid I've forgotten how.


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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, September 7th (Friday)

Polo.

2/11 was last time. With STBXWH.


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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, September 7th (Friday)

OMG, it's been 3 1/2 years for me. Hadn't thought about it until I saw the thread. I want to be near the beer cooler.


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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, September 7th (Friday)


You can call me NIK

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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, September 7th (Friday)

5.5 months and not much interested in tent poles. Can I get a training wheel punch card or something?

Booze seem taken care of, but I have to say for a bunch of wonky celibates, your food choices are kinda aphrodisiac-ish. Well..all except for the soft gummy bear thing...that just ain't doin' it...even for the window lickers I suspect.

I have batteries to contribute since it sure seems like ya'll need 'em.

Oh - and I will soon have a quilt to throw in the mix...or rather throw somewhere. Given its likely history, we might have to hang it from the luggage rack as our "colors."


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April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, September 7th (Friday)

Almost fourteen months! Wasn't sure what this bus was all about until I started to read. I was just stopping in to New Beginnings and spied it....I've looked around a little in this forum before and didn't know we had this bus!

I'm almost divorced, and not sure where my new beginning directions will take me but I am So Very Happy to be almost done with the divorce part.

I want to sit up close to the front and honk the horn!!


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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, September 7th (Friday)

Compartmented, we're always looking for drivers.


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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, September 7th (Friday)

I think this bus needs some nachos to go with the margaritas, so I'll have them brought in from the Mexican place in town. What's the movie tonight?


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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, September 7th (Friday)

Ooooo, wildbananas! I can drive?? Are there rules on where?? I've always hunkered after a "Thelma and Louise" style trip!

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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, September 7th (Friday)

Thanks gma

But there is a over welming amount of woman here compared to men. Maybe the guys just lurk and stay quite. Positives for me, I get free food from the nice ladies.


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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, September 7th (Friday)

Jeez, I am on the dam bus too.
Not even a Bob here.

I hate riding in the back! It makes me sick.


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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, September 7th (Friday)

I don't even know who the driver is anymore. But I do know I now have a hankering for margaritas and nachos.


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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, September 7th (Friday)

Oh how fun ! The party bus is getting bigger.

Torn- if ya don't like the back of the bus with us partiers, just move forward or upstairs. (but we ARE the fun ones)

Need some good music, drinks, food, and a fun weekend road trip.

[This message edited by gma56 at 10:53 PM, September 7th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, September 8th (Saturday)

Polo...lets forget the ONS about 6 weeks ago after a year on the bus that lost me a friend, k? I'll share my riesling...


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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, September 8th (Saturday)

POLO! Damn it to hell....


Christmas Day. With X. Barf. That one shouldn't even count.


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, September 9th (Sunday)

noone and tired: I haven't been here long enough to have anything resembling a vote, but I'm saying neither of those count. So there. Whoever is driving this damn thing just keep your eyes on the road and keep stopping to pick up us hitchhikers from time to time...


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April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, September 9th (Sunday)

I volunteered to drive because I want to honk the horn. I picked "Thelma and Louise" for the movie just for fun - I'm not driving off a cliff! But we can stop at bars and cheap hotels if everybody wants.

What are the driver duties, anyway? Do I get to pick destinations, or is there a selection committee? Right now, it's round and round in circles until somebody's sick.


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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, September 9th (Sunday)

What are the driver duties, anyway? Do I get to pick destinations, or is there a selection committee?
Well when I was the fulltime driver for many years.......now just back on for the ride.
I let everyone go where ever they wanted and if no requests, it was driver's choice.

On this bus driver can eat, talk on phone, and drink. No rules because we make the rules.

Horn sounds like your favorite song/music. FYI.

Enjoy the drive.
gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 8:43 PM, September 9th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, September 9th (Sunday)

Make room for a another passenger!

December 12, 2011 was the day I started earning enough badges to be on this bus.

sigh

I miss TRUE intimacy!


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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, September 10th (Monday)

Polo!!!

Can we go to Margueritaville?.... I miss drinks on the beach.


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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, September 11th (Tuesday)

I miss drinks on the beach.

Beach it is! Outer Banks, North Carolina, here we come!


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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Yea! Bus roadtrip!


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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Three months down.

Just curious - is anyone else on the bus still on birth control? Or is that just me being wishful, especially now that it's free after the health care reform?


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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Ama, I am. Don't plan to go off it either.


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OW
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Ditto here. Although in all fairness, its primary purpose is regulating perimenopausal hormonal madness.


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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

I'm on permanent birth control - I got snipped after the last banana. So yes and yes.


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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Outer Banks... Yay I have NEVER been there....


permanent birth control here... although might have to check the condom dates...can never be too careful. Some germs just don't wash off.

Where are the marghueritas... I'll have a tall one. Do they have cabana boys in the outer banks???


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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

[This message edited by brokenapart at 6:01 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

So much fun!!!!


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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Bus rider here! 3 months and counting. But I have trustworthy BOB sitting with me... he never lets me down.

Just curious - is anyone else on the bus still on birth control?

Maybe it's just wishful thinking... But I hit my deductible already so I opted for a IUD. I'm 48, it lasts 5 years, so theoretically this may be the last time I will have to worry about it. Even if I stay on the bus for the whole 5 years I also get the benefit of little to no periods... so it's worth it! But BOB doesn't mind one way or another... he's such a great guy to share a seat with!


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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

permanent b/c here when second one was born

and pass me a large rum drink


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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

With all the bobs floating around this place, I hope the bus has some privacy screens.


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Default  Posted: 6:40 AM, September 12th (Wednesday)

It is a magical bus to be sure - privacy screens, toilets, showers, unlimited passengers ... Amazing!

I'm still here so pass me the coffee creamer and try these pumpkin cinammon rolls!


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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, September 12th (Wednesday)

Mmmmm, pumpkin cinnamon rolls. Save some for tomorrow morning! I don't like sweets with my booze. I want to try one of those Twisted Teas - anyone else?


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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, September 13th (Thursday)

Pass me one of those cinnamon rolls! Did you bake them yourself?

Makes me think of fall...are we ready to leave the beach? Head somewhere to see the fall colors?

Vermont? Coast line drive or interstate? It might take a while if we go up the coast, but we can stop for lots of great seafood.


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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, September 13th (Thursday)

Pub crawl up the coast.... local diners too.

Twisted teas... I like Long Island Iced tea - does that count as twisted?

Pumpkin cinnamon rolls... wow.. they could be my new favorite. Is the recipe here somewhere?

do they have cream cheese icing????


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Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, September 14th (Friday)

Kajem
I do have a pumpkin cinnamon roll recipe and they are yummy. The recipe I have has a caramel frosting.

Now I am thinking a roll with a little Irish coffee, awesome brunch!


Me - BW - divorced, recovered and happy
Him - who cares
2 amazing sons
D-day 6/2008
Divorced 1/5/11
Sometimes the path of least resistance just makes the road longer.
Sometimes you have to head straight on into the pain to come out the other side

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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Does anybody else want to drive?? There seems to be some chatter about my drivin' down in "Fun and Games" on page three of the Stupid Picture Friday thread.

Just because a few wheels left the ground...that's not so bad, right? We are all just havin' fun!


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Chili
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, September 28th (Friday)

I swear, I take a few days nap on the bus and everything happens.

Broken: how did you find that picture of NIK? I swear, she wears those damn pink boots everywhere.

And HappilyUnmarried: Are you sure all you've been sharing with BOB is a seat? Just sayin'.


Me: BSO
Him: Assclown
Too many years tied up with him.
April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
"I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White

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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, September 29th (Saturday)


I'm going to be working in a mostly male dominated area.(Not with them or for them) Ummm maybe there might be a chance of meeting someone someday.
Not holding breath because I've been BOB shopping.

I would love to be in the mountains right now or East coast.
My favorite time of year.
gma


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, September 30th (Sunday)

On the bus, riding down Highway 1 in California. So much scenery and beauty, staying on the bus for a bit might not be that bad after all. Picked up a nice Cabernet in Napa, cheers to all of you.


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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, October 12th (Friday)

Really feeling the need to get off the bus It's been too long and the last makeout session was with the poofer...boo...How are the rest of the bus riders doing this Friday?


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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, October 12th (Friday)

Does my annual Women's Wellness appointment count? That was this week.


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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, October 12th (Friday)

Just sayin' ...

[This message edited by TrulyReconciled at 2:49 PM, October 12th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, October 12th (Friday)

I am really craving (besides getting off the bus) Apple cider.. spiced with spiced rum and cinnamon stick.


Enjoying the fall colors, I live in a state with only 2 seaaons, summer and mosquito.


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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, October 12th (Friday)

Okay that Bob.be bus is a short bus -- just wrong on too many levels!!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, October 12th (Friday)

Polo. 3 years, 10 months, 6 days (not counting or anything) but I think I am getting off of this bus tonight.


Me BS (32); STBXW (31); Married 10 Years; DDay1 03/2010; DDay2 01/2012
Divorced 07/2012

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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, October 13th (Saturday)

Actually guys, with all that BOB action happening I think we need this bus...


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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, October 13th (Saturday)

Polo flipped me off so many times, I decided to get on a plane instead.


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d-day 10-02-01

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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, October 14th (Sunday)

Iíve seen this thread several times and kept wondering what could be so exciting about riding a Twinkie. So after reading several pages . . . sh** Iím here. 2 years and 9 months I think, or is it 3 years and 9 months. Iíll have to work out the math later. This is depressing, itís been so long I donít know if things still work the way they should.

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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, October 14th (Sunday)

Months, I can't recall how many.
Frankly, I'm just not interested at the moment. Too complicating.


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WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs
DS 5, and DD 2.
D-DAY 11-18-04
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, October 15th (Monday)

The last stop I saw was for the beach. I found my spot!



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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, October 15th (Monday)

Poloooooo.....ooo...oooo There is an echo in here. 10 mos and counting.

Someone mentioned the Grand Canyon. Can we get a map? I think we are in the Sahara Desert.

I'm so lost


Me BS 54
Him WH 55
M 32 yrs - together 40 yrs
Kids 0
D-Day 12-18-11 (WH didn't want to R)
Divorced 6-21-12 Done!

If the grass is greener on the other side....water your own lawn.


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DOH!  Posted: 11:08 PM, October 15th (Monday)

From Time2grow-This is depressing, itís been so long I donít know if things still work the way they should.
I think it's a matter of muscle memory...not to worry it, will be there when you're ready !

I'm going to be gone for a month but not getting off the bus. Should be a good time though.


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, October 15th (Monday)

Heading somewhere fun, gma? Do tell!

Broken: how did you find that picture of NIK? I swear, she wears those damn pink boots everywhere.

Chili - you can have the damn boots, but they come with the bikini as a matched set.

Polo. 3 years, 10 months, 6 days (not counting or anything) but I think I am getting off of this bus tonight.
Damn, did we bounce tornasunder off the bus over the weekend? Man overboard!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, October 16th (Tuesday)

Well, this is embarrassing ... it took me until page 5 or 6 to actually understand what being a bus rider means.

Anyway .... um, shove over, so a gal can plant herself, ok?


Divorced. Very happy alone.

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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, October 16th (Tuesday)

NIK:

I don't wanna the boots or the bikini that looks like it was made out of some unfortunate doilies or something. I mean really, if you're going to be on this bus - at least put some clothes on willya?

Please try to remember the nature of the bus? Or I'll tell on you to a guide or the person that started this thread.

Thank you and have a nice day.


Me: BSO
Him: Assclown
Too many years tied up with him.
April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
"I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White

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DOH!  Posted: 10:40 PM, October 16th (Tuesday)

it took me until page 5 or 6 to actually understand what being a bus rider means.
Oh, MortuusCor, you are right, we should put a definition on the first page !!
WELCOME !!!


gma


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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, October 17th (Wednesday)

Can y'all pick me up at the next stop? I need to get back on the bus, but I am ready to PAR-TAY!!!!


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Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, October 17th (Wednesday)

This bus has a lot to recommend it!

Great company and I can indulge in some Manhattans without worry!


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Chili
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, October 20th (Saturday)

What's the matter NIK? Hoping to get a blankie from somewhere to cover up that bikini? You're awfully quiet..well at least on this thread. You yakety yak everywhere else.

Where are we on this bus ride anyway?

Did we do a man overboard? Is circling around to rescue needed or is tornasunder gone for another 6 months?


Me: BSO
Him: Assclown
Too many years tied up with him.
April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
"I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White

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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, October 20th (Saturday)

Can you come down this way and pick me up? We have lovely beaches and really nice weather this time of year!


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Default  Posted: 1:09 AM, October 21st (Sunday)

Can you come down this way and pick me up?

Oh, I think a trip down under is on the bus route ! Hell yes we can come enjoy some beaches,drinks, sun, drinks,sand, and drinks.

It's Saturday night and I have drinks on my mind.


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Default  Posted: 4:00 AM, October 21st (Sunday)

POLO

I am Marty McFly, dragging behind on my skateboard right now, 5 months. But I don't want to lose y'all, I have a feeling I'll be in the driver's seat one day! Is SouthernGal drinking and driving? Where's BOB? I want to sit by him!

[This message edited by rising.phoenix at 4:00 AM, October 21st (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, October 21st (Sunday)

after 14 months on the bus, i thought maybe my maidenhead had grown back and i was a virgin again. Nope!


me- BS (40 something)
him- remarried and already a WS again
3 amazing kids
multiple D Days over 20 years
Divorced 2010

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Chili
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, October 25th (Thursday)

Phoenix:
I think there's quite a few BOB's on here - sure you can find one to sit...next to.


Me: BSO
Him: Assclown
Too many years tied up with him.
April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
"I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White

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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, October 25th (Thursday)

What's the matter NIK? Hoping to get a blankie from somewhere to cover up that bikini? You're awfully quiet..well at least on this thread.
Nah - I've been busy trying to get all those damn kids off my lawn.

And it's way too cold now for the bikini. I'm packing that away until we hit Australia...


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, October 25th (Thursday)

I like my SI peeps and you guys are fun and all but I have to admit, I do not want to be on this damn bus.

So, while I sit here scoping out all of the emergency exits can we at least drive on the edge of the road so we travel over the rumble strips? Please?


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


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Chili
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 25th (Thursday)


Me: BSO
Him: Assclown
Too many years tied up with him.
April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
"I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White

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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, October 25th (Thursday)

Thanks Chili!


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, October 25th (Thursday)

after 14 months on the bus, i thought maybe my maidenhead had grown back and i was a virgin again.

I was told to be considered a born again virgin - you need to abstain for 7 years.

I don't want to be riding the bus THAT long....


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, October 26th (Friday)

You know, it hasn't been that bad a ride after 4.5 years on the bus. However, I do miss the intimacy...miss cuddling the most.

IMO, it sure beats the fear of pregnancy or STDs!


(WAIT!! Did I say FOUR and ONE HALF years??? DANG!! After twenty-one years of marriage and now ZIP.NADA.ZILCH...I deserve an SI medal or something!!)


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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, October 27th (Saturday)

I donít know about a medal but Iím sure someone will make you a cupcake at your 5-year anniversary.

[This message edited by time2grow at 9:32 AM, October 27th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, October 27th (Saturday)

I was told to be considered a born again virgin - you need to abstain for 7 years.

hell, I am almost there... Maybe I can sell my born-again virginity on the internet for 6 figures!!


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, October 27th (Saturday)

Fun Fact:

Walt Disney had an airstrip for his private plane (jet?) constructed at WDW the rumple strips on the runway were spaced so they played the tune to Zip-a-Dee-Do-Dah.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, October 29th (Monday)

Well, I think I'm exactly 6 months today *sigh*

I don't like the way I catch myself staring at furry mittens lately


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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, October 29th (Monday)

Damn! I enjoy the camaraderie and drinks but I have got to get off this bus! It is getting close to 4 years and the sex with ex was as exciting as getting a flu shot!

[This message edited by risingfromashes at 6:35 PM, October 29th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, November 8th (Thursday)

Are we in Australia yet???

Also, it looks like reallystruggling hopped off but now we need to pick her back up at the next stop.

I'll start mixing some martinis for her welcome back party!!


Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

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Chili
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, November 22nd (Thursday)

Guessing the bus stalled out trying to make it to Australia, so I thought I would bump it up and see if we could get it jump-started (yes, let's all pun) again. Plus, nothing goes with turkey like a bus ride.

Woot woot?


Me: BSO
Him: Assclown
Too many years tied up with him.
April-May 2012 pretty much sucked.
"I'd love to give a dog a bone, but I'm not gonna stick around to help you" - Jack White

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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, November 22nd (Thursday)

7 months and counting. Im going try one year before I really feel like getting off the bus. I want to see new Zealand after Australia!!!

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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, November 23rd (Friday)

I guess I'm back here too. Sigh. 5 months now and no prospects in sight. Oh well, the last dry spell was 14 months.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, November 23rd (Friday)

Two years. Mixed emotions about this one. But anything is better than being with a cheat and a liar?!?!?


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, November 25th (Sunday)

I just saw this and after dying of laughter, I had to share it with the bus. I donít know about anyone else but I find some days itís truer than most.


btw, can we change the radio station?


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, November 25th (Sunday)

Seriously. Most of my girlfriends are either married or in relationships. When they talk about sex, my response is now:

"Shhhhhh. I'm beginning to get antsy. Just.....shhhhhh."


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, November 25th (Sunday)

Love the sign Time2grow !!

I'm still on the bus but refuse to again drive the damn thing, that would mean I am accepting my fate. I am NOT here forever.
I'm NOT!
I'm NOT !!

I'm starting a rebellion !
I HATE THE BUS !!
There I said it and I feel so much better than hiding the truth.

I will say the company is good and we do have fun but...

Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, November 25th (Sunday)

Thank-you gma!

I just realized I used the wrong die/dye. Thank gawd the grammar naziís are leaving me alone, Iím a creative speller to begin with.


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NoTriangles
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Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, November 26th (Monday)

Bad spellers of the world ...... UNTIE!!!


Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, January 28th (Monday)

I just realized that I passed 6 months a little over a week ago. Does that cover my fare?

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CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, January 28th (Monday)

9 months... Can I get off now? (That's what she said) oh damn, she's got jokes...

Scoot over gma, I'm sitting by you!! Rebellion is just my game


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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, January 28th (Monday)

Does that cover my fare?
Consider yourself "on board" h0peless. Congratulations, I'm sorry.


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, January 28th (Monday)

Who's driving?


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, January 28th (Monday)

6m here and I don't know that I'll be staying on much longer without having a little day trip soon.

Yoga just aint cutting it.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, January 28th (Monday)

It's been so long for me that I quit keeping up with how long its been.

Last time was sometime in September 2005.

I don't even think about it anymore. Kind of like I'm asexual or something.


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



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Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, January 28th (Monday)

It's been six months- am I a bus rider yet? I think I'll be on the bus for a long while...


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
----------------------------------------------------------
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 1:38 AM, January 29th (Tuesday)

19 months (I had to go back in this thread to figure it out)

No signs of getting off the bus any time soon. Not dating, still kinda a mess.

Oh but hey! I have beer. A whole cooler full of Arrogant Bastard in the 22oz bottles. We can fling the empties at bridge abutments and scream YOU'RE NOT WORTHY!!!!!

http://www.arrogantbastard.com

Who has snacks?


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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Default  Posted: 6:00 AM, January 29th (Tuesday)

18 months here. Not missing it as much as I thought I would. Although, didn't someone in some thread say that a-d meds can make you like that?? I'm trying to wean off them. So maybe I should reconsider.. .... oh, no, there goes the whole plan! I will either have to find a way off the bus or stay on the a-d meds! Well, I KNOW which one I would RATHER do!!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, January 29th (Tuesday)

It's been six months- am I a bus rider yet?
Welcome aboard, Survivor.

Newbies have to pick up the tab for the veterans. It's 2-fer Tuesday today.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)

20 months here.
Coming up on d-day anniversary number 2 and feeling like i'll be on the bus forever.


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He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)

Did not mean to embarrass myself twice!!!! Geesh.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 5:12 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)]


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)

So, who wants my seat?

Okay, I'm not off the bus yet. I'm just really, really tired of being on it.


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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)

Who's driving?

I believe Compartmented started bus driving duties back in September. I just earned my 6 month badge so I'm back on. Seems I missed the outer banks, California and Margaritaville. Have we made it to Australia yet? I've popped open a Foster's just in case!


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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)

Aside from a one-night hop-off in Italy in September , I am 7 months on the bus.

I'm glad we are rolling again though!!!

I'll fix some martinis.

Where are we headed now? Did we give up on Australia??


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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, January 29th (Tuesday)

NT if you're doing Chocolate martini's... I'll have one.

Is Australia having hot weather right now?


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Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, January 30th (Wednesday)

Very hot in Queensland, Australia right now and some flooded areas to detour the bus. Might need some off-road tires and a snorkel.

I'll take a chocolate martini or two too, please.


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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, January 30th (Wednesday)

Did we give up on Australia??

No - the damn bus made it to Australia.

t/j I've never actually seen a Fosters in Australia - only in the US end t/j

I'll take an Extra Dirty Martini Please. Old Fashioned. Whilst I think of day trips.


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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, January 30th (Wednesday)

I temporary hopped off the bus for a wild time. Hey, if you are going to jump off the bus, you might as well go all out!

It was great..while it lasted.

[Shakes head hard to clear memories]

But now I hit the 6 month mark (again) so I can officially re-board the bus.

~Snuggling in~


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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, January 30th (Wednesday)

It's been so long for me that I can't be sure of my last 'event' but I think it was in 2006, so hurtinky is probably the bus driver, but I'm at least the conductor.


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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, January 30th (Wednesday)

18months on this wretched bus so far, with the ride being no end in sight...O well, gotta enjoy what I got!!!


S,beginning D

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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, January 30th (Wednesday)

Is there space for one more?

One year for me. D still not final, still nursing the baby, and can't even fathom dating right now so I will probably be here a while.


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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, January 30th (Wednesday)

jilted, there's always room for one more. And as the newest rider, you get to buy a round.


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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, January 31st (Thursday)

If 6 months is the required time frame, then count me in.

The most frustrating part? When you see a bus stop coming up, and you gather all your belongings, thinking you're about to get off (pun intended) and then the bus driver just keeps going.

Edited because I do know the difference between your and you're.

[This message edited by notmeanymore at 9:20 AM, January 31st (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, January 31st (Thursday)

[This message edited by NoTriangles at 9:33 AM, January 31st (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, January 31st (Thursday)


Yes I'm still riding.
I've been working on myself and doing some very cool things for me ! It's all been good.

I think a bus trip to the Land Down Under sounds great !

Mardi Gras might be Ok too.

A cruise would be better right now.
Gma


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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

Mardi Gras... YES!!!!!


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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

The potential for innuendo in gma's post is killing me.


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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

oh Ama, now I can't unsee it


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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

The potential for innuendo in gma's post is killing me

Ama,you are a bad girl !


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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, January 31st (Thursday)


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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

Is that your innocent look ??


Gma


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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

I only have innocent looks

[This message edited by Amazonia at 5:39 PM, January 31st (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

I was driving for awhile, when we went north from the Outer Banks, but I'm not sure which side of the road to be on in Australia, so I'm sittin' in the back of the bus for now.

More snacks??


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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

Next round is on me then! I am not a martini person but damn that chocolate martini No Triangles posted looks so good I may have to change my stance.

Mardi Gras would be fun. Never been. The one year I had the chance to go with some guy friends, I passed b/c I had just started dating STBX and thought he might not be thrilled about that. Oh if only I'd had a crystal ball!


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Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, February 1st (Friday)

Thanks, NT. That looks great!!

Ama, very naughty!! Love it.

I brought a package of fortune cookies. Let's see what they say. Mine says I have amazing friends when I need them!


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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, February 2nd (Saturday)

Ama- you and I have similar humor-it's where my mind immediately went!


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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, February 2nd (Saturday)

Just sending a shout out to all you bus riders as I thought about you last night whilst shopping in the produce department (watch it, Ama) in Target.

A man right next to me was talking on his cell and he asked "Are you on the bus right now?" I started giggling and thought of you all. ((((to all the bus riders))))


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Cool  Posted: 9:17 AM, February 2nd (Saturday)

Ama- you and I have similar humor-it's where my mind immediately went

So I'm assuming that all bus riders are on board for a trip to The Land Down Under ??


yes we are a group with a slightly warped sense of humor.
Too funny Sister- about guy at Target asking friend if he's still on the "bus"! And in the veggie aisle !

Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 10:20 AM, February 2nd (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, February 2nd (Saturday)

This is the first time I have heard of this bus thing. Are ya'll talking about what I think you're talking about?


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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, February 2nd (Saturday)

bitchboots, six months celibate is your ticket onto the good ol' bus.


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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, February 2nd (Saturday)

And newest riders buy a round for the more *ahem* veteran riders.


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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, February 2nd (Saturday)

I think you just now made that up! I'll play along though. :-P


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Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over

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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, February 2nd (Saturday)

I think you just now made that up! I'll play along though. :-P
I resent that implication! I didn't JUST NOW make that up. I made it up a few pages ago.


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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, February 2nd (Saturday)

Smartass


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Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over

~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

Got on the bus back on page 2. Still riding. Got a bottle of wine if anyone is interested. Where are we heading? A beach maybe?


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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

Oh lord, the beach sounds amazing right now!


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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

HEY!! You, yeah you with the naughty dreams and Christmas gift ONS!!! Off the bus now, missy!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

Crikey, tesla. I'm from page two as well. Almost 16 months in and no end to the bus ride in sight. A beach destination sounds good for me as long as someone is on board giving pedicures.


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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

*gasp* I haven't had a pedi in over two years!! At least I can remedy that in the near future


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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

tesla, I'm on a strict once-every-six-months schedule just to avoid the bus.


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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

Ok, page 2 people - you need to stop bragging about how recent your bus boarding was, or the veterans might get cranky!

Driver! Find us a beach!


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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, February 9th (Saturday)


NIK, it's not that hard to hop off if you give up on emotional connection and/or self respect.


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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

NIK, you're next in line for a pedicure. *passes NIK box of incredibly good chocolate*


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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

NIK, you're next in line for a pedicure. *passes NIK box of incredibly good chocolate*
Take notes, bus riders. THIS ^^^ is how you butter up a Guide.

Thank you, tryingagain!


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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

NIK, it's not that hard to hop off if you give up on emotional connection and/or self respect.
Ama - Not that I'm looking to hop off (I have enough drama and complexity in my life as it is thankyouverymuch), but I assure you it's much harder to do so when you are a middle-aged working mom with a high needs kid and (apparently) a cloak of invisibility wrapped tightly around you rather than being an adorable young professional in a major metropolitan area filled with more adorable young professionals than you can swing a stick at.


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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

And yes, I might be living a bit vicariously through you. Stinker.
Loveyoumeanit.


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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

I've been on this bus so long I barely remember what it's like to be off.

Just counted it up, 7 1/2 yrs. GAH.


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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, February 9th (Saturday)

Nah, the further from self respect you get, the easier it is to find a quick hop off the bus, NIK. I mean, look at all the OW who manage it.


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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, February 10th (Sunday)

BEACH!!!!! Somebody pick a beach and driver start driving! (I'm sitting in the back with my bloody Mary listening to NIK and AMA discuss cloaks of invisibility and watching them swing sticks at young urban professionals. I don't know why they would do that, but heh. Interesting doings on the bus today)


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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, February 10th (Sunday)

Hey! I resent that! I am a young urban professional!


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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, February 10th (Sunday)

Will this do?

We'll need some of these...

Some of this playing off in the distance

Did I miss anything?

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 9:34 AM, February 10th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, February 10th (Sunday)

Just these guys.


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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, February 10th (Sunday)

Very nice beach thanks, NIK and very welcome addition to the beach AMA. Am now sitting back and enjoying the view....maybe I'll take a nap and enjoy my dream


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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, February 10th (Sunday)

I'm beginning to like this bus ride... eye candy is very nice. Thanks Ama.

NIK... love the choice of beach and the atmosphere and refreshements were a treat.

With stops like these... the bus ride won't feel so long.


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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, February 11th (Monday)

I'm just going to settle into a seat by the window, preferrably close to the potty. I'm in my 50's, it's comforting to know it's nearby.

I've been on the bus for about 14 months now


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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

*bump*


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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

Moo beat me to the bump


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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

That's what we guides do.

[This message edited by MovingUpward at 9:52 PM, March 10th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

That's what the FAST guides do, anyway.


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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

I still haven't gotten on the bus. I was pretty darn close in november (had gone 4 months with no action) but then met my now xbf. So my clock went back to zero January 29th, my last intimate encounter. I wonder if I will make it to July 29th and join you all on the bus?

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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

All the cool kids are doing it, PG. Errr.. umm... or not.


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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

Where's BOB??


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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

I believe each seat comes with a complimentary selection of BOBs.


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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

Sweet!! Here's a round of sex on the beach for my friends...


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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

I'm kind of enjoying the bus ride; I think it would take an exceptional man to get me to step off.


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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

Are mood swings normal on this bus ride?


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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

h0pe the pun here is too amazing.


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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

I know. Stupid bus.

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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

I believe each seat comes with a complimentary selection of BOBs

Mmmmmmmmmmmm.............

It's pretty damn bad when you know what features you want when picking out a new BOB.

I'm kind of enjoying the bus ride; I think it would take an exceptional man to get me to step off.

I know one but he's not interested.
There are other options but I would rather have him and I can't so I'll be on the bus.
Pass the wine and put some good classic rock on and I will be OK.
Hugs
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, March 10th (Sunday)

h0peless


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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, March 11th (Monday)

h0peless, that's too funny.

I just got my first ticket for the bus, although I've been eligible for almost a year and a half

Take me someplace warm, driver ! Someplace with fruity alcoholic drinks and hot cabana boys!


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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, March 11th (Monday)

I love you all, but I'm really tired of this damn bus.


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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, March 11th (Monday)

I'm really tired of this damn bus.

NH Ė I know the feeling (or is that lack of feeling)

Anyway, 3 years 2 months and counting. Maybe not for long though, when I have a minute to gather my thoughts Iíll have to post in NB.


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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, March 11th (Monday)

I'm on the bus, but I have to admit, I'm riding voluntarily, and not too unhappily. I will only have sex in marriage, so even a dating partner doesn't mean I'm getting off.

However, every once in awhile, man, the bus stinks.

Except the people. I am in good company. As far as I can tell, you all smell great.


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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, March 11th (Monday)

Forewarning::

Henceforth, I reserve the right to reply "That's what she said" any and every time someone says they are getting off.


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Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, March 12th (Tuesday)

Im riding the bus. I thinking it will be a long time before I get off. (no pun intended) Getting off the bus scares me at the moment!


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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

I'm riding the bus 19months now. I need to take time to heal. And since I will only have sex in marriage, I have resigned myself to ride on this bus for a long while...sigh


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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

I'm still on the bus. Probably will be for a very long time ... which is super pathetic since I don't even have a reason (like waiting for marriage) to blame. Three more months and I will be marking my 3rd year on the bus.

I need a drink. Who's tending bar today?


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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

I don't know who is pouring SG but I'll join you for the drinking!

I don't want to hit 3 years. Hell, I don't want to hit 2 years. 1 year and 2 months is bad enough!


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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

NH,

After the second year it is just like not riding a bike ... you hardly notice.

I guess I slide behind the bar. It's a bit brisk here today so I will be having an Irish coffee. What can I get for you, NH?


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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

SG,

I actually did go through some periods of hardly noticing over the past 14 months. But I'm really noticing right now.

I think I need a Captain & Coke. Make it a double.


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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

Move over, please, and allow me a seat......beloved hubby was on blood pressure meds, so I think it was sometime in late 2006 or early 2007 since our last attempt at doing the deed.

Am I at least getting close to earning my born again virgin merit badge?


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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

I'm in class. We're talking about loss of consortium. Teacher is telling a story about a case where the client was trying to argue loss of consortium with himself. That's taking the bus to a whole new level.


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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

Hey bus riders, I just made some Pozole Rojo with a compliment of garnishments and it is fucking orgasmic

Now who's got dessert?


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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)

I just finished a bailey's milkshake... I can bring you one.


[This message edited by Amazonia at 8:18 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, March 22nd (Friday)

Beep beep! Swinging the bus around for the weekend pickup.

Who's tending bar, 'cause Mama needs a drink.


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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, March 22nd (Friday)

I'm no bartender, but I will belly up with you, NIK. After the week I've had moneywise, I hope it's either Ladies' Night or someone else will shout a round. Hey, I think that monster sized bottle of Bailey's will keep us all happy for a loooong time. We'll have to give it its own seat!

ETA: Thanks for that, Ama. And you're not even officially on the bus right now, are you?

[This message edited by thebighurt at 7:08 PM, March 22nd (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Where is the bus headed now?

I'll have a Bailey's and hot chocolate.


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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Coming up on 2 years on this particular bus....Pour me a SoCo and Coke please


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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Beep! Beep! Looks like we needed to swing around for new riders AND stop by the liquor store...

How are we doing on food?


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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

I have a great bottle of rum that I'll contribute. And I'm really getting hungry. Have to start looking around for eatz.


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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Yeah, I'm about through my bag of chips...I second the eatz!!


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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

appies?


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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

The Google Ads suggestions for this thread crack me up:

Bus Route
Bus Service
Bus Time
Bus Bar

I'll have another margarita (rocks, no salt) please.


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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Chocolate strawberries and bananas?

[This message edited by Amazonia at 12:52 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

ummmmm....chocolate covered bananas just a little too suggestive for this bus rider. Just sayin'.


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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

17 months on the bus here, people! I want a chocolate martini and a pedicure, stat!

Ooh... g2g ideas...


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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

It was no accident, tesla


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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

@ Ama...*shakes head*...cruel, cruel woman.

I need a fling, stat. Uh, but I guess I'll go for a choc martini and pedi too, trying.


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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Mmmmm. Those strawberries remind me of the delicious Edible Arrangement DD got me last year for Mothers Day.

But the bananas are just cruel!


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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

There are pedis on the bus? Awesome!

Maybe I'll take a few more laps after all.


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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

...edited to add beet salad!

[This message edited by Compartmented at 2:08 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Iíll pass on the bananas and petis, but the rest of the fruit looks great!!

BTW, it takes 6 months to get on this thing . . . Iím at *** OMG, far to long *** and counting. Is there a time limit for being on the bus?

Iím starting to think like a nun and 7up, never had it never will!!


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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

It's after 5pm! I'll take a glass of Chablis please! Where is the bus heading? Someplace worth all this "lack of consortium" I hope!


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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

count me in for a pedi and everything chocolate!


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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Ugh!!! So want to get off this damn bus Could it be spring fever, vivid dreams of my co-worker crush??? Help


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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Where to next?


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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Omigosh, Ama! The bananas are hilarious.

I'm happily on the bus for now. I need the chocolate, the wine, AND a mani/pedi! Stat!


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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

Still a couple months out but who''s up for beer and cake?


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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, April 4th (Thursday)

Well, I have been running alongside the bus for a few years, haven't slept with anyone since xh either. Guess I had better officially get a seat. The only way I will meet a guy seems to be if I run over him between work, school and home, in which case I don't think he would be happy to see me. Plus friends constantly have to tell me after the fact that men blatantly check me out and I am oblivious. Sigh. Hopeless!

[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 6:40 PM, April 4th (Thursday)]


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On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, April 4th (Thursday)

Dlmos, molten chocolate cake! Yum.


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On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, April 5th (Friday)

I'll be honest, knowing there is a busload of folks here with worse luck than me is both humbling and comforting.

8 months for me, will probably break a year without trying..

Pass the wine and sliders please?

~Larry


D-Day: 8/27/12
Me: BBF (29)
WXGF: Confused26 (27) EA/PA with xBF, lasted almost a year. TT, blameshifting, gaslighting, & broken NC for 10 months.
DS: 3
Together 5 years

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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Bus rider theme song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BEJh-aMMpJ0


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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Goodbye, sweet bus.......


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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, April 13th (Saturday)

I think today'sDeal of the Day might be tailored to the bus riders


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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, April 13th (Saturday)

AMA that is too funny! I didn't even notice that. LOL


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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

I am not on the bus due to bakery shame, but Ama, I thought the exact same thing with the deal of the day!


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D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Goodbye, sweet bus.......

Ditto that! I've been riding silently with you guys and gals for 3 years and now I have reached my freaking stop!

It's been a REALLY good weekend for my new beginning.

I'll shut up now.


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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Deal of the day:
Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation (TENS) therapy unit that uses mild electronic impulses to stimulate muscles and alleviate pain
No thank you, I will suffer the bus ride without electroshock therapy or frontal lobotomy if you please.


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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, April 14th (Sunday)

Two people hopping off the bus on the same page?

People - there's hope for us all!


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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, April 14th (Sunday)

Well ... maybe not all of us.


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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

6 months to get a seat?
Not looking good out here!


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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

After the 6-months wait for the seat, it seems like it often stays in use for a considerable amount of time. Do we know how many riders there are and just how big is this bus? Is it in sections, or cars like a train to accommodate everyone.

I'm not figuring I'll give up my seat any time soon. Just wondering if some riders have to get off - pun not intended but it works - before more can ride. And to know how many to plan for when I bring food or drinks. We must be just about due for more eatz and drinks.


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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

If the bus makes it to Columbus, Ohio, I am in need of a cream puff from Schmidtís Haus.


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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Two people hopping off the bus on the same page?
People - there's hope for us all!


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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories???


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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

I think all you have to do is announce your leaving...I know I don't want details.

Hugs,

K


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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories???

I think all you have to do is announce your leaving...I know I don't want details.
Hugs,

K


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Cool  Posted: 9:09 PM, April 15th (Monday)

POLO!!!

I will have my one year anniversary on the bus on May 21st! I think that I officially become a born again virgin on that date! I should throw a party!


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Default  Posted: 3:27 AM, April 16th (Tuesday)

I thought I heard it's seven years till your considered a born again virgin.



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Default  Posted: 7:06 AM, April 16th (Tuesday)

Two people hopping off the bus on the same page?

Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories???

If they hop off the bus together the stories told are ON the bus ...


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Default  Posted: 5:26 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

Two people hopping off the bus on the same page?
Do people really get to exit the bus without telling stories???

If they hop off the bus together the stories told are ON the bus ...

I am seriously laughing out loud! I didn't check to see if my fellow former passenger is also female, but I can assure you I didn't switch teams.


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Default  Posted: 5:53 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

No,there's a guideline about those kind of stories. TR


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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, April 17th (Wednesday)

I am also female and I didn't switch teams either.

Edited to say this: I was attempting to be funny and lighthearted with my comment about the bat. Since my joke fell flat, and even offended, I removed the comment here and I sincerely apologize!

[This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 8:38 AM, April 18th (Thursday)]


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**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Remarried 2/14/14, grief and joy....

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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, April 17th (Wednesday)

*Sigh.*

[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 10:45 PM, April 17th (Wednesday)]


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divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

I love the er "bat" that the gentleman who helped me step down from the bus swings!

Woohoo!


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:51 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Wow....tmi


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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

I had to go back a few pages to find the bus. Did we lose the drivers?

I'd like to book a seat in advance please. Filing soon, have been on the bus for 3 months now. Tmi alert: Vj is one happy camper ever since then. My state is a 60 day to D, so can I be an official bus rider by then? Please, pretty please?


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Bumping for some of our newer NBers.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Just over ten months for me. You'd think they would have installed some more comfortable seats in this thing.

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Looked back to page 5 and found my first post on this thread. I'm now at the two-year mark. Damn.

At least D has been filed. I restocked the cooler ... anyone want a margarita? Come on back, rocks and salt, I assume?


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, June 17th (Monday)

I'm with hopeless, the seats are getting uncomfortable after 11 and 1/2 months. ugh. I'd love a marg, heartbroken. At least I still have alcohol! Thanks.

Where is the bus heading now? I think we were in Australia last time I looked out the window...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Ah; you novices I may not be the driver, but I'm at least the conductor. I've lost track of how long it's been, but it was definitely pre-2006 when I hopped on. I wasn't even an SI member then...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Polo,
4 months and counting. I will be here for while. I need to take the time to regroup and get a clean and healthy mind.


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 2:56 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

I'm hoping to hop back on soon.

Need to stay a bit longer next time I think.

Anyone want me to pick anything up for them on my way back? Wine, cakes, biscuits etc....?


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

2 years for me.
Almost to the day.
My last experience was HB so
Don't really think that counts.
I may ride the bus as long as Sad.
Don't really see myself dipping my toe in anytime soon.

Nope.
I'm going to install my own Lazy Boy chair in here since the seats are not too comfy.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Pick up some cookies and wine please. Arbor Mist Blackberry Merlot (the LARGE bottle) preferably.

25 months but who's counting

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

If I told y'all how long I've been on the bus, your eyes would fall out onto your laptops! My GYN and I even joke about my "reborn" virgin status.


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Anyone want me to pick anything up for them on my way back? Wine, cakes, biscuits etc....?
Yes, please and thank you. In fact, I think it may be time for a little fiesta to wake up the napping folks in the back.

Driver - we need a party spot!


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-Hayley Williams


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

I think I am going to settle into my seat and enjoy the view for awhile.

Pass the chocolate, please.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Too freaking long! I need a skateboard or something.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

My man was on the bus for 11 years and I was on for almost 7 myself. A message of hope: the pieces parts still function well even after long disuse and even past 61 years of age.

[This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 1:49 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


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**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Remarried 2/14/14, grief and joy....

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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Yeah the bus is moving again. Here I thought I was the only one riding.
Pass the salt shaker and the lime please. Whoo hoo party on!


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

New passenger hopping aboard! I should have joined the party 10 months ago.

I think I'll be here for a while :)


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

hit-by-a-train, so glad to know.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I wondered where this thread went. Well time to hop on board as well. Been 1 year for me and since STBX is moving out this Friday I think I will enjoy the ride for awhile. Someone point me to the tequila dispenser.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

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allatsea
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Has anyone thought that with all these BS's on buses that there is opportunity for the BW and BH bus to collide?!


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now has new baby
Divorced April 2014

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fadedrainbow
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

It's been since 2008, I've been hiding under the passenger seats all this time! I'm shy.


me: FBW
D-Day May 2005
divorced December 2009


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I was just looking for this a week or so ago. Wondering if we are heading anyplace exciting for summer vacation....?

Is the driver still awake or are we parked??


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I was driving for awhile....am I still at the wheel? Sorry.

Let's go to the mountains...too hot for the beach.

Destination Austria!


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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)

It's awful quiet on the bus! Where to next?

[This message edited by Compartmented at 6:23 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]


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harry&george
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)

Ok, I should have been here ages ago, it's been more like 17 months for me.

Please no bumpy roads in these tight jeans!!


ME: FBW 38
3 gorgeous kids
Divorced!!!

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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)

It's awful quiet on the bus! Where to next?

The planet Vulcan. I think there are some pon farr rituals that are far overdue.

I know I'm over the edge; I initially read the last poster's name as horny&george


BH, now divorced

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roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)

Remind me... how long does it have to have been to be bus-eligible?

Three months... and that was an ill-advised, post-S bakery opening.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)

You have to 'go without' for six months before you can board.


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Funny  Posted: 9:28 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)

Going on 14 months here!!! Good thing I did some Spring cleaning around the house this weekend....the cobwebs are really building up!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)

Been on the bus for 19 months. I hope it is like riding a bike and that I remember what to do if I ever get lucky


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." ó Daenerys Targaryen


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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, July 5th (Friday)


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Pass the limes, salt and tequila please. I just passed the five year mark.

Does that come with a medallion of some kind or what?


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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WakingFromADream
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Hi, I'll take that comfy seat by the window. And make mine a double, thanks.


Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13

Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Five years FaithFool?

I think you should at least get five swings at the piŮata over here at ice chest. After you take your shot, of course

WakingFromADream, you want that with rocks and salt, or blended? I grabbed a blender at the last stop cuz it's too damn hot in here!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Just a warning to stay away from the salivating man in the far corner who's been shackled to his seat the past 5 years. Do not engage. He's gone mad and is extremely dangerous.


BH, now divorced

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, July 6th (Saturday)


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

I think I got on a bus that is going to the hotel California. That guy tied up might be looking like easy prey soon.

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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Vampires are in these days. He'll meet a happy end.


BH, now divorced

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Default  Posted: 1:13 AM, July 7th (Sunday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Pass the limes, salt and tequila please. I just passed the five year mark.
Does that come with a medallion of some kind or what?

After five years, you get your own bus


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, July 8th (Monday)

TR--Those look like grave stones on that bus. Yikes.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, July 8th (Monday)

My sexual appetite died.. its the 2nd tombstone in the 3rd row on the drivers side of the bus.


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Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Squeee!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

((((busriders))))


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)


@ TR !
Nothing has died with/in me so it must be under renovation ? Maybe it's going to be new construction ?


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

After 7 years you can be considered a born again virgin.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I'm okay with a headstone for my former sex life. Just so long as there isn't one for my future sex life!

Personally, I'm getting kind of tired of the bus. Know how I can tell? I've got closing time-itis. The longer I'm on the bus, the better looking everyone is getting to be.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I always heard something grew back after 6 yrs for a woman..

I don't know about a man...


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Default  Posted: 12:44 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

I've been eligable for the bus for the last seven months. Time to hop on, some one pass me a Guiness. :)


Me: BS
HIM: WH
DD1 1/11 fb chats
DD 4/11 txt msgs
DD 5/11 hidden accounts for underground EA. Busted it wide open.
DD2 8/2012, new OW
Divorcing

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Compartmented
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Pass 'em down. How many on this bus anyway?

And snacks:


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Crashtestdummy
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

18 months and counting...

Had a couple if opportunities to get off the bus, but decided to stay on and enjoy the ride. Now starting to think that I need a bus-stop pretty soon.


BH-Me 51
XWW-her.... 54
2 Wonderful Sons: 32 & 21
D-Day: 09/22/09
Married 20 years
Divorce Final: 08/12 Enjoying Life!

"I Don't Suffer From Insanity, I Rather Enjoy It". Serge A Storms


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BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 4:36 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

19 months here and don't see a bus stop for myself soon.... Le sigh!!

I'll have some of the snacks please! And ice cream. Is there ice cream?


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

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Compartmented
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

"the wheels on the bus go round and round, round and round, round and round"

Where to Riders? What say you?

Cake, anyone?

edited to fix cake!

[This message edited by Compartmented at 7:46 PM, August 10th (Saturday)]


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WakingFromADream
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

Make sure to stock the mini-bar before we go anywhere!! Don't want to run out.


Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13

Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

13 months here. I'm getting ready to explode.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

22 months and counting... the next bus stop is NOWHERE in sight... and now I also want some peanut butter cups.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Compartmented
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, August 10th (Saturday)

I was thinking about the bus last night when a really OLD guy was hitting on me. He had trouble remembering what the name of the city is where one of his three houses is, and trouble walking down the steps. Uhhhh, NOPE! Still on the bus!!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, August 11th (Sunday)

Hey bus! Been chillin' back here for 19 months. Gonna need a stop soon. Real soon. Sigh. Pass the PB cups and a couple of pints of Guinness please.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, September 9th (Monday)

bump

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Ummm...five months. Feels like five years. Can I at least hitch my skateboard to the bumper?


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, September 9th (Monday)

I'm coming up on 14 months here. My callouses have callouses.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, September 9th (Monday)

2001

I win.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Oh NG, I'm not sure you should call that a win. Four years here. Sigh. Even FWB is starting to sound good and that is soooo not me. Kind of like how everyone looks good the closer you get to closing time.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Oh NG, I'm not sure you should call that a win. Four years here

I know, right?????


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9538 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
seriouslylostit
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Is a friend with benefits out of the question? It seems it might empty the bus!

Posts: 843 | Registered: May 2009
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, September 9th (Monday)

All you newcomers to the bus, just look up & you'll see me:


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9538 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
kernel
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5060 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

15 months and still counting.

Saw a pic somewhere that said it's like air, you never think about it until you aren't getting any.

[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 1:58 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

Posts: 1899 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
curiouswiz
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Member # 34405
Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

OMG..I just realized what this bus ride is!!! Oh, just oh...I'm beginning to feel as though I'll never get off the bus. I've been turned back into a virgin too! It's been more than 3 years for me maybe closer to 4???

I'd love a hug and a kiss and maybe a bite! grrrr....


God bless us, everyone.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Boston
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

My fellow bus riders, I bid you adieu...after 14 months B4me is exiting the bus. Although I'm not really sad to say goodbye, I did enjoy your company and it was so good to know I wasn't the only one not getting any...

satisfaction.

(a few more details can be found on my "where's the bus" post)

[This message edited by better4me at 4:39 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3099 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

This will put the squeeze on you bus riders!


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 21040 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
Faithsurviver
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Hey fellow riders, does this count? I met a great guy, were dating 2 months, we ended up between the sheets but the rocket failed to launch, twice! Ouch!! We are still dating but haven't tried since. I really care for him but I'm afraid its going to happen again (he has some health issues)


BW (me) 51
XWH 53, but acts like a 15 y/o
M 18 yrs
DS 16, DD 14 (on D-day)
EA,PA with OW, 30 yrs his jr.
DDay 11/30/09 (DS's B-day), WH moved out 4 days later.
I filed for D-1/29/10,
DIVORCED 10/22/10
You can't reason with an NPD!!!

Posts: 335 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Midwest
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

*waves goodbye to b4me*

Good for you, honey.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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gma56
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DOH!  Posted: 1:47 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

All I Can Say, I Hate Riding The Bus !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thought I was off for good but Noooooooo.....that was just a tease Gma.

I've been alone for 5 yrs and I'm so ready for my normal . I told my family if I'm missing I'll be in Alabama for a month !
It sucks when I'm in CA and we're both so damn busy.

The bad part is I'm not interested in anyone but HIM ! God needs to to give me time off and send me to Alabama. I will take it as a Christmas Blessing. I'll take my holiday blessing early God!
Ugggggggggh !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think this state is holding me hostage.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

I am sooo glad I bought a lifetime bus pass!!!

I took a short detour off the bus but I am back again.

I am mighty happy to be here too! I finally reached the stage of being content of where I am at this point of life.

Cheers!


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2061 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Back on the bus after a 4 months break.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

I'm doing my best to hop back on, well over 4 months now, let me know when a seat comes free, this time I want to stay here for good. It's not all it's cracked up to be out there. Too much emotional crap and vulnerability....!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 607 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
jilted12
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

21 months for me and though I have zero desire to start dating, I would really love a FWB about now. Had a really young guy flirting with me a few weeks back & I was almost tempted to find out what this cougar thing is all about! Alas, common sense took over & I think I will be on the bus for quite some time.


Me: BS 40
Him: WS 39
Married 10 yrs, together 13
DS-8, DD-5, DS-2
D-Day 5/9/12, 2 days before #3 was born
Filed for D 8/12; D final 4/13

"I used to be married but I'm better now"


Posts: 188 | Registered: May 2012
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

Hello fellow bus riders!
Im just happy sitting here in my seat. Im busy writing my "Single bucket list" of things I want to accomplish before I start dating. Anyone else with me?

Lets get this party started


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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welcome14
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

Well, I went to Destin by myself this year, something the ex and I did together. I was going to go to our places, and have cathartic tears, and take it back...so, I was looking at the outside bench where I sat crying for an hour cause I could tell he wasn't "there" with me, and he never came to check on me (was texting his whore). Waiting, waiting...no tears. Favorite restaurant? No tears. Then, I had the best vacation of my life. I got up when I wanted, had junk food for breakfast (i eat healthy at home), spent all day at the beach, came back to the room and napped, then went antiques and second hand store shopping, or to a bookstore, and got fresh shrimp from the seafood place... basically did what the hell I wanted. Best.vacay.ever. I met up with friends after four days down there alone, and wish that I hadn't, just stayed by myself cause I had so much fun. Now, single bucket list is Hawaii by myself! My daughter went last year, and my friend last month, and I want to go. I love vacationing by myself! It sucks that I am 50+ and just now getting the opportunity to find that out.


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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ISPIFFD
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Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

I've been a bus rider for 2.5 years now and have no desire to leave. Really. not. interested.

I'd love to go to Hawaii!!! XH and I lived in Puerto Rico for a year and a half back in '88 when our son was a baby (turns out that's when the ONSs that I now know about started...). But my point is that I always thought going to Hawaii would be so cool, but XH refused because I hadn't enjoyed living in Puerto Rico... Apparently if they're tropical islands, they're all the same.

I wish I had more friends to pass my time with, but I'm very happily rooted to this bus-riding life.


Me: BW (54)
Him: WH (61)
7/14/11 - Divorced

Posts: 1814 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: another world
brokendude
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Wait wait wait... what is this bus everyone's talking about? The foreveralone bus? The bus of singledom?

Ok, I'm on the bus. :( For about a year minus one brief rest stop.


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burnedcanuckEMS
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Eight months here. Finally realizing the bus is ok and that its not such a bad place to be. Its not that I don't want a relationship, I do, but it has to be right. For once in my life I am putting myself first, and I have a very specific list of attributes I am looking for and until that happens I may as well get comfy. Looks like it might be a long ride. And I am ok with that!!


Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
M: 07/07/07
DDay: 06/09/12
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!

"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"


Posts: 236 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Alberta
worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, November 11th (Monday)

Well I am going to be very truthful. I HATE THE FUCKING (no make that the NON FUCKING) Bus.

Oh well I am here and will be staying. I am picky and not willing to settle for anything less than I deserve. I am going to wait until I meet HIM and until then I will just sit in the back and pout.


Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.

Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Texas
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

(spits coffee) worried lady, I think you just answered broken dudes question.

I think this is the point in rotation in this thread were we talk about bob.


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

@welcome14: Vacationing alone is my FAVOURITE THING EVER!

Well into Year 5 here and quite happy thank you very much.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17341 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

Who's driving the bus? We need a destination. Let's get this party started!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, November 12th (Tuesday)

I hopped on a few weeks ago..

Proud to be in such good company!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 726 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

@FaithFool- I'm kicking myself that I didn't try it before, and I bought into that "you must be part of a couple to have fun" bullshit.

As for everyone else-


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1175 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)

^^^^^


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17341 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
newnormal
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Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Marco


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

I'm off at the yellow flag stop. I'll let you all know if I hop back on... Enjoy the ride, it is a lot less complicated!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1126 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Polo!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Back on. For a long time if you ask me. Had a few stops there in between but boy, for now I like my seat. Leaning back, with my book and earplugs, a few snacks and I am ready to go around the block for the next 12 months at least.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
whatdoto
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Polo!

First time on this bus. Been 12 months and think I'll stay for a while. Hi ya'll!


"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

Posts: 1187 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
better4me
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Although it hasn't been the full 6 months (I think it is 3 months and 20 days, but who's counting? ) since my last brief stop can I hitch a ride? Or do I gotta wait the full 6 months??

Have we picked a destination yet? Who is the driver and more importantly--who's pouring the drinks?


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3099 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
fraeuken
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Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Wait, it's 6 months wait time? I am wayyyy less than that but really want to be on the bus. May I please, please join?


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

I'm pretty sure the bus ticket taker can be bribed.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, January 10th (Friday)

Wow, and here I am, without even realising it, with a valid ticket.

Sorry I'm late, my seat still free from last time?

Hoping to stay for the foreseeable future, especially now I'm tea total.....

Do you let dogs on? She's hypoallergenic so no worries about anyone being alergic to dogs......


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 607 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, January 10th (Friday)

Sorry, y'all. I was just quietly riding this bus. After last night's date, I will just quietly sneak off. Y'all are fine company, but ... you know.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1840 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, January 10th (Friday)

Pass - Yeah, we know. It's not us, it's you. Whatever.

So... date? Were McFlurries involved?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Nice Pass, guess that banjo wasn't as much of a turn off as you thought it was. Now, step quietly and quickly off of the bus.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, January 10th (Friday)

PS if no one else is volunteering, I'll start pouring those drinks. Please do not forget to tip your bartender


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Sorry IL, I'm on the wagon.

I've taken up permanent residence in the RV the bus is towing. It has its own bar. We could use band back here.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 3:15 PM, January 10th (Friday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17341 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, January 10th (Friday)

No problem, I am a wizard with the non alcoholic drinks too. I have 5 kids and I am pretty good with blending smoothies plus I could use the workouts running between the bars


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Pass
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Pass - Yeah, we know. It's not us, it's you. Whatever.
So... date? Were McFlurries involved?

I swear, NIK, you never forget anything! No McFlurries: She made me a very nice dinner, and proceeded to compliment me through the whole thing. It's been about 18 years since a woman complimented me, so I was putty in her hands.

Don't worry, I'm taking it slow. It will take much more than a few - very nice - compliments to ever forget how far I've gotten.


Nice Pass, guess that banjo wasn't as much of a turn off as you thought it was. Now, step quietly and quickly off of the bus.

Turns out in this case the banjo is a bit of a magnet. Who knew?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1840 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, January 10th (Friday)

My seat on the bus is very comfy and has formed to my rear quite nicely thank you very much! I have a great window view, and I'm enjoying the company!
No need to get off anytime soon!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2214 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, January 10th (Friday)

No need to get off anytime soon!

.......... snicker* StillLivin said "get off"


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5777 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, January 10th (Friday)

CG, you just made me snort out loud.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Nothing gets past CG lately.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

Laughing!!! Oh but how sad for how long I have been on this bus ride. Hope my stop comes soon. Yes, CG, I just said comes.


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 446 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

I swear, NIK, you never forget anything!
Yet another service I provide.

Irishlass - if you're still serving, I'll take a margarita on the rocks. Extra salt, please and thank you.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

Drinking A Margarita And Started Coughing It Out My Nose. You Guys Are The Funniest! Lol Get Off smh.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2214 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

NIK, coming right up and I'll have a pitcher waiting for refills


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

I'll take a long island iced tea please!

Are we heading anywhere or just driving about aimlessly??

Who's driving these days??


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4610 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, January 12th (Sunday)

Tesla Tea coming up. I have no clue who is driving or where we're going but I am enjoying the ride and the company.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, January 13th (Monday)

This bus ride is making me nauseous and Bob is just not cuttin' it. I need a bottle of wine!!!

Posts: 119 | Registered: Oct 2013
Pass
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

And I am quietly slipping back onto the bus, hoping nobody noticed me leaving.

Looking back over my past, it turns out that I have a super power: Sex with me is enough to turn any woman into a stark raving lunatic. Who knew?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1840 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Looking back over my past, it turns out that I have a super power: Sex with me is enough to turn any woman into a stark raving lunatic. Who knew?
Trust me pass...the stark-raving was already there. They just kept it masked for awhile. I know from experience.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, January 15th (Wednesday)

What'll it be boys? And Pass, Bran is right. She was always stark, raving she just didn't let it out until you let Pass Jr out to play. Ya know?


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

I've been avoiding this thread by living in F&G . . . that was . . . until . . . someone posted about the bus. . . . Hard to believe itís 4 years now. Iím not doing anything to make myself available to the opposing sex but somedays it would be nice to have a partner/companion/friend. . . . Anyway . . . returning to where ever I came from.

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

Awe T2g, you're always welcome on the bus. We all get it (or don't get it ) so nothing to be ashamed of.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

Swinging the bus around for the new crowd.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

I'm still on this thing and I don't mind a bit.

But the bob threads from the last couple of weeks have got me thinking...


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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GreatRoleModel
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

Been quietly riding the bus for two years so time to say I qualify for an annual bus pass the rate I''m going as I am about to start year 3!


BS (me)
XWS (him) NPD
DIVORCED!!!
It takes a village to deal with the village idiot!

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

I was silently, for the most part, on the bus for almost 4 years. I am waving from the sidewalk but if I have jump back on I will be in good company.

Better on the bus than dealing with an ass.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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MinorBee
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

2 years...4 years...I wish!

I just turned over the calendar to the start of year 8. I think I've forgotten how to do it.


previously married for 20 years
DDays: which time?, OW's which one?

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Smashedat58
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

I'm not divorced yet, but if this a bus filled with celibates, I could have been riding along with you for the last five years of my marriage. What's the name of this bus?

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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, March 16th (Sunday)

4 years and 2 months . . .

I was hoping to be kicked off the bus before seeing this thread again.


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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 1:43 AM, March 17th (Monday)

I guess I'm on this bus now.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


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cdagal
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, March 17th (Monday)

I've been quietly looking out the window and enjoying the scenery for close to 4 years now. There's a lot to be said for it but damn, it would be nice to get out and smell the roses sometimes


M - 25 yrs
DDay - August 5, 2010
Divorced - December 12, 2011
He married the OW 35 days later
"Fall seven times, stand up eight" - Japanese proverb

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, March 17th (Monday)

...if this a bus filled with celibates...
That's exactly what it is.
What's the name of this bus?
The %$#&@*% Bus. Or more correctly, the NON-%$#&@*% bus.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, March 17th (Monday)

"Streetcar Named Desire" ...


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, March 17th (Monday)

Or more correctly, the NON-%$#&@*% bus


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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, March 17th (Monday)

Coming up on 3 years for me.

The only interest I have had is from a married co worker.
Won't go there for obvious reasons.

Going back to the BOB thread now to do some more research.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, March 17th (Monday)

1,161 days.(give or take a few hours)

BOGs are too expensive and I have drown my sorrows in food so much that I can't even get into my own pants. Leisurely 10 mile strolls a few times a week and researching food porn for new recipes late into the night is not helping the situation.

Somebody get me a cheeseburger(with applewood smoked bacon, Pt. Reyes crumbled Bleu Cheese, a nice aoli, red onion, butter lettuce and some sliced Black Prince tomatoes on a fresh baked brioche)...


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, March 17th (Monday)

Thanks, jpapa.

Now I'm hungry as well as horny!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, March 17th (Monday)

I can't even get into my own pants

..holy crap.. I was on this bus for 12 days this month.. couldn't get off the bus fast enough..

..smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, March 17th (Monday)


Ohhhhhh, look at the seductive way the cheese just dribbles down the side. That plump, juicy patty simply dripping with succulent juices. The bacon laid prone across its bed, splayed and ready. The coyly hidden onion waiting to be found underneath the layers of a hot, fresh bun. The come hither overall look. The desire it has to be taken up in some caring hands, caressed lovingly and devoured in the throes of unbridled passion. Licking the last remnants from the side of your mouth in a slow and deliberate motion. Still smelling the musky goodness hours later on your clothes. The understanding that, although it may last only a few moments, the memories of this experience will remain forever....


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, March 17th (Monday)

That looks amazing, Jpapa. Can I please have one with mozzarella instead of bleu cheese?

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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, March 17th (Monday)


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, March 17th (Monday)

Yum! Thank you!!

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, March 17th (Monday)

SMY - Minimum time frame for getting your bus ticket validated is 6 months. Move along, sir. Nothing for you to see here.

Jpapa - DANG! That is some quality food porn right there. I'll have what Jo's having.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, March 17th (Monday)


.. 6 MONTHS ??

..I'd rather die first!!!

..Jpapa... food-sex... Hmmmmmmmm! looks tempting.

..would that be a slippery, greasy slope to slide on??

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, March 17th (Monday)

I'll have what she's ^^^^^^^^ having. TYVM!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Violated
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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)

Ohhh, don't stop


Divorced 10/2013

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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 3:32 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)

Empress, sorry I'm late- I had to werk in between food porn surfing. I opted for carmelized onions and pineapple on yours with a sesame sauce.

SMY, you wouldn't die you'd just spend hours drooling over food porn. (And that ain't grease, it juice.)

Do you have a request Violated or are you breaking the 12 1/2th commandment "Thou shalt not covet they neighbors cheese, nor their bacon, nor their 80/20 ground sirloin.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, March 18th (Tuesday)

It is illegal to make references to "hot buns" on the bus rider thread


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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Compartmented
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, March 22nd (Saturday)

WOW! Didn't know there was so much porn on the bus!!

Every now and then I surf through profiles on dating sites. I must live in a rough area, because more look like serial killers than not. Scary!!

So, I come back over here to SI, and now I'm desperate for a juicy cheeseburger!!


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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Compartmented, you need to make specific requests or suffer through the whims of my taste. I decided to go with a bacon cheeseburger with pastrami and avocado, I hope that's OK.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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CheshCat
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Is The Bus celibacy?
Because, if so, yuck.

Last year of marriage.
1 year in divorce land.
2 years post divorce.

Gah.
If our cells regenerate at a rate of 100% new cells every 7 years... Then I'm more than halfway back to being a virgin.


Chesh.


"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother

Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam
Divorced! 2013


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, March 23rd (Sunday)

I am only 4 months in but really want to be on the bus because I am just tired of all the work that goes into not being on the bus. Not having to trim around the edges all the time - liberating. So if there is accelerated access, I would like to take a seat in the back, relax, grab a good book and a fuzzy blanket and enjoy the ride.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, March 23rd (Sunday)

Avocado and bacon? Of course! And pastrami? I'll try it! Yum and THANKS!

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, March 23rd (Sunday)

fraeuken - I always thought it was 6 months to join the bus, but if you jump off after that, you can just jump back on again. I'm so not the boss of the bus, though. So grain of salt and all.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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brightsidegirl
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, March 23rd (Sunday)

14 months and no end in sight!


I tried to be everything you'd ever want and sometimes I even stood on my heart and stomped. Now I'm finally alone and dressed for the show but going nowhere.
--Sara Bareilles

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, March 23rd (Sunday)

Burgers are looking good in here. Was feeling a little peckish and could do with something to focus my staying on the bus decision!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, March 23rd (Sunday)

After a burger pie and ice-cream sounds good. Pies are one of many things I make in the restaurant.


Custard


Strawberry-Rhubarb


Blueberry & Cherry Chocolate going in the oven.


What sounds good?


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Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, March 23rd (Sunday)

What is this post about?

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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, March 24th (Monday)

Caretaker1 - This thread is for "bus riders". A "bus rider" is one who has been celibate for a minimum of 6 months.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, March 24th (Monday)

Enough people have asked that I finally added a little description of The Bus in the first post on the thread.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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CheshCat
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, March 25th (Tuesday)

ROFL... Thanks!!!

I have the feeling the description was self evident based on posts at the time.

I just had the old joke stuck in my head :

"Dating? Men are like busses. You wait and wait and wait, and and wait and wait and wait.... And then four of the suckers come at once!"

Which didn't quite make sense.

Chesh >^..^<


"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother

Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam
Divorced! 2013


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, March 25th (Tuesday)

Yep....I'm going on 4 times the requirement of being a "bus rider".... BOO! All I gotta say is...my daughter's sperm donor was really REALLY good in bed....so I'm in no hurry to be disappointed by the next guy..... (big shoes to fill...quite literally! )


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, April 11th (Friday)

Who's still on this bus with me? Is the bartender with the great margaritas still here?


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, April 11th (Friday)

I'm still here.

I enjoy my life without alcohol, I'll have a компот (Kompot) instead, please!


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, April 11th (Friday)

Did somebody say Margaritas?????
I was at the back taking a nap.
I'll take mine on the rocks with salt and an extra twist of limes.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, April 11th (Friday)

Can I have one of those skinny margaritas? I tried one recently with a friend and it was really good!!

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, April 12th (Saturday)

I'm still here!!!

Enjoying the view, not enough to give up my seat.

Who's driving?


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 12th (Saturday)

Six months!? Meh, lightweights!

Six years here and not budging anytime soon. I'm enjoying the ride, it's smooth, scenic and uncomplicated.

What is a skinny margarita?

I discovered gin last month. When the gift certificate that I won finally arrives, I'll be in the schmancy cocktail bar sampling their wares.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:45 AM, April 12th (Saturday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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burnedcanuckEMS
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, April 12th (Saturday)

I am solidly in a comfy position on the bus too! Its been just over one year for me. Just after New Years I decided it was time to start looking at whats out there and joined eHarmony. That has turned out to be a raging disappointment, I have had a few inquisitive matches but none that I even remotely want to meet so i took all of my info off and now back to not looking! And I don't even seem to care!! You could say I am saving myself for the right kind of guy and until he comes along I am staying on the bus!


Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
M: 07/07/07
DDay: 06/09/12
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!

"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"


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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, April 12th (Saturday)

Kajem, I was driving but I'm not now! More fun to drink in the back!

What is a skinny margarita?

I discovered gin last month.

I think a skinny margarita has artificial sweetener of some sort, probably something I wouldn't have if I knew what it was. But it's way less calories!

Gin! So many great ones out there!


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Crashtestdummy
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Finally hit a bus stop after 6 times the bus fare (36 months). I did enjoy the company of the fellow bus riders, but am sure glad I am finally off and hope not to need a seat on this bus again.


If I found a bus stop then there are other stops out there for all of you.

Take care

Crash


BH-Me 51
XWW-her.... 54
2 Wonderful Sons: 32 & 21
D-Day: 09/22/09
Married 20 years
Divorce Final: 08/12 Enjoying Life!

"I Don't Suffer From Insanity, I Rather Enjoy It". Serge A Storms


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luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Looks like that seat opened up just in time for me, thanks for keeping it warm crash!


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


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npain
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

I'm on this bus for the long haul..33 months and counting with no end in sight...

And no desire to get off of it right now either...Enjoying the peace and solitude


S,beginning D

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, April 21st (Monday)

Strapping myself into my seat!!!!!

Hormones are going crazy lately. Not dating and definitely don't want a ONS. So strapping myself to my seat.

This too shall pass......


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, April 21st (Monday)

Thursday will be the second birthday in a row on the bus for me. I find myself prone to unfortunate outbursts these days.

[This message edited by h0peless at 11:26 PM, April 21st (Monday)]


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ISPIFFD
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)

Since I'm a female just barely under the age of 55, I was required to get a pregnancy test before the surgery I had last week. I tried to tell them about the bus and how I've been riding for... oh... about 3 years now, and that seriously -- barring a true, honest-to-God, call the Vatican, miracle -- there was no reason for the test. At. All. but i had to get it done anyway...

No miracle there

Still on the bus and expect to be for a long, long while

[This message edited by ISPIFFD at 11:24 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]


Me: BW (54)
Him: WH (61)
7/14/11 - Divorced

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)

Yay, I'm on the germ-free bus! Technically still married, but no way in hell am I getting on that ride again. I never did like using public facilities.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, June 23rd (Monday)

Marco


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Polo!!!!!!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I have been on this bus for 4 years and 1 month. Any other long timers?


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I'm not sure what the exact date of my last pre-bus excursion was, but it'll be two years for me in a couple of weeks.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Six years and seven days.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Few days short of two and a half years


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

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MinorBee
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Somewhere around 8 years here.


previously married for 20 years
DDays: which time?, OW's which one?

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

3 years and 1 month. Damn, that is a long time


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Over 2 years here.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Way too long!!


Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:09 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

About a month shy of three years.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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strad
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

I'm a new rider. Howdy.


Me: BW, 49
WH, 51
son, 18
d-day 10/1/13
married 26 years
Divorced 3/21/14

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brokeninfl
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

5 year rider. Someone get me a plaque. I deserve a "reserved" seat.

And pass the margaritas!


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

A little over a year later and i'm still on the bus. 2 years...pass the bourbon!


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

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LineInTheSand
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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

Closest I got was with Steve 15 months ago. But he was wiener-withholding. He would do everything BUT that (including things that IMHO should happen MUCH later) because "intercourse changes things."


HOLD UP!!! I'm confused. Wouldn't your "actions" still disqualify you from riding the bus?? Or does it have to be actual intercourse?

Somebody please explain the exact qualifications necessary to ride the bus. Thank you!!

(I might be on the bus sooner than I thought. )


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

3 plus years for me.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, June 25th (Wednesday)

Only just over a year for me


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

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luv2swim
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Default  Posted: 2:56 AM, June 29th (Sunday)

Hmm... riding that bus back seat for what seemed like a very VERY long time.

But now, I have decided that I am no longer a "Bus" rider. I am now driving my own motor home!

I do remain open to the possibility of sharing this global adventure drive with a romantically incline other. However, counting the weeks, months, and finally years of "Bus riding" kind of depresses me. So, I like the thought of being independent. Open to possibilities. And, not missing a second of life by and by. It is a different focus. A zest for full life that is open to opportunities and adventures. BUT, not so focused on my bus seat.

Know what I mean "Bus riders"?

[This message edited by luv2swim at 2:58 AM, June 29th (Sunday)]


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, June 29th (Sunday)


But now, I have decided that I am no longer a "Bus" rider. I am now driving my own motor home!

I do remain open to the possibility of sharing this global adventure drive with a romantically incline other. However, counting the weeks, months, and finally years of "Bus riding" kind of depresses me. So, I like the thought of being independent. Open to possibilities. And, not missing a second of life by and by. It is a different focus. A zest for full life that is open to opportunities and adventures. BUT, not so focused on my bus seat.

Know what I mean "Bus riders"?

I get it. You want to lead this excursion. The bus and a your friends can follow you to different adventures and party when we arrive. When you find that special someone the party bus will approve, and start taking a different path.

About this motorhome, what's it like? Pics?

I had a pop up for years. I love camping, as long as I'm not sleeping on the ground and have ac.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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luv2swim
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Default  Posted: 1:39 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday)

The motorhome is figurative. In reality, it manifests as a "GO FOR THE GUSTO" lifestyle and is driven internally.

Over the past few years, the "Motorhome" has often taken the form of an airline tix and an airport rental car, with a destination... and a very loose route. I will certainly head off the beaten path to experience the possibilities along the way.

The "Motorhome" has also taken the form of job offerings in remote and unusual locations, that open up experiences I would not have had if I had stayed married. But too, the "Motorhome" often takes me out of my comfort zone. You know... on to unexplored roads that sometimes have "Hazards Ahead" signs! Basically, the "Motorhome" concept pushes me out of my comfort zone, to live a life I would LIKE to live, but sometimes need that extra little push to actually step into. I guess, for me, it is a mindset that places me into the drivers seat ... and the journey is EXCITING! I would like to share it with a beloved other (that is not a dog!), but if this fella and I do not meet-up, well ... I sure am having a wonderful adventure!


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday)

I like your motorhome.... Don't forget to share your adventures!!

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, July 3rd (Thursday)

There's a sense of pride that comes from ridding this bus Yup! Getting off it wouldn't take that much effort but I want more and deserve it so I'll continue to sit here and enjoy the ride


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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curiouswiz
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, July 3rd (Thursday)

Oh my. More than four years on the bus and I think I'm a stowaway. I didn't buy the ticket. Sometimes it hurts but most days I'm fine with it. I want to be held close. I want whispers in my ear. I want a snuggle into my neck.

Okay! Better stop this crap now! ahahahahahaaa

Seriously; I just want a good friend and let a relationship blossom. Is that too much to ask?


God bless us, everyone.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, July 3rd (Thursday)

Time for a holiday party on the bus!

What do you think of the new paint job?

Some snacks

A little refreshment

poofed the drink - too darn big

Who's got the entertainment?

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 7:38 AM, July 12th (Saturday)]


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, July 3rd (Thursday)

Yawnnnnnn, and stretching. I just woke up. Where are the drinks? When did the bus get painted???
Ahhhh, a Margarita or 3 would really hit the spot now!
Wow, the company and scenery are spectacular!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 3:25 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

I'm a little nervous. When I pulled up SI just now, the Google Ad at the top was advertising for bus drivers. Does this mean we are just careening down the highway with no driver?


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Mmmmmm, snacks look great! I'll have some of everything EXCEPT that pasta....I'm skeered of that! Love the new paint job!!

Party on!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

When I pulled up SI just now, the Google Ad at the top was advertising for bus drivers. Does this mean we are just careening down the highway with no driver?

SAZ? You still at the wheel, honey?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

A little over 2.5 years on the bus now, and although it's frustrating at times, I'm good with it. It is a lot less complicated, that's for sure.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, August 30th (Saturday)

A little over 2.5 years on the bus now, and although it's frustrating at times,
I don't Even want to calculate how many years I've been riding the bus! I have found out when it is more frustrating...when there's a person in your life whom you think would be nice!

My doc says a BOB can take care of sex, but it doesn't always work that way....

I'd really like OFF this bus! In the meantime, though, I had to rescue this thread from page 14!!! Yowza! We need a new driver.


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, August 30th (Saturday)

How do you know you've been on the bus too long?

When reviewing this thread and reading "getting off" the bus makes you snicker like Beavis and Butthead...


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, August 30th (Saturday)

I have NO idea what you're talking about cg.


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-Hayley Williams


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, August 30th (Saturday)


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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shiloe
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, August 30th (Saturday)

.....Sigh......

Polo


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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9years
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Default  Posted: 1:10 AM, September 1st (Monday)

Sounds like the driver should start taking the scenic route! LOL. If not I'll drive, but I stop lots, ya know for pictures, bathroom breaks etc


Just say yes to the rest

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Riskybusiness
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, September 1st (Monday)

I am on the bus. 1 year now.
*sigh. Longest stint since ex and I began at age 16!
No end in sight, and I am currently ok with that.


Me-39
EX-41
Married 21 years
DD-19, DD-17, DS-15, DD-11
DIVORCED

Rejoice in hope, persevere in tribulation, be devoted to prayer. Romans 12:12


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, September 1st (Monday)

9years,

Any driver that stops for bathroom breaks is ok with me.

Marco!!!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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