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timestandsstill
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, July 28th (Saturday)

Fictional story about WH who leaves for an OW. Good for a good cathartic cry - author's description of what the main character goes through when finding out is recognizable.

Now I haven't finished it yet, but it's pretty good for reading about an A from this perspective. I don't know what the "revenge" is yet unless it's the main character living well in her new life.


Me, BS 37
Him, WH 40
DS 12
Together 17 years
2010-2011: Serial As and false Rs
Sept 2011: Moved in with latest OW, 21
OC born June 2012

Posts: 159 | Registered: Oct 2010
Keepcalm
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Member # 36234
Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, August 11th (Saturday)

I am reading "A Rural Affair" by Catherine Alliott. In the book the husband is an ass, killed by accident and then it's found out he was having an affair. Kind of cute, not deep but somehow satisfying.


BS Me 56
WS Him 54
Married 30 yrs
DDay 1/28/2012
I have no idea what is going on

Posts: 124 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Virginia
PippaPeach6
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Member # 37523
Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, November 16th (Friday)

I read this book pre-A and loved it. A very cathartic book, and doesn't hurt that I love Brit lit! Great story for New Beginners ((((((hug))))) .I had no idea how close I would identify with this story later in my own life. . . I actually re-read it not that long ago, and knew that, push come to shove, I would be that strong woman Thank God we're in happy R.


Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Reconciled

Honey Badger don't care. - Randall


Posts: 386 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Flyover chic
Edie
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Member # 26133
Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, November 16th (Friday)

Read it post A. The revenge is good.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5018 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, November 17th (Saturday)

I read it pre A, picked it up again post A.

I think it's still on my bookshelf as a keeper.

Let us know what you think of the ending.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4850 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, November 18th (Sunday)

I haven't read any fictions since my d'day. I think I'm ready to do some reading now. I'm so happy you posted this book. I'm going to pick up from my library tomorrow! Thank you for the suggestion! dmari


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2116 | Registered: Oct 2012
luv2swim
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Member # 13154
Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, November 25th (Sunday)

When I read this book I was a middle-aged woman hoping for some sort of karmic justice to strike my H and his OW.

This book is gentle and even sweet, and it provided me the vision of future justice I so desired as I was negotiating divorce with my H. I do not remember it as being too triggery either ... which was a factor in my reading choices for a phase of my healing.


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

Posts: 350 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: US
loserhusband
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Member # 12734
Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, November 26th (Monday)

I think that I would love a book were the fucktard gets his in the end :)


ME BS 54
HIM WS 56
M 30 years
DD 9/20/06
Wow has it really been that long ago ;(
OP 26 year old co worker

Never make someone a priority who considers you an option
Keep the Faith, but Ration the Trust, It is better to be pissed off than pissed on


Posts: 1091 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: east coast
loserhusband
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Member # 12734
Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, November 26th (Monday)

I think that I would love a book were the fucktard gets his in the end :)


ME BS 54
HIM WS 56
M 30 years
DD 9/20/06
Wow has it really been that long ago ;(
OP 26 year old co worker

Never make someone a priority who considers you an option
Keep the Faith, but Ration the Trust, It is better to be pissed off than pissed on


Posts: 1091 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: east coast
luv2swim
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Member # 13154
Default  Posted: 1:57 AM, November 28th (Wednesday)

He does ... and if I remember correctly, to an extent so does the other women. Plus, the Middle-aged Women does so very well in the end. Rather a satisfying read.


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

Posts: 350 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: US
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:16 AM, January 14th (Monday)

Hi

I haven't read the book but saw the movie.

I really liked it and would bet the author was a BS.

Christine Lahti is the star and she is fabulous!!!! Unfortunately it was a Telemovie and I haven't been able to buy it anywhere.

Highly recommend it!!!

Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2738 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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