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courageous
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, February 18th (Monday)

I'm wanting to get a tattoo after surviving the battle/war that has been my divorce and my new freedom from my cheating ex.

I really like something that goes with either bible verse: "he will restore what the locust ate" or "be strong and courageous" (I kind of like this one more because it has a slight double meaning for me)

I don't know of any pictures that would go with either one of those. Phoenixes are very common and I'm looking for something different.

Does anyone have some suggestions? Or do you have any tattoos you would like to show/share?


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


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WakingFromADream
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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, February 18th (Monday)

How about something like an Ouroboros? From Wikipedia: "It can also represent the idea of primordial unity related to something existing in or persisting from the beginning with such force or qualities it cannot be extinguished."


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, February 18th (Monday)

Well locusts eat plants, so maybe your favorite, or a regional plant, pristine or slightly chewed, whichever conveys the meaning most aptly to you.

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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, February 18th (Monday)

You can tattoo the words. My dd had a fave saying and had it tattooed on her shoulder. She plans to add flowers in the future


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

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courageous
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, February 18th (Monday)

A slightly chewed flower or heart sounds good

I'm thinking of the words along with something since it will be on my hip..

[This message edited by courageous at 6:04 PM, February 18th (Monday)]


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, February 18th (Monday)

I was just reading an article on Ginko Trees yesterday... they are one of the oldest types on the planet and very resiliant. As a matter of fact, they were supposedly the only vegetation that survived within a mile radius of an atomic bomb blast.

Your inquiry made me think of the tree. They're quite beautiful - and they come in male and female but you don't know which one you have until the flowers bloom. They're also said to be used for folk-medicinal purposes that aid in memory, and that kinda ties in with doing something in memoriam.

Interesting, and might look good on a hip.

ETA - I have one tattoo on my hip, and I'm very happy with the placement.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 1:46 PM, February 18th (Monday)]


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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, February 18th (Monday)

You know, it just seems like you're immortalizing this time period with him - and your success getting over him - with a symbol that will last forever.

I don't think he deserves to be immortalized on your skin forever because he was an assclown and you survived his assclownery. He simply doesn't deserve ANY real estate on your skin.

Rather than a symbol of successfully 'getting past' what he's done to you, how about instead a tattoo that celebrates a life lived well?

JMHO.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, February 18th (Monday)

I have two tattoos (so far). One is very simple. It says, "surrender." It is inside my left wrist. It reminds me of how far I've come, in letting go of what I cannot control. (It also reminds me, on bad days, to do so.)

The other is on the inside of my right foot, shaped in an arc that follows the arch of my foot. It's a quote from a sermon made by Unitarian Universalist minister Francis C. Anderson, Jr., in very simple black "type." It describes how I feel about a a live lived well. It reads, "a living soul stands rooted and reaching" (It is all lower-case, with no punctuation.)

It reminds me to stay grounded, while continuing to reach for new experiences. I may add on to this with a plant with roots and leaves reaching upward, but haven't yet found the plant I want to use....

I also plan to have one of Picasso's peace doves added below my surrender tattoo....the colors of the dove go well with it, and because the message to "surrender" has brought me such peace, they complement one another very well.

[This message edited by solus sto at 6:33 PM, February 18th (Monday)]


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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, February 18th (Monday)

Do you user Pinterest? Lots of tattoo ideas on there!


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courageous
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, March 25th (Monday)

So I finally got my tattoo. I went ahead and fixed my old tattoo that was on my hip from over 15 years ago. It is a heart with handcuffs hanging over it

On my other hip I picked the outline of a heart with the words "Proverbs 31:25" written on the edge. The verse is "She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future."


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Personally, I love it


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Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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still-living
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, September 25th (Thursday)

Thinking: pyramid with eye on top, 7 tiers high, with D-year written across base in roman numerals, with dagger through heart in background.


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, September 26th (Friday)

How about something like the SI logo of the bandaged heart?


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, September 27th (Saturday)

WOW someone dug way back in the SI vault to resurrect a thread almost 2 years old!

I was reading it... read a response and had deja vu all over again when I read MY response from Feb 2013!

[This message edited by Lucky2HaveMe at 4:04 PM, September 27th (Saturday)]


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, September 28th (Sunday)

Right, Lucky2?!?! I was surprised to see I responded here too.. but I like it. I like it all. I love what courageous ended up getting.

I'm itching for new ink too.... but I'll start my own thread sometime.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 28th (Sunday)

Let me start by saying that I am a huge art and tattoo fan. Before my stbxww infidelity and my divorce I was a virgin(tattoo virgin). I decided I, not wanted but needed a tattoo after surviving the trauma of my wifes actions. Do not let anyone tell you what to or not to get. the tattoo is for you only! so many people had told me not to get it , that it was negative and that I would regret it but I ignored all those ignorant people.I have no suggestions of what you should or should not get but I will tell you to take your time and pick a good artist.
I got my whole arm sleeved from top of shoulder to my wrist all around. It is a full sleeve that is all about my ex,my kids,my life and I love it , it is a constant reminder of the pain I have suffered and when I fall weak to her games and to the red flags of other woman I look at it and remember the pain. this works for me.
eventually I will add some positive words as I continue the tatt across my chest. Good luck with yours I love the idea and wish you the best!


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Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, September 28th (Sunday)

I just got a tattoo yesterday. My second. It's a hibiscus with my 4 children's names around it. They are the only constant in my life and I absolutely love it!


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XH-doesn't matter
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courageous
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, September 29th (Monday)

I have to say I was a little confused when I started to get email notifications about a post I wrote. I was really freaking out that maybe I posted something after taking a sleeping pill. Glad to know that I wasn't "drunk/drugged" posting

So I'm still loving the tat I got last year.

I like it all. I love what courageous ended up getting.

Thanks jrazz


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


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