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BrokenRoad
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Question  Posted: 10:00 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)

I find it interesting that many of the people showing pictures show Curly hair, then Straight hair ....

And also 'before haircut' and 'after haircut'.

So tell me this:

1) Do you consider your hair to be better straight or better curly, longer or shorter when trying to impress?

2) Not to leave out those without hair, do you wear a hat when trying to impress or purposely not wear a hat (I mean like a fedora or Woundedby2's red hat).

3) Finally, pro or con on the hat with a feather.



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BrokenRoad
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)

My answers:

1) I curl my hair to impress (but when flying it only lasts one day since my curling iron is huge and so is my hairdryer)
Always long hair for me.

2)Love playing with hats and I have some including a cowboy hat but dont wear them, too self conscious!!

3)My hats dont' have feathers but a small one would not be shunned.


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LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)

My hair is curly, not like crazy curly, just moderately. Whether it gets straightened depends on a couple of things.

1. How recently have I been to the salon. My stylist is the only person who straightens my hair with any skill. and
2. Is my daughter around. On the occasions when I have attempted to straighten my hair, I've mostly failed (I only do the top layer
). So, my dd will come in and with a typical sigh of teenage exasperation finish the job.

I don't do hats, I look like a dork. Literally.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)

My hair looks best at shoulder length. I prefer it cropped (pixie) but every guy I've ever dated hated it short. It's too much upkeep getting it trimmed every 3-4 weeks anyway.

I use dry shampoo for volume after washing on days I want it to look nice. Otherwise, I'm as lazy as you can be with hair. Shower, towel, comb, go.

Feathers are cool, but not as cool as bowties, fezs, and Stetsons.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 10:39 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)]


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CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)

I am naturally curly, hate it. If I let it dry naturally, I will pull it up. *nobody got time for that*

I like my hair all lengths, but have to have bangs of some sort, if that makes sense!

For dudes, I like bald, short hair and sometimes longish hair, but never styled girly. Hairy face, yes...bushy, no.

The only reason I would wear a hat is to cover a bad hair day!!


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)

My hair is naturally wavy and very thick. If I don't straighten it or curl it, I look like I have a peacock living on my head It really depends on the length and the amount of time I have to do my hair. I currently have chin length hair Most days, I just straighten it so I look presentable. When I am going to church or want to look cute, I do the flip out do. When my hair was longer, I would put it in hot rollers to make the ends curly and that is what I will do once it is long enough, again. As far as "better" there really is no "better" with my hair in regards to style. The only better that comes with my hair is when it's thinned (vs letting it grow and not thin it out).


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

My hair is naturally wavy and tends to frizz, so I almost always straighten it. However, it has a mind of it's own and never behaves.

Hats are ball caps and only for serious activity, like hiking or the beach on a windy day. I love to hike, so I have a nice collection of hats. My favorites are my official NY Yankees cap and my 'Wicked' cap--because I am

Feathers would just be ridiculous on a ball cap


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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 1:06 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I have naturally curly tight curls. I prefer it medium length to long. I wear my curls the majority of the time and straighten it once or twice a year for a week at a time. I go to a salon that specializes in curly hair and they make them look fantastic.


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

Can I protest this as being discriminatory to those of us who are follically challenged? I haven't had a choice since I gave up the comb over when I was 25!


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 2:02 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

54, she gave those that are follically challenged the *hat* option.....


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:21 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

Sigh, got so fired up I posted without fully reading. A habit I've gotta break!

Au natural all the way. At least til the windchill gets into the negatives. (at which point a feather would be a liability.)

Thanks for the heads up Gonna!


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I have naturally curly hair from the European/Jewish side. But I also have very thick hair from the Chinese side. Combine everything and I get what you would call a Jew-fro. I keep my hair very long (down to my waist or butt) to weigh down the curls. So when it's humid instead of a fro I look like Troy Polamalu.

1) I like it curly but on,y if the weather is just right. An ounce of humidity (which is pretty much always) then it's up in a pony tail or a bun. I do like it straight and I think I look more Chinese with straight hair but it takes for.ev.er. to straighten. But always long...and lots of product, straight or curly, if I'm going somewhere important.

2) I've been told I look good in hats but I don't wear them.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I have hair like a toddler, very thin, and very fine. I kept it long for a very long time, and to "fix" it for fancy I would curl it. And it would stay looking gorgeous for all of 10 minutes without a can of hairspray.
About the time of the A, I chopped it all off. It will never be long again. I wear it short, and love it. It is easy, cute, and looks like I have a lot more hair than I really do.
I like hats, mainly baseball caps for outside stuff, gardening, fishing etc, I really like my cowboy hat, but don't have the chance to wear it often.
Feathers in a hat are fine for fancy affairs and church. (neither or which I do on any regular basis)


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

1. I go thru phases. Sometimes I prefer it straight, sometimes curly. It has gotten ridiculously long, but JM likes it long and I don't mind it, so long it is. When I was in high school, I wanted curly hair SO bad. I would get perms and they'd last a week and then it'd go back to straight as straw. Now that I am older and would prefer it straighter, it has gone wavy/curly. When I am going out and want to feel beautiful, I put hot rollers in and then just finger comb the waves out.

2. JM shaves his head. He almost always used to wear a ball cap, but has not worn a hat as much. His head makes me SWOON. It is so freaking sexy I can't contain myself sometimes. And now he has grown a very nice, neat beard and that drives me crazy too.

3. No opinion whatsoever.


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

My hair is thick and naturally wavy since kids. The right cut and hairstylist can bring out the curl with a hairdryer and mousse.
I don't seem to ever get the same effect
Mostly I just brush it and stick in in a ponytail. It takes a really long time to blow-dry and I'm lazy and spend all my time with children who could care less what my hair looks like

To look nice for a dinner or something I will either take the time to blow dry it and add some product for curl, or straighten it. Otherwise it's wavy and weird and drives me nuts.

And I have no opinion on hats because my head is a pumpkin and they look ridiculous on me



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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I have straight hair with the *barest* hint of curl. Right now, it's the longest it will ever get. For some reason, it will *not* get longer than just past my shoulders.

Not really into styling other than pulling it into a tail for work. Other than that, I wear it down. Product doesn't really work for me either. To keep curls in it, I'd have to use loads of hairspray. Otherwise, they fall out in minutes.

I'm thinking of getting it cut this summer because even though it's thin and fine, it still gets hot.

As for shower time, it's shampoo, rince, conditioner, rinse, towel dry and brush.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

1) Depends upon my mood, the weather and what I plan on doing that day. I like my hair longer, but not too long. My hair has some natural curl to it, but I usually blow dry it straight. If it's humid enough, my hair will curl whether I want it to or not. In fact, a few weeks ago on a particularly humid day, my son told me I looked like a poodle.

2. Hats/caps don't usually look that good on me, so it's rare that I wear one.

3. Feathers? Only if you are at the Kentucky Derby.


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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I have very long, curly hair. Just like Merida from the movie Brave, except I'm not a redhead.

Generally I like to leave it curly, because it's easier. If I really want it straight, I will put it in a bun when I get out of the shower, leave it that way overnight, and then try straitening it the next day. But it's too much work for me to do that very often.

I will get it cut about once a year, usually right before summer. It's way too much hair to have to deal with going to the beach/pool. I get it cut to right under my ears, just enough that I can pull it into a tiny ponytail if I want to.

My H is bald (well at least partially, he shaves the rest). He likes to wear hats in the winter, because they keep his head warm. I personally like the beanie hat style, fedoras not so much, and hat's with feathers are best left for horse races or old lady's at church.


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I forgot to post about my husband. His hair is thinning drastically, pretty much balding which sucks because he in his young 30's. He doesn't care however, so I don't. Honest. The only way I would care is if it bugged him. I think he's wonderful no matter what

He has however started what was a joke at first. Someone asked him "So what are you going to do when it all falls out."
He said "I'll start a jaunty cap collection of course"

That year everyone we knew bought him "jaunty hats" for Christmas and he wears caps and neat hats all the time now



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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)

1. I have curly frizzy hair, it looks better curly ( it took me a LONG time to like my curls) I have straightened it a few times. It looks okay straight. It looks great shorter...like chin to shoulder length but I do like it long, too.
2. I LOVE hats I look great in them, and have a lot of them
3. I've never worn a hat with a feather, but it could be awesome!

Right now I'm debating growing dreads...


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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, March 20th (Wednesday)

I have thick slightly wavy hair which I usually cut myself in a long "gypsy shag"...to my shoulders.
(My hair -- and nails -- grow extremely FAST! )

I have yet to find a hat that suits me but I usually like them on others. Feather is a plus!


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permanentpain
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, March 20th (Wednesday)

My hair is naturally very curly. I straighten it only when I want to look a bit more sophisticated. Both have their pros and cons


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