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User Topic: Happy Birthday, Deeply Scared!
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Happy  Posted: 11:38 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Hope you have a day filled with love and joy.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Happy Birthday DS!!!! Hope it's a wonderful, fantastic day and an incredible year!!!!

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Happy Birthday!!!!

Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24591 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday DS!!

Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert

Posts: 3245 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!!!

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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy birthday!!!!!


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52581 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Perfect cake for you. Happy, Happy Birthday. Hope it's a great year too.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2381 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday

BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday, Boss!!!!

WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!

BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6

Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy birthday DS!! You picked a wonderful month to be born

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday, DS!!!!

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4202 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Me, too - Happy Birthday! last Sunday, party today, good choice of birth date....

Thanks, too, as always.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10341 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Very happy birthday to you!!! I hope you enjoy the day and have a great year.

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happiest of birthdays to you my friend!!
I hope it is a wonderful day and a stellar year for you

“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday, I hope you have a wonderful day and upcoming year.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday DS!!!!!!

Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!

BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2977 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
really trying
Member # 5311
Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

May the saddest day of your future be no worse than the happiest day of your past.

Happy Birthday DS!

Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08

The future's so bright - I got to wear shades

Plant Seeds of Kindness

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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I hope it's as awesome as you are.

Choices, Chances, Changes.....You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change.

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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy happy to a wonderful person who has brought so much happy happy into our lives!

Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."

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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday DS!

I hope you have a wonderful day!

I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.

Posts: 5433 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday,DS!

FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 7673 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy, Happy Birthday Baby!! (Admit it, you sang it!)

Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6547 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday DS



Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2754 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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Cool  Posted: 4:08 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!

{Him}FBH - 43 (WifeHad5)
{Me} FWW - 44
2 kids 7 & 12
Reconciled :)
Beauty and folly are old companions.--Benjamin Franklin

Posts: 10730 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday DS!

Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday to one of my heroes, Deeply Scared.

Hope all your birthday wishes come true!

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 9793 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthdau, Sweetie.

BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

Posts: 426 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy birthday, DS!! Have a wonderful birthday!

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 7824 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

Posts: 6655 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
Sad in AZ
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

DS! You denied us cake too??

Happy Birthday!!!!

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy birthday DS!

Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2776 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Enjoy your special day.

Love you to pieces.

She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

Posts: 7605 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: Poolside
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Holy shit. Just saw this!!!!! Happy Birthday, DS!!!!! You're amazing!!!!

Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth

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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.

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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!!!!

FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children

"Your secrets keep you sick"

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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday, DS!!

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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday, DS!!

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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)


I hope your day is filled with delicious wine, MH hugs, and puppy kisses!!!

Love you!!

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17787 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

[This message edited by bitchboots at 9:33 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)]

Me: BS
DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary.
Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over

~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
"May your past be the sound of your feet upon the ground"...FUN

Posts: 333 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Dallas
tired girl
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday lady from Hlessons and I!!!

Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5056 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Deeply Scared
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Oh my gosh...thank you so much!!!

I had the best day ever!!!! Crawfish, an excellent cup of chili, cold beer, live music, great wine, golf courses, shitty martini's, pool party planning, Hello Kitty at our neighbors house, excellent friends, a shot of tequilla in there somewhere, rain, huge boats and everything in between

It was the best way to say "fuck off 49!"

(((Hope)))I can't believe you made an appearence...I love you so much

Thanks everyone...tomorrow is going to be another wonderful day with friends treating me to brunch...and I just know I'm going to come home with the most delicious bottle of wine from one of them

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 10:12 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)]

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, March 23rd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday DS!!!

I smiled reading ALL the fun stuff you got to do today. Enjoy tomorrow too!!

Me: BS
Him: WH

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Default  Posted: 1:38 AM, March 24th (Sunday)

Happy Birthday DS. Since it's only 8:40 in Hawaii, you still have over three hours to celebrate Your day.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

I'm sorry I'm posting late my friend.

It sounds like you had a fantastic birthday. I saw the pics from your g2g, you look like you're just turning 40.

I wanted to wish you a very happy birthday, may all your wishes and drams come true. You deserve it.

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

Happy belated, DS!!!!!

Posts: 1967 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: PA
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

Happy belated from me too, DS!!

"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Member # 8408
Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

Belated Happy Birthday!!! I hope it was wonderful!

Posts: 2143 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: SoCal
booger bear
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Cool  Posted: 2:20 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

I hope you had a wonderful birthday yesterday. I thought of you all day, for it to be a special day.

I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18810 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: OK - Hot as hell here !!!!!!
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

..belated Happy Birthday DS. Texans really know how to pack in a day full of fun!

( i enjoyed all the g2g pics)

..and i'm still drooling on my keyboard with all the cake photos, especially that chocolate one with all the balls on it..MMmmmmmmmmm good.

MH has got to find a way to let SI folks reach through the monitor and grab a sample!!

this 'virtual' cake is so frustrating..

best wishes to you DS..


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf

Posts: 4129 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

Happy Birthday DS


If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.

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Member # 8142
Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, March 24th (Sunday)

Belated Happy Birthday!!!

~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, March 25th (Monday)

Belated Happy Birthday!

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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, March 25th (Monday)

"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 21265 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, March 25th (Monday)

All the Hello Kitty pics have been taken, so I'll just chime in with a...


Sounds like it was fabulous!


Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

Posts: 21068 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, March 25th (Monday)

Happy Belated Birthday, Deeply Scared!

Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Member # 5772
Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, March 25th (Monday)

Hope you had a very happy birthday full of cotton balls!

Me BS(49)
WH passed away on 3/21/2013(52)
2 Kids S(24) D(21)
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."–George MacDonald
"Not being able to govern events, I govern myself." –Michel de Montaigne

Posts: 17682 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Guatemala
Member # 24902
Default  Posted: 12:52 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

And you didn't tell us when we were all there!! We could have had cake....

me BS the Big 6-0!!
him WS 56
married 28 years
together 31
DD 6/10/08
ow #1,2 lta on and off since 1995
ow 3 ons summer 2005
2 D, mine from prior marriage, but he raised them
R'ing...probably not....but then again, maybe....

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