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nowiknow23
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Frustrated  Posted: 11:38 AM, March 25th (Monday)

The last three weeks have been hell. To make a long LONG LONG story marginally shorter...

1. When DD "fell" and hurt her sacrum three weeks ago, it was because she was lowering herself out her 2nd story bedroom window, trying to run away from an explosive episode during which she attacked me and pushed me through a glass door. (I wasn’t injured.)

2. She ended up being transported by ambulance (with me), spent a night on a trauma ward being observed for spinal damage, and then a week on a child psychiatric ward.

3. The psychiatrist in the ER called DHS to open a report against me for denial of care. The DHS case worker was/is wonderful. She interviewed my DD in the hospital and then me over the phone the next day.

4. After being released from the hospital, DD spent the next two weeks in a youth home (temporary shelter) 45 minutes from home, since it was clear that it was not safe to have her in the house with me given her violence toward me and her dangerous impulsivity. I saw her every day at the shelter, and brought her home for the day during the weekends to avoid her having to spend unstructured time with the other residents, who were several years older than DD and came from very rough backgrounds (think gang affiliations).

5. During one of those weekend days at home, she accidentally cut her hand on a piece of glass, and we ended up back in the ER for 5 stitches.

6. As all this was going down, my Dad was admitted to the hospital in my hometown and we discovered he has congestive heart failure on top of his inoperable kidney cancer.

Still with me?

7. I posted a few days ago that we found out DD has been accepted to a residential treatment program and will be moving there within the next few weeks. She'll spend somewhere between 3 months and a year in the program, getting much needed psychiatric and medical therapies.

8. DD came home from the shelter Friday night (her allotted time ran out), so as a safety measure, I asked Wasband to stay here in the spare bedroom so there is another responsible adult on hand in case she has another explosive episode before a bed becomes available at the residential program. If something does blow up, he can help defuse the situation and/or call 911 as needed.

9. Just got off the phone with the DHS worker. She is coming over this afternoon to meet one more time with DD and then give me the outcome of the investigation. Even though I’m expecting it to be “unfounded,” I’m nervous. I’d be crazy to not be nervous.

So I’m asking for some mojo, positive thoughts, or anything else you’ve got on several fronts. In no particular order:
A. Swift placement for my DD in the residential program.
B. Heart/kidney mojo for my Dad.
C. An “unfounded” finding in the DHS investigation.
D. A short, effective, and cooperative engagement with wasband staying here.
E. A way to retain/regain my sanity through all this.

TIA


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, March 25th (Monday)

All my mojo and good thoughts coming your way!


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, March 25th (Monday)

Mojomojomojo headed your way.

(((NIK)))

Hang in there, hon. Best of luck with everything on your plate.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, March 25th (Monday)

Sending all the mojo I have, NIK


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, March 25th (Monday)

NIK -

Sending up thoughts and mojo for you!

And a few cyber hugs to keep on hand for when you feel like you need one!


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Good thoughts, prayers, mojo--whatever you need!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Sending all possible mojo and a big ass ((hug)).

Out here DHS is called dyfus. I had two experiences with them. The first was frightening. Both turned out okay. From how you explained your initial meeting with the lady, Im guessing all will go well.

Mojo...knock on wood...tap iron....


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Mojo, hugs and tons of peaceful thoughts headed your way.

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stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Sending mojo NIK. And hugs.
((((NIK))))


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Wow, that's a lot for anyone to deal with.

Sending prayers and mojo your way.

(((HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Thank you, guys.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Sending mojo...

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, March 25th (Monday)

~~~~MOJO~~~~ for all of your needs!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, March 25th (Monday)

(((NIK and family)))

Sending mojo, good thoughts, prayers, and love.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Damn NIK - you can have all my mojo. It's like frequent flyer miles, never use it


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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bbee
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Mojo!


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, March 25th (Monday)

C. An “unfounded” finding in the DHS investigation.
The caseworker just left. Unfounded!!! Woo hoo!!!!

Final report will be mailed out next week, but the case is closed and found to be without merit.



You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Sooo, when do you get your "We were idiots and this was without merit" compensation check?!?!

Rats.

On a sunshiney note I'm thrilled that justice prevailed here - what a nightmare coated nightmare.

All the hugs in the world to you, loves.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, March 25th (Monday)

{{{{NIK}}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, March 25th (Monday)

(((NIK)))

so many good vibes going out to you. that is just waaaay too much!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, March 25th (Monday)

wow. damn. and wow again.

YAY for unfounded finding!!

But seriously Nik, stop hogging all the drama...

(((hugs))) and all the mojo for what still hangs with you.


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, March 25th (Monday)

But seriously Nik, stop hogging all the drama...
Sorry, caregiver. I'll try to share a bit more.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, March 25th (Monday)

uh, when you put it that way..............

NEVERMIND! KEEP IT, please!!!


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, March 25th (Monday)

(((nik))) coming in a little late but sending you tons and tons of mojo and positive energy, along with lots of hugs.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Here's an extra bit of mojo for you


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, March 25th (Monday)

All the mojo I have coming your way!!!!

(((NIK and family)))


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, March 25th (Monday)

VERY glad for "c"

Mojo for the rest.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Thank you.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Sending many good thoughts and mojo your direction!

(((NIK and family)))


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, March 25th (Monday)

Belated mojo for you here, too!

And hooray for unfounded!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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leapyearbaby
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

A little more mojo for you...

I think you could have used the g2g!!


me BS the Big 6-0!!
him WS 56
married 28 years
together 31
DD 6/10/08
ow #1,2 lta on and off since 1995
ow 3 ons summer 2005
2 D, mine from prior marriage, but he raised them
R'ing...probably not....but then again, maybe....


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

lyb - there's no doubt I could have used it, but there was NO WAY I could go with all this going on.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

lyb - there's no doubt I could have used it, but there was NO WAY I could go with all this going on.

Well you are welcome to join us in St. Louis in May. Stop Sign Ninjas Represent!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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dameia
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Wow, it sounds like it has been a very trying month for you! Glad to hear about the unfounded finding, send prayers and positive thoughts your way!


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Bring on the stop sign ninjas - they don't scare me! St. Louis is on my calendar. If things stabilize, I'll be there.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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veritas
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

mojo!


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Just saw this. Happy for the outcome of *C*. So sorry you are dealing with so much, especially all at once.

Much MOJO (caps makes it stronger) to you for everything left to deal with. ((((Hugs)))) to you all - except )wasband!(. Extra hugs for you to help deal with him.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Continued prayers, nik & DD.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

A.
B.
D.
E.

Mojo for you.
I hope everything improves as much as C. did.


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Sending mojo and (((hugs)))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Late to the party, but adding MOJO to the mix and hugs.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Wow, NIK, that's a lot to deal with.

sending mucho mojo your way!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Thanks.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

NIK, Count me in for the unfinished points. Keep breathing. Stay centered.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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bitchboots
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, March 30th (Saturday)

I just saw this. (((NIK)))

You have more on your plate than any one person should in their lifetime, let alone all at the same time.

Sending mojo, hugs, good energy and positive thoughts your way girl.

More hugs....


Me: BS
DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary.
Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over

~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
"May your past be the sound of your feet upon the ground"...FUN


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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, March 30th (Saturday)

Just saw this. Sending positive thoughts.


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, March 30th (Saturday)

Thank you.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, March 30th (Saturday)

Mojo for you today!!


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, March 30th (Saturday)

Mojo for you NIK and family.


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, March 30th (Saturday)

(((Nik and family))

Mojo and prayers for the other plates you have that are over flowing.

Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Just got an update on the timing for DD's residential treatment placement. There are two girls ahead of her on the waiting list, and several of the current female residents who they were hoping would be ready to go home are struggling lately, so now it looks like it will be late May before DD gets in.

I'm struggling with that news. That means another 6 weeks of white-knuckling here with DD, trying to keep things under control. I'm sure we will make it, but I know it will take a massive toll on both me and DD.

Could use a bump of mojo for those struggling girls to help them regain their footing so they can complete their programs and return home in a healthy way.

And any extra patience you can send to me and DD would be GREATLY appreciated.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 7:21 PM, April 12th (Friday)]


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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dameia
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, April 12th (Friday)

(((NIK)))

Sorry to hear about the bad news. I will be sending prayers and mojo your way (and for all the girls in the program and, of course, your DD).


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Oh, NIK .
Sending a ton of mojo your way. I hope you can continue to get support from your loved ones and can find some peace between the difficult moments.

Hugs to you.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Sending extra mojo.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, April 12th (Friday)

(((NIK))) & (((NIKlet)))

(((struggling girls)))

Mojo for all... is your XH still staying with you too?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, April 12th (Friday)

((((Nik & DD)))

I'm sorry. I hope that late May gets moved up to April.
Sending super mojo.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 12th (Friday)

More mojo ... tons! (((NIK)))


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, April 12th (Friday)

(((NIK))) continuing to send mojo, strength, patience, peace. and seriously, I'll send chocolate too, if you need.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, April 12th (Friday)

.. is your XH still staying with you too?

No. He was excused from his duties after about 3 nights.

Thank. Heavens.

He lives less than 3 miles from here, so if he's needed, he can be here in a matter of minutes. Fortunately, he hasn't been needed yet (knock wood).


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, April 12th (Friday)

And thank you, everyone, for the additional mojo, hugs, and offers of chocolate.

I feel like I've been a sucking black hole of need lately.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, April 12th (Friday)

I feel like I've been a sucking black hole of need lately.

We all get a quota based on our life-circumstance/mojo-required ratio.

According to my calculations YOU are personally allotted 25.6 hours a day of constant mojo, good thoughts, love, and strength.

(((NIK)))


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Sorry. Still thinking of you and your daughter and hoping for a quick opening at the center - and no uproar while you're waiting.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9753 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, May 9th (Thursday)

UPDATE -

We were notified today that there is an opening for DD starting on May 31!!! Just 3 more weeks!!!

So very VERY relieved that we've got a concrete date and that it's reasonably soon.


You can call me NIK

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 9th (Thursday)

I''m glad that something opened up for her relatively soon. Continued MOJO and prayers that the next three weeks are placid, boring, and truely yawn-worthy for you.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, May 9th (Thursday)

I could do with some placid, boring, yawn-worthiness. Thanks, skan.


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Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, May 9th (Thursday)

YAY!!!!! So glad you guys have a date and a plan in place now. Sending continued strength and love to you both



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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, May 10th (Friday)

I rarely read in here, so I am very late to the party.

But I am sending you LOTS of mojo and peace.


(((((HUGS)))))


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, May 10th (Friday)

I'm envisioning 2 easy transitions - closing on house and moving DD in to center.

(((NIK))) - thanks for the update.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, May 10th (Friday)

I truly hope you are right, sisoon.


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Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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