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jackie89
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

So tonight I find out that OW is pregnant, apparently its her husband's!

She went back to her BS, in July, I believe her BS does not know full extent of affair. Thinks it was only EA, like she told him.

I have not told STBXH, about this latest development.

Should I? And does it really matter?

I don't really know how I feel about this? And why do I still care, as long as its not STBXH? I can still access his cell records, (yeah yeAh I know) and last contact was July 14, my DD#2!


Separated - working on R

Posts: 451 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
beenthere2?
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

If you really believe it is over, stay NC and don't brind it up to WH. There is no need for him to know or care.

I can still access his cell records, (yeah yeAh I know)
Nothing to yeah, yeah about. I am three years out and I still check H's phone now and then.


Me: BW 34 Him: WH 36
Married 10
Dday #1 5/15/10 claimed EA/just friends
#2 9/20/10 (admitted to kiss w/ same OW
#3 11/29/10 admitted to a lot more

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

I don't see any point in telling him. Leave that door closed.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, March 27th (Wednesday)

Oh honey...the pregnant OW story is as old a dirt. I'll bet she "miscarries" soon...but I might be wrong.

If you're done, and you have no children with STBXH....it's his problem, NOT yours. I know it's hard not to snoop....but DO NOT get involved!

Truly, you have been laid off from the position of someone who should give a fuck about his problems. Let him deal with his messes. You go on about your merry way and try to ignore the trainwreck.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
noprincess
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Default  Posted: 5:39 AM, March 27th (Wednesday)

Hi Jackie89,

I'm in agreement that if you believe your STBXH is still in NC with OW then let it go. Do not tell him.

As for a point made by beenthere2, I would make no apology for access to the phone records. Your STBXH lied to you for a LONG time, the OW was a friend. After how you've been brutalized its only natural to keep a wary eye.

As to why this matters to you...I think its only natural to have a curiosity about the OW, even if that chapter is closed...we all stop to watch a train wreck, it just that you're not on the train anymore!


"Never, never, never give up." - Winston Churchill

Posts: 138 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, March 27th (Wednesday)

Thank you so much for the advice.

Yes, I agree not saying a thing to STBXH.


Separated - working on R

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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, March 27th (Wednesday)

Meh. I'm a bitch.

I'd probably tell my husband that the zoo had decided to breed her in order to propagate her species, so she's knocked up now.

But I'm funny like that.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1542 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, March 27th (Wednesday)

NeverAgain, today, I was so tempted to text him that.

"Aww guess your Skank girlfriend has really moved on, she must be so in-love with her hubby again"

But, he would only say something stupid/mean to me and I would be the one hurting. I much prefer for him to find out on his own and, and me tell him then, I knew all along!


Separated - working on R

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