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Koswe
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, March 28th (Thursday)

My husband left the country about two years ago to Australia for work and barely 6 months of him leaving he had fathered a child. I just found out Agee days ago that the said child is 8 months old and the mother is my friend. I have forgiven him but I am having trouble getting over the pain of first the mother being my friend and secondly for him waiting this long to tell me! Please help

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callmecrazy
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, March 28th (Thursday)

You are a very forgiving woman and your H is very lucky.

Has he refused to answer that question for you? Was he scared to death of dealing the the shame or losing you?? Im assuming since you have forgiven him he was remorseful to some degree, but maybe MC or IC???


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Koswe
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, March 28th (Thursday)

@ callmecrazy; he was very remorseful and not only that I am a Christian woman and if I don't forgive him then I will give home too much power. I have to find a balance and I know it will take a while for me to heal.

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Jospehine85
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Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, March 28th (Thursday)

Koswe there is a thread in the I Can Relate Forum for Betrayed Spouses dealing with Other Child.

I think those good people can give you some excellent advice.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 893 | Registered: Jun 2012
Koswe
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Member # 38830
Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, March 28th (Thursday)

@ josephine85 thankyou

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