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User Topic: my wedding antiversary is today
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, April 8th (Monday)

...and although I am better than I was on the first or second antiversary, this third one still sucks donkey balls. Will be happier when it is April 9th!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3216 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 38312
Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, April 8th (Monday)


Be extra nice to yourself today.

Me: 32 y/o, student and mom of two of the best kids in the world
Him: 33 y/o scumbag
Feels good to start laughing and feeling better again...

Posts: 270 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Island
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, April 8th (Monday)

((b4m)) In the end, it's just another day. At least that's what I will be telling myself when I hit my 2nd next week.((Hugs))

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4618 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, April 8th (Monday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17589 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, April 8th (Monday)

((better)) Each year it becomes easier.

me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings

Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, April 8th (Monday)


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Angry  Posted: 2:38 PM, April 8th (Monday)

(((Hugs)) Today is my antiversary as well. It's my first since DDay. It also would have been my 10th anniversary. It sucks that what should have been a happy milestone turned into...this.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Member # 38681
Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 8th (Monday)

Mine went by last month.
It was just another happy day that went by. Just a reassurance of my healing status.

BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)

((housefulloflove)) ah we share the same antiversary date.

Thank you all for the virtual hugs. I find myself singing along with the radio today so I know I'm better. It does get easier. Time.

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3216 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 24210
Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)

Mine was over the weekend and I felt nothing. Is that healthy?

In all fairness, I was SOOOO done by the time we ended it so maybe I had a jumpstart on healing.

Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.

Posts: 2185 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 21299
Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)


It will stop being a big deal. In a few years you may even forget about it until after it passes! My anniversary was 4/8 as well. 22 years, it would have been. but I now look at 4/8 as "freedom day"... the day HappilyUnmarried (then (UnhappilyMarried) stopped being Ms. Doormat.

t/j side story (I forgot about this until now). I kicked him out for good on 4/7/07; the day before our 16th anniversary. It was Good Friday, the kids were out of school. He told me he wanted to go hiking with OW and her kids that day because he wanted to see if being with her and her kids all day would drive him crazy enough to stop loving her. He wanted my permission! Fuck that! I was a doormat for 4 months prior, where I would let him get away with such crap, and that was my last straw. I spent our anniversary packing his shit all up and putting it in boxes in the garage.

It was the best day of my life. I felt free. I reclaimed my house as my own. 4/8 Freedom Day :)

True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.† Donít make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

Posts: 1291 | Registered: Oct 2008
Member # 37542
Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)

I guess yesterday (4/9) was my antiversary of 2 years. It was rough.


BS (Me)
Married 2 yrs; Together 6 yrs

D-Day 11/14/12
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold

Posts: 228 | Registered: Nov 2012
Member # 26576
Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)

Hey, I got one better! My anniversary is December 25th!
But it doesn't bother me anymore. I'm soooooo happy I got rid of that bum!
It will get better.

BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!

Posts: 111 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: got2go
Member # 9280
Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, April 12th (Friday)

(((better4me))) chiming in a bit late here, mine is also the 8th, would have been 22 years. Each year gets easier.

me: FBW
D-Day May 2005
divorced December 2009

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