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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, April 12th (Friday)

On my phone so pls. excuse typos. So this one lady who is training me doesn't like this other coworker I work with and tries to give me her work (think she wants her gone) so today she says well you will be taking over her job eventually...wtf? So if the other coworker is out and she gives me her work I help out but if she's in I give it to her. So stressed..will post more fr home. Thx


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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, April 12th (Friday)

So sorry could a mod pls move to off topic? Thx


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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, April 12th (Friday)

What's the "ranking" of these coworkers? Is the woman training you your supervisor, or the supervisor of the "disliked" colleague?

I would say talk to your supervisor about it possible, because 1) you were hired to do your own job, not hers, and 2) it's completely inappropriate for her to be treating the other colleague this way!

Is it possible the other colleague is planning to leave soon and you just haven't been told?


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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Thanks for moving this!

Well she is not my supervisor but my supervisor values her opinion greatly as I interviewed her. I think something went down with her and this co-worker. I don't know why she doesn't like her. I want to be friends with both (they sit in different areas so it's not too awkward for me). I feel that she wants to influence my supervisor to get rid of this co-worker and have me take on her duties I feel like it's all "talk" right now. Nothing has been said that the co-worker is leaving or me taking over her job by my supervisor. It's kind of a tangled web


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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, April 12th (Friday)

Do you have the kind of relationship where you can mention it to your supervisor in a "is there something I should know going on here...?" way?


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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, April 15th (Monday)

Well I'm so new its hard to tell. I would go in knowing she will tell the training lady. Also someone else I work for is saying they want me to do this woman's job


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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

So now something else with this person. Today she says she is turning something over to me to handle from now on. It has nothing to do with the other woman's job she wants me to take on. She's not my supervisor so this feels weird. Of course one of the few times I check e-mail (rarely go online) my supervisor walks up behind me Tomorrow is a lunch for Admin day and both women are going so it will be awkward for me to be friendly to both since the one lady who trains me can't stand the other lady - fun


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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

So I mustered up some nerve and just updated my supervisor about the training lady wanting to turn over something for me to handle from now on and she said it was a good thing and good for me to learn new things
Won't bring up that other woman's job unless something actually happens. Happy Admin day

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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Remain neutral bc the other lady hasnt offended you so dont feel weird... Its their issue not yours.... Dont be weird towards the other lady bc then she'd know the trainer must have said something to you about her otherwise you wouldnt be acting weird towards her...

Good luck...


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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

So the lunch went ok. I guess I'm too new (3+ mos) for flowers. Trainer lady got 2 vases. Oh well. We are the 2 admins of the dept.


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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

I really think you need to loop your supervisor in if this woman is overstepping her bounds in terms of assigning you work. It could very easily escalate, and you'd rather have something informally on record with either your supervisor or HR.


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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Thanks Ama. Yes, I agree. That's why I told sup. about new stuff she's turning over to me. Hope you had a good Admin Day

Now where's my winning lottery ticket??


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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Stay neutral. Do what they give you to do. You told your supervisor and she said it would be good for you to do new things. That means she doesn't have a problem with them giving you things. I'd stay completely out of it and focus on learning the new things they are giving you. It's an opportunity for YOU to raise your profile when you do a good job.

It sounds like you're starting to get sucked into the drama at least by being someone they talk to - don't get sucked in. Listen but don't comment in any way that would make it look like you take sides. Be Switzerland.


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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

So things are getting worse. The person who wants me to do the other lady's job came to me today and verbally said he wants me to start taking it over. This is not the training lady or my supervisor. I told him I would need to speak with my supervisor and he was like I'll take care of that. Overwelmed at this point. In addition to the things the training lady has turned over to me I now have to cover for a sick employee who might not come back. Help!!!

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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

You need to sit down with your supervisor ASAP!


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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

Thanks Ama. I just spoke with her.
She's going to talk with him and is on my side. I was so nervous.


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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

YAY! for good supervisors.


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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

I'm nervous for how he will act towards me after she talks to him. I work for him just not that stuff the other woman does. She said she wouldn't say "I told on him" , kwim?


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, May 3rd (Friday)

Why, it sounds to me like yr chain of command is unclear. Make an appt with your supervisor -- your direct supervisor -- for 20 - 30 minutes. Tell her that you need to get clarity in your responsibilities and on your reporting line, so that you can be sure you are working the best you can.

Work out with her:
*!What are my job responsibilities.
*Who do I report to, and who can direct my work?
*What goals does she (yr supervisor) have for you for the next six months? For the next year?

Take notes. Send her an email promptly after your meeting, summarizing it is good detail, and asking if you have left anything out or misunderstand anything,

Make corrections if she suggests them.

Revisit it in two months, as a check in on "how I'm doing". Revise list of responsibilities at that time.

Good luck!


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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Thanks Stronger One for such excellent tips

Things are good. My supervisor was supportive and spoke with the guy and thankfully he's acting normal with me today.

Ready to kick off the weekend stat!!!


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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

I'm glad that was helpful. Always keep good records of what's going on. When you meet with a supervisor or coworker to discuss what needs to be done, take notes and send an email with your "minutes." No one will think it's odd. In fact, you will probably get a good rep for being on top of things!


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Flame  Posted: 6:39 PM, May 20th (Monday)

This training lady won't back off. Today she's like so are you starting to take over so & so's job and I'm like no and she's like we need to get that position up here to you!! WTF!


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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, May 20th (Monday)

"You know, I talked to Supervisor about that, and she said that there was no plan to transition the job at this time. I think there may have been some miscommunication somewhere, but for now, my orders from Supervisor are pretty clear - I'm to focus on xyz set of work."


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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)

Thanks Ama. That sounds really good. I am just so tired of all this and recently met with my new supervisor about this so I think I'm going to ignore her comments right now. She can wish this all she wants but she isn't my supervisor. I just don't want to cause friction since there is still a great deal she is training me on. Such a yucky situation


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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

What about telling her something like, "oh man, I still have so much of my own job to learn! Can we focus on xyz set of work and once I'm up to speed there, I can talk with Supervisor about what else she wants me to add in?"


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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

Have you said what you really feel yet?

Try "I am not comfortable being apart of taking away Jane Smith's job, so until my direct supervisor tells me that these jobs are now mine, I think my time would be best spent learning my current job responsiblities and duties"

Also, at this point, I would be slipping a note to the other lady to tell her that they are trying to out her. But I am bitchy like that.

I also think that at some point you need to have a paper trail so that you can go back and say "no, this is what my supervisor advised me of. Thanks You"


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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

Ugh...now a 3 rd person has asked when am I taking over this lady's job...so sick of this bs


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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

Ignore it. Or you can say you were told nothing of the sort by your supervisor. Then excuse yourself as youre busy with your job.

To me it seems like office drama. people eagerly awaiting a firing


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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Thanks this womans motives are that she wants this lady to do more work for her...ignore, ignore...


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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Rough week...moving closer to micromanaging coworker who isn't my boss...plus older yuckie location


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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Unless this micromanager is in some capacity your official supervisor, I think you need to take the bull by the horns and ask your boss to have a talk with her, especially if this starts to interfere with your ability to do your job. And invest in a good pair of headphones and get used to repeating the phrase, "oh, I'm sorry, I didn't hear you because I was busy working."


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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Thanks Ama. Sounds like a good plan.

Move went ok. I'm now closer to more people so at least it's a tiny bit more social. She's been ok so far. The type that arrives late and stays late and then looks at you funny for leaving on time. Whatever


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Angry  Posted: 7:15 AM, July 27th (Saturday)

Well, it finally happened. My worst nightmare. They are eliminating that co-worker's job that certain people have been wanting me to do. Got the news this week from my supervisor. They are moving her to another opening (demotion for her). I am in shock and not sure what to do. I will try this but I don't see how taking on this other job is going to work. She was overwelmed and made mistakes and she only had the one job. So


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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday)

PS - Now I will have to work closer with the person I have the crush on (trying to get over that). Also, this person isn't the easiest to work with and constantly complained about the co-worker getting moved out of the job

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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday)

Sorry Why??

Can you voice your concerns about the work load and personality differences to your supervisor, and be really honest with her/him about what specific tasks you are able/willing to take on, and which you aren't?


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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, July 28th (Sunday)

Thanks Ama. Yeah, I did talk with supervisor and I wasn't really given the option of taking certain parts of the job. It was all factual like that job is gone and it's now yours. I think they may have been planning this all along. Why else were those others constantly bringing it up to me? I'll do the best I can but if things start messing up/falling thru the cracks, I'll have to say something. Hopefully, since I have a good track record so far they will see that this added job put me over the edge.

On another note, how are your big move preparations going? I'll have to see if you have a post about this exciting time


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Sad  Posted: 6:51 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Feel like I made a huge mistake taking this job. 7 days with add. job and I don't know how much longer I can do this


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You need to communicate that to your boss, Why??


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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Thanks Ama. Yeah you are right. At least this is killing that crush...lol. Think he was only being nice because he wanted me to do this job...selfish not caring that I already had the job I was hired for. Would love to quit and buy one way ticket to Paris...


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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, August 8th (Thursday)

How'd it go talking to your boss?

If you decide you can afford that ticket to Paris, maybe you can afford mine too!


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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, August 9th (Friday)

It went ok I guess...I work for multiple people so I spoke with the main one I wotk for. He too did not know this was happening. It's a large institution so I don't know what can be done. The other woman has moved to her new job and I'm stuck w this mess
Well I better play lotto soon and win big so I can buy those tickets

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Shocked  Posted: 4:26 PM, December 4th (Wednesday)

Figured I would bump this up for background...so it's almost been a year!

Was starting to feel ok about taking on that women's job that the training lady kept pushing. Training lady has been promoted to supervisor and will be hiring another person to take over the job of another person that is going out on disability. Anyway, tried to chit chat with her today and she says when the new person is hired there will be major restructuring and we will all help everyone rather than our assigned bosses. Wtf? She's still not my supervisor but was promoted for being there forever and is working with the overall dept. supervisor to hire this new person. Should I take this with a grain of salt? I can't imagine what she is proposing. Would be utter chaos. I'm now used to the people I work for (3) and don't want to have to work for double the amount of people. She said it would be a team atmosphere. My big boss who I work for won't like this either. My annual review is coming up do I mention this to dept. supervisor? Do I talk to my big boss? Ugh! I swear I really try to be nice to this lady but it's always something she has brewing...help


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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, December 5th (Thursday)

Working for multiple bosses, not really knowing who your "real" boss is, absolutely SUCKS! Team atmosphere is so overrated, and often is counter productive the way it is actually implemented. I'm not saying you should not get along with your colleagues or that people should not have an idea how to help each other out and be supportive when needed, but I think there needs to be organization where everybody knows their own assigned duties, and knows who they must "answer to." (and it can't be everybody when not all those people are going to agree on what should be done).

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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

Yes, that is part of it, Bobbie Sue. Right now I am just going to do my own work and worry about me and not this new position and what the training lady wants. I want to enjoy the holidays this year as last year I started the job and didn't get much of a break or peace of mind to enjoy them


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Flame  Posted: 4:17 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)

Wow..this training lady wont let up. Today we were closed for non essential employees. She emails asking where I am. Says we need to talk. Just cause workplace is closed doesnt mean we dont come in.. Wtf?
So irritated.


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