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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, April 13th (Saturday)

Hi All,
Well, that lying, cheating pig is receiving his distinguished alumni award tonight from his college. He has 60 people from the bank, friends and family coming. It is a narcissist's dream come true!!!! He is receiving this award in part for his "Integrity" and "service to the community". Well, he certainly has served his skanky girlfriend!!!! And every person with integrity lies and cheats on their spouse, lies on their loan application, tells everyone that his wife left him and served him with divorce papers (neglecting to mention that he fucked somebody else!) and grossly exaggerates their accomplishments, it is just disgusting. So the angry part of me says that he is a piss of shit, is a liar, slut and a charlatan.

And part of me is hurt, I have attended that dinner for the past 8 years and knew that one day he would receive that award. He has received it but I won't be there. I have been there for every event the school has put on, from the award dinners, to the opening of the performing arts building. I have attended dinners with the professors, have had them over to the house. It was a part of my life which is now over. Abruptly ended when I found out about the affair. I was so easily and quickly replaced. And now SHE will be there, by his side. The cheap looking tramp in her high heel shoes, tight clothes and boobs hanging out. She will be by his side, hearing everyone going on about what a swell guy he is. What a great guy. Yes, what a great narcissistic, selfish, self serving, vampire that just uses people to suit his needs and when he does not get the constant attention, praise, touch and worship, you are out of there.

Part of me wants to crash the event. go around all the tables with all his friends, co-workers, boss and introduce myself as his wife (with a special introduction for skanky girlfriend) and make his squirm. But, I am trying to take the high road. If I do that, it just may feed his narcissism and I am NO LONGER HIS SUPPLY!!!!!

I have asked him to not call or text me. He stopped for a little while, his attorney was harassing me with papers that needed to be signed for the refinance, so PIG was getting what he wanted. He has started to text me again and has tried to call (when I don't jump every time his attorney tells me to) which upsets me, so I have changed my home and cell number. I have blocked his emails, so he can only communicate through the attorneys.

Every time I hear from him or just see that he has tried to contact me, I go back to Dday, knowing I am going to get slammed from left field again. I can't allow that to happen anymore.
Part of my motivation to do that was after he asked me to leave, he was emphatic that I answer the phone when he called. He told me several times to answer the phone when he called. While we were married, he could call me 14 times in a row if I didn't pick up the phone. So, it is definitely an issue with him. I want the attorney's to let him know, my numbers have changed, so he has no direct way to contact me anymore. It may not matter now, I haven't picked up his calls in a few months. But it will give me peace of mind.

I just need to get through today and this evening. Next week is his birthday, so there's another day I just need to get through. Our anniversary is on May 5, that will be a tough day.

So, how do you get through days like this, when you want people to know the truth about who he is, when you want to slap the whore that replaced you, kick him down to the ground and expose him for the lying cheat that he is????? I want so much for people to know who he REALLY is. I don't want his money, I want the truth to come out. I want to see the golden boy fall from grace. I want his reputation to go down because of the actions that he has taken. I want him to bear the consequences of his actions. Right now, he has his life - nothing has changed for him. He has the nice house, the nice garden, the nice cars, friends, job, ugly trailer trash, low class girlfriend. He has the social standing, revered place in the community. The smooth moves, the Brooks Brothers shirts, fancy car. It's all bullshit, all built upon a false foundation. He is but a shell of a man. A liar and a cheat. A MAN WITH NO INTEGRITY WHO DOES NOT DESERVE THE AWARD HE IS RECEIVING!!!!

When does the truth get revealed??????

[This message edited by Dawn58 at 9:44 PM, April 13th (Saturday)]

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 484 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Dawn, I SO feel your pain and know where you are coming from. My POS is in law enforcement, even being a Chief. Portrays "Mr. Integrity" to the world, but the REAL him is a lying, cheating POS that has no concept of the word. Like you, I want the world to know the real lying hypocrit that he is. I have really grappled with that and I think I have decided to let karma do her job and take the high road. I won't sacrifice my own integrity and values because of him. Karma can be a real bitch, and I just have to be patient. In the meantime it sucks though...

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Dawn, NPDs like your H are like the "pod" people in the old science fiction movies. They look like the real thing on the outside, but are hollow and empty of all humanity on the inside. And just like in the movies, it may take a little time for the rest of the world to notice the empty shell, but believe me they will - he will be unmasked for the true monster he is. Please try to take care of YOURSELF this weekend and next week, and as far as his birthday goes? fuhgeddaboudit! ((Hugs))

Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

Posts: 402 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: VA
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Just have fun with all of this; send him sympathy cards for his birthday, anniversary, the girlfriend's birthday.

If he cheated on you, he'll cheat on the girlfriend, too. It's just a matter of time.

So what if he receives the award. Do you remember who won in past years?

Celebrate that he's exiting your life. And don't let him live rent-free in your head!

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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

lies on their loan application,

Hmm, sounds like something that needs to be reported.

tells everyone that his wife left him and served him with divorce papers

Feel free to tell people you D him because you didn't like his GF.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Have any smutty e-mails or texts between him and OW ? A couple hundred copies of them pasted on every wall and lightpost in the area of the school might make you feel better.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

If his GF is even half as trashy as you've described, I'm sure people will reach their own conclusions. I know I would.

People aren't that easily fooled.

BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

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Heavy Sigh
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Distinguished alumni awards just mean this: "Somebody who has given the university a biy of money who will hope will give us a lot more and who we hope will put the university in his will - so we're kissing his a** so we can hit him up for more cash."

That's all it means.

In the meantime, sign those refi papers if they're fair and do whatever you can to end the game and you'll get more healthy.

[This message edited by Heavy Sigh at 4:17 PM, April 13th (Saturday)]

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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Wow. I feel so, so, bad for you. The party crash was my first thought also, but you are right. It would just make him look like the victim and you the bad guy.

Karma will eventually take care of this guy. He will never be happy. He will always be looking for more and he will dump this new girl friend when he tires of her. He will get old and no one will love him.

In an academic community, surely you have mutual friends that you can tell the truth to and you know how fast that will get around.
The anger sometimes is just more than a person can bear, but I remember Ivana Trump saying, after "The Donald" dumped her.

"Success is the best revenge"

You need to do everything for yourself. Go back to school, get a make over, start socializing and having fun, etc., etc.

He was lucky to have you and you are lucky that he is gone. You will find someone who values you and won't be whining about you answering the phone. Lord what an ass.

Hugs and keep coming here. This is the best place in the world to vent and you will get all the love and support that you need.

Me - BS
Him - FWS
DD - December 14, 2010
Married 43 years 1/14/2011
Affair lasted 7+ years
Affair had been over for 2 years before I found out. OW sent me a letter.

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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

I anticipate the truth will come out some day. For now take his money. Take all you can get. Don't look back and regret giving up everything.

Even if you don't need his money you may someday. If not you can be the one who lives honorably and you can help others with it.

I am so sorry you are going through this trauma.

Me BS 57
Him FWH 60
M 35 years
3 Adult kids

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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

One thing that surprised me once I got clear of xWH's voodoo magic in my brain is that I was the only one who thought he was awesome. Well me, and people who had just met him.

Now I see that most people he interacts with either don't care about him, or w/in the timeframe of 6 months to a year, put distance between themselves and him. Oh, nothing overt is ever said, he's not cut dead, but truthfully, it's the reason he has to monkey swing from one new OW to the next is and one new job to the next ... I was the only sucker who stuck around for years. Most people don't.

I want his world to come crashing down! I want people to stop being fooled! But at least I know that in the end, that people do figure him out.

Given what your husband does for a living (& I can figure out who he is from details in your post so you might want to remove the university name) he's a schmoozy charmer. That's part of how he does his job, and part of how he's survived mergers/buyouts of his firm. So people schmooze with him. But I bet they don't get close. I bet they use him just like he uses people. So let Mr. Super Tan Headshot be the empty vessel who is never filled. Thank god that's no longer your role.

You aren't left out tonight. You stepped away from falsehood. Hold your head high. You deserve to.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, April 14th (Sunday)

If he is a Narcissist, unfortunately doing ANYTHING will backfire. He will end up making YOU look like a crazy jealous lunatic, then he can stand back and say to everyone, "See what I've had to deal with?"

The ONLY way to deal with a Narcissist is through your attorney.

Have your attorney go for everything you are legally entitled to and DO NOT have any side discussions with your WS. Stay completely NC.

Don't think people don't see what's going on. You are STILL legally married. And most people would find it rather "bold" to bring a girlfriend to such a public event. You will find as time goes on that most people are quiet about their opinions in these types of situations.

I know it's upsetting and oh so hurtful. But believe me, the light will eventually shine on the truth. But you must NOT engage. If you do, the others just see the situation as a couple of crazy people going through a divorce.

You stay calm, stay NC with him, let him go out, act the fool, run his mouth, tell his lies, etc. In the meantime you work through your attorney. People will take notice and will soon say, "there is WAY MORE to this than what he is saying."

It will take time. My XNPDH ran around town telling everyone horrible lies about me (i was a drug addict, drug dealer, committed to mental hostipal, on and on) while he and OW and their BABY (OC) paraded around town like no big deal. We were still married! And people (some our friends) BELIEVED him. It was heartbreaking.

I had many supporters from the beginning. But lots of people believed him. It took years for the truth to come out. And once it did, people avoid him like the plague.

Although remember, there will always be the most dimwitted that will hang on to the lies of the Narcissist forever. But these aren't usually people you want for friends anyway.

It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)

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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, April 15th (Monday)

The only thing you can do is hit him where you still can - his wallet. This will give the added benefit of bothering his glitter-twat of a girlfriend. It's a two for one deal!

Find a way to live well and speak the truth to anyone who asks.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9852 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 3:31 AM, April 15th (Monday)

Thank you for your support. I re-read my post, and I sound so angry and bitter. I hate that this is who I am now. I was so kind and loving (and trusting). Now, I am consumed with anger, hatred, sadness, loss, betrayal and rage. This hurts so much. I am four and a half months out and I feel horrible. I am consumed with thoughts of them, consumed with blame and guilt. I don't want to keep going down this path.
I had a tour of a landscape architect's office today, along with some of the garden's he has done. The universe sucks, the landscape architect's office was just down the street from where PIG received his award and where he and his skanky girlfriend were still at. So, I felt like I got slammed down to the ground, one more time. I remember going to that award dinner and staying at the hotel. This hurts so much. I was so quickly discarded and replaced.
I am so depressed, it takes so much effort to just get out of bed in the morning. I have not been working out, just takes too much effort. The side benefit is that I am gaining weight!
I was talking to my Dad and he said that all he could hear was bitterness from me and that it was only hurting me. I know that, I FRICKING KNOW THAT!!! If I could do better, I would!! I don't know what else I can do!!! I am angry, I am so devastated, so hurt. If I could stop those feelings and be happy, I would in a heartbeat!! But, I can't right now. The Pig's mother thinks I should go out and try to meet somebody else!!! Like there is any chance in hell that I am going to put myself out there, just to get kicked to the ground again?????? No chance in hell. I have to heal my own heart right now, not look for another a@#hole to break my heart again.

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, April 15th (Monday)

((((Dawn)))) Sweetie - you've made great strides toward removing him from your life by changing phone numbers and routing everything through lawyers. That's a great start toward NC.

The next step - the much more difficult step? Is to go NC in your thoughts. Push him out of your mind and reclaim the real estate he's been holding there. It isn't easy, but you can do it.

Big hugs.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, April 15th (Monday)

I like the sympathy card idea, but that would break your no contact with him and you have made too much progress there to lose it. You know what?? i know it sucks, we all do, but take the high road. you can because you are a good person, not a liar and cheat. Screw karma, i've yet to see it happen (and him). you are a worthy person cause you know it and act it. dont forget that. keep that head high.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: new york
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Dawn, like you I am consumed with anger, hatred, sadness, loss, betrayal and rage. But because of the utter humiliation of it I keep it all bottled up inside, with an occasional outburst. I feel like I am living two lives: the facade of composure and "everyting is great" I present to the world and the crumbling mess I keep hidden away. As nowiknow said, it is time to go NC in our thoughts to get the proverbial monkey (rather, jackass) off our back. We CAN do this!

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

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Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, April 16th (Tuesday)


You live in California - a State that offers ALIMONY: Play it smart and make sure the OW doesn't have a whole lot of money your're entitled to as a divorced woman!

Use your energy to protect yourself legally and ESPECIALLY FINANCIALLY!!!

Who really cares if your Cheating-to-be-EX-Husband is receiving some Alumni Award? What's he going to do with some paper award? FRAME IT?

Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.

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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, April 16th (Tuesday)


Just a big hug for you - I have no words. I cannot imagine your pain.

I am so very sorry.

Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,22 mo.& 2 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, April 16th (Tuesday)

You know that award isn't going to fill the empty hole that your STBXWH's has instead of a heart or soul.

For NPD's, the world is stage and they are the main actor. But, it is so empty, it is a charade. Everyone in his circle are only bit actors (sorry, but really, your part was to serve him) to his leading role of Douche Bag. They mean nothing to him. They are just there to serve as a mirror of his awesomeness. The awards, money, cars, clothes it is all he has because it is all a charade for him. Smoke and mirrors. So. Very. Empty.

In the wee hours of the night, on the nights he can't sleep, he knows who he is, and he is empty and pathetic.

(((Dawn58)))) Be gentle with yourself. It has only been 4 and half months since d-day. Of course you feel all those negative feelings. It is so normal. Are you in IC? If not, you would be amazed what a few sessions of IC can do for you. Doesn't mean you have to go for months. Lots of times I just need to go a few times to get what I need from IC.

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson

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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, April 16th (Tuesday)

Hi, I have this going on too. My stbxh is extremely narcissistic and hated my questions of any kind.

Now that he is gone, many people tell me they didn't like him but couldn't put their finger on it. Its the narcissism, which shows up at workplaces too.

Karma will come, it is for me and will for you. The wallet is the way to go because money is part of their image, so take all you can.

If you dont need it, maybevyou could donate it to a charity that supports something he hates? I'm going to use it for education and paying down the mortgage.

I hope more light will shine between bouts of pain. One thing that helps me is our daughter and meeting small personal goals for her and i.

Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 2306 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 4:09 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

Why do I do this to myself. I just found out (at 2:00 in the morning) that in his acceptance speech, he thanked the skanky bitch, for being his "soul mate." I don't know if I want to break something and rage at the top of my lungs, or cry. When does this stop. When does this end? I feel like another knife has gone through my heart. Why do I let this hurt so much? Why the hell can't I just walk away, let him go and move on with my life. It's like I keep pulling the scab off the wound, just want to keep bleeding. I feel smothered by the memories, by the every day reminders I have that he is not in my life, that he cheated on me and is with the other woman. I just want to get the hell away from here. Find a place that I can breathe again. I just want to breathe again, fresh air, not the memories, the pain, the broken dreams and promises. PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME HOW TO TAKE THE PAIN AWAY! I can not take any more of this pain, this hurt, this betrayal.

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

Dawn, I can really feel your pain, just hang in there, it will get better.

Is there any way you can move out of the home you shared with him? You need a fresh start, if not, start with redecorating your bedroom with all new linnens, curtains, paint the living room, change whatever you can in your surroundings. I know this sounds stupid, but it will keep your mind busy and focusing on something else.

Then try to NOT to find out anything about him, don't look on Facebook, don't ask friends about him - nothing, the more space, and the least you know about him, the sooner you will start healing. Knowing that stuff, will continue to set you back.

FTG - he is not worth it. They will get their day, remember how can a relationship last, that started out based on a lie?

Focus on you right now. I am a true believer that things happen for a reason, I know you don't want to hear that right now, but somehow, God knows what HE is doing! Just believe in the future, have hope that good things will come your way!



"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~

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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

The MOW skank blogged about my H being her "soulmate."

This is cheater speak for "how can it be wrong when the angels themselves played a hand in bringing us together?"

I'm sure there were more than a few snickers when you're WH made that statement, along with "wonder how long this one will last" comments.

I know it hurts, but it's also allowing you to see who he really is more clearly. You deserve so much more than this.

BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

OMG, What a dick. Anyway, rest assured, as someone who just went to one of these, (my own story is similar but not), the whole room was talking about ass hat and bimbo. NOT about how great he is. I promise you. Bets were made, looks were passed, snickers were covered. The only two who were oblivious, were those two.

I know it hurts, my fwh hooked up w old fuck tunnel at the college regents when she came on board. Spent those dinners with her, sometimes my son and his girlfriend. Thinks no one knew. Now it is me there, in the front of the room, with the power hitters, and guess what? I told a powerful friend at the univ, and she simply just left at the end of her term. No one asked her back or called her, and one can only assume, she is pissed. No way she didn't know that for the last 2 years she was in the back of the room at every "social", Bummer. Especially for someone who feeds on attention.

He will soon feel the same. Not to worry. Stay strong, vent here, and take everything you deserve from the marriage. You were a lovely wife and reason for his success, he blew it up. They both know it.

[This message edited by fourever at 8:02 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)]

In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!

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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)


I'm so sorry for your pain but truly, your H received the Distinguished Asshole award...and he confirmed it all by a shout-out to his whore GF! Soul mate, seriously...he is a classless douche!

As LivinginLimbo said, you deserve so much better than this! For today, focus on doing just one nice thing for yourself...anything at all that will give you a lift...and then wake up tomorrow and do something else positive...keep taking those steps towards happiness - force yourself if you must (and I think at times it does feel forced). Hopefully soon you will establish a new pattern in your life - one that says there is something good in each day, and its about me.

I'm so sorry for your pain but I also know you will get to the other side.

"Never, never, never give up." - Winston Churchill

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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

Dawn58 - huge big cyber hugs to you. There is a positive in all of this if you think about it. When his relationship with this skank crashes and burns think how stupid he will feel every time he sees someone from the awards dinner knowing how he gushed about her and said that she was his "soul mate". What is he 13 years old? Seriously? What professional does a shout out to his OW in front of his peers? That speech had an ulterior motive behind it. He really made a fool out of himself and he is too arrogant to see it. One day the skank will be sitting at home crying because he is at an awards dinner with yet another OW and thanking her too. Yeah, good times ahead for her!!!! What goes around comes around.

Me - BW (53)
Him - WH (56)
OW - skanky whore coworker
Married 33 years
DDay1 8/10/11
DDay2 8/15/11
DDay3 8/28/11
2 grown children
Status - in R

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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry. (((HUGS)))

I'd like to suggest you let whoever told you this latest tidbit to please not tell you stuff like this anymore. Tell them directly that it hurts you and prevents you from healing. If they don't stop, you need to distance yourself from them.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9852 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, April 21st (Sunday)

Thank you all for your posts. Loved the distinguished asshole award. That is the award that he has truly earned and deserves. Distinguished Liar and Cheater Award!!!

I just wish people knew the truth about him, that he's not this great guy, Chairman of boards, bank regional president, kind and honest guy. He's a self serving, narcissist pig. All these things just feed his ego, his attempt to fix that hole that is inside him, that will always be inside him.

He doesn't even donate that much money to the charities, the bank does. Everyone kisses his butt because of that. People spend time with him because "he" is a donor. It's the bank, not him. He made 1.8 million dollars last year and donated 10K to charity. That's a very small portion of his salary, he could easily afford more. He just bought an 80K car. He treats himself very well.

I hope the Karma bus runs him over!! I hope he has a massive fall from grace (but doubt that will ever happen). So hard when you want justice and know it's never going to come.

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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