I too remember that moment where I felt the shackles holding me to him fell away.
He thought nothing of having a 1:1 lunch with his 24 year old office gopher a mere 5 months after betraying me. It was to discuss her becoming his pseudo assistant.
Ironic and sad that at the time I trusted her taste more than his fidelity so didn't consider her a threat to my marriage at all. It was that he had the gall to behave this way during the roughest time of our False R.
I knew at that moment that he had been getting away with it for so much longer than I had suspected - he really did think he could get away with anything.
20 weeks after S he told me he was ready to introduce aforementioned office gopher to my 5 and 2.5 year olds as his girlfriend.
It stung like a motherfucker but today I am grateful for the important lesson. Listen to your gut. It will do everything to protect you even when you won't protect yourself.
((Notgwen)) It does make it all easier but its still excruciating when it happens. I'm so sorry friend.