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27yearsnowlost
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

Well I went on a business trip with my WH for few day. I first day he laying down at the pool. He now says the the dates are all wrong. He was on craiglist and hired some one to get BJ's in his car twice.
Now he showed me the phone records and comfirmed that it was not before hurricane sandy.
Now the records show his first hooked up late January which was 2 weeks before our cruise and then 2 days when we got back.
Now I can't believe him at all. I told him that I wanted to know everything and not to TT. he knew the date were wrong. But he stuck to his story, now I'm more up set and asked him often about it. He told me that he told me everything. Now it's different. So he came clean do to the phone records. So every word out of his month I can't believe. So now what??? Where do I go from here?

[This message edited by 27yearsnowlost at 6:11 AM, April 14th (Sunday)]


Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
isadora
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Member # 29130
Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, April 14th (Sunday)

Has he done a written timeline? Did he bring up the dates were wrong or was it a result of questioning on your part


Me: BW Him: WH
Married: 12 yrs
2 DDs and DSs all under 10
2 Affairs - 2010 year long PA/EA, 2008 2 month online EA
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.


Posts: 4509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Back home again in Indiana
27yearsnowlost
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Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, April 14th (Sunday)

I asked him what he was thinking, then he said he was thinking all day about the time frame. He said when we got back home he would get his phone records from the cell company. So he knew this would prover the timeline he first gave me was wrong. So I sat 2000 miles away from home thinking for 3 days. And sure enough the time frame wasn't even close to what he told me.
I'm asked him before we left and many other time to tell me everything but he waited until then....that I don't understand. He said it would be good to get away from all the stress of hurricane sandy and hits me with that. I feel blindsided again. Now the dates piss me off even more. No sure what to do.....


Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
isadora
Member
Member # 29130
Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, April 14th (Sunday)

Have you asked him why he chose to tell you while you were away?


Me: BW Him: WH
Married: 12 yrs
2 DDs and DSs all under 10
2 Affairs - 2010 year long PA/EA, 2008 2 month online EA
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.


Posts: 4509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Back home again in Indiana
Topic Posts: 4