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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

So I get a message on OLD from another woman. It says simply:

"I am wanting to try something different always wanted to be with a female"

That's it. Nothing about my profile. Nothing about having shared interests. Nothing about my photos. Nada.

Just some straight chick who woke up one day and decided to try something "different."

Her profile is blank. There's nothing there except the statement that she wants to try something different.

Because every bi or gay woman wants to be some straight chick's walk on the wild side.

Yeah. I think I'll pass. Thanks but no.

I mean I'm not looking for the love of my life, but I don't think I want to be someone's experiment either.

Not that I have anything against hook ups, one night stands, or NSA/FWB arrangements. I think they're fine. I have had a few of them in my life. But that's not where I am at this point in my life and nothing in my profile should lead someone to think that I am looking for that.

So the question is ... do I send her a message back politely declining? Or do I just ignore it?


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Ignore


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Thanks, Ama.

That's the way I was leaning, but it feel so rude to ignore. I mean I'm good at ignoring the really crass/vulgar messages ... but this wasn't truly overtly offensive. So I was on the fence.


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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time2grow
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Personally, I would ignore it.

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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Unless someone seems super insecure and needing of encouragement, in which case I send an email giving a reason that has nothing to do with them (I don't have a car and looking for someone who lives in the area, to have a realistic chance at seeing them frequently, for example), I always just ignore.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

There's also a part of me that would just like to take her to school and teach her some LGBT community manners. You know simple shit like ... We're fucking people, too. Which means we have feelings, we have hopes, we have dreams, and we - just like you - want to meet people who are interested in US. We are not a carnival ride or a freak show. If you want something different buy flavoured lube.


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

I understand; however, it's a rare day when someone (anyone) is actually able to hear and understand a constructive criticism that they receive in the way of rejection from someone with whom they have no prior relationship or trust built up.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Oh I know you're right. But the part of me that is ticked off at being addressed as "a female" (which seems dehumanizing) and "something" just gets irked. Which is why I let that little vent loose here rather than sending it to her.

People can be so fucking dumb sometimes.


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Small consolation, but I don't imagine she was referring to you as a person by "something", more the experience of being with a woman.

I get it though, I get the frustration, the ignorance, the un-personal nature of it all. And I'm sorry, because it does suck.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

A message like that would hurt my feelings. In fact, it hurts me a little on your behalf. I mean, dad gum, you are a human being. If she just wants to have sex with a woman she should look on Craigslist.


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trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

If you want something different buy flavoured lube.

Just as with a male dumb ass :ignore


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

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willowiris
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Just some straight chick who woke up one day and decided to try something "different."

I got one from a woman who wanted me to meet her husband for a little "fun" NO. I also got one from a man who wanted to know if I wanted to live with he and his wife commune-polygamy style on his farm in rural Missouri. Yeah...ummm..NO.

I guess they gotta try everybody. lol


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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

Willow ... Wow that doesn't sound creepy at all. Nope those are totally normal request. I mean what's wrong with you girl? Those sound like keepers to me. Hahahahaha


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1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

People can be so fucking dumb sometimes.

Word.

Unfortunately, common sense isn't.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, April 15th (Monday)

No response. The same as you would a guy who asked the same thing.

Sexual curiosity is one thing - trolling for sex is a whole other thing. There are other websites for it.

Don't be insulted - she is an idiot fishing in the way idiots do.

I should hook her up with monster - he could give her a few tips about how idiots fish successfully.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 2:45 AM, April 15th (Monday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 3:11 AM, April 15th (Monday)

I was thinking that this might be a set up by your XH, or a freak who puts this on every new person's profile to troll.....


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CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, April 15th (Monday)

My first inclination is that it's a man. It could be the extreme asswipe that STBX was, but he would fish that way~ blank profile or vagueness. Even found out that he posted pics of me a couple times just looking for a response.

Nothing says this is a genuine person, and no rule says you have to respond!


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, April 15th (Monday)

I'd ignore, too. You don't need to be someone's science experiment.


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, April 15th (Monday)

"contact me when you have more experience. I''m totally over virgins"


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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Skan! Love it!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Skan, I love it!!


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, April 15th (Monday)

How strange!!!

I'd just ignore.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
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