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She11ybeanz
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What?  Posted: 9:43 AM, April 15th (Monday)

So, my D Day was November 15th, 2009 and I was signed up to run my 1st ever half marathon race 6 days after I found out about my XWH's A! I didn't eat much at all that week..... didn't run at all that week.... but came to the realization that after 3 long hard months of consistent and dedicated training....I would be DAMNED if I was going to let him ruin what I had planned! So, I ran it.... with faith, hope, heart, and prayers as my fuel! (cause I certainly had no food in my system!) And, all considering....a time of 2 hours and 3 minutes was pretty impressive to me and I DID NOT WALK at all! That was my goal! And, I accomplished it!

Then, on April 30th, 2011.... what would have been my 6 year wedding anniversary the year after my divorce.... I not only ran my 1st FULL marathon at the Country Music Marathon in Nashville, TN, but I also PR'd with a time of 4 hours and 39 minutes!

Now...this Saturday...is going to be the toughest road half marathon I have ever run....it will be my 4th half....and it just happens to be on April 20th....which was the exact day 3 years ago....that my XWH left me for the very last time. And, the 2nd to last time (besides the day he asked me for the divorce) that I actually saw him, spoke to him, and hugged him goodbye. I remember how devastated I was.... I wanted to die... I felt as if my reason to live was walking out the door! And, now .... 3 years later...I'm going to take that weak dependent girl I was then....and introduce her to the strong, independent, unrelenting woman and mother that I am today! And, I'm gonna conquer that mountain and leave MOW in my happy dust!

Running has always been my happy place....the place where I can truly tap into my inner strength...physical as well as emotional/mental....and this weekend will be no different! I might start out using my legs....but I will finish with my heart!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:44 AM, April 15th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, April 15th (Monday)

Shelly, you are so determined and motivated. I have no doubt you can do anything you set your mind to. Good luck this Saturday!


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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, April 15th (Monday)


You can call me NIK

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Thank you! I've found so many positive things by doing something as simple as lacing up my running shoes and hitting the pavement! There is no time when I feel more free and capable of anything I set my mind to! I'm ready to have a good race! (whatever that entails!)


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, April 15th (Monday)

I'm going to take that weak dependent girl I was then....and introduce her to the strong, independent, unrelenting woman and mother that I am today!

LOVE THIS! Love, love, love!


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dlmos
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Seriously awesome post!


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, April 15th (Monday)

but I also PR'd with a time of 4 hours and 39 minutes

Wow! I had to read this a couple of times. I thought it said you did a 4 minute marathon! You really are a super woman!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, April 15th (Monday)

OMG awesome post... you go girl!!!


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, April 15th (Monday)

I thought it said you did a 4 minute marathon!

Out of the way Kara Goucher!! hehehe! Man.... I would be something else if I could do that! I don't even know if anyone has ever run a 4 minute mile! I guess they have...but WOW!

Thank you! I'm feeling very happy with the NB that I have right now....and it doesn't involve a man....just me and my daughter and us sharing an amazing life together!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
hit-by-a-train
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, April 15th (Monday)

You done good, girl!


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**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist.

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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, April 16th (Tuesday)

Hear you roar!!!!
Happy endorphin day


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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