New Beginnings
User Topic: hello All - first time I've felt I could post in "NB"
Member # 33488
Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Well - I think I have officially "graduated" to this forum. Wasn't sure this day would EVER come! Still waiting for divorce to be finalized, but have finally moved out of the limbo I have been in my life for the last almost two years. Why now?

Went for supper with my Dad and brother tonight to celebrate the "sold" sign on a beautiful little one hundred and eight year-old house that my family has gone together to purchase for me! The reason behind it is that until the D is final, STBXWH could lay claim to anything I would buy, and I dont have money until the marital house sells, AND the bank wont lend me anything while im still officially married due to STBX's tax arrears. But after nearly two years of living in a freezing basement room in someone else's house, I will, in few days, have my very own, cozy, charmimg little cottage - that has been completely updated and remodeled in the last 6 years. When everything is settled, I will buy it back.

Please allow me to ...hmm... what's the opposite of VENT?
I cant tell people IRL here because I cant let STBX know about the house. But I'm SO excited - I have to tell SOMEBODY!

I have prayed and prayed that God would find me just the right house that he had in mind for me. This was the first one I looked at. TO my astonishment, my dad, who I had brought along for another opinion, offered to buy it. A few hours later the deal was done!
The owner had also been praying for the right buyer - I believe it was right in his timing. It is the PERFECT little cottage for me!

Tall mature trees all around. - I cannot live without trees.
Maintenance-free yard.
Everything that could be fixed and updated - plumbing, windows, roof, eaves, electrical, furnace etc etc etc, has been done.
There is an attic bedroom - my marital home that I designed had an attic room.
There is space for a window-seat - something Ive always wanted.
MY favorite color on the walls.
Room for my piano and my seamstress business.
Charming cozy warm cheerful kitchen.
And Lilacs! I have always loved lilacs. Tried to grow them everywhere we've ever lived, without success. Here there is a veritable tunnel of overhanging lilacs over the patio. As I prayed and thanked God for this beautiful place that i can finally call home, I felt like He said, "Trebleclef, 60 years ago when those lilacs were planted, I already knew that one day you would be here and would need them. I was thinking of you before you were born."

For the first time in over 700 days I am waking up thinking of landscaping and planning where to put things and how to decorate, instead of waking with that all too familiar lurch in my gut and battling painful thoughts and memories all day and night.

Thankyou God!
Thankyou Family!
Thankyou SI for getting me here to New Beginnings!

True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17530 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 19595
Cool  Posted: 12:30 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

What a wonderful way to start !
God said double for your troubles! You are getting payed back Trebleclef !

Enjoy the process of moving to your new home !
Congrats ! That is about as cool as it gets !

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
Member # 38010
Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

This is awesome!! I'm so happy for you

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

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Default  Posted: 1:13 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

That's wonderful, trebleclef!

Welcome to your NB.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15414 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 1:43 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

You play piano and you like lilacs. No wonder I like you so much!!

Have I mentioned lately that I think that it's AWESOME that you are getting out of that basement??!??

Does you stbx know about this? I'd imagine that this information is going to cause him to freak out....because how *dare* you actually have *decent* living accommodations!

Gosh, TC. I am so glad for you and happy to see you thinking about something other than *him*.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

Posts: 8085 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 33488
Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

No Gonna, that's why I'm jumping for joy here instead of in real life. I don't feel safe to let him to know until the divorce is final. And even then - it's none of his business. I'd probably feel better if he didn't know anything about where I am or what I'm doing - and the more people I tell here the more he is likely to know.

He's going to have enough on his plate trying to figure out where HE is going to live when the house we shared sells.

Apparently he's now broken up with MOW so I guess it won't be with her.

[This message edited by trebleclef at 1:59 AM, April 18th (Thursday)]

True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
Member # 21299
Default  Posted: 2:57 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

So happy for you!!!! Welcome to your NB!

True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.† Donít make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

Posts: 1291 | Registered: Oct 2008
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 5:53 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

what's the opposite of VENT?

I believe you're looking for the term "squee". Let me to ahead and demonstrate for you:

Squeee!!! Treble clef this sounds amazing!!!!! What a perfect answer to prayer, and a perfect start to your new life.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13801 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

So excited for you and congratulations!

You'll be officially divorced before you know it, and it will be easier to wait out that time in your wonderful new house.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 3406 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Yay, glad things are working out for you. Your cottage sounds divine, enjoy it.

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1360 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Great post! I'm so happy for you.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7769 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 6:40 AM, April 18th (Thursday)


I can feel your joy trebclef - thank you for sharing it with us!

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Congrats! It sounds so homey.

It's never too late to live happily ever after.

Posts: 572 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: North
Member # 36144
Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Congratulations trebleclef! That is wonderful news...and I'm happy to see that you've also moved here on SI to the NB forum.
It's amazing how He is working in your life, lining everything up just right for you to walk into your new beginning.

Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13

Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 38579
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Wow! Good for you! That sounds fabulous!!!!!!

Posts: 54 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: United States
Member # 36839
Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

So happy for you! Your family sounds like some real solid peope

BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6

Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas
Member # 25041
Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

I've been praying to feel more joyful and I feel it for you TC. Thanks for sharing your joy with us.

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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

How wonderful~! Congrats~! I hope to someday be in your position and have my own cozy little place. You make me look forward to my new beginning.

BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14

Posts: 3102 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
Member # 33488
Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Thankyou all for your warm welcome - I recognize many of you down here lol!!

Anybody know how to post pics?

True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
Member # 28753
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Let me add my voice to the chorus of SQUEEE!!! I'm so happy you're so happy!

BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

Posts: 2370 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Baby steps on my new path
Member # 8923
Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Squeee......triple squee!!!!

In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14

Posts: 2295 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA
Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

Congratulations!!! Having your own home makes such a huge difference. It does for me, anyway. Enjoy your new beginning!!!!

Me (BS)- 36
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

That's awesome!!! Can't wait to see pictures!

[img.] website info here [/img.]

take out the periods next to img. only there so you can see what to type.

[This message edited by little turtle at 11:42 AM, April 18th (Thursday)]

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, April 18th (Thursday)

I think everyone dreams of finding the perfect home, that reflects everything they love. I had tears reading how perfect your new place is for you. I wish you many joyful days in your lovely, peaceful cottage.

Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Member # 36784
Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

Yay!!! Congrats!

Reading your post made me so happy! The future is bright.

Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe

Posts: 209 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: IL
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

SQUEEEE! Love the part about God knowing you would one day be there to see the lilacs! So happy for you and WELCOME to your NB!!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

It sounds so wonderful, trebleclef. What a great way to start off your new beginning!

Posts: 730 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Immersed in my happily ever after : )
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

The way you describe your little home with so much love sounds like the beginning of a magically story. Congratulations on finding your special place and how beautiful is your dad xxx

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 472 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

So, so happy for you!!! I know what it feels like to have exactly the perfect home and waiting for God to put it in your lap. He did the same for me.

Enjoy your much-deserved New Beginning.

3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know."
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2524 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

Simply awesome. Well deserved. And what a wonderful supportive family you have.

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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