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User Topic: She's moving back
bluecali
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Member # 35135
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

(Brief timetable review:
DDAY 12/2011. Hellish existence with blame-shifting spouse, crappy MC, ridin' the coaster until June, 2012 when she moved out. 180(ish) until early this year. We've been talking, slowly re-connecting these last few months.)

FWW is moving back home. I'm confident that her A was a one-off. She has dug into her "why," and recognizes it for the crap that it always was. She is seriously remorseful. The things that used to be triggers just don't have much power over me anymore. They catch my attention sometimes, but it's fleeting. I just don't have much need to process the A anymore. My focus is on the present, and shaping the future.

We both learned a lot from this experience. Seems like it's going to be a very different M. More baggage, but more wisdom.

I'm going to check out of this community for a while. I can't begin to express how much SI has done for me. Thank you all. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Best of luck to each and every one of you.


Me-BH
DDAY 12/1/11
Separated and uncertain

Posts: 398 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Elm Street
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

Good luck! We're pulling for you.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7509 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
0115
Member
Member # 31740
Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, April 18th (Thursday)

Good luck! It sounds like your on your way to a brighter future!!


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

Posts: 1003 | Registered: Apr 2011
Hurt2Deeply
Member
Member # 38317
Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, April 19th (Friday)

It's great to hear you are R with your wife. I know that takes a lot of work and forgiveness.

Congratulations. i wish you many blessings!


Me BS 57
Him FWH 60
M 35 years
3 Adult kids
R

Posts: 92 | Registered: Jan 2013
sisoon
Member
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, April 19th (Friday)

Congratulations and best wishes to you and your W. I wish you both the best.


fBH (me) - 70, fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9944 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
cletuswv
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Member # 37463
Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, April 19th (Friday)

Good luck, hope I get to check out some day...always remember "Montani Semper Liberi"


Me: BH 40
Her: WW 35
DDay #1: 9/28/2012
TT until:
DDay #2: 1/03/2013
2.5 yr LTA EA/PA
Dday #3 6/19/2013 OM #2
DD 4
DS 7
She moved out on 7/2/2013

Posts: 94 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: The best Virginia
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