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FeelsSoRight
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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, April 19th (Friday)

I'm a voracious reader and I really get into the stories while I am reading them.

I posted in the book forum that I just finished reading the last "50 Shades" book of the trilogy (Read all three in about 2 weeks! LOL) And yes, I know - I'm waaayyyy late to the party, but I didn't have a book ready to read and wanted to know what all the talk was about, so I started the first one and just got addicted to their story.

But now that I'm done, I miss the characters. This happens to me alot when I read a really long book or a series where you are immersed in a character. I hope I don't sound like a raving lunatic, but does anyone else miss the characters of a book after they've finished and there are no more to read?


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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, April 19th (Friday)

When I was younger I did. I was a huge Judy Blume fan and when the books were finished I definitely missed the characters. Also, Laura Ingalls. I read the whole Little House series over and over so I wouldn't have to say goodbye to that family!

As far as 50 Shades...I definitely don't miss those characters because they got on my nerves big time! As a matter of fact, I was happy to be rid of them!


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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, April 19th (Friday)

I've never read those books, not interested.

But yes, there are plenty of characters I miss when I'm done I'm with a book. Or wish the author ended the book differently for the characters "Why couldn't Character A leave and be with Character B? Why!?"


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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, April 19th (Friday)

Yep I wonder why the story had to end lol. I also dislike when I read a book and they start at childhood and then the next book zooms forward 10 years and they give you a summary of their growing up in a chapter.


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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, April 19th (Friday)

What an interesting question! I've never thought about it.

I'm also a voracious reader and listener of audio books. But, I read very few series which would tell me I don't miss the characters, but now that I'm thinking about it I have to wonder if the few series I do read is because of the characters--wanting to keep them close?

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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, April 19th (Friday)

I *still* miss the Harry Potter characters.

Often I will get so into a book I find myself thinking in the terms and language the author uses. It's odd.



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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, April 19th (Friday)

Yes! For sure, especially from series where you are immersed for a long time in the lives of the characters.

Harry Potter, and also the Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan.

I also find a lot of solace in characters from my childhood. In times of stress, I often reread the Anne of Green Gables series and also anything Agatha Christie - especially Miss Marple, she makes me feel safe and happy!


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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, April 19th (Friday)

I really miss Richard and Kahlan from the Sword of Truth series.....I wanted to name DD Kahlan, but there is already a Kayla, Kira, and Katlyn on DH's side of the family, so it got shot down quick.

They had a Legend of the Seeker series that i just had a hard time getting into....made me think that Xena or Hercules was going to come walking around the corner at any time.


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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, April 19th (Friday)

I miss Laura too! And I wish I was Nancy Drew...
I miss the little boy's voice from the book Room. Haunting...


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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, April 19th (Friday)

Jamie and Claire from Outlander. I'd wake up at night worrying about what was going to happen to them.

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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, April 19th (Friday)

I miss the Harry Potter characters too

I've just started the Outlander series.


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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, April 19th (Friday)

Yes.


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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, April 19th (Friday)

All the time! I always thought it was strange that I felt this way. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one


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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, April 19th (Friday)

If you mean something like, 'Do you wish there were more books in a series?' I sure do.

I'd love to read some more Peter Wimsey, Nero Wolfe and Archie, Aubrey-Maturin, Lindsey-Havers, Sharpe, and too many more to mention or even think of....

BTW, the authors who have continued series originally written by authors who have died just don't do it for me.

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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, April 19th (Friday)

I read all of Patricia Cornwell's Scarpetta books and am always chomping at the bit for the next one.

And as for 50 Shades, like I wrote in the book forum (which had no replies since I'm only a year behind everyone else... ) I didn't think anything of the kinky stuff - what alarmed me was Christian Grey's control-freakedness and his "dark" moments and how he (and Ana too) both grew as people - so in fancy-schmancy literary terms - I liked the character development in the books.


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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Jamie and Claire from Outlander.

Me too!!!


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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

I love Taran and Eilonwy from the Lloyd Alexander Pyrdian series. It's a great young adult fantasy adventure series.


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Ohhhh! Scarpetta! Yes! I just started Bone Bed.

Also, Patterson's Alex Cross guy and J.D. Robb's (well, technically Nora Roberts) Eve Dallas and all of the rest of the characters.

I'm a sucker for *series* books because I really enjoy following the *families*--(think North/South-type.


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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Yes! Yes!

After reading the incredibly long Dark Tower series by Stephen King, I missed several of the characters. When he published an "in between" book a couple of years ago, long after the series ended, it was like I had a chance to get together with old friends once more. It was great.

For comfort, sometimes I will re-read a book from my childhood -- The Melondy Family by Elizabeth Enright. I feel like I am visiting with old friends I grew up with during childhood. Good stories, good, honest characters. So different from so much of what goes on today.

Great topic.


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Default  Posted: 4:34 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Yes, especially when I was younger. I remember reading the Mists of Avalon and feeling like Avalon was actually real, like she was writing about a real place on the planet that I just hadn't traveled to yet, but desperately wanted to. I would sometimes wonder what the characters were doing that day before catching myself and remembering they were fictional.

Why is it that I can't fall into an entire world like that anymore when I read? Is it being an adult? Am I too jaded? Or is there still a book series that I haven't read yet that would let me do that again?

Sigh...I miss that.


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Default  Posted: 5:27 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

I was like that pre-shotstorm. When H and I were S' d, I coildnt get into books or even TV. It toom me at least 6 months after R to be able to enjoy reading again. And reading and reading passionately is so much of who I am, that it made me depressed.So happy I can read like that again.


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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

early Scarpetta only.... but what a flawly drawn character... love her!


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Yes, definitely.

There have been a handful of books/book series I've read that have left really, really lasting impressions. Even years later, I have the same emotional response when thinking of the characters---whether I've re-read or not. Larry McMurtry and John Steinbeck are especially good at getting me really invested in the characters.


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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

For that reason alone, I have certain books that I keep around to read again and again.

The Tiger Prince and The Golden Barbarian by Iris Johansen; and her Wind Dancer series

The Awakening, The Velvet Promise, and The Duchess by Jude Devereaux

Season of the Sun and Earth Song by Catherine Coulter

Anything by Ken Follett. Well, mostly; I really didn't like the Pillars books, but the rest of them?


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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

absolutely. i try to slow down my voracious curiosity toward the end...so they won't go away. glad i'm not alone.

the stand by stephen king did that to me. i really liked some of the characters in that story. it was long and we grew attached.


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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

I still miss Harry Potter and company desperately.

That's really the only one.


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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

I miss Harry Potter too!

My DD is also a huge Potter fan, so we still talk about it quite often. Like if we're stuck in traffic we'll talk about how nice it would be to apperate.

I actually made her a Hogwarts acceptance letter for her 11 b-day this year.


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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

Yes, I miss Mr. Darcy all the time.

And Scout. I have to reread that book every few years because I miss her.


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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

Glad this thread lived on. I am usually the Queen of the Thread Killas...lol...also glad other people miss fictional characters too...means I am not nuts...or it means we're ALL nuts!


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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Jamie and Claire from Outlander series.

Harry Potter characters.

Those are the two main ones I can think of right now. As an aside, why does Jamie Fraser have to be fictional?!


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