My MC wants me and wh to read this book. Has anyone read it? I would live to hear thoughts about it.
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Rebreather Member Member # 30817
Posted: 2:14 PM, April 19th (Friday)
It is very good. It is a bit technical and dry, but the information on enmeshment is excellent. Me BS
2 ddays in '07
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
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What2Thnk Member Member # 37863
Posted: 2:18 PM, April 19th (Friday)
I have it, it's slow going.Me (BS) 42
Him (WS) 43
DD #1 7/19/10 2 year LTA EA/PA w/MOW - HSXGF#1
DD #2 6/6/12 4 mo EA (PA?) w/HSXGF#2
DD #3 12/15/12 3 week EA with random stranger
A whole crapload of gaslighting, minimizing, blameshifting, rugsweeping and TT.
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GraceisGood Member Member # 17686
Posted: 2:45 PM, April 19th (Friday)
The author has a more current book called Intimacy & Desire which is not so technical and dry.
I have read both, and gotten something out of each. You seem to be far enough out that I would think you should get good things out of it.
We have a tendency to think the love offered us is a reflection of our worth and value.But in actuality,it's a reflection of the person that is giving it.We love out of who WE are-not because of who the receiver is.At least in terms of real love.TSMF
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PippaPeach6 Member Member # 37523
Posted: 3:05 PM, April 19th (Friday)
I prefer David Clarke's "Kiss Me Like You Mean It" - lot more funUs: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Honey Badger don't care. - Randall
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