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User Topic: I did it!!!!
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Happy  Posted: 1:42 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

I finished the swing set! Only took me 2.5 times longer than the directions said it would. The roof was a mother-fucker. Now I know why all the other ones I see have a canvas tent roof.

It feels good because I worry about stuff going wrong around the house...but if I can figure this out, I think I can do fix-it stuff around the house.

I can't wait to pick up Teslet!! I feel like I've just put the Christmas gifts out Christmas Eve. But even better...Teslet knew I was building it this weekend....I hope he talked ex-shat's ear off about it!

Lie-lie approves of it as well...think she'll be using underneath the rock wall like a dog house.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Awesome job! Teslet may never want to come back in the house

I''ve built one of those before though and you should be very proud of your work.

BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6

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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

That is so cool! You rock, tesla.

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

It's beautiful! Be sure to get a picture of Teslet's face when he first sees it!

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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

I love the sense of accomplishment that comes from tackling a big job like this.

Kudos to you, it looks fantastic!

"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Great job! It looks amazing!!! I bet teslet loves it!

Me (BS)- 36
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

That looks amazing. Well done!

Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, April 21st (Sunday)


Me: 32 y/o, student and mom of two of the best kids in the world
Him: 33 y/o scumbag
Feels good to start laughing and feeling better again...

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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Awesome job Momma!!!

I bet your little guy is soo excited to see it, that he did talk X's ear off about it.

You've done good.



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

It's awesome!! YOU did awesome! Teslet will love it!

3 amazing kidlets
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Divorced - December, 2011

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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Great job!!! It's empowering to find out that we can actually do more than we think we can. Good for you Tesla!

Oh, and I LOVE your yard! So big and green and light.

If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Wow wow wow!! You did it yourself?!??? Crazy woman, hear you roar!!

Mama of the year award, right here folks! Teslet is gonna be stoked!!

divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

looks amazing! Awesome job!

Me: BH
Her: who cares?
Married: 22 years
2 sons at home
1 son in college
Divorced on 9/4/14!
Often it's the deepest pain which empowers you to grow into your highest self.

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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

That's awesome! It looks great!!! I can't wait to have a backyard and some kind of play equipment for my kiddos.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

That looks awesome!! I know it will mean so much more for him because you did it for him.

Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Awesome job

I do all my own renovations and your right the fact you did this shows you can do anything around the house, you have taught yourself a huge set of skills! (maybe not electrical/plumbing )

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

That looks wonderful, you did a great job!

Me, BS Him WS early 40's at the start, cheated before and after cancer diagnosis.
Two A's, two OW's, online looking for sex partners, two false R's.
Threw him out in January 2009.
Divorce final March 30th, 2010

XWH died Dec. 2010

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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Awesome job!

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Beautiful! Good job.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

And the dog likes it!

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, April 21st (Sunday)


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

you rock.

me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Wow. You are my hero. That is soooo awesome!!!

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Great job Tesla. Now that you aer skilled in swing-set building you are welcome to come to Ga and teach me how!

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, April 21st (Sunday) all I can say. if you did that, you can do just about anything.

Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Great job, tesla. So proud and happy for you!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

I looked at your photos and can almost imagine your grown up son one day in the future saying my mom was always there for me and even built the play structure alone for me.

You doing that Is an act of love and pretty symbolic of your dedication to Telset.

Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”

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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Thanks everyone! I'm so proud of myself. My hands and upper body are KILLING me...but so worth it.

Teslet had a hard time coming home but as we walked into the house I told him that I needed him to test some stuff out for me. He was so happy checking everything out. He looked at the roof and said, "wow that rough looks hard." I told him it was pretty hard to build it. He says, "yeah, you could have broken your body making it."

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

That is the coolest playhouse! I'm so glad you didn't break your body making it!

Me: BS, 40's.

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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Great job!

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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

My hat is off to you!! Amazing work getting that together!

me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."

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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Super awesome!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

You rock, Tesla! That is so awesome!

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

All I can say is that I am in AWE of your greatness lady!!! OMG!!!! WTFG!!!!

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

You are a rock star!!!

BS (Me)
Married 2 yrs; Together 6 yrs

D-Day 11/14/12
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold

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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Way to go! Great work! So friendvious of your talent!!!

Sometimes it's lonely, Sometimes it's only me & the shadows that fill this room...
But it's a great day to be alive & the sun still shines when I close my eyes ~Travis Tritt

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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

OMG!!! You totally have to share this with our gang at S/D!! Love it!! I want one too!

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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Default  Posted: 12:25 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

AYFKM? What is there that you can't do if you set your mind to it? Great Job.

BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Default  Posted: 2:17 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Wow! Rock on, Tesla!

"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."

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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

woohoo! Well done Tesla.

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

OMG! That's freakin awesome! Can you come to my place and build my little Piper one too!

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Way cool!!!!!


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Nicely done!


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"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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DS - 31 - Yikes!

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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Fantastic! Mama woodworker should go reward herself ith a massage :-D

BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

Great job!! I love the pic with the pup. He/ she is soooo proud of you!

Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, April 22nd (Monday)


me BS 48
her WW 45
married 15 years
3 wonderful but hurt kids

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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, April 22nd (Monday)

That is freaking AWESOME!! you rock!

Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

That is a fantastic playhouse!!!! Excellent job!

Me: BW (55)
Him: WH (62)
7/14/11 - Divorced

Posts: 1873 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: another world
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

Wow, thanks again everyone. I'm not used to all this positive feedback. Whenever I would try some little project, ex-shat would only criticize me or say that I was guilt tripping him! Sadly, I got so used to it, I stopped trying anything.
Thanks again for all your kind means a lot

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

I'm so Jelly of your weather. Right now in MN forecast 6-10 inches of snow in the surrounding metro.

AND IT'S APRIL 22!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Last week we just had 6-10 inches too. Damn!!!!! I think we had more snow in April then all of winter. LOLOLOLOL

Posts: 342 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Wow, thanks again everyone. I'm not used to all this positive feedback. Whenever I would try some little project, ex-shat would only criticize me or say that I was guilt tripping him! Sadly, I got so used to it, I stopped trying anything.

Same thing here. Awful, isn't it? The person who's opinion matters the most constantly tearing you down.

Posts: 1731 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Ohmigosh, how did I miss this! To repeat - Tesla, you totally rock!! You are going to have one very happy Teslet!

Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009

Honey Badger don't care. - Randall

Posts: 386 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Flyover chic
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Yay!! You *dun* great!!!! I bet the three of you will get tons of enjoyment from this! Every time you look outside and every time you or Teslet are out there, you will both know you did this for him. I bet it's already been the subject of 'show and tell'! It's something he will always remember. Even Lie lie is showing her appreciation.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2381 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)


Well done

DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!

Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Holy Shit tesla.

That is freaking amazing!!

You are my hero. I've not done anything anywhere near that scale but I too have really enjoyed putting things together for the girls.

What's really weird is that monster always did it but I always wanted to. Never felt like I was 'allowed' to. Not overtly, of course, the manipulation was oh so subtle. Like a whispered "you are not capable".

High five sister - that there is a "I AM MORE THAN CAPABLE" roar if I ever saw one.

Love it!

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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