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Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Confession: On DDay, when I was waiting for WW to come home and face the music, I angrily opened a profile on an OLD site.

I had someone contact me on it the other day. Now I know, I shouldn't be dating, but she seemed nice, so I agreed to meet her.

She is my age, very pretty, and a success in her career.

And I attracted her with some answers about myself and a picture!

Apparently, I can expect to do better than the moody, crazy swamp thing who likes to stomp on my heart! This woman is even better-looking than WW.

Hey y'all, get a load of me!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1664 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Easy there hot stuff! :)

You don't want to create more crazy right now. Slow and steady wins the race!

But yeah, sure feels great knowing you still got it, eh??


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3511 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Rose, are you saying I should return the engagement ring I bought for her?

Kidding. KIDDING!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1664 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

funny guy!! I literally LOL'd!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3511 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Survivor3512
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Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, April 21st (Sunday)

Pass, I know what you mean. After Dday I felt like crap about myself. Like I wasn't good enough, pretty enough, etc. Then, about 3 months after my D was final, one of my friends and I went out of town for the weekend. One night we went to a club, just to hang out and dance. But I had several different guys show interest in me. One was a 27 year old, very cute! And he kissed me! Now, I know it was nothing, but it made me feel good. Like I was attractive and that other men would be able to see my value once I was ready. So, good for you! But I also agree with Rose- don't rush into anything!!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
PurpleBlueBella
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Member # 38579
Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

Good for you!! Good luck! :))

Posts: 53 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: United States
ManBearDivorce
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, April 22nd (Monday)

Ha! Coming off my S and going to the club meeting girls looking way better then XWW was nice and a good ego boost. Just make sure you don't commit to a new relationship because you really want to start a healthy NB before you settle down again. Just a little warning and say that the best is still coming your way!

Posts: 339 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota
traveldad
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Member # 34047
Default  Posted: 1:53 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. I was 52 when my XW left me for the ugliest son of a bitch I've ever seen. My head was spinning. There was a girl 29 yrs younger than me who worked for a company I did business with. I thought she had a crush, but I didn't know for sure. I went up to her and told her that we should go out and do something next time I came to town, she accepted. We both knew it wasn't a committed relationship, but it helped me in so many ways. After taking her out for four months, I realized that I was healing up quicker than my children, so I stopped taking her out and hurt with my children. A few weeks ago, I took my youngest daughter on a business trip with me, the same gal ask when we were going out again right in front of my daughter. Good luck and take it slow.


DDay January 2010
Divorced July 2010...broke up 2 families
Contented single dad of 2 grown sons and two daughters.
XW talks to kids about once a year

Posts: 54 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Southwest
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, April 26th (Friday)

So we had a second date, which was no pressure at all. We just hung out and shot the shit. She picked a Japanese restaurant (yuck!). As punishment for that bad choice, I spilled my wine in her lap.

Red wine goes with sushi, right?

Anyway, we discussed going out again, when I told her that I know a place that makes deep-fried Mars bars. That seemed to excite her. I can tell you right now, I am not looking to get into a relationship with her (even though the dating site said we're 93% compatible). I'm just enjoying hanging out, and I think she feels the same (she hasn't jumped me yet, anyhow).

However, I also did a bit of a "baggage claim": Told her about my depression, sleep apnea, social anxiety, ADD, epilepsy. We'll see if the deep-fried Mars bars are enough of a pull to overcome that!

I've also had a couple other women start up conversations with me on the dating site. It's kind of nice. We're discussing music, our kids, and how our days went. The contact is really helping me detach from MCST (Moody, Crazy Swamp Thing).

Just enjoying.

And in case I didn't already say this: Get a load of me!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1664 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
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