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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:21 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

So yesterday I took my adorable G-baby, (18 months old ) for a haircut at a barbershop that is known for handling toddler haircuts well.

We had to wait about an hour, as there was only one barber working at the time.

Two men were also waiting, (one guy about my age, and a younger guy looked about 30ish).

So by the time it was G-baby's turn, the 2 guys and I had talked a bit, (mainly with the older guy, as the younger one was messing with his phone alot ) so I felt like we were no longer total strangers.

G-baby was so good with getting his hair cut, and the barber and I were both so impressed and thrilled that there was no crying, screaming or holding him down that I asked the younger guy if he would mind taking a pic with his phone of G-baby getting his haircut and sending it to my daughter. (I don't have a smartphone, nor is there a camera on my phone. Alright now, y'all can quit laughing, yes, I am old school when it comes to phones and quite frankly could really care less. I'll upgrade to an iPhone when my contract renews in Sept, and I can get a free one).

Well, you should of seen the look on younger guys face. He raised his eyebrows and looked all surprised and shocked, and started stammering, and so I immediately said, "oh that's fine, no problem if you don't want to" and he muttered something about "being in the middle of something right now". (I think he was playing a game )

H says I just can't go around asking people to use their phones to send pics for me. Now, please understand, I have NEVER asked someone to do anything like this before, and never would, it's just that this particular time, it seemed okay to ask.

Was I wrong?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

ppga...

I don't know...because I'm a super friendly person, *I* wouldn't have given it a second thought, but I can see how others would be put out or feel awkward by it.


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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I can see AJ being asked to do this and doing it.

I think the dude was rude.

JMHO.

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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

It would have put me off, ppga. (But I'm NOT an outgoing person, so take it for what it's worth...)

Also, I don't know much about phone games, but maybe he was at a point where he would have lost the game when you asked.

I did lend my phone to a gentleman this past Sunday. I was birding on the bay at Galveston. The man & his son were sitting near their kayak and he asked if he could use my phone to call his wife because she was supposed to pick them up and they had been waiting for quite a while. I hesitated but then figured if he ran off with my phone, I could probably catch him Also, my phone doesn't work very well and drops calls all the time, so I was a bit worried. Wound up I had no service in the area.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Oh good, now I don't have to hang my head in shame, lol.

Or, perhaps, maybe the three of us are just old farts?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Uh oh. sad is making me feel shameful again.

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 8:39 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)


Maybe he didn't know how to send a pic.

Just a thought.


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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Honestly, I would have thought it weird if a stranger I had just met asked me to take a pic and send it to someone I don't know - and I would wonder why they trusted me to NOT send a pic of a kid onto someone else... anyone else.

Ya, you were wrong.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Oh Lucky! You are absolutely right! I never thought about that!


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I would be hesitant to comply with such a request because whoever I was sending the message to would then have my phone number. I don't like giving my number out to strangers.

I think you let him off the hook very gracefully though! :)

[This message edited by VioletPush at 9:24 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Ah, another good point! VP.

Oh shit. I'm wrong. I hate to be wrong.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Sheesh. Gauging from some of these responses, it saddens me to think that we truly have reached the age when we can't ask people to do anything for us.

Like I said before, if I (or I'm sure my son) was asked the same favor, I/we would have done so. Something similar had happened to me once - I was at a restaurant and a couple was celebrating her birthday. To her surprise, he had a decorated cake made and brought out to her table. He had forgotten his phone and asked if I could take some photos of her with the cake and email them to him. I did it without question. Obviously it wasn’t a photo of a child, but I didn’t hesitate in the least.

The scenario as was painted had ppga engaged in conversation with these guys prior to her asking. Granted, the younger guy, not so much. Still, she gained a sense of "ok" with these guys. Her spidey senses weren't flaring up and she felt safe to broach them/him with the question. I think to call her out as flat out wrong seems a bit harsh to me.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I'm cool with it AJM. They make some really good points.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I too would be seriously weirded out by this request. That said, I'm a people pleaser, so I probably would have done it anyway.


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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Is it ok if my feet are firmly planted in both camps?

I would do it for you without blinking an eye. However, you and I would have been chatting about the weather, kids, news stories and summer vacation plans by that point. I like people, and if they don't give me a creepy vibe I will chat away

My concern is because it was a young man he was worried about one of two things.. taking a picture of a child and being accused of being a perv. Or B) his girlfriend or wife wondering who he had been emailing with. I suppose that's my experience with these boards coming into play.
Funny you should bring this up though because my husband was at a baseball game with his dad and my son, and my son was on the big screen for something and he didn't have a camera. The lady in front of him snapped a pic for him and sent to our email. Dh explained it as soon as he came in so I wouldn't worry.

I find it interesting that people would be so concerned over asking a stranger to take a picture but think nothing of slapping pictures of their kids all over the internet. Even with Facebook privacy settings, your friends and family could pass them on. That frightens me more.



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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I'd have totally sent it- and told you to get a Blackberry instead of an iPhone!!


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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I would have done it because I'm a mother doing a favor for another mother and her daughter. So I get it that way. But later on I would totally be telling people, "some random lady asked me to take a picture of her grandson and text it to her daughter. Doesn't she feel weird knowing a stranger now has a picture of the kid and her daughter's number. What if I was a total creeper? And how do I know that the daughter isn't crazy and now has my number?"

It was probably a combination of a bunch of things people have mentioned above.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

My concern is because it was a young man he was worried about one of two things.. taking a picture of a child and being accused of being a perv. Or B) his girlfriend or wife wondering who he had been emailing with.
Damn, more good points Meta"

And

slapping pictures of their kids all over the internet
oh Gawd, I've done that too, right here on SI. (although I usually take them down rather quickly). Ack. Kill me. (just kidding)


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I think you are going to get a few different responses from the type of people that you are asking. Please take into account that this was a younger man, possibly without children. Honestly, I kind of would been put off by the request, but I may have done and added "time for you to get a phone with a camera"... in a tactful way, of course.

Plus... it sounds like you were not interacting with the younger guy that much. You were talking to the older gentleman as the younger one was messing with his phone alot. If he was messing with his phone it doesn't sound like he was as engaged in the conversation.

And here is something else... and I will say this as gently as possible...

I am sure your grandbaby is adorable, and I am sure most people can appreciate how polite and adorable he is... but your grandbaby is not affiliated with the younger man at all. For all we know, he could secretly dislike children. It is a little presumptuous for us to be comfortable enough to assume the guy will not mind taking a picture of a stranger's kid, and then sending the pic to another stranger. Yes, the child is adorable, but it is not his. Nor does he know the parents at all. Honestly, I would be put out, as simple as a request as it may be. JMO.

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Damn, I'm getting a spanking. But that's okay. I wanted opinions.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I want to add, I don't mind taking pictures of people if they have their own phone and camera. I love doing that for folks! But not on my own phone/camera.

Anyway, I wouldn't think twice about it. What with the electronic age there is so much new etiquette around that we hardly know what is right or wrong these days.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:08 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I think the dude was rude.
yeah count me in this group. I would've done it and I know DS 18 would've done it as well.


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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I don't see how he was rude. It's not like he said "OH MY GOD, HELL TO THE NO!"

What exactly did this person do that is rude? All I see is someone declining taking a picture of a stranger and sending it to another stranger. It sounds like what you are saying is because your sons would have done it, and you would have done it, since this kid chose NOT to do it, it was rude of him to decline.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:18 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Him being rude is just my opinion. Just like AJ's mom had the same opinion. My doing it has nothing to do with what my son would or wouldn't have done. Hell, if he had said no, I still wouldn't have done it. Your interpretation of my reply is off but that is YOUR opinion. I'm not questioning it so why are you questioning my opinion? You're entitled to yours just as I'm entitled to mine.


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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

All I am asking is HOW was he being rude. I am just going off what you said. How, in your interpretation is he being rude? Because after reading your post I went back to the original post thinking I missed something, and I don't see it.

You said (paraphrasing): I would have done it. My son would have done it. Dude was rude.

What is one suppose to take from that?

And I said nothing about you not being entitled to your opinion, I was just questioning how you FORMED your opinion. I didn't mean to sound harsh.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:26 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I was at a restaurant and a couple was celebrating her birthday. To her surprise, he had a decorated cake made and brought out to her table. He had forgotten his phone and asked if I could take some photos of her with the cake and email them to him. I did it without question. Obviously it wasn’t a photo of a child, but I didn’t hesitate in the least.


Me too, we were on a boat cruise in Boston. A mom asked me to take pictures of her and her kids, then gave me her email address and I emailed them to her.
Maybe the guy is a fwh and didn't want to explain to his bw who you were and why he was sending pics for you!


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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

You said (paraphrasing): I would have done it. My son would have done it. Dude was rude.

Ummm...those were actually more "my" words.

Rude as in he sat there for some time and either participated in or overheard ppga's conversation with the other person.

His rudeness lies in his response "I'm in the middle of something" while never looking at her instead of acknowledging her request and saying something more kind, such as "I'm sorry, I'm uncomfortable doing that."

ETA: I "get" why he may have had issues with it. IMHO, he could have handled his response better.

[This message edited by ajsmom at 10:32 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

What is one suppose to take from that?
that in my opinion, given the welcoming atmosphere of the barber shop, he was rude. I don't see why you seem to be taking an issue with my post even though I'm not the only in this camp.


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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Maybe he was playing Candy Crush Saga

*ccs waits for no one*
*and i would never ask a stranger to take a picture of my kid, or give a stranger anybody's phone number*
*i hate giving MY number out, which is probably why i don't date much *


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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

If you had asked the older guy you were engaged in a convo with, better.

If you were asking it to be sent to you, better.

But asking to send a pic of your gc to a 3rd party (albeit his mom) - not so good.

What was your dd's reaction?

And my 26yo - if he was waiting for a haircut, playing on his phone, he would have tuned out the entire convo between you & the other guy - heck he tunes me out if he's engrossed in something.


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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

To Ajmom: "ummmmm" ... No, yourself and someone else said that. I did not find his reaction to be rude at all. I found him to be caught off guard at suddenly being asked an invasive thing and trying to tactfully bow out WITHOUT being rude. Not everyone is articulate as the next person, and I would not categorize his reaction as rude unless he became belligerent.

I apologize to Missjai (?) I do not mean to just needle you, yours was the last one I picked.


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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

I wouldn't sweat it ppga. Some people will be uncomfortable with it, other's won't. I think the discomfort stems more from it being unusual than out of line.

Also your GS was out in public, preserving that kind of moment isn't some intensely intimate or perverted request.


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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Lol, I don't think you should worry too much about it. I have received a few pics of my kids from random numbers when they are with their dad. Of course my ex is probably using the kids to flirt with some chick, but his phone can't send/receive picture messages unless on WiFi.


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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

What was your dd's reaction?
Well of course I didn't tell her, lol! She and her H both would have given me the ole 'Moms' ole fashioned eyeroll'.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Oh, eye roll while shaking their heads.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

PPGA - I don't think you should even worry about this for another second.

A) You never know until you ask.

B) You were gracious when you let the guy off the hook.

C) I doubt highly that this guy has even thought about it since it happened.

and Finally....

D) Don't get an iPhone get a Blackberry!!!


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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

He may have been rude; he may have been uncomfortable and nonconfrontational. Who knows?

The request would have made me very uncomfortable.

We can only answer from our own perspectives.


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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

My cell phone is my only phone and I am very particular about who I give my phone number out to.

So yeah ... If a total stranger asked me to take a pic and send it to someone I didn't know I wouldn't be too keen to do it because now some total stranger has my phone number.

I'm not saying that asking is wrong because it isn't wrong to ask. Though neither is it wrong or rude of someone to refuse.


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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Put me in the camp of this request would have made me feel uncomfortable.


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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Shout out to my 15 year old daughter. If a guy asks you to take a picture and forward it on your email...don't do it. He now has your email, he then runs a reverse look up, finds out your name, finds out your address, runs a google earth to see where your bedroom window is....I think that acid flashback paranoia is kicking in this morning...get away get away you demons.


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