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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Got breakfast before school today. I have a huge test so I'm trying to chill.

There is this old fuck sitting here talking really loudly. Like I can hear every word he utters.

So far he has hit on "wetbacks" an how to solve the "immigration problem" and how we should give "them guns and let them kill each other."

Then he starts on President Obama being "half black" and then says, "Hell I ain't racist. I think everyone should own one."

Now he's talking about women getting jobs "on their backs."

I am trying so hard not to get arrested by telling the fucker off.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Hmmm...obviously he's a moron.

Why haven't you moved away from him or just left where you are?

You do realize you can't fix stupid, right?

I'd certainly put passing a huge test above dealing with nuts like this.

AJ's MOM


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Then he starts on President Obama being "half black" and then says, "Hell I ain't racist. I think everyone should own one."

OMG...unfortunately, he sounds like some members of my family.


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Don't even worry about it. He thinks he's being funny.


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

STFU already asshole MF!!!!!

ok, I'm done

Back to your studying ok??


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

What a miserable bastard.


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

He does that for shock factor. He's looking for a fight. That is ignorance at it's best. Move your seat, if possible. What an asshole.


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

I've encountered the vile pigs of which you speak... it sometimes blows my mind how they feel the climate is such that they can spew ignorant bile publicly. I ponder the psychology of those who feel the need to denigrate whole groups of people...like do they feel so powerless and small that they're desperate to have others be "less than" themselves? I don't know, but I can empathize with how obnoxious it is to have to hear it.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Honestly, I would probably leave the restaurant, and let the management know on your way out that they lost a customer by letting someone behave so indecently in their place of business.


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KBeguile
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

He does that for shock factor. He's looking for a fight. That is ignorance at it's best. Move your seat, if possible. What an asshole.

I've encountered the vile pigs of which you speak... it sometimes blows my mind how they feel the climate is such that they can spew ignorant bile publicly. I ponder the psychology of those who feel the need to denigrate whole groups of people...like do they feel so powerless and small that they're desperate to have others be "less than" themselves? I don't know, but I can empathize with how obnoxious it is to have to hear it.

These, in a nutshell.

As Neil DeGrasse Tyson (a favorite in our household) points out, children aren't born with racism, intolerance, bigotry, cultural insensitivity, racial arrogance/pride, religion, or superstition. To a baby, a black cat is just a cat, and a black person is just a person. It's what we, as parents, teach our children that form their impressions of the world.

For example, I noted that before we pulled our DS out of his daycare, he was being harassed by three or four other children, all of whom happened to be of African descent. One of his best friends in the class happened to be as white as he was.

Now, the reject SouthernGal was having to suffer through would draw an immediate correlation here -- where there isn't one, considering that my son was the racial minority at this daycare facility, which means it's incredibly likely that any child who would interact with him, for good or for bad, would be of African descent. His other best friend from this school happens to be of non-Caucasian descent, too, so there goes the other leg of Ol' Grampaw Racist's little working hypothesis.

I've thought of this in two different ways.

1. When the majority is the clear majority, they don't have to fight or voice their own rights, because they drown out all other dissenting noise. When the majority is no longer the clear majority, they now have to fight to be heard over the rest of the people trying to express their opinions (who have been trying to express opinions for a lot longer, natch), which means they start becoming the squeaky wheels themselves (I personally love the hypocrisy when a white male pundit takes to the airwaves to combat something that an NAACP pundit, for example, or some other non-representative of race, culture, or religion expresses either a personal opinion or an opinion on behalf of the organization they represent, and the white guy extends the other pundit's opinion to encompass the entirety of the sector of the population they themselves are afraid of, which is then interpreted as the opinion of all staunchy white males, ad nauseam). They feel a perceived threat, so they react with hate-speech, loudly, to counteract any reasonable argument.

2. The other part of it is exactly as sad12008 says. There's a reason that people who take to the pulpit to bash homosexuals tend to focus on male-male homosexuality in particular. They're afraid, either because they're closet cases themselves or because they personally find it icky, and they happen to have supporting doctrine to fluff their speech. For every redneck hillbilly white-trash racist homophobe and inner city gangbanger thug, there are at least a dozen more-well-informed people of all genders and colors in the spectrum who can remove themselves from their own personal habits and fears and make rational, reasoned decisions about what to do with themselves. And, furthermore, I happen to know that these people aren't the ones who hang around Piggly Wiggly, just waiting for a camera crew or reporter to come by so that they can inject their own agenda into the regional dynamic. Most of the people who aren't prejudiced are simply too busy actually living their lives to be quoted, televised, recorded, or otherwise put on the record as to how much shit they don't give about racism, sexism, or religious intolerance because the acts of working, parenting, and being a part of their community take up too much of their time. We hear from the ones who speak loudest, not the ones who speak with the most conviction.

[This message edited by KBeguile at 10:41 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)]


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NotDefeatedYet
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

He does that for shock factor. He's looking for a fight.

I wouldn't be inclined to believe he gave it near as much thought as you have.

When people spew ridiculous garbage that has removed any doubt as to their intellectual capabilites , I always think of those penguins in Madagascar. "Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave." It's all you can do.


"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."

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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

t/j - Being from the South, I hate it when these "vile pigs" (and that's an insult to pigs) surface from the sewer and give us all a bad name. There's vile pigs in the North, but the media just luuuuurves it when there's a drawl involved. . .

This is when my Dixie Carter wants to surface and land my well-polished pumps in his scrotum (as such exists).


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Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

I get in trouble with people like this. One of my oldest, dearest friends - a 'country lawyer' type of man -- told me once ..."to remain silent is to assume you agree."

So yeah, I'd have to speak my piece and then move away from him.


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JanetS
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

I'm one who doesn't shut up either. If somebody dares to tell me what to do....I will "do it". If somebody crosses a line (even if I am not involved)...I get involved. I am calm, do not come in with guns blazing.

Sometimes it's appreciated, sometimes it's not. But I know I've done the right thing.


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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Okay ... the exam is over and I'm home.

I actually did say something.

I thought about letting it go and just leaving. But honestly, by the time he got around to talking about a former employee of the restaurant and what a "bitch" she was because she was a lesbian, I just couldn't take it any more.

I was seated on the other side of the restaurant from him and I could hear his every word because he was that LOUD.

So on my way out, after I threw away my half-eaten breakfast, I stopped by his table. He was talking to the on-duty manager, by the way.

I said, "I couldn't help but hear every word you've uttered since I walked in because you were talking so loudly. In less than 20 minutes you managed to denigrate blacks, women, and gays. You completely ruined my breakfast, and my entire morning. You are a vile, disgusting, and vulgar excuse for a human being."

As I was walking out his response was to say, "What a dyke bitch! Did you see that hair?"

Yes, that's right you jackhole. Because I have very short hair I must be a "dyke." I thought about telling him that I am not, in fact, a dyke. I thought about explaining that I am bisexual (not homosexual) and that if I were to place a label on myself I would be a "blue jean femme" - that is something between a dyke (butch) and lipstick (feminine) lesbian. But I figured such subtleties would be completely lost on his tiny brain.

Ugh.

I swear he owes an apology to all of the trees who tirelessly make the oxygen he uses to be so disgusting.

[This message edited by SouthernGal at 2:22 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)]


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JanetS
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Good for you.

I'm sure there were others around who wanted to say something, but were to shy, or scared.

It may not change this idiot one bit.


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PippaPeach6
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Good on you, SG!!!

Standing ovation! Vile pig.

eta: I have very short hair, and therefore must also be a dyke bitch!! And we won't even go into the different nationalities in my background (that are probably ALSO in his!).

[This message edited by PippaPeach6 at 2:25 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)]


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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Janet,

It won't change him. He was probably 70+, and probably fancies himself a real "good ol' boy" who thinks that all Southern men should be just like him.

I just keep hoping that he and his ilk are a dying breed and that someday the labels we stick on one another will all say the same thing - "Human."


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D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Good for you for speaking up. It won't change him but I bet others who heard you were applauding.

Thank-you for your chutzpah!
And I hope you did well on the exam!


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yewtree
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

In other words, he did didn't hear a t hing you said. He was too busy judging you.

Nice try however.


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

That's really lousy.

At the DMV, there were these men in line, endlessly complaining and snickering about the "U.S. Gov" and it's problems with other countries. I don't want to be offensive so won't repeat but they went on to say how we should leave other countries alone and keep our money here and on and on.

What I wished for was my Westen Civ book from college so they could look up some reasons why it's not terrible if we aid other countries...but I know throughout the world are countless opinions on this.

I did step in as my number beeped to go up and I said, very quietly, "What about our resources like gold in Turkey and Russia (if still there) in those other countries? How would we protect that and how would we protect people from our country in others if we didn't go there and sometimes help?" I had other things to say, but since they complained about money, I used that angle...

Yes, I suspect the man at your school was maybe looking for attention or to see who could be aggravated easily. It doesn't show much tolerance or open-mindedness on his part, that's for sure.


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Didn't even bother to go so far as Nato and all of that.


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