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msk99
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

So, just trying to find a secondary part-time job to make some much needed income and keep things afloat. Just wondering if it is a good or bad idea to reference in my cover letter that I am a single dad looking for a stable secondary income or if I should omit it entirely?

Thanks....


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Most people put, "References available upon request" on their resume. Good luck!


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

I wouldn't offer that info in a cover letter. IMO a potential employer might think that you'll stay long enough to get a little financial boost, then leave when he's invested time and effort into training you.


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

No. That type of information does not belong in a cover letter. If you're asked a direct question in interview, then you can say it.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

No, and they shouldn't ask you about that in an interview either. Isn't that considered discrimination if they base a hiring decision on stuff like marital status?


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Yes, familial status is a protected class. You cannot be discriminated against because you have children, regardless of your marital status.

Cover letters should emphasize your qualifications in relation to the job requirements (exact relation is best), your strong desire for the position and where you can be reached.

ETA: ALWAYS follow-up about a week later on your application. Be the squeaky wheel!

Good luck to you!

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[This message edited by ajsmom at 10:50 AM, April 25th (Thursday)]


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

I completely misread your post the first time

What the others have said


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Finally, completely R'd
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msk99
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Thanks everyone for your feedback on this, clearly I shouldn't add that to my letter. That's the easy part....now the tough part of finding a job outside my normal 8:30-4:30 job, lol....

Cheers...


BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced

Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.


Posts: 712 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Alberta
msk99
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, April 29th (Monday)

After using this advice, I managed to get an interview for a night auditor position at one of the local hotels. 2 shifts a week working 11PM-7AM, so figure I can manage that for the benefit of the boys. About a 1/4 of the pay of my regular job, but at this point, I need the cashola....


BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced

Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.


Posts: 712 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Alberta
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