Wayward Side
User Topic: 20 years
Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Tonight is our 20th wedding anniversary.

Six years ago I made some horrible choices. And tonight we spent our 20th out bowling with our two kids. It was the perfect evening. One that even a couple years ago I wasn't sure I would see.

To all the WS out there...stick with it. Do the work. Days like this are what makes me realize that it is worth the fight. Not just the fight for yourself, but the fight for those who have helped make you who you are, or who you can be, if you choose to do the work.

Gerrygirl, I'm so sorry for what I put you through, but I'm so happy for where we are at today. Thank you for having faith in me, and in us. I love you.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Member # 37879
Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Thank you Baxters! This warms my soul! Happy 20 to you both!

Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. Many ddays, last one late 8/12 "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos

Posts: 513 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
Member # 35566
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

So nice to read this.

Happy 20th!

Me: fWH/BH 46

Separated transitioning to D

Posts: 730 | Registered: May 2012 | From: L.A.
tired girl
Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)

Congratulations to both of you tonight and Happy Anniversary.

Always nice to see a positive post.

Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5077 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 3:28 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy 20th

FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live

Posts: 37406 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:22 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy 20th Anniversary, Baxter and Gerrygirl!

Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."

Posts: 38064 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy anniversary!

Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10


Posts: 2232 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
Member # 35025
Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Awesome BBFF & GG!

TG and I will drink some gin & juice for you!

Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."

Posts: 880 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy 20th! So awesome!

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 32309
Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Oh my goodness! What a beautiful post Baxter! Gerrygirl must be overwhelmed!

Congratulations to you both on your 20th!

We celebrated our 20th last October, and your post made me cry, I'm so delighted for you all!

Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver

Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK
Member # 34761
Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Congratulations! We just celebrated our 20th as well but we are only a year out from d-day #3 so it was more tenous a celebration for us. We made it to 20; we didnt' think we would either.

Married 20 years
Him-FWH-46 "healing4us2"
2 kids, DD 12 and DS 16
D-day #1 Jan. 30,2012
D-day #2 April 12, 2012
D-day #3 April 15, 2012
June 24, 2012--Decided to R.
January 21, 2014-Forgave him! Life is sweet!

Posts: 226 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: united states
Member # 17569
Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Congratulations!! I hope you also got a babysitter for this weekend for some alone time!

me bs
him fws
19 years
OW was my best friend
2 amazing kids
finding happiness again
separation 12/27/07
let him come back 3/25/08
Just had our 25th anniversary.

Posts: 384 | Registered: Jan 2008
Member # 24849
Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

love this! Happy anniversary!

FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 5978 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
Member # 26465
Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy Aniversary to the both of you!!!

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3188 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
Member # 37523
Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

(((Baxter & Gerrygirl)))

Happy 20th! And to many more happy years together

Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009

Honey Badger don't care. - Randall

Posts: 386 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Flyover chic
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary you two.

Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6312 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Thanks everyone.

WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Awwww I just saw this. Very sweet post. Happy 20th, you two!!

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17851 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 6864
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary you two love birds

♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥

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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary!

Posts: 7548 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 30877
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary you two!

D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

Posts: 1203 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: arizona
Mrs Panda
Member # 27303
Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, April 25th (Thursday)

Sounds like a fun 20th. Happy anniversary to you and gerrygirl.

Me-41 FWW Him-45BH
M 13years. Reconciled.
DDay#1 Nov 2008 (OM2)
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Confessed to OM 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut

Posts: 1992 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The SouthEast
JKL Vikings
Member # 32094
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, April 26th (Friday)

Happy 20th Anni Baxters and Gerrygirl

Her- Alpha Female 40
Me-FWH 42
Married since '02, together since 2000
D-day 2/10/2009
3 sons- J- born Oct 2001
K- born Sept. 2005
L- born Apr. 2008
We ALL have issues. It's how we deal with them that makes the difference

Posts: 524 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas, TX
Member # 36033
Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, April 26th (Friday)

Happy anniversary!!!!!!

WW/BW 33 BH/WH 34
1 year old beautiful daughter

Posts: 859 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 37776
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, April 27th (Saturday)

Wow, just Wow, in a good way! My WH's first betrayal was during our 20th year of M although disclosure didn't happen for a few more years. We are working really hard to right the ship, so to speak, and your post gives me hope! Congrats on R'ing and best wishes for many happy days to come! Jamie

BS early 50's Wh also early 50's. I am Jamie, Mom to 3 great teens/young adults. My WH and I have been together more than half of our lives and married 25+. We are in MC & going to give R our best shot, hoping and praying for a better 2013!

Posts: 112 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: USA
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