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HelpMe123
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Member # 39044
Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

On Monday I had documents written up stating an agreement that WS and I verbally discussed. It states that I shall have sole legal custody, primary physical custody, and he is to have partial physical custody 1 weekend per month. It also has a morality clause and gives me permission to relocate back home with my son (I have yet to decide if I will relocate or stay local). I am terrified he is going to NOT agree to it once he sits with the attorney. Sole legal custody is very hard to achieve. I requested it to protect my son from needing both of us to agree on everything important in his life being that I may be hours away and my WS is not a good father at all. For example this morning I asked my son how was being with dad last night? He replied, "ok I just sat on my computer" I said "did u guys talk" son says "well he asked me if I was hungry, and I told dad I don't want to move out of my house but he didn't say anything back". I asked did you guys do anything together? He says "no dad was working or something on his computer and he watched tv and I just played on my 3ds (portable video game) and the computer". I pray this man signs the paperwork. He cares alot about what other people think so that alone could stop him. I really do just want to get out of this house (unfortunately my son suffers) and move on at this point. How can a man hurt his child so much? How can a man just walk away from his family with no care? How can the OW want a man that does this? Please please please sign the papers


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
HelpMe123
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Member # 39044
Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Just one more note.....why am I shocked? When I met him his not yet divorced from wife moved to another country with 2 kids with his permission....is this like hey I'm done with you take the kids, go as far away as possible and just keep me posted on their progress....I mean really!


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
hopefulmother
Member
Member # 38790
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, April 25th (Thursday)

Yep...sounds like he just wants to start over. Maybe, he will not fight for your son. Don't forget it is not about what he just wants, but about what the OW wants too. I hope he doesn't fight and you get to move and start your life anew. I pray you find a good man to be a wonderful friend and role model for your son. Karma will get the other two. I can't believe any women would want anything to do with a man like that. Maybe it is about the money?


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 931 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
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