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27yearsnowlost
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, April 26th (Friday)

Yesterday was a bad day. I was following a post on here and it got to me. I went threw his g mail and looked in all of it. In the spam folder there were a lot of dating site in there. Now I know that everyone gets spam but I also have g mail but I don't get them. But you get spam from other similar site that you have been to.

But that not the only thing that bother me. He read the post that upset me but it didn't seem to phase him.

I'm 7 week from d day. Still no std results and yes he went for them last week and the dr yesterday but the result were not back ( the dr got on the phone to tell me). But why did it take this long to go. I had to bring it up for him to go.

He was with a paid person from craiglist. So who knows what and who she did first before giving my wh oral sex. I have no idea what stds she has. But I guess this doesn't both him.

I just can't believe that he thinks I'm just upset about finding spam mail. I guess the post didn't upset him.


Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
NeverAgain2013
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Member # 38121
Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, April 26th (Friday)

I quite honestly find it a bit of a stretch for us to expect other people's posts here on SI to evoke all kinds of emotions in our WS's.

Men are hardwired differently than women, and while a post may have affected you, I wouldn't expect it to have the same affect on most men.

However, your husband SHOULD be affected by the pain he's caused you directly with his own actions. The fact that he seems completely detached and completely unaffected by what he did is really your bigger issue here, not his lack of reaction to a stranger's post here on SI.

He just seems completely unremorseful and it's almost like he's agitated that you 'caught' him and he's now got to pay the price for his behavior. But I don't get the impression that he actually sees the wrong that he did.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

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