Topic: Why does he talk bad about the same woman he cheats with?
Member # 39031
| Posted: 12:55 PM, April 26th (Friday)|
It is a month and 1 day since Dday for me. I ordered a phone tracker, placed it on his phone, and found sex messages and naked pics of atleast 4 different woman. Not to mention that my phone bill goes back over a year ago, and i have discovered atleast 10 woman on there. He claims he just needed someone to talk to to kill time, and that he's never slept with any of these woman or seen them since he got the number. WTF? You could have talked to me. He has been calling these woman more than he has called me while he's at work. He talked to a few of them for over an hour while he's on the clock, but everytime i called, he like "I gotta go hunny, got work to do, luv you, see you at home" But what i wanted to point out is that all the woman on the pics are woman that if seen in public with me, he would talk about how whorish or unattractive she was. He hates woman with short hair, but guess what? the main one he called looks like a little bald headed boy on drugs. Why does he talk about the same type of woman he's been contacting? I on the other hand am the total opposite of any of them. I have long hair, very attractive and he treats me like a trophy wife. Flaunts me around, and makes sure i fit the bill every time we leave the house. It just hurts me so bad, and lowers my self esteeme to know that he expects all that from me, but fools around with cheap, unattractive trash that would normally sicken him when he's with me.
[This message edited by Lastnfinalchance at 1:08 PM, April 26th (Friday)]
Married 8 yrs
1 A, & 2nd time caught cheating with several woman
Posts: 11 | Registered: Apr 2013
Member # 38103
| Posted: 1:41 PM, April 26th (Friday)|
I can't imagine when you are trying to get strangers to send you naked photos your standards will be that high! Probably the only trash WH could find that would respond!
Me: BH, 44
Her: WW, 43
D day. January 12, 2013
Posts: 653 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Socal
Member # 28376
| Posted: 10:17 PM, April 26th (Friday)|
My WH is a sex addict. Otherd have said I am very attractive yet he would sext and look at porn and had an affair with "porn with skin" near our house who is ugly.
Please remember that someone who has low, low self esteem usually has an affair with someone who they believe is beneath them to build themselves up. In JFO there is a thread that talks specifically about this aspect of the cheaters handbook. They are flawed and they most always "affair down".
Men who turn to porn and sexting are not fulfilled in their own lives and use it as others use food, alcohol, etcm to self medicate emotionally.
He could be a SA? He could be bored with his life. I wouldn't rule these things out from what you describe.
Sending you hugs.
Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending
Posts: 1237 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 38518
| Posted: 10:12 AM, April 27th (Saturday)|
It sounds like he is trying to throw you off his trail by degrading and speaking down about what he is actually attracted to. It would be strange of him to actually say he WAS attracted to women who looked like that, because that would be 'giving it away' to you, if that makes sense? In short, I call bullshit. I think he is just playing games with you, unfortunately.
ME: 33 BH
HER: 32 WW
Married: 8 years
DDay #1: 02/22/2006 (ONS)
DDay #2: 09/23/2012 (EA/PA)
DDay #3: 12/07/2012 (EA/PA)
DDay #4: 01/03/2013 (EA/PA)
DDay #5: 01/24/2013 (EA/PA)
TT until 04/07/2013
100% NC: 04/18/2013
Posts: 190 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 24786
| Posted: 1:17 PM, April 27th (Saturday)|
Because it has NOTHING to do with external looks and everything to do with how he is inside!! She ( inside) is as broken as him and is fluffing his ego. Why he makes sure you are perfectly turned out is ALSO fanning his broken feathers.
Can you not see it? If you look hot and sexy and well presented then HE looks ( so on the inside FEELS) better.
The OW can be fat, thin, short, tall, busty, lat chested etc etc etc etc ad nauseum... But she strokes his ego and that too makes him feel better inside.
Please people- it's NOT about external looks. It's about internal stuff---- THE WS'S internal brokenness
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć
Posts: 1444 | Registered: Jul 2009
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