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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Dear Stretch,

What the fuck is with the children's idea that they should feel sorry for me or worried about me because the whore was at soccer? Why do they say that "daddy said it was disrespectful" for her to come to soccer ... AND YET THERE SHE FUCKING WAS???

And why did the boys seem to think I might feel "left out" or "all alone?"

Rest assured that I told the boys that I was seldom alone, as I am quite friendly and comfortable on the sidelines with the other soccer parents. And that even if I were to sit on the sidelines without any company whatsoever I would be FINE because I am there to see them play.

Fuck you for having them worry about me on what is their time and their sport.

And feel free to tell your NOT girlfriend now just roommate that you sleep with Be sure to share that this is MY fucking SMALL town and I am the single mom raising two beautiful respectful intelligent boys IN SPITE OF the fucking idiot father who coaches their soccer teams, and who is a fucking lousy coach, who loses every game because he can't see strength in others without punishing it, ridiculing it, or benching it. And the whore? she is the butt ugly troll who proves that they always affair down. Bring her. Let her stake her claim on you very publicly because the stories I have been telling are MUCH better with pictures.

Y'all come to all the soccer games. I shine in comparison to either one of you.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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stretch13
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

fuck yeah!! and fuck them!! she is a buttugly troll inside and out. you are their heroes and always will be!!!!!


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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Be proud, you are raising some pretty awesome boys


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Let her stake her claim on you very publicly because the stories I have been telling are MUCH better with pictures.


Good old Stretch is still living in (non)reality, huh? What a nutter!


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

I know it's not the point of your post, but here's the vibe I'm getting:

Stretch is trying to make it seem like he's being considerate of you while pushing her away. If he felt it was disrespectful, he should've told her and left the kids out of it. He wanted YOU to know what he said.

OW, OTOH, probably came to the game because she thinks the breakup had to do with you. That's why she sat close to you- to watch for glances.

I might be reading into all of it, but between the lead up to the break up news, her coming to the game and now this...

I hope he understands his chances with you are so low they go into the negative numbers.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

I hope he understands his chances with you are so low they go into the negative numbers.

I know just enough about math to say they go low enough to be imaginary numbers!!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Fuck you for having them worry about me on what is their time and their sport.

This. ^^^


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Yeah...I just banned STBX's boyfriend for soccer for the foreseeable future. Just because my kids already feel this stress too.

He can do whatever he wants with boy toy on his time. I have relinquished all control. (we have a morality clause in our PSA that I am removing...)But, boy toy doesn't get to make everyone uncomfortable on the soccer field. I will be uncomfortable, my kids will be uncomfortable, my friends are uncomfortable, I won't allow it yet. Still together next year? We can discuss then.

Why? Why do they do this??

Oh, please take pictures.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Bravo! Well said well said. I sooo wish you could share this with Stretch but thank you for your poignant take. G-d bless america.


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, April 29th (Monday)

the stories I have been telling are MUCH better with pictures
I love this!!!!


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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, April 29th (Monday)

I know just enough about math to say they go low enough to be imaginary numbers!!!

Too funny, I was going to say imaginary numbers.


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, April 29th (Monday)

"daddy said it was disrespectful" for her to come to soccer

Really? Daddy said that? How about it was disrespectful for Daddy to screw another person behind Mommy's back and lie to everyone? Sheesh....they just don't get it


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
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