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Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

My H is constantly "looking for an out" of his job and moving home to his family.

We made a cross country move once to get him out of this job(he went right back when his year was up with the new place), and the move ruined us in every aspect expecially financially and this time was when he had his "affair".

We've been on this hamster wheel for years of "I think we'll be able to move next year". Second D Day involving the original OW was a month ago.

In regards to 180 can I flat out tell him that I don't know if I will move with him if he takes a new job and moves across the country to his family? I don't know if it's the best decision, period.

FWIW, I say across the country and that means moving from smack dab here in Chicago to either coast, and my entire family is far south, so it's farther removing me from them and my mother has alzheimer's which is a whole other story and mess.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
Hurt2Deeply
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Member # 38317
Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Yes! It is OK for you to tell him that and for you to stay. He sounds unstable and inconsiderate in addition to being unfaithful.

You do not have to live this way. This may be your best opportunity for a good break. I would not want to keep following him around and add more financial ruin to yourself as well as more upheaval.


Me BS 57
Him FWH 60
M 35 years
3 Adult kids
R
3 Grandkids

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