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jackie89
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Today, I am almost settled in my new apartment.

We have been separated for over a year. Then a couple months ago, we agreed for us to put the house up for sale. It sold in 2 days, so finally moved to a little apartment with the 2 kids (DS18, DD14).

I went back to the house early this morning to clean it all out - and ready for settlement on Tuesday - (dreading this, being with STBXH for close to 2hrs)

It was the hard and really emotional, knowing that I was there in that house for the last time. Cleaned and cried the pratically the whole time. I loved that house, It was just a perfect little house, we bought it in really bad shape, spent a ton of money making it great - with practically everything new - because we thought it would be a forever house- my DD was 3 months when we moved in - my DS was 4 - so this was their home, their neighborhood.

But here I am in an apartment, and I am making it really cozy, with new decorating things, new towels, etc, I know it will not be forever, and that someday I will buy a house again.

I am proud of myself, for planning, and making the move go smoothly - because I was organized, worked my ass off, moving the little stuff myself with friends... I saved 300.00 with moving company!

In one day, my little place is almost in complete order - plus attending 2 soccer games!

So all in all, a productive, bit emotional weekend.



Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 509 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Congratulations on your new beginning and the feathering of your new nest.

Hugs for the bittersweet parts.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5279 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
little turtle
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Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, April 28th (Sunday)

Welcome to your new beginning!

Looking forward to hearing/reading stories about your new adventures.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
jackie89
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Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, April 29th (Monday)

Thank you! I am looking forward to this new beginning, focusing on my future, and concentrating on the well being of my kids.

Tomorrow, is settlement, once that's signed and delivered, I don't really need to deal with STBXH much. Kids have their own cell phones, and I'm flexible with whatever they want to do with their Dad.

Other than... when he'll respond to my divorce papers - filed in 8/11.
Until then, planning on enjoying my independence. God give me health - then I can work and provide for me and my kids.


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 509 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Survivor3512
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Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, April 29th (Monday)

Congratulations!!! So happy you're starting your new beginning!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, April 29th (Monday)

I, too, moved into a duplex a year ago this month...and have made it a home for me and my baby girl! Its not the same as my house was...but it has become MINE...and our home...and it has grown on me! I know someday things will get better and easier....and I just am trying to be patient and be happy with having something that is all mine!

Congrats on your new place! The hard part is behind you!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:35 AM, April 29th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2724 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, April 29th (Monday)

((((jackie89)))) Sending you strength for the settlement tomorrow.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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thebighurt
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Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, April 29th (Monday)

Congrats on the new start and getting this much behind you. Mojo and good wishes for the settlement. And the soccer games!


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