So what is he doing? Is he in IC to figure out his "why?" Ok..his wife is busy..but..um..aren't 4 of those kids his? So he should have been helping you with those kids,so maybe by the end of the day,you're not too tired to spend time with him.
He chose to cheat. This is not your fault. It has nothing to do with anything you did or did not do.
Did he write the OW a NC letter..one that you sent..so he didnt reword it?
He needs to find another job,since OW is a coworker.
He needs to answer all of your questions without defense or anger..or blameshifting..and he is blameshifting..
It takes 3-5 years to heal from infidelity..and that's if there is no TT.
Is he completely transparent? Do you have full access to all of his accounts and cell,including passwords?
Im sorry you're here,but glad you've found us.
Your WH did a good thing by confessing..but he needs to own his shit. He chose to cheat. Instead of turning toward you and working on the marriage,and coming up with ways to make it better for both of you(like him helping with the kids),he chose to turn away from you and the marruage.
Do not let him put this on you. he is a grown man..he is responsible for his actions.
Hmm. YOU were in the same marriage..yet you didn't cheat.
His excuses are just that...excuses.
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.