Oh boy do I remember how hard NC was in the early days. Not from wanting to 'connect' but wanting to connect my foot to his little brain.
It gets easier - so much easier. I still slip up sometimes but the lapses are much fewer and far between.
I found was going hardcore NC was the best way. Sure there were things I wanted to ask about the girls but I figured the questions weren't 100% essential so I didn't ask. I never really had faith in the info he did give me anyway so it was kind of a waste of time.
It helped cut off those last grubby tentacles he had on me.
Stay strong mamma - visualise ANY non essential contact as ego kibbles for him.
No ego kibbles for you fucktard!!