Your dynamic sounds a lot like ours. Fwh wouldn't put any though or effort into us, our house, our lives.... He doesn't think ahead, he just wanted to ride bikes. During MC I was realizing that I should have bailed years ago because I was miserable, and he resented me for not telling him how awesome he was all day long.
In an unexpected turn of events he used counseling to become introspective and to try and learn how to be an effective partner. So here we are, starting from scratch.
I say hang in there and see how his goes... If he is taking ownership, a good counselor may be able to help him change his outlook on your relationship.