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simplydevastated
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Question  Posted: 12:53 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Ok, so I've been doing a TON of stress eating. I feel sluggish and gross. I've been thinking about finding some kind of Detox or something to cleanse my system. Now that the weather is warming up I'm also going to try and get walking more to try and lose weight.

So my question is: What is a good detox/cleanse to buy. Is there a tea? I love tea.

Thanks in advance for the advice.


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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

I have never seen any physician that recommends a cleanse. I'll stop short of saying they are hoaxes, but they certainly aren't healthy, even if done for just a day. Your best bet is to eat plenty of fruits and vegies with moderate amounts of protein and whole grain carbs.

Tea is great for you, but not as a substitute or cleanse. Black, green and white-all are good. Even coffee in moderation is good.

There is a lot of junk science out there; be careful.


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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Having had to *cleanse* for a colonoscopy, it isn't something I would do unless I had to... Which will be in about 9 yrs!

Try cutting down/out processed foods, sugar, etc. The body really cleanses itself. We just need to nourish it correctly.

Wish I could practice what I just wrote. I,too, have been on quite a binge of late and know exactly how you feel.


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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Thank you Sad and Lucky. This is why I posted here. There is so much on the net that I'm not sure what is right and what is wrong.

I guess cleanse is the wrong word. I just want to get all the garbage out and feel better. I want to lose weight (target weight is 155lbs)

Stupid question of the day: What would be considered processed foods/sugars?

Dinner for tonight is a roast chicken, with mashed potatoes, and mixed veggies (frozen, not canned)

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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

What would be considered processed foods?
anything that is manufactured is processed.


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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

I did the Dr. Oz 3 day to kick start better eating a few months ago. It's nothing radical, and I'm actually planning to do it again soon.

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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

I would say any food in a form other than how it was created by nature is considered processed.

So, corn on the cob or in the shell..... natural, as long as it is just corn, no sugar added.

Corn tortilla chips? Processed.

Whole apple - natural
Applesauce or apple juice - processed.

Just some examples.


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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Agreed that most of the "colon cleanse" is at best useless, and at worst harmful. The body does an excellent job of "detoxing" itself, given the right support. Chicken is pretty lean, so that's good (skin off, though). Mashed potatoes is something I might try and find a sub for. Too much starch, too little of anything else. Worse if you add in a ton of butter, cream etc. Drink plenty of water. I usually feel better if I cut down on processed food and drink water... but who has the time these days?

Good luck!


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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Best description of "natural" foods (low processed) I have heard was, "if your great grandmother could not buy it, you should not eat it"

Rules out most junk food.

Disclaimer: I do not follow that rule, but I do think it would be a good one.


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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Thank you all for your input. There is a tea I saw at Target. I think the brand is Yogi (yellow box) and it says detox on the front. I wasn't sure if that was good or if it would work.

I'm definitely going to add more fruit & veggies to my diet. That's the easy part, I love fruit and veggies. I've just gotten far, far away from that. I love yogurt. I can only drink ice water (colder the better).

I try to eat lean meats as well.

My thought about processed foods is that isn't all food processed in some way or another?

I like that description, Pentup.


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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

If you can go out and pick it straight from the tree, ground, bush, vine and stick it in your mouth... it is not "processed"

SD - if drinking water is a problem try adding lemon juice to the water... it's helped me up my water consumption and all I drink is water and coffee.


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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

I have been taking bentonite clay for a few years now daily and it does help detox. It helps turn your colon into a better detox organ, to take the work load off the liver and kidneys so they can do their job without being overwhelmed.

I have also taken spirulina and chorella (probably have spelled these wrong) and they have helped me feel much better as well, but they are something if you choose to take that you start off small and then slowly build up to recommended amounts.

My experience with cleansing is to go slow, do not overwhelm your system, the toxins have to get out but flooding your system is dangerous.

You can do great slow cleanses with food, fruit and veggies, adding juices, adding sprouts, etc.

I have done parasite cleanses, liver cleanse, colon cleanse, kidney cleanse, have done water fasts and juice fasts. I am more than willing to share positive and negatives if you are interested.

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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Arbonne makes a detox tea that doesn't taste too bad and is not harsh on your system.

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Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Simply - the rule of thumb I like re: processed foods is this: can you make it in your kitchen? Note, that's not WILL you make it in your kitchen but CAN you.

For example - peanut butter. Look at the ingredients on your jar of peanut butter. If it has "peanuts, salt" then yeah, you could get a grinder, grind up some peanuts and add some salt. Not too processed. But if it has a bunch of chemicals in the ingredients, or crap you don't even know what it is... Then how would you go about grocery shopping for those ingredients to make it yourself?

Sooo... A hot pocket, I couldn't make that. But prepared hummus? As long as it has ingredients just like chick peas, lemon, etc... Yeah, I could make that. Frozen veggies, canned beans (again, as long as they don't have strange additives) may seem "processed" but I could make those at home... So I consider them minimally processed in a way that's acceptable.

It's late, hope this is making some sort of sense. Good luck in your quest! :)


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Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

1 orange, thinly sliced
1 lemon, thinly sliced
a bunch of mint leaves chopped up
1 tsp fennel seeds, slightly crushed

steep the fennel seeds in 1 cup boiling water for like, what, 5 or 10 minutes?

pour 10 cups of water in big pitcher

add the sliced lemon & orange, mint leaves, & cup of water w/ fennel seeds

chill in frige overnight

Enjoy as desired over the next day or two!


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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Nature_girl, what is that do?

jrc, I'll have to try lemon. Water just gets boring after a while. The only way I can really drink it is if it's very cold. I typically drink cranberry juice. Maybe add a little cranberry juice for flavor?

Crescita, I'll have to look that up.

Violet, that does make sense. I also try to stay away from canned foods because of all the sodium and preservatives. I read all the labels and try to get the "healthiest" I can find.

Thank you all for your responses. This is all great information.

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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

It's just a nicely flavored water. There are probably some health benefits from the citrus, plus the mint & fennel make your tummy happy. I honestly think people forget that probably the best way to "detox" is to up your water intake. Any health regimen you get on will recommend that you drink lots of water. When it's yummy, naturally flavored water then it's easy to follow that regimen.

Google "spring cleanse" and you'll find lots of tasty flavored water recipes. They're very popular right now. Very easy to prepare, you just need a super large pitcher.


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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

I just read an article on how doing juice fasts can trigger eating disorders. There are loads of people who no alternate between indulging one day and juice fasting the next. Which is really bad for you!

You're better off just eating lots of fruits and veggies in addition to whole grains and lean protein. AND drinking plenty of water.


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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Thank you, Nature_girl

I didn't know that can happen, DCK. Thanks! This is good information to have.


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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

SD - watch the cranberry juice... some styles/brands are mostly sugar.


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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Thanks, jrc. I go between Ocean Spray and whatever is on sale. I do try and stick with 100% juice. I'll watch the labels.


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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Detox? LOL As my username infers I have much expertise in this area.

I will go so far as to say Detox IS a HOAX.

The body has a way of cleansing itself it's called pooping.

If you are feeling crappy from eating crappy food then quit eating the crappy food.

If you stick to a lean meat, whole grain (limited carb) and lots of fresh fruits and veggie diet you will feel better, less bloated, and healthier within a week.

Cleanses will make you do just that cleanse, but I caution you for anyone with heart, blood pressure, thyroid, diabetic, or IBS issues you really need to use caution with these. You can end up feeling much worse, or even in the hospital.

If not and you choose to do a cleanse, great. You will probably feel thinner right away and see a loss of 5-8 pounds. This is primarily the amount of waste we carry around. When you eat again the weight will come right back. Some people do this to jump start a diet, and I guess that can be helpful.

Good luck, but I say stick with eating better. Move more, and you will see a result.


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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Thank you for your post, TN. You definitely put a no nonsense answer out there It is appreciated.

I am taking everyone's advice into consideration. I want to get healthy, not mess up my system.


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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

Yah I'm not PC and find that being straight forward when it's medical education time is the best and most effective way.

Good luck.


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Default  Posted: 2:19 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

I do what I would call a cleanse but not a colon cleanse. I drink plenty of water with cucumber, lime, and mint. Let it steep in the frig over night. It helps get excess fluid flushed from my system. I do this if I have been retaining water or had a meal high in salt.

As for tea don't buy the cheep stuff at the grocery store that is in bags. Its crap. You need loose leaf tea and you need to steep it right. Google loose leaf tea and you will know how to do it. Americans steep it to hot and long. It kills all the nutrients in it. Also if you are looking for a tea that is good for over all health try rooibos(red bush) tea.


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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

An additional suggestion would be to exercise! Breaking a sweat will also help you feel better.


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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

We have two new tea places that just opened not that long ago that sells loose tea. I'll check them out.

I try to exercise, just sometimes life gets in the way. I'm getting back into walking, though.


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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

1. cut out extra salt, sugar, artificial sweetner, dairy, alcohol, beans/legumes and all grains (THIS INCLUDES CORN IN ALL FORMS! and rice) for 30 days.

2. Increase your intake of vegetables (try and eat a rainbow of colors). Stick with healthy starches like sweet potatoes.

3. Eat more fruit (berries are high in antioxidents)

4. Eat healthy fats like avocado, olive oil, coconut oil, tree nuts

5. Eat a variety of lean protein

6. Take a multi vitamin

7. WATER WATER WATER!!!!!! If you must, add a bit of unsweetened organic cranberry juice (get this in the natural food section or at a healthfood store. This is NOT Ocean Spray). Aim for at least 64 oz/day, more if you're exercising. Water flushes your system.

8. Green tea is lovely and gives you a nice metabolism boost with the caffeine and EGCG.

9. Sweat. Get out and move as much as possible. Your body releases toxins through sweat, urine, etc.

10. Be prepared to feel like crap (lethargic, weak, headache, moody) for the first week. Your body will legitimately detox from the garbage you regularly eat as well as the sugar and carbs. You can take milk thistle to help combat the carb detox. Keep up with the water and do whatever you have to do to get through it. Once you're past the initial hurdle (for me I feel good by day 4), you'll have energy and feel pretty amazing. Bloating from dairy and grain should subside within a week.

I've found that the Whole30 challenge is a great way to "detox" my body and get off of the caffeine/sugar wagon.


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