Wayward Side
User Topic: What I'm sorry for-
Member # 39035
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

I am a WS that has had 3 pa's.

I am sorry that I changed our relationship without asking. It wasn't fair. Bs is stuck in a place that she never asked to be. I dumped it in her lap and she gets to help fix it.

Im sorry I took away her safe place. I ripped away everything she thought was real. What I did put in question everything she knows. This sucks and I'm so sorry.

I am sorry I was so autonomous , I am in a marriage yet I wanted to find control in everything I did.

I am sorry I can never be the husband she wanted. I will work hard and put her and family first. I can and will be safer and a better man than I was. But I cheated. Not what she signed up for.

I am sorry for thinking I knew what details of my A's were important and leaving out what I considered insignificant details and tt'ing.- again made it about me.
I'm sorry I didn't go to my wife when I was having problems. My bs is the smartest, most capable person I know, yet I turned from her. I was such a Dumbass.
I'm sorry I only thought of myself during my A's I didn't think how it would impact(destroy my family). I Was so selfish. I was a compartmentalizing asshole.

I am working hard to correct all these things and understand the whys and the effects of my actions.
sI is a great resource.
Thank you.
Why are you sorry for.

[This message edited by Apple3point14 at 6:01 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)]

Posts: 81 | Registered: Apr 2013
Member # 21761
Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

These are a good start.

Do you know why you cheated?

"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Boris Becker

Posts: 6101 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: California
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Wow, that's awesome WS! No more TT. Good luck sweetie.

Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
Member # 39035
Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)

Yes, I know why. I'm honing it, but yes.

[This message edited by Apple3point14 at 6:38 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)]

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