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User Topic: on my own, but feeling good now
survivor_kh
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Member # 33738
Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

I can't express into words how good It felt to come into SI when my life felt in shambles and I was too depressed or ashames to talk about my feelings in much detail with anyone irl.

everytime I log in and read posts or post my own topic, I feel less alone and I gather more perspective(wanted or not )

My last post was about how sad, alone, and desperate I was feeling, and thanks to the amazingingly supportive feedback I got, I was able to truly feel uplifted.

Today I decided that being on my own is a blessing. I get to do what want, and feel good everyday that I I accomplish something new. heres what ive got that makes me feel good about being me right now.

I tuned up my own lawnmower(googled it)

I planted an herb garden

I'm getting interviewed for a better paying postion at my second job(every $ matters)

I'm getting my braces off at the end of summer

I enrolled in two fall classes and am only twelve classes short of my BS

Im happy being single right now :).

I have awesome friends who help me look for my lost cat in the dark in my neighbor's yard, while I cry about how he's too fat to run if car almost hits him.

I'm excited to be a bridesmaid in just two weeks for a great friend, and I'm not worried about taking a date to the wedding.

this is the most comfortable I have felt in two years, maybe longer.

I helped my brother pick out dad's gravemarker and supported his choices, making me feel all big sistery.

I like hanging out with myself

I owe a lot of this state of mind to fellow SIers, who have helped me see things in a different light, and made me remember how good it feels to know that I am strong on my own.


Surviving is important, thriving is elegant- Maya Angelou

you is kind, you is smart, you is important


Posts: 297 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Indiana
want_to_forgive
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Member # 20470
Default  Posted: 1:46 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

What an awesome post! Thanks, I needed that

ETA: I meant thanks for the inspiration! And I couldn't agree more with how fabulous the people here are.

[This message edited by want_to_forgive at 1:48 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)]


M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

Posts: 534 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Alaska
stronger08
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Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 5:26 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)

I always find that being lonely while single is better than being lonely in a relationship.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5434 | Registered: Nov 2007
survivor_kh
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Member # 33738
Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Stronger08, I couldn't agree more!


Surviving is important, thriving is elegant- Maya Angelou

you is kind, you is smart, you is important


Posts: 297 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Indiana
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Love this!

It takes courage to stand on our own. I get lonely sometimes too but far less lonely than I was pre-DD.

Its also a breakthrough to realise we're OK on our own. I've never been a 'couply' person but after almost a decade it was a tough adjustment to make.

The freedom of being able to do whatever the hell I want to do seemed big and was scary at first. I well and truly have the hang of it now though.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4561 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth

Posts: 16634 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Great to hear!!!


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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