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gma56
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Cool  Posted: 2:25 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

I have started a new career in my NB and work with mostly men. I have a few new male friends in the same industry.
So went to a local bar with a new younger friend (he's late 40ish and divorced).
Him and I love our country music so we decided to check out the local talent together.

My friend looks young and I look ...my age. Some younger women kept looking at us and I noticed. They were definitely interested in my friend L. So I leaned over and told him about the group of women. He looked and said they were beautiful but he wasn't there to pick up women but to listen to music. Yep, L has been burned too and clueless.
About two hours later in the ladies room,two of the women approached me and asked if I was L's sister ? I just laughed and said,"No."
In the meantime L had talked with band on break and came back to the table when I returned. The band introduced L to the audience and L sang and played guitar for several songs. I had no idea L was so talented.

He dedicated a George Strait, (song that I love and reminds me of my Mom) Give it all We got Tonight, to me and pointed me out. He sounded great. He makes a good country singer even if he does wear a suit most days. lol
Then I heard the women behind me making comments about wth was HE doing with an old lady. I just laughed. I'm sooo not the cougar type.

So after the set he came back to the table and I told him about his fans. He planted a big kiss on me and said, Just to give them something to think about.
If I was married to FT, I wouldn't have never went out to enjoy the music I like. If FT were to agree to go, he would have ruined my joy of the evening.

I'm slowly enjoying and accepting being single and able to go do what I want.
I'm still not where I want to be but having fun even if it is warding off pushy women for a friend in small town California.

I'm lovin my life more and more.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

You go girl!!!!!!

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


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cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

That's awesome! I like L.


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
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cmego
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

Bwah, ha ha!!

I like him!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

That's awesome.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

You SO deserve to have that kind of evening. And L sounds like a very classy guy to me!


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CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

Two thumbs way UP!! I'm so glad you are having fun!!!


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

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ineedtoleave
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

AWESOME!!!! I'm so happy for you... you've found your joy again! (((gma56)))


BS(me)-52
WH-59
OW-43(married ex-Co-worker)
Married 6 yrs
DD#1: 3/19/10
DD#2: 5/11/10
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

This isn't my forum but with a title like that, I had to read this thread. Woot! You go girl!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

I just love reading the joy in this post.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

This is great.
Go gma!

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

Yeah, I guess I'm having learning to have fun again.

I'm loving learning to do life spontaneously. No young kids and no FT. Gotta love the freedom.

I always thought FT and I could have those moments after we became empty nesters. It's been fun in my NB on my own.
Maybe someday there will be a SO to share but until then, Gma is enjoying the moments with friends .
I feel like a new woman.
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 11:22 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

love this!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)

Love it!!!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, May 3rd (Friday)

This is making me !

Glad you are enjoying life.

NL


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gogirl
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Awesome to hear Gma. I absolutely wish you the best! You are a very special lady.

Great to hear you are having some fun!


It's never too late to live happily ever after.


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cass
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, May 3rd (Friday)


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Love this gma.

I haven't had male friends for a decade. The ones I had in my late 20s were either exes or or my reserve bench and IMO it was not appropriate to continue those friendships once I was in a relationship.

It has been fantastic to build new platonic male friendships. I have really missed the 'male' energy - don't get me wrong, I love my girl-gang, they are an amazing and hilarious bunch but I did miss having strong, smart, witty men around me.

Its a different kind of chicken soup for the soul.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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somer222
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Good for you! Sounds like you found a very nice friend to have some fun with - enjoy!

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macakipa
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Woot! Woot!


M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

I did miss having strong, smart, witty men around me
That sure in the hell wasn't FT or his friends !

They include me in their plans and it's been fun. Usually one calls his wife and another calls his GF. One has been trying to set me up with his Dad. If Dad is as cool as his son, maybe some day but he's a rancher! I swore when I was younger no farmer types EVER, I never wanted to be tied to animals and land. I was raised on a farm so I know first hand. Might have to change my opinion.
They are just a great group.
NB isn't perfect but I seem to smile and laugh easier than I have in years. I see the "old" me coming back.

Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 11:44 PM, May 3rd (Friday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

Your friend sounds like a class act. Happy for you. Keep on going in your NB!


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soverybetrayed
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

So, do you two step? You either need to learn or brush up cause one of these days you and I are gonna go two step pin and show those women that us "old ladies" know how to boot scoot!! I miss two step pin so much and it would be so much fun to have you with me when I dust off my Justin's and Rocky Mountain jeans

I like L, he sounds like a gentleman, just what you need.


Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 12:38 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

So, do you two step?
It's been 35 yrs but I have a feeling I will be again very soon. I have a country music friend now and I know L does dance so...maybe sooner than later. He was raised in TN and TX . He's not even embarrassed being seen with an older lady so I know he would be ready to go dance anytime I am.

I'm back living in the country and near a small town. I missed this more than I thought. Who knew ??
There's a neighbor(divorced too) that is taking me riding horses. I haven't for 20 yrs since FT and I had to get rid of ours. He rides at the beach so will going in two weeks.I only rode in the mountains so something new.
Gma
So Yay for NBs !
Gma


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

Beach riding! Yay!!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 1:17 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

Beach riding! Yay!!

I know !! Only lived in CA for 32 yrs and never rode on the beach.
And company will be good too. He's a very sweet man but he lives too close to me ! Way too close !! He can see see my bedroom lights on from his bedroom...yikes ! He sees me drive by and will ask if I want to go into town with him because he hasn't seen me drive that direction during the day. He would like more than riding horse on the beach but I'm not ready to give up my freedom. He comes over when I'm sitting outside in the evening watching our awesome sunsets over the Monterey Bay when it's not fogged in.
I don't know....
Just want have fun right now and work.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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foxglove
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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

Good for you!

Don't over think it. Just have fun.


Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

Don't over think it. Just have fun.

That what I have been doing recently and definitely living in the moment.It feels great after 30 yrs of FT.The dark cloud has lifted and no where is sight. The lifting in the last couple years has been like peeling the layers of an onion.

Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 9:41 AM, May 4th (Saturday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, May 4th (Saturday)

gma.....your post put a big grin on my face. You go girl!!!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


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