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Mirellacav
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Member # 36799
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

This is an email I got from my WH just yesterday
Unfortunately I know what this month is and I hate it. I cant put words to my feelings about that past period. I took a disgusting turn in our life. I suffer so much regret for that period and there was other options that could have been taken and tried. Just got plain stupid. U did save me. Now I look at my life and would not trade it for anything. YOU ARE MY EVERYTHING. I am happy unbelievably happy. I have someone I cant wait to see and be with. Its an amazing feeling, never thought I could have. Thank you so much for u and wanting to make our relationship work. I think its as strong as ever and yes I know its been damage and there is so much more damage repair to do. And I am hoping that feeling is the same for you. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. YOU ARE MY LIFE.

Today it marks the 1st Antiversary of me discovering my H has cheated with prostitutes. With ups and down I made it so far. My challenge is that now I find myself wanting more and more from him. I need more romance and when I asked him for it he seems to understands my need, but I have seen little changes. I guess now I am just "high maintenance". Waiting for the romance to fill in the gaps.


DD 05/03/12
Old DD July 1983
Me 57 BS, Him 55 WS
Married 29 years, 3 children, 3 grandchildren
Reconciliation: Work in progress

Posts: 51 | Registered: Sep 2012
IGaveItMyAll
Member
Member # 38622
Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

I know what you are saying. I just started reading 5 Love Languages. GREAT BOOK!!! I too want more passion and intimacy in my marriage. I have told my spouse. The book is helping her understand the importance to make the changes. I don't want a marriage without Physical touch and intimacy. Waiting patiently. I hope she makes the efforts cause. I feel very empty without that in my life. Escalated by her A. I am working on living for me and working on myself. Hopefully she comes along for the ride. If my this train is moving regardless. I deserve it. So do you!!! I can relate!! Best of Luck!!!

[This message edited by IGaveItMyAll at 5:31 PM, May 3rd (Friday)]


ME-BS 34
FWW-28
M 6 Yrs
DDAY- 8/20/12
R

Posts: 322 | Registered: Mar 2013
IGaveItMyAll
Member
Member # 38622
Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, May 3rd (Friday)

P.s. you are NOT High Maintenance you just know what you need in a marriage and dammit you deserve it.

[This message edited by IGaveItMyAll at 5:32 PM, May 3rd (Friday)]


ME-BS 34
FWW-28
M 6 Yrs
DDAY- 8/20/12
R

Posts: 322 | Registered: Mar 2013
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