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User Topic: it just doesn't feel right
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

I think my NB is coming to an end.

Had a very odd discussion Friday night that did not sit well with me, and I haven't heard from him all day except for a 'good morning' text.

So,I'm feeling a bit bewildered and confused because:
- he blew me off today and
- things he said on Friday night.

We had plans for lunch today, but he blew me off. No phone call. No text.

Friday night's discussion points:

- he said he is f'ed up (no explanation)
- that we should not have sex anymore because he wants us to be best friends (i told him that there was no such thing as a game-changer like this just because he wants it like that.)
- his baby-mama doesnt care that he dates around (i said who is she to care in the first place. you have never been married to her.)

-- To me all of this was code for that he has some other relationship on the go.

I feel quite queasy because of all this.

I don't want to look pathetic and desperate by inundating him with texts and phone calls. I have already called once and sent one text, but he hasn't replied. I know that my text has been read though.

He has played this disappearing act before, and I was a bit suspicious then. I've had my guard up since, and have listened very carefully to his words and watched his actions.

It just doesn't feel right.

Posts: 27 | Registered: Sep 2012
Helen of Troy
Member # 26419
Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

I think my NB is coming to an end.

Whoa, back up. This relationship may be coming to an end but certainly not your NB!

Posts: 4715 | Registered: Dec 2009
Sad in AZ
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

Please don't waste your time on someone who doesn't make you a priority. You deserve much better.

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20284 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

Why do you want to be with this guy at all? I've seen about 50 red flags in what you've posted.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 3404 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

don't waste your time on someone who doesn't make you a priority

This^, especially if he's done this before.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13798 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

I agree with wgb betterlife. Your NB is not coming to an end because your relationship is ending. This is just one step in the process of your NB. And it sounds like it's something that needs to happen - you absolutely deserve better.

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 35178
Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, May 5th (Sunday)

I don't know anything about your story but I assume you are here because you have been cheated on in the past. As hard as that was for you and coming out of the other side, is this man really worth giving him the NEW YOU?

He is indeed acting weirdly, cheating? I am not sure. But you ARE NOT HAPPY with this treatment. I don't know how long you have been together, not too long by the seems of it. If you feel something is off then it is! I've definitely learned not to ignore my gut.

Posts: 296 | Registered: Mar 2012
Member # 26152
Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, May 5th (Sunday)

Don't waste any more time on this man. And, he isn't your NB. He's just a fool you got involved with.

Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12

Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
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