This is a t/j to the mom with cancer at school topic I posted about earlier.
My kids attend private school, it's a small community. 2 classes per grade. Having this makes for a more 'family' atmosphere.
2 major things have happened to our group, really in DD's 7th grade class. One is a mother is sick. Another is a student/friend is sick.
The mother isn't IN school to know, but the student is NOT in school so it's obvious something is up.
DD's one pal has a mother who has gone to each family 'for the scoop'.
Said mother shared the information with her child who has, in turn, brought it up at schoool...in a 'I know something you don't know' situation.
This REALLY bothers me. For one, the sick student family doesn't want business out there. The mother that 'knows' asked all the good GF's of sick girl to write letters and her family would collect and mail. Ok, nice, right? Well the DD of the fam READ all the letters and discussed them with others. In my book, wrong - wrong - wrong.
Then, the mom that is sick. Letter Girl has a little sis who is friends with the lil sis of sick mom. She tells everyone - I'm sorry your mom has cancer.
The older girls are in 7th grade, the younger ones in 3rd. Maybe the younger doesn't know mom is sick...to me, like WTH! Why wouldn't you tell your child if you felt she HAD to know for some reason to keep it close and not reveal?!
I don't know, I'm not mad in that I would say something, but I am surprised since this older kid is like using the information in a way. It's weird to me. I won't say anything because damage is done, but I did use it as a lesson for my kids.
I was really mad that the DD who got the letters not only read them, but shared her feelings about them to others. They weren't for her to read!
I tell my kids things on a need to know basis. And with that, THIS stays at home or not, ya know?
I just hate that this little girl is using her 'knowledge'. And she is, I'm not reading into shit.
I am just babbling because I want to say something, but I won't.