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fallingquickly
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Member # 36599
Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

My WH has been following my posts. I no longer feel safe posting here. You have all been so wonderful and supportive. I will miss being able to vent and get input from people who understand my pain.

I hope that your situations work out in a way to make you happy.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
betrayedfriend
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Member # 19785
Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

you can always choose to post privately via a pm if you still want and need support, I hate to see you leave if you still need support.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 865 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
welcome14
Member
Member # 26741
Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

It is beyond selfish that the person that sent you here is the one who rips away the best support you could get in your time of need. Unfortunately, totally expected of the WS mindset. ((hugs))
eta: good job fallingquickly's WS. well done on your part again.

[This message edited by welcome14 at 12:51 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)]


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1175 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

Geez, what an ass.. It's like reading someone's private journal. None of your damn business!!

You will still have the ability to read what others have written, so perhaps you can find some support by hearing other's stories and the advice given to them..

And I agree with betrayedfriend that you could still reach out via pm anytime you need to, and I for one will always be happy to reply if you need someone to talk to..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2111 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
timeforchange
Member
Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry this has happened.
Maybe it helps you know your recent decision is possibly the right one??

Keep reading though.... You don't have to log in to do that.

I for one would be happy to offer advice by PM if you like.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
fallingquickly
Member
Member # 36599
Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

Thank you all so much. This site and the people here are incredible. I will keep reading.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
still2suspicious
Member
Member # 31722
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

geez, what a f'ng asshat!!

FQ-please continue to read, and PM any one of us! YOU deserve to have the help you need. Any time. We are always here for each other, but you know that, right?

Sending hugs to FQ, and the one finger salute to FQ's WH!!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1278 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Abbondad
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Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

I was considering doing the same thing. I am paranoid about my wife's vindictiveness. Is there a way to delete one's account and remove all posts?

(I would definitely like to stay and stick to PMs.)


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1588 | Registered: Dec 2012
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

(((((fallingquickly))))) Not posting is a safe decision. Please also pm me if you need support. Take care.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2146 | Registered: Oct 2012
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

Is there a way to delete one's account and remove all posts?

No that is against the guidelines, please do not start deleting your posts.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197383 | Registered: May 2002
Abbondad
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Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

Deeply scared,

But can administrator do this? Particularly if a member does not feel safe and is trying to protect himself, for,example in a potential child custody battle?


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1588 | Registered: Dec 2012
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

AD...

In the history of SI (which is 12 years old) we have never done that and I don't foresee us starting now.

This is a public site but its also an annonymous site, we always tell people to use caution when posting.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197383 | Registered: May 2002
la433
Member
Member # 38835
Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

Fallingquickly,

I'm sorry that your WH is such a loser that makes you want to vomit your lungs out... Just know that not all of us men are like him. Good luck.

[This message edited by la433 at 12:16 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)]


"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf

Posts: 136 | Registered: Mar 2013
dindy
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Member # 38424
Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

fallingquickly I'm sorry you are no longer safe. I echo what the others have said and pm anyone if you need advice.

I have suspected that xWS has been doing the same thing so I shall be refraining from posting for a while just to be sure.

It's cowardly behaviour!

Sending strength.


Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Red  Posted: 2:51 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

la433...

Please refrain from baiting anyone that reads on this site, that is of absolutely no help at all.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197383 | Registered: May 2002
SusanR
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Member # 29368
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

My WH started checking out my posts and brought them up in our MC sessions. I felt violated and I told him so. However, i quit posting and getting support here for awhile. in hindsight, it really doesn't matter. i told the truth and shared my feelings, somethings very foreign to him. He may be reading my posts now but I don't care anymore. I am done protecting him from the consequences of his behavior.

[This message edited by SusanR at 7:26 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)]


Posts: 1931 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest
LadyQ
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Member # 32847
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

What SusanR said. Also would like to echo others' sentiments: keep reading, and you can always pm....


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
gma56
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Member # 19595
Cool  Posted: 9:36 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

If you read a reponse on someone's thread don't hesitate to PM any of us. This has happened in the past with other WS and you can have wonderful support via PMs.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20368 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

PM's are a wonderful way to get help specific to you. Please do not hesitate to reach out in a PM when you need to.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
fallingquickly
Member
Member # 36599
Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

Thank you so much.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
PurpleRose
Member
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, May 7th (Tuesday)

fq.. I have the same issue. I know the Dooosh is stalking my posts here and I did consider leaving SI permanently. I backed off from posting and really don't feel comfortable posting much anymore. I don't get it - he wanted to go fuck some whore chicken plucker, so I released him from our marriage and filed for D, but he can't let go and leave me alone??

Whatever shitbag..

I decided to stay and read, PM and talk in general when I need to. I hope you find a way to keep getting the support we all need in this crappy situation. Feel free to PM me whenever!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3555 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
TrustGone
Member
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Yes, please keep reading. You can add me to your PM list also. (((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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