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nowiknow23
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Happy  Posted: 6:47 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

It's here! Today is the day my sister's adoption is finalized, and we officially welcome two beautiful, fierce, crazy smart, adventuresome boys to our family.

It's been two years since my sister decided that she wanted her life to be "more" than it was, and set out on a path to be a foster parent. She wanted to make a safe place in the world for kids who had none. She set out to foster and left open the possibility that she would consider adoption, although that was not her primary goal.

And then these two brothers entered her world. Two brothers who had seen and experienced too much in their lives at the tender ages of 10 and 8.

And an amazing thing happened. A family was born. The boys blossomed, thriving on stability, consistency, and unconditional love. And my sister blossomed as well, and over time she went from parenting them to being their mom.

Today that family becomes official, and my heart is overflowing. So much love.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Need a happy tears like button.


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

YAY!!! That's great, NIK (((Entire NIK Family)))


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Wonderful!


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

That is too awesome, NIK. Congratulations to your sister and the entire family.


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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)


How totally awesome and wonderful! Congratulations to everyone!!!


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

What Pentup said. So happy for everyone!


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d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

YAY! This is wonderful news! I love hearing stories like this. Those boys are lucky to have your sister for their mother and they are lucky to have found a loving family.

Congratulations to those boys, your sister, and your family!

(((HUGS)))


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Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Happy Gotcha Day!


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Yay!!!!!!!!! That is wonderful to hear!!!



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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

I specifically switched from my phone to my desktop just to reply to this thread :) So many many congratulations!


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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)


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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

This is so amazing.
Congrats!!


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

a dear friend of mine just finalized the adoption of her son after being his foster mom for 2 years. She is single and always wanted more kids (she had one before) It has been wonderful for them both. Congratulations on your official status as their aunt! Congratulations to your whole family!


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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

To your sister and you and your family!


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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Im not sure there is a on spot descriptive word but I will go with awesome (tho its more than awesome) congrats to you and your family


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Congrats!!! That is wonderful!!!

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cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)


That's wonderful. Yay for them all!


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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

I got tingles reading your post. Those boys are so blessed to have your sister for a mamma, and likewise I'm sure!!

AND you for an auntie!!

[This message edited by Jrazz at 1:24 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Oh that fills my heart with joy. There are so many little ones that see to much and never get the love that a child needs.
I am so happy for your sister and her new son's. MY HEART SCREAMS FOR JOY!
Bless the new family.


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DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

How exciting! Congratulations to your whole family!


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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

That is so awesomely wonderful!!!!


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DS - 13
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R - he finally came home
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Awwww... Congratulations to all of you!


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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Congratulations Auntie NIK. Do they get special permission to walk on your lawn?

This is an awesome thing for your sister to do.


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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

What a wonderful, wonderful story.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Do they get special permission to walk on your lawn?
All eleventy-seven of my nieces and nephews (and their spouses and offspring) have full lawn privileges.


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Congrats Auntie NIK, sis and new nephews. Happy new family.


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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

What a wonderful story. Congratulations to all of your family. Such blessings.


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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Beautiful story--made me cry!


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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

Congratulations to all the NIK family.

Awesome news... thank you for sharing..it made my evening.

Hugs,

K


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okaynow
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)

I a so happy for your whole family!!! Beautiful!

My brother and sister in law adopted a child from a different country several years ago. Our whole family met them at the airport when they brought her home. Just like you, my heart was full. She wasn't a stranger entering the family, she was ALREADY a part of the family and was just finally coming home.

Continued blessings to your sister, her kids and your whole family.


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D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
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Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, May 9th (Thursday)

WOW NIK

That is amazing. Your post gave me goose bumps.

For your sister to open her home to kids in need is so selfless. For her to open her heart is priceless. What a gift to the two boys and ultimately, herself.

Congrats!!


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Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 6:25 AM, May 9th (Thursday)

I used to work for a man who had adopted two children. They celebrated the day that each adoption became official. I thought that was so cool.

Congratulations to your entire family!

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
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Default  Posted: 6:45 AM, May 9th (Thursday)

Very cool.


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, May 9th (Thursday)

Wonderful!!! Congratulations to your entire family


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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

Congratulations to NIK and family on the wonderful news!

We just celebrated our annual Adoption Day just last weekend in Chicago!

Being an adoptive parents was one of the best decisions we ever made,


BH: 45
fWW: 44
Beautiful 7 year old daughter
Married 21 years, Together 27 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling

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