User Topic: Missing the ease of times past.
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, May 9th (Thursday)

Today as I left work I remembered how our M felt to us 3 years ago (past 2 years have been a bit off balance as we experienced the loss of a loved one..and the introduction of the A into our marriage has both my wife and I questioning what our pre-A M really and truly looked like).

I would call just as I left work and asked if I needed to pick up anything on the way home...

I guess this is just like everything else that you loose (health, wealth, etc.) have to lose it before you realize what you truly had.


Not much of a post...just a melancholy mood I guess.

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 6:26 PM, May 9th (Thursday)]

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SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
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NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, May 9th (Thursday)

I understand your feelings of loss. It does get a little better with time.

"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

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Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, May 10th (Friday)


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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, May 10th (Friday)

((( Blake )))

Through true R, you will regain a real sense of normalcy.

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Posts: 8718 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, May 10th (Friday)

(((hugs))) It will get better for you, I promise. Which is, I know, small consolution when it''s so sucky now.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4949 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, May 10th (Friday) have to lose it before you realize what you truly had.

^^^^^^^^^^^^ this is so true.

sorry you are feeling crappy.


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She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
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